Abby 8-23

[PEllen]

Most Court records are on line these days. Check to see if your BF has a divorce case on file.
I wager one of those pennies from Heaven he does not.

Something close to this happened to me. I was dating a guy . I called his house and a woman answered. I left a message but when I asked him who she was, he said she was just cleaning the place. Wrong accent for that. A bit of further checking and I found out she probably was cleaning the place... because she lived there with him.

Dump

[cheluzal]

1: Ack! No...nonono. Walk away now, thank us later.
How this man would think this is fine shows he's mental. They share a laptop?? Surrre...bet that's not all they share.
You know she reads his emails, too.

[Kuuipo]

LW1: I also met a guy who had divorced and was still living with his ex-wife for financial reasons. That was a huge turn-off for me, so we were never more than friends.

LW2: Seems like just last week that I posted that people are weirded out by the idea of their parents having sex... We weren't hatched. My good friend told me of an older woman who recently remarried. She wanted a husband who could still do the deed and she found him. LOL!

[RedheadwGlasses]

Kuuipo wrote:

LW1: I also met a guy who had divorced and was still living with his ex-wife for financial reasons. That was a huge turn-off for me, so we were never more than friends.

I've encountered this at least twice (twice that I recall). I do accept that there are people who could accommodate this, and get past it, or accept it for what it is. I cannot. I just would not be comfortable dating someone in that situation.

[RACE]

Right!
Normal guys live with their mom's after a divorce.

RedheadwGlasses wrote:

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I've encountered this at least twice (twice that I recall). I do accept that there are people who could accommodate this, and get past it, or accept it for what it is. I cannot. I just would not be comfortable dating someone in that situation.

[Kuuipo]

RedheadwGlasses wrote:

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I've encountered this at least twice (twice that I recall). I do accept that there are people who could accommodate this, and get past it, or accept it for what it is. I cannot. I just would not be comfortable dating someone in that situation.

Ditto, this is way out of my comfort zone, although I do think it's great when people can get along with their exes.

[itser]

Kuuipo wrote:

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Ditto, this is way out of my comfort zone, although I do think it's great when people can get along with their exes.

I'm with ya.
I've dated guys who got along very well with their exes, and I've encouraged it, especially with kids involved. But not living together. If they get along well enough to continue living together and sharing everything, why not just stay married, with an agreement to see other people? That's fine if they want to, but it's not for me. Doesn't sound like LW is going to get fine with it, and she should just end it now.

[cycle003]

The problem I would have with someone I'm dating living with an ex is how easy it is to slip back into moments of intimacy with someone you've previously been close. I've had a few ex-gfs with whom the physical part would easily rekindle. Sure, it's often easy to later remember why you are no longer together, but after a little alcohol or a few laughs, you might begin to miss some of the good parts.

<shrug>

I don't think I could handle that with someone from whom I wanted more than a fling.

[Toj]

itser wrote:

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I'm with ya.
I've dated guys who got along very well with their exes, and I've encouraged it, especially with kids involved. But not living together. If they get along well enough to continue living together and sharing everything, why not just stay married, with an agreement to see other people? That's fine if they want to, but it's not for me. Doesn't sound like LW is going to get fine with it, and she should just end it now.

I agree. I don't think you'll find many people who could accept it.

[RedheadwGlasses]

cycle003 wrote:

The problem I would have with someone I'm dating living with an ex is how easy it is to slip back into moments of intimacy with someone you've previously been close. I've had a few ex-gfs with whom the physical part would easily rekindle. Sure, it's often easy to later remember why you are no longer together, but after a little alcohol or a few laughs, you might begin to miss some of the good parts.
<shrug>
I don't think I could handle that with someone from whom I wanted more than a fling.

ITA.