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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 May 17, 2013
DEAR ABBY: It's vacation time again, time to hit the road in the RV. Please make your readers aware that people driving motorhomes, towing fifth-wheel trailers and travel trailers cannot stop as quickly as a small car or truck.

When people cut in front of an RV or a large truck and slam on their brakes, it puts many people's lives in danger. There is a reason we leave that large space between our RV and the vehicle in front of us. It provides us room to stop as well as the ability to see what's happening in the traffic ahead.

Your readers should also know that even though we RV-ers have mirrors and possibly rear video cameras, there are many blind spots -- especially if the car behind us is following too close or weaving in and out of lanes.

The bottom line is: Be safe. Be courteous. Drive like your life and the lives of others are in your control because it is literally true.-- HAPPY CAMPER, PASCO, WASH.

DEAR HAPPY CAMPER: I'm glad you wrote because I have received several letters recently, asking me to alert my readers about the risk of driving too close to RVs and fifth-wheel vehicles. Too many motorists don't realize that it's impossible to stop suddenly while pulling a load that weighs several tons. A word to the wise ...

DEAR ABBY: A woman here at work constantly asks to borrow money. The first time she did it, she caught me off guard and I gave her $20. The second time she sent me an email asking for a loan, I replied that I only had a few dollars.

I'm not the only person she asks. Five other people in our department have told me she has hit them up too. One of them reported her to our HR manager, but it hasn't stopped her. To be fair, she did return the $20 I loaned her, but isn't this akin to a hostile work environment?

We all avoid her because we know she'll ask for money, but we also have to work with her every day. Times are tough for everyone, and it's irritating that she thinks she's the only one with money problems.

Is there anything we can do short of ganging up on her and telling her to leave us all alone?-- ALSO FEELING THE PINCH IN UTAH

DEAR ALSO FEELING THE PINCH: The next time the woman asks for a loan, tell her you're not in the loan business, and that you're not the only one who feels put upon. Suggest that unless she wants to become an outcast she will stop asking for money because it has made everyone uncomfortable. If she persists after that, report what she's doing to HR as a group.

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who was raised Catholic. I'm not Catholic, and every time I attend a wedding or funeral for one of her family members I feel uncomfortable and awkward. I often sit in the very back pew to go unnoticed.

The Catholic Church offers beautiful, unique customs that I am simply ignorant about -- like when to sit, kneel, recite, take bread, etc. I feel if I don't comply with customs at these events, I might come off as rude or disrespectful. On the other hand, if I do try, my ignorance may appear just as rude and disrespectful.

What is the right thing to do in situations like these? I want to be respectful of any religion.-- MANNERLY IN INDIANA

DEAR MANNERLY: No rule of etiquette demands that you participate in the rituals of another person's religion. If you feel uncomfortable sitting while others kneel or stand, then follow their lead. Or, continue to sit quietly at the back of the church as you are doing, which is perfectly acceptable. However, only members of the congregation in good standing should take communion.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#2 May 17, 2013
L1: "...as well as the ability to see what's happening in the traffic ahead."

Well, not really. You're up so much higher, you don't need to be sitting far back in order to see beyond the cars in front of you. So that statement made ZERO sense.

L2: It's not a hostile work environment. It's an environment of pussies. Geez, just say you don't have any money or you don't have enough to lend her and get on with what you're doing. Most people I know don't carry cash on them, so this really shouldn't be a big deal.

L3: "take bread" Um, do you mean the wafers? Stop it. That's for Catholics only when in a Catholic church.

Since: Mar 09

Pittsburgh, PA

#3 May 17, 2013
You know you're living in the future, right?? LOL

What do we want?
Time Travel!
When do we want it?
That's irrelevant!

(look at the date)

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#4 May 17, 2013
1 PSA, shup up and drive. Turn off the tv and quit watching NASCAR while your driving. It will still be on when you get to the Walmart parking lot.

2 NO, what you should do is go back to HR and insist they do their job. After all, that IS their job.

3 And here we go....

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#5 May 17, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 PSA, shup up and drive. Turn off the tv and quit watching NASCAR while your driving. It will still be on when you get to the Walmart parking lot.
2 NO, what you should do is go back to HR and insist they do their job. After all, that IS their job.
3 And here we go....
"ha!" to all three!

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#6 May 17, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L3: "take bread" Um, do you mean the wafers? Stop it.
Stop what? You've never heard it referred to as bread?
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#7 May 17, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Stop what? You've never heard it referred to as bread?
I hear it referred to as bread more than wafers. Because that's what it often is: unleavened bread (no yeast).

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#8 May 17, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Stop what? You've never heard it referred to as bread?
Stop taking the communion wafer/bread is what I meant.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#9 May 17, 2013
VAdame wrote:
You know you're living in the future, right?? LOL
What do we want?
Time Travel!
When do we want it?
That's irrelevant!
(look at the date)
Wishful thinking, will May never end?!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#10 May 17, 2013
1- Thanks, because I need yoou to tell me how to drive.

2- If the office IS in the loan business, Abby's advice wouldn't really work...

3- "Every time" you go to weddings and funerals? How often do you go? You haven't figured it out yet? Don't take part in the communion, but the rest is pretty simple: follow everyone else's lead!

And going to church makes you feel awkward and uncomfortable. Hmmm, you the town hore or something?

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#11 May 17, 2013
LW1: Shut up and drive.

LW2: Take it to HR.

LW3: Oh sh!t. Not this again.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#12 May 17, 2013
VAdame wrote:
You know you're living in the future, right?? LOL
What do we want?
Time Travel!
When do we want it?
That's irrelevant!
(look at the date)
Haha, I didn't notice that until you pointed it out. Both columns, too! Wishful thinking, edog?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#13 May 17, 2013
L1: Don't care.

L2: Depending upon the personality of the person, this could be easy or difficult. Frankly, when she asked to borrow money I'd look at her and just say "no" and continue about my day. Let her be the next suckers problem.

L3: People are stupid. Sit there and be quiet.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#14 May 17, 2013
LW3 - follow the sit, stand, kneel (if youre ok iwht it) routine. if you don't want to stand out by staying in your spot at Communion, go up, but cross your arms over your chest when you get the priest or communion minister. thats' the sign that you "shouldn't" receive communion, but a blessing of sorts instead.

actually, at a wedding or funeral, don't worry about sittign in back so you don't stand out. I'd venture to guess taht a good number of guests there don't know teh routine either.

And, one last comment, Abby... Catholics receive communion, not take it... slight difference, but tehre is a difference.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#15 May 17, 2013
Stina wrote:
<quoted text>
I hear it referred to as bread more than wafers. Because that's what it often is: unleavened bread (no yeast).
me too. That's why her clarification seemed odd to me. Sounded liked she was correcting lw.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#16 May 17, 2013
LW1: Good luck convincing the morons on the road to drive safely. Ditch the RV and pack a tent.

LW2: What Red and Toj said.

LW3: I'm not Catholic either, but if you want to fit in better during the services, learn how to cross yourself and respond "and also with you" when the priest says "peace be with you." You're welcome.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#17 May 17, 2013
Is it normal to take communion and kneel at Catholic weddings and funerals?

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#18 May 17, 2013
Kuuipo wrote:
LW1: Good luck convincing the morons on the road to drive safely. Ditch the RV and pack a tent.
LW2: What Red and Toj said.
LW3: I'm not Catholic either, but if you want to fit in better during the services, learn how to cross yourself and respond "and also with you" when the priest says "peace be with you." You're welcome.
Sad news Kuippo: They no longer say that in Catholic church services. It's gone. They redid the liturgy. I say "sad news" because that was my favorite part of going to catholic weddings and funerals.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#19 May 17, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
Sad news Kuippo: They no longer say that in Catholic church services. It's gone. They redid the liturgy. I say "sad news" because that was my favorite part of going to catholic weddings and funerals.
I was in a Catholic church recently and they did...

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#20 May 17, 2013
Had to use the confessional?
Stina wrote:
<quoted text>
I was in a Catholic church recently and they did...

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