“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Dec 29, 2012
DEAR AMY: For the last several years, I've been meeting with a small group of friends for a late holiday dinner.

This year, the hostess has asked for $20 from each of us toward the cost of the meal, citing rising food prices. We agreed. Meanwhile, I was given a 20-pound turkey and told her that I would contribute the turkey to the meal and therefore shouldn't owe any money. She said the bird didn't count since I hadn't paid for it. I countered that it was still $20 less than she would have to spend.

She got mad and called me a cheapskate, but I beg to differ. Which of us do you think is the cheapskate here?-- Sick of Turkey

DEAR SICK: I'm with you. Your contribution has value, even if you didn't pay for it. If your friend wants to host a very low-cost dinner, she can run it as a potluck.

I dare say that this is not really about a turkey and a 20 dollar bill, however. If you want this friendship to survive into the new year, you should ask your friend what is really going on before judging her too harshly.

DEAR AMY: I have a big problem. I am getting engaged to a lovely girl this winter. We met last summer and had a lovely time together, and after that we embarked on a long-distance relationship. We talk many times a day, every day.

But lately I have been thinking of my previous lover. That relationship ended three years ago. I know it's been a long time, but I am still thinking of her and remembering my good times with her, even though we had a bad breakup. I don't know how to forget her, and I don't know how to fix it.-- Ottawa Reader

DEAR READER: It is natural to review a previous relationship when you fall in love again. It's also common to remember the good times more vividly than the bad, but the healthiest perspective is to be less -- not more -- romantically interested in your ex when you are down-deep satisfied in your current relationship.

You should not propose marriage until you have resolved your feelings about your ex. The most obvious solution is for you to take much more time before you decide to marry. A professional counselor could help you work this out; so could a good buddy with knowledge of this previous relationship.

DEAR AMY: I'd like to weigh in on the letter from "Kissed Consultant," who was shocked when a male client pulled her toward him and kissed her on the lips after a lunch meeting.

Honestly, when I read the letter the first thing I thought was that she should have slapped him right across the face. I like to think I would have done that.-- Also a Consultant

DEAR ALSO: If only real life was like an old black-and-white movie, where a dame could slap a heel right across the kisser. That's certainly what Rosalind Russell would have done, and maybe it's also what you would have done, but just as an unwelcome kiss is an affront, a slap is a (potential) assault. Alas, life ain't like the old days.

DEAR AMY: This is regarding your advice in response to the letter from "Worst Landlord Ever," whose tenant had a neglected husky in the house.

While I agree that it may be appropriate to contact animal control, I would also suggest that the writer contact a husky rescue group. They can find an appropriate home for the dog with people who know how to love and train the dog. Huskies are special dogs that, like all working breeds, require a different approach to training than a Lab or retriever, for example.

Huskies are wonderful animals, very intelligent and deserving of an appropriate forever home. I strongly believe this would be in the best interest of all concerned, especially the husky (and for huskies everywhere).-- Jim

DEAR JIM: As I said in my answer, my heart went out to this dog, which the letter writer said was neglected, wild and destructive. Thank you for your thoughtful advocacy for these wonderful dogs.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#2 Dec 29, 2012
1- Your friend is a goddam tightass. Either call an end to these late holiday dinner traditions or find a different host.

2- You met last summer and you're getting married this winter... Usually people get over their ex by moving on to someone else, but that seems to have the opposite effect on you. Have you tried not being such a whinyass pansy?

3- Shoulda, coulda, woulda. Did you have a point?

4- There's a rescue group specifically for huskies? Would they turn away other dogs? Would they help half-breed huskies?
dahgts

Chicago, IL

#3 Dec 29, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
1- Your friend is a goddam tightass. Either call an end to these late holiday dinner traditions or find a different host.
2- You met last summer and you're getting married this winter... Usually people get over their ex by moving on to someone else, but that seems to have the opposite effect on you. Have you tried not being such a whinyass pansy?
3- Shoulda, coulda, woulda. Did you have a point?
4- There's a rescue group specifically for huskies? Would they turn away other dogs? Would they help half-breed huskies?
L4: Yes, get in touch with a rescue group for huskies. There are rescue groups for most breeds. They will take half-breeds also, but concentrate in their particular full-breed. In fact, they have relationships with many shelters to get their breed out so they can put them up for adoption. They also tend to be more anal about who they adopt to, and more expensive.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#4 Dec 29, 2012
Yeah, I was surprised that my mutt was at the pound at all, I know there are husky rescue groups, but maybe not one around me. I never checked since I had no intention of getting a husky, he was a total impulse buy, and now I know I will never own another one.
dahgts wrote:
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L4: Yes, get in touch with a rescue group for huskies. There are rescue groups for most breeds. They will take half-breeds also, but concentrate in their particular full-breed. In fact, they have relationships with many shelters to get their breed out so they can put them up for adoption. They also tend to be more anal about who they adopt to, and more expensive.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#5 Dec 29, 2012
1 If the host is asking for coin, I would simply decline the invite, especially since she would take your turkey, but still insist on the $20. Too much drama.

2 The grass is greener and all that. Your going to regret getting married, no matter who you get married to, so deal.

3 Maybe she shoulda maced the guy too!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#6 Dec 29, 2012
L1: ITA with Amy. I know. I'm shocked, too. Potluck would be the way to go.

L2: What? How desperate are you? Resolve any issues you are aware about first.

L3: Ugh. Rehash. Okay, I'll go with slapping the creep. Not usually okay with violence. A stiff-arm would have probably been my reaction. Making sure it didn't happen in the first place. I say that, but I wasn't there.

L3: Huskies are beautiful dogs. That aaid, I'd rather change kitty litter than walk a dog in 20 below weather.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#7 Dec 29, 2012
So would I, thats why I live in FL.
Toj wrote:
L3: Huskies are beautiful dogs. That aaid, I'd rather change kitty litter than walk a dog in 20 below weather.
Anonymous

Plant City, FL

#8 Dec 29, 2012
1: Rude. Do not pay in addition to a full turkey.

2: Perhaps actually getting to know your fiancee would help.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#9 Dec 29, 2012
RACE wrote:
Yeah, I was surprised that my mutt was at the pound at all, I know there are husky rescue groups, but maybe not one around me. I never checked since I had no intention of getting a husky, he was a total impulse buy, and now I know I will never own another one.
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I would. BUT I would need a huge, fenced (like 12 foot) in area. Several acres at least. <shrug>

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#10 Dec 29, 2012
You can borrow mine any time darling!
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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I would. BUT I would need a huge, fenced (like 12 foot) in area. Several acres at least. <shrug>

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#11 Dec 29, 2012
RACE wrote:
You can borrow mine any time darling!
<quoted text>
I can't figure out if you're being serious or if there's a dirty innuendo in there somewhere...:D

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#12 Dec 29, 2012
YES!
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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I can't figure out if you're being serious or if there's a dirty innuendo in there somewhere...:D

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#13 Dec 29, 2012
RACE wrote:
YES!
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Glad you cleared that up for me. Thanks.:)

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