“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 May 31, 2014
DEAR ABBY: I'm 20 years old. My boyfriend and I don't drink. Almost every person my age does, and it's starting to get to me. I'd love to have friends besides my boyfriend I can hang out with, but I find that I only connect with him because everyone else always wants to go out and party. He is an introvert, so the seclusion doesn't bother him. I, on the other hand, am greatly bothered by it.

I have always been ahead of the curve in terms of people my age. I have more in common with 30-year-olds than people in college. Unfortunately, I would feel weird spending time with 30-year-olds, and I'm sure they'd feel the same about spending time with me. Most of my spare time is spent with my family. They just seem to get me.

How can I find people my age who think the way I do? I don't want to be the kind of girl who only spends time with her boyfriend. I would appreciate other relationships.-- LIZ IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR LIZ: I agree that it's time to expand your circle of acquaintances. That's why I'm advising you to join a gym or some other physical activity group and start meeting people who are involved in physical fitness. None of the ones I know want to spend their time drinking and partying because they are more interested in eating and living healthfully. I'm sure if you try it, you will meet others who think the way you do.

DEAR ABBY: I am 15, and all of my friends my age and a grade lower have their belly buttons pierced. I have been asking my mom for a very long time and she doesn't have a problem with it, but my dad does. He won't let me get it done because he doesn't want me looking like trash at this age.

I don't want it to impress boys; I want it for my own beauty and to look good with a cute jewel to go with my summer outfits or bathing suits. They said to ask you if you think it's wrong to have a belly button pierced at the age of 15. Is it wrong?-- KYLIE IN WASHINGTON

DEAR KYLIE: I don't think that having a belly button pierced is a question of right or wrong. I suspect that your father's objection -- and I'm not sure I disagree with him -- is that he would prefer you make an impression by attracting attention in some other way. I'm suggesting you hold off for now and have it done when you're older -- providing you haven't changed your mind by then.

DEAR ABBY: 1. What do you call a person who is neither a morning lark nor a night owl?(That's me.)

2. What do you call someone who is neither a giver nor a taker?(That's me, too.)

Your answers will help me win a delicious meal!-- INQUISITIVE IN OTTAWA

DEAR INQUISITIVE: A person who is neither a lark nor a night owl is called a robin. Someone who is neither a giver nor a taker is probably a loner.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#2 May 31, 2014
1- you shouldn't be drinking anyway, you're only twenty. Quit hanging out with losers

2- if all your friends jumped off a cliff...

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#3 May 31, 2014
Have you noticed that Abby's columns ahve fewer and fewer words/characters and have a decreasing quality of questions?

1. Grow a pair. Don't hang out with drinkers or figure out some weird disease that prevents you from drinking and use that as an excuse. Find other friends.

2. Belly button rings? To Abby? Echoing a recent answer, if all your friends jumped off a cliff... Get a temporary tramp stamp instead

Hancock, NY

#4 May 31, 2014
1: Yes, you need to find a different set of friends. Joining a gym or community running team might be a way. They won't all be your same age but a number of them will. There are other groups that might interest you as well; find a "cause" that interests you and a group that works for that cause.

2: I agree with your dad. Don't be messing up your body with belly rings (or tatoos) while you're still growing up. Believe me, what interests you now will not necessarily interest you 5+ years down the road. Don't do things to your body that will leave people with a bad impression of your values. If this is something you want to do as an adult, go ahead. Think about the people who dress the way you think you want to and how other people view those people. Your dad is trying his best to protect you.

3: I don't care.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#5 May 31, 2014
1. Who says that because you don't drink you can't hang out? Jeez, you sound like you were raised Amish. Get out there and cut loose for gawd's sake.

2. Hey kid, you're 15 and some things just aren't fair. Look at it as a lesson learned that'll prepare you for work disappointments.

3. What are you, an idiot? Abby in a hurry to log off and hit the martinis a little early is my guess.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#6 Jun 1, 2014
Thought the legal age to drink alcohol is twenty-one. And that LW2 is too young to get piercings without parent's permission. And that LW3
was telling a joke.

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