“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Dec 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My younger sister "Lainie" is 14. She has had a smartphone for about a year. While I don't belong to any social media sites, Lainie is a social media junkie. She never goes anywhere without her phone. Sometimes she'll have her phone in one hand and her tablet in the other, taking turns when one or the other begins to bore her. It's almost impossible to interact with her because her face is buried in the virtual world just about every hour of the day and night.

I miss the way things used to be before she got that smartphone. I have talked about this with my parents. While they are equally concerned about Lainie's withdrawn, sometimes secretive behavior, they never do anything about it. What are your thoughts on this topic?-- GADGET GIRL'S SISTER IN NEW MEXICO

DEAR SISTER: It's common for teens to spend a lot of time on their phones and computers. But when they become withdrawn and secretive, it is time for a parental intervention. If your folks are equally concerned about your sister's behavior, they should step in, find out what's going on and do something about it, if necessary. If they don't already, they could start by scheduling family dinners during which cellphones are turned off or put away.

DEAR ABBY: Christmas is nearly here, and I'm concerned about my brother. I'm afraid he blames himself for his 28-year-old daughter's suicide, which was by no means his fault. This will be his first Christmas without her. I don't know what to do for him. Any suggestions?-- CHALLENGED IN MICHIGAN

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DEAR CHALLENGED: When a close family member commits suicide, it is common for survivors to experience a range of emotions. Anger and guilt are two of them. If possible, encourage your brother to spend Christmas with you or other relatives. You should also suggest he join a survivors support group.

The American Association of Suicidology provides referrals to local self-help groups for survivors of suicide. If he joins one, it will give him a place to talk about his feelings with people who will understand because they have them, too.

DEAR ABBY: A long time ago, I was dating and living with a wonderful woman. I was arrested and went to jail for possession of cocaine. She then had an order of protection issued against me for one year.

That was 10 years ago. I have been clean from drugs ever since. She has a child with another man now, and I hope everything is great. My problem is, I can't get her out of my mind. I miss her so much and just want the chance to be with her. Any advice?-- HEARTBROKEN IN NEW YORK

DEAR HEARTBROKEN: Your former girlfriend has gone on with her life, and your relationship is ancient history. If she had been willing to forgive you, she wouldn't have taken out the restraining order. If you want to be successful in moving forward in your life, stop looking backward. It's time to focus on your future.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#6 Dec 21, 2013
Suicidology? Really?

It is a serious topic that deserves our concern but making u a word like this diminishes that..

Change your family's Christmas routine this year so there will not be as much of an empty chair at the table

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#7 Dec 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Suicidology? Really?
Comes from the same scientific school of zombieology and buttichology

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#8 Dec 21, 2013
What PE said.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#9 Dec 21, 2013
1: I call them adult pacifiers. I am so sick of seeing people with their head down on the phone that would need to be surgically removed from their hand.
It's causing me rage.
I want to go back to the 50's so badly....

3: Like every other person in this situation, you are in love with the idea of what could be, not what is.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#10 Dec 21, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
3: Like every other person in this situation, you are in love with the idea of what could be, not what is.
If he loves her, the best gift he can give her is to leave her alone.
Bleruh

Nashville, TN

#11 Dec 21, 2013
LW1- She oughtta suggest to the parents that if they're the ones paying for all the gizmos, if they're worried, they can tell Sis to cut back and relearn to be human OR they'll take them all away from her and she'd havta learn to do without until she's on her own.

LW2- Agree the tag sounds bogus but if connecting to others with similiar tragedies can help bro, I don't see the harm in telling him about them.

LW3- Back off and deal with the fact you blew it so you won't be like that to future squeezes.
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#12 Dec 21, 2013
cheluzal wrote:
3: Like every other person in this situation, you are in love with the idea of what could be, not what is.
This.

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