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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Aug 1, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I travel a lot in my work with animal protection. Often I'll encounter dogs and cats in distress as soon as I reach the airport. Distracted by their own thoughts, their owners seldom realize they're upsetting the pets they're carrying through the terminal.

Animal carriers are carelessly swung to and fro, banged against counters, chairs and onto the floor. Cat or dog shoulder bags are dangled at angles that make it impossible for the animal inside to balance. These poor pets can be confused, dizzy and suffer from motion sickness before the flight even takes off.

Traveling is stressful enough for animals. So please, everyone -- if you fly with an animal companion, keep it foremost in your thoughts. Use a sturdy, well-ventilated carrier, preferably one with wheels, that's designed for animals and to fit under your seat. And please, keep the carrier upright and steady.-- ANIMAL LOVER IN WASHINGTON, D.C.

DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: Thank you for the heads up. In case someone's pet might have other issues while traveling, it's always a good idea to talk about it with a veterinarian before embarking.(Sorry, I couldn't resist.)

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 19-year-old guy and for as long as I can remember my parents have yelled at me. It lasts for hours at a time at night after they come home from work almost every day. It's never about me doing something bad, but how I never do anything up to their expectations.

I don't know if they're right or wrong, but it makes me depressed and I have been thinking about suicide. I have never been able to have an opinion of my own because as soon as I had one my parents would yell at me all over again and call me "stupid and retarded."
I cry myself to sleep at night hoping God will put me to sleep forever. Please tell me what to do.-- JUSTIN IN SAN FRANCISCO

DEAR JUSTIN: Verbal abuse -- which is what you are describing -- can be every bit as destructive as physical abuse. Perhaps it's time to consider moving out. With the constant verbal battering you're receiving, it's no wonder you're depressed.

Harming yourself is not the answer to your problem. Because you have reached the point of wanting to hurt yourself, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The number is 800-784-2433. A counselor there can direct you to the help you need. You may have to build your self-esteem from the ground up, but the effort will be well worth it. My thoughts are with you.

DEAR ABBY: A few months ago my mother joined Facebook and I readily accepted her friend request. I'm a 30-something IT specialist, but Mom is new to the Internet.

There are times I have gone online and seen posts in which my mother is arguing with my friends about their lifestyles. I have friends and business contacts from all over the world, and their backgrounds are highly varied as are their belief and value systems.

I have told Mom in private and public discussions that she owes someone an apology, but she shrugs it off.

Am I wrong for asking her to respect my friends, and would you suggest I "unfriend" my mother until she learns proper Internet etiquette?-- DIGITAL FAMILY MAN

DEAR FAMILY MAN: Because what your mother is doing could negatively affect your business, you should do exactly that. And quickly!

Since: Jan 10

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#2 Aug 1, 2013
L1: SKipping. I hate bad animal/pet stories.

L2: Your parents suck. You're 19. Times to move out and forge your own way without two dickheads making you miserable.

L3: BLOCK YOUR DAMN MOTHER. Geez you're stupid.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#3 Aug 1, 2013
L1: I feel like this person is exaggerating just a bit. The airport is kind of jarring for humans, too.

L2: Move out.*Are* you stupid or retarded?

L3: Blocking her from your feed won't do anything--she can still comment on things you post. Gotta delete her as a friend until she can play nice.

I've *so* noticed that about the older generation. Maybe they don't care because they're retired, but they'll just spew on about whatever.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#4 Aug 1, 2013
1 PSA, I have never witnessed this personally.

2 Your 19, probably bigger and stronger than your parents. I think its time you threw them in the basement and kept them there for a few years.

3 Yup! Time to disown your mom in the inet.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#6 Aug 1, 2013
L3. You are an idiot for mixing business with pleasure.
I stay away from Facebook. It is not of my liking.
The less paper trail I leave behind, the better.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#7 Aug 1, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
I've *so* noticed that about the older generation. Maybe they don't care because they're retired, but they'll just spew on about whatever.
Don't paint us all in the same picture. I and all of my retired friends would never be like this .I'm old but not crazy,(well, not in this way). We all talk among ourselves, privately. We call it therapy. It's not for broadcasting to the world.
The only thing I don't care about is having a job.
.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#8 Aug 1, 2013
L1: PSA.

L2: You might be broke and have few options. First thing, do something to get positive people in your life. Second thing, save money and move out -- even if you have to take a roommate. Also, people have rooms for rent. You might want to try that.

L3: Unfriend her now.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#9 Aug 1, 2013
dahgts wrote:
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Don't paint us all in the same picture. I and all of my retired friends would never be like this .I'm old but not crazy,(well, not in this way). We all talk among ourselves, privately. We call it therapy. It's not for broadcasting to the world.
The only thing I don't care about is having a job.
.
Oh, it's not everyone, for sure. But in the Facebook world, the over 60 crowd seems more prone than to discuss religion and politics, often in a less than civil fashion, than the bulk of the 20s, 30s, and 40-somethings I'm friends with would do.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#10 Aug 1, 2013
LW2: Move out, bro.

LW3: Id unfriend mom.

I have a great uncle that says the most inappropriate things on facebook to my wife and me. Both my wife and I have had to delete a few of his comments.

It's also not just old people. My buddy was dating a girl that was getting into all sorts of arguments on facebook with his friends. It was like a train-wreck ... couldn't help but read and shake your head.. Some other friends and I finally told him he has to lose that girl. She was crazy and she did not fit in with any of us. It was so bizarre the one time she joined us on the town.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#11 Aug 1, 2013
LW1: What Matilda said.

LW2: Call the number and move out, in that order.

LW3: Whatever.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#12 Aug 1, 2013
1- Get over yourself.

2- Move out.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#13 Aug 1, 2013
3- Your mother can express her opinion. She owes no one an apology.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#14 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
3- Your mother can express her opinion. She owes no one an apology.
The only place for her to express her opinion, which is probably more judgemental,(which is what you usually do) is to her son's face.
My son is on Facebook, not actively, but he has a high profile job and lots of friends. I have absolutely no business posting anything re those people, good or bad.
If she wants to post she can just say I'm proud of my son or something of that nature. If your mother was like that and disrespected your good friends and associates and they pulled away from you that would be ok?

That void in your brain needs to be filled with common sense.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#15 Aug 1, 2013
Yeah, the mom apparently criticizes other adults for their choices and how they live. That's completely rude.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#16 Aug 1, 2013
dahgts wrote:
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The only place for her to express her opinion, which is probably more judgemental,(which is what you usually do) is to her son's face.
My son is on Facebook, not actively, but he has a high profile job and lots of friends. I have absolutely no business posting anything re those people, good or bad.
If she wants to post she can just say I'm proud of my son or something of that nature. If your mother was like that and disrespected your good friends and associates and they pulled away from you that would be ok?
That void in your brain needs to be filled with common sense.
His friends are spouting off about their lifestyles. On facebook. Now when you do that, you should be prepared to deal with whatever consequences. He's trying to dictate what his mother can and cannot say to whom. Dude comes off as a d!ck. Why doesn't he just try to tell his friends not to spout off so much?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#17 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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His friends are spouting off about their lifestyles. On facebook. Now when you do that, you should be prepared to deal with whatever consequences. He's trying to dictate what his mother can and cannot say to whom. Dude comes off as a d!ck. Why doesn't he just try to tell his friends not to spout off so much?
Really? You don't see where a mother has a different standing here than say his boss and friends and that there is a time and a place for correcting people and commenting on their lifestyle?

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#18 Aug 1, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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His friends are spouting off about their lifestyles. On facebook. Now when you do that, you should be prepared to deal with whatever consequences. He's trying to dictate what his mother can and cannot say to whom. Dude comes off as a d!ck. Why doesn't he just try to tell his friends not to spout off so much?
Toj said just what I wanted to say. This was not a question of people setting themselves up on Facebook for comments, that's their right. Cripe, you set yourself up on a daily basis with yours. More then once you've made a judgement about "bad parenting" on some issue even when there's no evidence that it is.

Can't you see why this is an example of that no matter what the kid's age?
You didn't answer my question re this happening to you. So I can surmise from that it's ok if your mom drove your friends away or lowered your standing with business associates by her actions?
Mom needs to be blocked.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#19 Aug 1, 2013
LW2's parents are giving San Francisco a bad name--and Justin should leave them as soon as he can.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#20 Aug 1, 2013
The issue is he's trying to dictate what his mother posts and is telling her to apologize for her comments. Screw you, buddy. Ask my nuts to apologize.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#21 Aug 1, 2013
1: I find it strange people who love their animal like their baby human never belt it in a car. I wonder how many lap dogs have been smothered between their owner and the airbag during an accident.

2: It's horrible that my sympathy for his thoughts is secondary to my frustration that he feels moving out and getting away from the tixicity is not an option! Grrr....

3: My parents JUST got internet and I have convinced them that FB is evil and will steal and sell all their personal info!

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