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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Jun 25, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have written to you before, and your advice served me well. I have another problem now, and I don't know what to do about it.

I am a childless man, but I have owned my dog for 12 years. I work from home and we are together constantly. Honestly, Abby, he is the joy of my life.

My problem is I live in constant fear of losing him. I know it will break my heart, and I'm not sure I can deal with it. At night, when I rub his belly at bedtime and see the love in his eyes, I can't sleep for thinking about the day when he will no longer be with me.

I know he's "just a dog," but he has been my kid for all this time. Do you have any advice for me?-- AFRAID OF THE LOSS

DEAR AFRAID: I understand your feelings. I doubt there is any pet owner who hasn't had one special departed pet who lives on forever in his or her heart.

My advice to you is to not spoil one more precious second you have with your dog by worrying about what will eventually happen. You knew going in that your dog would have a certain life span. That's the "deal" we make when we become animal guardians.

When the time comes, talk to your veterinarian about support groups in which you can share your feelings. And don't be surprised when you find out you are one of many.

DEAR ABBY: I have this co-worker, "Sam," who is no longer performing 100 percent at work. It started shortly after he moved out of town and he was forced to start commuting. Sam complains a lot about the commute because he doesn't allow enough time for it and he ends up being late to work.
Lately I have noticed that he has also started to slack off on his daily tasks. He'll sit down, prepare to do something, then get up and disappear for 20 to 25 minutes. He'll come back for a few minutes, then disappear again. I don't know where he's going. All I know is we generally have to pick up the slack when he gets to the end of his shift and realizes he hasn't accomplished everything.

Is this something I should report to my managers? I feel it's unfair that Sam gets paid for the same amount of time that I do, while I'm doing my work at full capacity and he's putting in less than half.-- FRUSTRATED CO-WORKER IN ILLINOIS

DEAR FRUSTRATED: If it won't have a negative impact on your job ratings, you and the others on your shift should stop picking up the slack for Sam. It will then become apparent to your managers that he's not doing his share, and he will cook his own goose.

DEAR ABBY: When I was 11, I lived with my dad and stepmom. My 14-year-old brother lived with our grandparents in another town, but they would visit every couple of months.

After one visit, as they were leaving, my grandmother said, "Come here and give your brother a kiss and tell him you love him." My brother and I looked at each other and, in typical kid fashion, said, "YUCK!!"

Abby, I never saw my brother again. He died the next week from a congenital brain aneurism.

It taught me a lesson. The words we say to our loved ones should be sweet, because they may be the last words from us they will ever hear. My brother died 55 years ago and I miss him still.-- STILL MISSING HIM

DEAR STILL MISSING HIM: Please accept my sympathy for your loss. The life lesson you learned from your brother's untimely death was an important one. I am sorry it is one you had to learn at such a tender age.

Since: Jan 10

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#2 Jun 25, 2013
L1: You'll do fine. I did. It's okay to sob like a baby when your pet dies. Dogs are wonderful, amazing creatures and I can't wait to get a dog again. Research has shown that people cope better with their pet death grief if they get another pet soon, as in, within a week.

Remember: When you adopt a pet, it most likely will die before you do. IT's part of the deal you make -- you know this animal will die in your care. Please don't do anything to unnecessarily prolong your dog's life because you can't let go. Be more loving than that. Be able to let him go and be free of pain when the time comes.

L2: I think you should talk to your manager if his slacking off is causing more work for you.

I suspect he's doing drugs, based on past history of coworkers behaving this way.

L3: If you'd kissed him, he'd be alive today.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#3 Jun 25, 2013
L1: When you get a pet, you're buying your future sadness. Be right back, I need to hug my sweet baybays.

L2: Yeah, what Red said. Probably drugs.

L3: That's sad as hell, but you guys were kids. You can't beat yourself up about that.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#4 Jun 25, 2013
1- What a loser.

2- Flip your burgers and quit whining.

3- Yes, treat everyone as if it's their last day on earth, you know, just in case.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#5 Jun 25, 2013
1 Quit worrying. You will probably die before the dog, and he will end up munching on your carcass to stay alive.

2 Dumb answer, obviously his performance is impacting their jobs because they do pick up his slack. Call him on the carpet and tell him upfront if he cant keep up, everyone is going to tell the mngr to give him the boot.

3 You both said YUCK, so it's cool.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#6 Jun 25, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 Quit worrying. You will probably die before the dog, and he will end up munching on your carcass to stay alive.
Cats do that, not dogs.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#7 Jun 25, 2013
L1: Not funny, boys. Just the opposite happened here. My neighbor just died. He had this amazing, gentle G. Shephard for 11 years. That dog was his best friend. He lived with his brother. The guy was a big self-admitted BS'r but had a great heart,(unfortunately it failed him). Cut the elderly neighbor's lawn and mine when I was gone, etc. He would always be outside with the dog loose, no problem there, we live on a one block street and the dog was very well trained. He would come over with his dog to talk on my porch and I let my dog out and they'd play. The neighbors loved his dog, too. The brother is not as emotionally attached and takes him out on a leash, which is tough on the dog, so I'm really concerned about the dog now, he's still healthy. Add that to the family drama on how to bury the guy.

L3: Even though people have probably said to him that's what boys that age do, Abs could at least have said that and to try not to feel guilty.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#8 Jun 25, 2013
LW1: Start planning the euthenasia/suicide now. <eyeroll>

LW2: Stop doing his work.

LW3: It's sad, but you both were acting age-appropriately. Stop feeling guilty about this.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#9 Jun 25, 2013
Well, at least the dog did not starve.
dahgts wrote:
L1: Not funny, boys. Just the opposite happened here. My neighbor just died. He had this amazing, gentle G. Shephard for 11 years. That dog was his best friend. He lived with his brother. The guy was a big self-admitted BS'r but had a great heart,(unfortunately it failed him). Cut the elderly neighbor's lawn and mine when I was gone, etc. He would always be outside with the dog loose, no problem there, we live on a one block street and the dog was very well trained. He would come over with his dog to talk on my porch and I let my dog out and they'd play. The neighbors loved his dog, too. The brother is not as emotionally attached and takes him out on a leash, which is tough on the dog, so I'm really concerned about the dog now, he's still healthy. Add that to the family drama on how to bury the guy.
L3: Even though people have probably said to him that's what boys that age do, Abs could at least have said that and to try not to feel guilty.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#10 Jun 25, 2013
L1. Yeah, life marches on.
But in general I think pets help us prepare for the really big events we all must face.

Since: Aug 08

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#11 Jun 25, 2013
LW1: When the time comes, deal with it … like everyone else does.

LW2: You should say something to your boss if you get stuck doing his work.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#12 Jun 25, 2013
L1: I'm thinking this guy could benefit by volunteering to work with dogs that are trained to help kids (sick, blind, disables, etc.). He sounds sad that he doesn't have kids but love his dog as he thinks he would love a child of his. If I'm wrong and he doesn't miss not having kids, get another young dog now if you can handle taking care of two.

L2: You need to speak up to the guy who is no doing his work. "Hey, dude -- I don't want to pick up your slack anymore. Pick it up!"

L3: He knew you cared b/c you realize he cared about you, right?

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#13 Jun 25, 2013
Which is why cats are smarter than dogs...
edogxxx wrote:
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Cats do that, not dogs.

Since: Jan 10

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#14 Jun 25, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Cats do that, not dogs.
I just heard some research about this (i wish I could remember where), and they said dogs will wait until they are starving before they'll eat their owner's dead body. Cats will wait 2 days, 3 days tops.

Since: Jan 10

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#15 Jun 25, 2013
squishymama wrote:
LW2: Stop doing his work.
YES, THIS. Just don't do it. Let him get in trouble.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#16 Jun 25, 2013
1: Most horrible set of white people problems I've ever seen. You make me sad....

2: Give him a blast of the old airhorn next time.

3: Okay, I'll give everyone a kiss good-bye going forward.

Since: Jan 10

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#17 Jun 25, 2013
Saluki Rod wrote:
3: Okay, I'll give everyone a kiss good-bye going forward.
With tongue!

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#18 Jun 25, 2013
dahgts wrote:
DEAR ABBY: I have written to you before, and your advice served me well. I have another problem now, and I don't know what to do about it.
I am a childless man, but I have owned my dog for 12 years. I work from home and we are together constantly. Honestly, Abby, he is the joy of my life.
My problem is I live in constant fear of losing him.
That has to be one of the saddest things I have ever read in these columns. Isolated from all others. No friends. No other family mentioned, no children. No work place to go to. Not even mentioning people he meets or walks the dog with. Needing Abby on a recurring basis.

Wow.

Since: Jan 10

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#19 Jun 25, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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That has to be one of the saddest things I have ever read in these columns. Isolated from all others. No friends. No other family mentioned, no children. No work place to go to. Not even mentioning people he meets or walks the dog with. Needing Abby on a recurring basis.
Wow.
Yeah, working from home can be isolating. Poor guy.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#20 Jun 25, 2013
Cry me a river. If he has no friends, its his own damn fault.
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Yeah, working from home can be isolating. Poor guy.

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