cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#21 Aug 1, 2013
1: I find it strange people who love their animal like their baby human never belt it in a car. I wonder how many lap dogs have been smothered between their owner and the airbag during an accident.

2: It's horrible that my sympathy for his thoughts is secondary to my frustration that he feels moving out and getting away from the tixicity is not an option! Grrr....

3: My parents JUST got internet and I have convinced them that FB is evil and will steal and sell all their personal info!

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#22 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
His friends are spouting off about their lifestyles. On facebook.
He doesn't say that.

I can tell someone's lifestyle by looking at pictures, or by gleaning information from innocuous posts. Friends who drink. Friends who shop for purses and shoes. Friends who post a lot of pics of their pets or their kids.

They aren't spouting off about anything. but someone like LW's mom would have enough info to start judging and making inappropriate comments. She's rude.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#23 Aug 1, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
3: My parents JUST got internet and I have convinced them that FB is evil and will steal and sell all their personal info!
to computer novices, FB settings are very tricky and get more complicated with every major update. And you are completely right that they could be at risk -- people spend real money to play some of those games on FB, and I don't trust all the game-makers. And FB then gets access to your cookies and other internet usage data and knows way too much of your internet usage, and shares way too much with other unknown entities.

So for your parents, I think "FB is evil" might be enough to scare them into realizing they should not use their CC to buy games of any kind at FB.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#24 Aug 1, 2013
Well, if mom can't play nice, unfriend her and let her deal with learning a very late life lesson.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#25 Aug 1, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
1: I find it strange people who love their animal like their baby human never belt it in a car. I wonder how many lap dogs have been smothered between their owner and the airbag during an accident.
I thought it was odd that my in-laws attached their dogs to the seatbelt when I first met them; I had never seen such a thing. But then I realized that anything not strapped down in a really bad accident is going to become a projectile, so it finally made sense.

And if you're going to pay $500 for a dog, I guess you'd better keep it safe.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#26 Aug 1, 2013
So, if the mother of a coworker starts telling you that you are probably a closet gay for not being married yet, and that you should start worshiping her demigod "The Eye" or you will rot in purgatory for all eternity...Your cool with that?
edogxxx wrote:
The issue is he's trying to dictate what his mother posts and is telling her to apologize for her comments. Screw you, buddy. Ask my nuts to apologize.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#27 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
The issue is he's trying to dictate what his mother posts and is telling her to apologize for her comments. Screw you, buddy. Ask my nuts to apologize.
Ask my NUTS or ask my AUNTS?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#28 Aug 1, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
1:
2: It's horrible that my sympathy for his thoughts is secondary to my frustration that he feels moving out and getting away from the tixicity is not an option! Grrr....

3: My parents JUST got internet and I have convinced them that FB is evil and will steal and sell all their personal info!
L2.If this were a wife whose husband hd been saying these things, we would say she was abused. Abusers isolate their victims, convince them they have no options or support . An emotionally abused wife does not see the option of getting away from toxicity. However, a wife had a life before abusive husband, presumably. LW has been hearing this his entire life. He doesn't see the option.

L3. Ah yes, the power of magical thinking. Let us know if it works.

The car can't move until the seat belt latch is hooked.
Don't step over the magic line( of the curb) or the mommy monster will get you.

Et Cetera.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#29 Aug 1, 2013
LW2: Justin is unlikely to find affordable housing in San Francisco, roommate or no. He needs to get a job, save his money, and relocate.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#30 Aug 1, 2013
Let me rewrite LW3 for you:

"Dear Abby, my mother recently joined facebook and requested me as a friend due to my sheer awesomeness. I readily accepted because my goal is to have 5,000+ friends. I've got friends and business associates all over the world, because, you know, as an IT "specialist" the world can't turn without me. And I certainly see nothing wrong with giving my coworkers and world-wide business associates access to my private life.

"But Abby, I don't like my mother's opinions about people she doesn't know, and who don't know her. I've ordered her to stop speaking freely, but she just won't listen! I've also ordered her to apologize to these people, but again, to no avail!

"I'm thinking about threatening to unfriend her if she doesn't cater to my whim. Surely, losing ME as a fb friend will cause anyone much heart-ache and extreme depression, for *I* am an IT SPECIALIST, dammit!! And my mother MUST learn how to behave in the online world!"

-Signed, Stupid Jerkface

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#31 Aug 1, 2013
Your not in IT, you're just a programmer.
edogxxx wrote:
Let me rewrite LW3 for you:
"Dear Abby, my mother recently joined facebook and requested me as a friend due to my sheer awesomeness. I readily accepted because my goal is to have 5,000+ friends. I've got friends and business associates all over the world, because, you know, as an IT "specialist" the world can't turn without me. And I certainly see nothing wrong with giving my coworkers and world-wide business associates access to my private life.
"But Abby, I don't like my mother's opinions about people she doesn't know, and who don't know her. I've ordered her to stop speaking freely, but she just won't listen! I've also ordered her to apologize to these people, but again, to no avail!
"I'm thinking about threatening to unfriend her if she doesn't cater to my whim. Surely, losing ME as a fb friend will cause anyone much heart-ache and extreme depression, for *I* am an IT SPECIALIST, dammit!! And my mother MUST learn how to behave in the online world!"
-Signed, Stupid Jerkface
dahgts

Chicago Heights, IL

#32 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
Let me rewrite LW3 for you:
"Dear Abby, my mother recently joined facebook and requested me as a friend due to my sheer awesomeness. I readily accepted because my goal is to have 5,000+ friends. I've got friends and business associates all over the world, because, you know, as an IT "specialist" the world can't turn without me. And I certainly see nothing wrong with giving my coworkers and world-wide business associates access to my private life.
"But Abby, I don't like my mother's opinions about people she doesn't know, and who don't know her. I've ordered her to stop speaking freely, but she just won't listen! I've also ordered her to apologize to these people, but again, to no avail!
"I'm thinking about threatening to unfriend her if she doesn't cater to my whim. Surely, losing ME as a fb friend will cause anyone much heart-ache and extreme depression, for *I* am an IT SPECIALIST, dammit!! And my mother MUST learn how to behave in the online world!"
-Signed, Stupid Jerkface
Creative writing. Congrats. However, that's not what was written.
The issue is mom was causing him anguish and that's just wrong.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#33 Aug 1, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
to computer novices, FB settings are very tricky and get more complicated with every major update. And you are completely right that they could be at risk -- people spend real money to play some of those games on FB, and I don't trust all the game-makers. And FB then gets access to your cookies and other internet usage data and knows way too much of your internet usage, and shares way too much with other unknown entities.
So for your parents, I think "FB is evil" might be enough to scare them into realizing they should not use their CC to buy games of any kind at FB.
You know the easiest way to defeat the Facebook info harvesting without having to learn much?

DON'T PUT ANY SENSITIVE INFO ON THERE!!!

Facebook has my name (in case anyone is trying to look me up) and email address. They have no cc info, no birthday, no job info, no phone number, no address. I don't "tag" people in photos and I rarely ever look at the list of pictures I've been tagged in by other people that need my approval for it tow be searchable on my name.

If they wanna sell to someone that I went to Florida State, have at it. Maybe I'll get some cool FSU paraphernalia ads. Then again, I probably wouldn't notice them since I pretty much tune that stuff out.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#34 Aug 1, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Well, if mom can't play nice, unfriend her and let her deal with learning a very late life lesson.
This. Forget trying to make her apologize or anything.

Edogg thinks its perfectly ok for mom to badger people she does not know, but I think that's just uncalled for regardless of if they are business associates. If someone YOU KNOW posts something you take umbrage with, fine, feel free to get into it with them. After all, if the relationship is ruined because of it, its you ruining your own relationship. To badger an acquaintance of an acquaintance? Just ridiculous. Puts the mutual friend in the middle for no reason.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#35 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
The issue is he's trying to dictate what his mother posts and is telling her to apologize for her comments. Screw you, buddy. Ask my nuts to apologize.
I'm curious. I can't recall you ever take a child's side in any parent-child issue, regardless of the issue or age of the "child". Even in cases of physical abuse, you seem to have the attitude that they should just get over it. In your eyes, is there anything that a parent should not be able to do/show remorse over doing, or do you feel they just have free reign to do/say whatever the hell they want and everyone else just needs to accept it and fall in line?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#36 Aug 1, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>This. Forget trying to make her apologize or anything.
Edogg thinks its perfectly ok for mom to badger people she does not know, but I think that's just uncalled for regardless of if they are business associates. If someone YOU KNOW posts something you take umbrage with, fine, feel free to get into it with them. After all, if the relationship is ruined because of it, its you ruining your own relationship. To badger an acquaintance of an acquaintance? Just ridiculous. Puts the mutual friend in the middle for no reason.
Badger?

Badger? If one of my friend's mother whom I never met "badgered" me about drinking in some photo I was tagged in, know what I'd do?

Probably click like and get on with my life without giving her opinion a second thought.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#37 Aug 1, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
I'm curious. I can't recall you ever take a child's side in any parent-child issue, regardless of the issue or age of the "child". Even in cases of physical abuse, you seem to have the attitude that they should just get over it.
I have no clue what you're talking about.

Unless you're talking about some thirty year old crying about how his mommy spanked him when he was six, then yes, get over it.
Mister Tonka wrote:
In your eyes, is there anything that a parent should not be able to do/show remorse over doing, or do you feel they just have free reign to do/say whatever the hell they want and everyone else just needs to accept it and fall in line?
Fall in line with what?

Parents are not infallible and of course there may be some things they might show remorse over.

But in this case, maybe the mother is out of line, I guess if you try hard enough you can construe it that way, but what I really see is a controlling son (who's an IT specialist, dammit!) who's trying to control who says what on "his" facebook page. Why can't Jr just click the "ignore" button? Is he so worried his "business associates" are gonna get their wittle feelings hurt? Wah.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#38 Aug 2, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>You know the easiest way to defeat the Facebook info harvesting without having to learn much?
DON'T PUT ANY SENSITIVE INFO ON THERE!!!
Facebook has my name (in case anyone is trying to look me up) and email address. They have no cc info, no birthday, no job info, no phone number, no address. I don't "tag" people in photos and I rarely ever look at the list of pictures I've been tagged in by other people that need my approval for it tow be searchable on my name.
If they wanna sell to someone that I went to Florida State, have at it. Maybe I'll get some cool FSU paraphernalia ads. Then again, I probably wouldn't notice them since I pretty much tune that stuff out.
FB has my birthday, but none of the other info. Our marketing person tried to friend me to my company's FB page and I declined. I don't tag anybody.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#39 Aug 2, 2013
Ha! As if!
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>
Edogg thinks.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#40 Aug 2, 2013
I re-read the original letter. LW's mom was arguing with LW's friends about their lifestyles presumably from things she read on FB . If it was LW who has been confiding in his mom, he should STFU. If mom has just been responding to other people's FB postings, he has no gripes.
1. He can unfriend her
2. his friends are big boys/girls. If they don't want to be harangued they should unfriend mom, delete her posts or not post stuff in public.
3. Public conduct begets public comment, something my elder girl learned in 3rd grade.
4. LW is not responsible for his mother and his mother is not responsible for him. Think of her as a blathering former manager .

FWIW, the older generation that is new to the i-net has less inhibitions and tact and hasn't figured out that whatever you post or send lasts forever and on a well lighted billboard. BUT, this group is now in their late 60's. Everyone else who has been working already "knows" this.

Tell me when this thread is updated:

Subscribe Now Add to my Tracker

Add your comments below

Characters left: 4000

Please note by submitting this form you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

Chicago Discussions

Title Updated Last By Comments
Barack Obama, our next President (Nov '08) 2 min harmonious 1,108,319
Last word + 2 (Mar '12) 53 min andet1987 612
Once slow-moving threat, global warming speeds ... (Dec '08) 1 hr ECONOMIC TERRORIST 46,550
What would be the best way to CLEAN UPCHICAGO? 1 hr Slewer 15
BARACK OBAMA BIRTH CERTIFICATE: Suit contesting... (Jan '09) 1 hr LRS 177,937
Amy 9-14-14 2 hr Mister Tonka 4
Song Titles Only (group/artist in parenthesis m... (Mar '10) 2 hr RJS 7,776
•••
Chicago Dating

more search filters

less search filters

•••

Chicago Jobs

•••
Enter and win $5000
•••
•••
•••

Chicago People Search

Addresses and phone numbers for FREE

•••

Chicago News, Events & Info

Click for news, events and info in Chicago
•••

Personal Finance

Mortgages [ See current mortgage rates ]
•••