“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 May 5, 2014
DEAR ABBY: For the last few years my family has rented the same beach condo. My friend "John" and his family have joined us there on many occasions. When I asked him his vacation plans for this year, he informed me last night that he has rented the beach condo for the same weeks we have historically occupied it.

I was floored. I think a more appropriate approach would have been for him to have called me first and expressed his interest in renting it, but he should not have rented the unit if it conflicted with our vacation plans. I understand the free marketplace -- first-come, first-served -- but I can't help feeling he undercut me.-- CONFUSED IN A TENT AT THE BEACH

DEAR CONFUSED: Your feeling is 100 percent accurate. That weasel DID undercut you, and real friends don't act that way. Now that you know what he's capable of, contact the landlord and make a long-term deal in advance if you want that unit in the future.

DEAR ABBY: I am a lonely 83-year-old woman. All I want is someone to love me, preferably a handsome, wealthy man who will spoil me. I have spent my entire life making other people happy, and now all I want is some happiness back. I mean, can't an older woman get some loving, too?

I have been told I'm charming. I have the laugh of an angel, a full head of blond/gray hair and a slim figure. I would like a man (preferably in his elderly years) who is lonely and needs some company. And also someone who wants to spend his savings on me. Abby, help me find my soul mate.-- WAITING FOR "GOT-DOUGH"

DEAR WAITING: Why do I suspect this letter may have been written by a group of sorority sisters after a few drinks? However, just in case it's actually on the level, your "want ad" has now been viewed by millions of Dear Abby readers worldwide, and I'm sure we will hear from many applicants who are eager to be "The One." Let's hope none of them write from "Scam-dinavia."
Pippa

Hancock, NY

#2 May 5, 2014
Good morning, edog. Thanks for posting. ;-)

1: I almost wish you had said something along the line of, "Oh great! Thanks for paying for the condo this year. Is there anything in particular you'd like us to bring?" That would show that you had expected to stay there again and imply that his plan was to be the one paying for the accommodations this year in a way to pay you back for all the times he went there on your dime. I'd have loved to see the look on his face. And you would definitely know that he knows that you know what he did. It's possible that the guy is simply clueless but someone needs to straighten him out. If he then said his entire family will be there or that he had invited other friends making it impossible to accommodate you, you could then just raise your eyebrows and walk away. I guess if it were me, that would be the last time I seek out his company. I'd be civil if circumstances put us in the same room, but that's just about it unless he apologizes. I know, I'm being a crab; maybe that's because I had to get up too early this morning.

2: I can't believe Abby is wasting space on this letter. If it's a real letter and not something made up, the woman is delusional and possibly needs psychiatric care.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 May 5, 2014
1 Not only should you work out an agreement with the landlord, but you should get in Johns face about what he did.

2 Yeah, I believe this is a real letter, what's to dispute?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#4 May 5, 2014
LW1: Well, that's one less person you have to worry about. He's an azz and you should tell him so.

And if you want to work out a deal with the landlord, go for it. But maybe this is an excellent opportunity to find a different place at the beach. I'm not sure I'd want to run the risk of running into a former friend every time I took a vacation.

LW2: Why would Abby even print this letter?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#5 May 5, 2014
1- So, join John and his family. You guys seem to vacation together anyway

2- Why you gotta be ripping on sorority girls?

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#6 May 5, 2014
LW1: Yeah, it was a weasely thing to do, but maybe you need to shake up your vacation plans a little bit. You sound utterly boring. But ANYWAY, if this is something you do EVERY year (snore), I don't understand why you didn't just, I don't know, book it for every year for a few years (or at least a year in advance). Did you ever stop to think that maybe a STRANGER might come and rent "your" week before you got around to it? For someone so lacking in imagination, I would think you'd be more organized about it.

The long and short of it was that it was kind of a jerky thing to do (I like Pippa's suggestion of how you should have reacted), but it is NOT "your" vacation house. You don't own it. If you wanted it that badly, you would have booked it already. You snooze, you lose.

I don't know why I am so annoyed by this LW, but I just am.
Kuuipo

Seaside, CA

#7 May 5, 2014
LW1: John is either a jerk or a clueless idiot. However, this is not something I'd stay worked up about for any length of time. Make this the year that you break the routine and vacation somewhere totally different.

LW2: This letter must've arrived too late for April 1.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#8 May 5, 2014
1. Has John invited LW to srat there this year? Is it possible this is a slightly inept way of John's picking up the tab?

2. Kiioppo nailed it
boundary painter

San Antonio, TX

#9 May 5, 2014
Laughed at LW2; she can dream, and when she wakes up:

Glance into the next week for LW2:

(a) She will make others laugh with her at a senior center
(b) She will smile and cuddle up to a man in his 60's or older and say
she can love him for himself, as long as he's single, too
(c) She will find a man who describes himself as just as "good" as her--and find out that he indeed is
or
(d) other
blunt advice

Linden, NJ

#10 May 5, 2014
1. So rent a different condo. Or go somewhere else.
2. I guess one is never too old to be a gold digger.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#11 May 5, 2014
1: Yeah a bit underhanded.

2: Fake letter! If not, you spend 8 decades helping others and ignoring yourself, then want a sugar daddy at your young age of....83. HA!
Pippa

Hancock, NY

#13 May 6, 2014
2: I still think if this is a true letter, the woman is either delusional or an unusually truthful woman. If the latter, she has no guile. She's entirely up front about what she wants and it's that which scares men off. I suspect that men want a woman who wants them and would want them even if they hadn't any money at all. In fact, I bet many (most?) men would like the woman to be rich in her own right so she could take care of them. I doubt anyone really wants their money to be their prime attraction. You'd think a woman of her age would realize this. So, I ask you all: Do you think you'd like to marry someone 80+ years of age who only wants someone who is rich, good-looking and desires that person to spoil him/her? Do you know anyone who would like to marry such a person? No? That's why I think she's delusional. Honest, but delusional. ;-)
Julie

Chicago, IL

#14 May 6, 2014
Kuuipo wrote:
LW2: This letter must've arrived too late for April 1.
Word.

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