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“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#1 Nov 8, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am a 25-year-old woman with a food allergy. Last year I was a guest at a Thanksgiving dinner where the host insisted I could eat the food "since there was just a little in there."

I understand that making separate food is difficult, but all I ask is that people let me know if a dish contains an ingredient that will make me sick. At best, an allergic reaction is uncomfortable. At worst, it can be life-threatening.

Would you please print a message about allergy awareness before the holidays? If you do, perhaps someone will be spared what I went through.-- NOT PICKY, REALLY ALLERGIC IN ILLINOIS

DEAR REALLY ALLERGIC: I'm glad to raise awareness because every year there is at least one story in the media about some poor individual winding up in an emergency room or dying because of an allergic reaction. Exposure to even a trace of a substance that an individual is allergic to is dangerous because "just a little" can hurt you.

The symptoms of a potentially fatal allergic reaction -- which have appeared in this column before -- are a tingling sensation, itching or metallic taste in the mouth followed by hives, a sensation of warmth, asthma symptoms, swelling of the mouth and throat area, difficulty breathing, vomiting, diarrhea, cramping, a drop in blood pressure and loss of consciousness. The symptoms can occur in as few as five to 15 minutes after exposure, but life-threatening reactions may progress over several hours. Someone experiencing these symptoms should be treated at the nearest emergency room or hospital.
This information was provided by Food Allergy Research and Education, an organization whose mission is to raise public awareness about food allergies, provide education and advance research. Its website is loaded with valuable information on this important subject. Check it out at www.foodallergy.org .

DEAR ABBY: Last week I attended two events for my grandchildren. One was a school concert, the other a dance recital. Both times, during the performance I saw electronic devices turned on throughout the audience. It seemed that parents were encouraging children to play video games, watch movies or surf the Internet instead of pay attention to the show. It drove me crazy.

What are these parents teaching their children? Not only are they missing out on the experience, but they are also being taught terrible manners. I held my tongue, but it was a struggle because I wanted to slap the parents in the back of the head.(I'm old school.) Am I wrong?-- HOLDING MY TONGUE

DEAR HOLDING: No, you're 100 percent right. Before many performances, the director or principal will request that electronic devices be turned off. That's what should have been done at the concert and recital you attended. Parents who allow or encourage their children to behave this way aren't doing their job, which is to teach them to be respectful of the performers and the effort that was put into the show.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#2 Nov 8, 2013
The symptoms of a potentially fatal allergic reaction -- which have appeared in this column before --are a tingling sensation, itching or metallic taste in the mouth followed by hives, a sensation of warmth, asthma symptoms, swelling of the mouth and throat area, difficulty breathing, vomiting, diarrhea, cramping, a drop in blood pressure and loss of consciousness.

OMG! I'm allergic to Beer!

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#3 Nov 8, 2013
Lw2: the parents are teaching thr kids to be respectful of the performance by not being disruptive. I see no value in forcing the kid to pay attention to a performance he does not give a rat's ass about.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#4 Nov 8, 2013
Lw1: Oh shut up and go to a football game.

Lw2: Thank you, Tonka.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#5 Nov 8, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
Lw2: the parents are teaching thr kids to be respectful of the performance by not being disruptive. I see no value in forcing the kid to pay attention to a performance he does not give a rat's ass about.
And I see no value in teaching a kid that it's ok to be disruptive with electronics at a performance event of this type. Leave the kid at home then.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#6 Nov 8, 2013
dahgts wrote:
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And I see no value in teaching a kid that it's ok to be disruptive with electronics at a performance event of this type. Leave the kid at home then.
disruptive how? They do have volume controls, you know. People have a bug up their ass about electronics, but wouldn't say boo if they kid was coloring or reading a book to keep quiet.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#7 Nov 8, 2013
I could almost agree, but the electronic does have a screen that others will notice, no matter how hard they try not to look.
Could you throw a blanket over the kid?
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>disruptive how? They do have volume controls, you know. People have a bug up their ass about electronics, but wouldn't say boo if they kid was coloring or reading a book to keep quiet.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#8 Nov 8, 2013
dahgts wrote:
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And I see no value in teaching a kid that it's ok to be disruptive with electronics at a performance event of this type. Leave the kid at home then.
Not practical.
Each of my kids got dragged to the others' ice show, dance recital, piano recital,oboe recital Spring Sing, class play, Christmas Pageant,etc. The alternative would have meant either a babysitter or one arents staying home .

Teaches the kid manners, to sit quietly and not distract other people.

Before hand held games, we took the girls to some grownup performances. Kids fidget. We had crayons in a cloth (no-rustling) bag and paper . They listened to the music they knew and amused themselves otherwise. I found this much preferable to having to fuss with a bored child. People sitting near us fellt likewise- at least one said so.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#9 Nov 8, 2013
I'm cool with having electronic devices and such while waiting for the show, but they should be able to pay attention for the actual show.

Since: Aug 08

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#10 Nov 8, 2013
LW1: Just stay the eff away from football games or else I'll sneak in peanuts and throw them at you and rub them all over your seat whenever you get up.

LW2: MYOB. In terms of the “experience, I’m pretty sure the kids would have been bored as hell.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#11 Nov 8, 2013
RACE wrote:
I could almost agree, but the electronic does have a screen that others will notice, no matter how hard they try not to look.
Could you throw a blanket over the kid?
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So the disinterested child should be forced to focus on the percormance, but the adult who allgedly is very interested is so easily distracted by a 4 inch screen nearby? Sorry if this is another thing to add to the list of reasons why I'm an asshole, but I have little concern for people that can't focus unless everything is perfect. Get blinders and sit in the front row. Your lack of focus is your issue, not mine.(you on general, not you specifically). As long as no one is blocking your view or making noise, stfu.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#12 Nov 8, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
I'm cool with having electronic devices and such while waiting for the show, but they should be able to pay attention for the actual show.
if its a show they are interested in, sure. If not, then you have a restless fidgety kid who wants out cause he's bored.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#13 Nov 8, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
LW1: Just stay the eff away from football games or else I'll sneak in peanuts and throw them at you and rub them all over your seat whenever you get up.
LW2: MYOB. In terms of the “experience, I’m pretty sure the kids would have been bored as hell.
my kid had a kindergarten performance. His 3 yr old brother was bored as hell. Floated between me, mom, and the grandparents. Played on my phone. Got bored. Still had to get up and walk to the back of the room with him.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#14 Nov 8, 2013
I used to get dragged to see my mom performing Handel's Messiah every Christmas with a chorale group. Not...all of it, thankfully, but damn if it didn't feel like it.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#15 Nov 8, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
I'm cool with having electronic devices and such while waiting for the show, but they should be able to pay attention for the actual show.
Should and can don't always meet up.

I think I'd rather deal with the minor annoyance of a screen in the semi-dark that's only sort of bothering the people in its immediate area than the major irritation of a wiggly, impatient, chatty kid who is disrupting the show for everybody.

The stuff the girls have been in, like the ice show, are long and boring if it's not your family member's time on the ice, and I see no problem with letting a young child play an electronic game so his/her parent doesn't have to be worried about them distrubing the people around them, who's kid may be on the ice at that moment. Or have to take them out of the rink altogther and risk missing the very performance they were there to see.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#16 Nov 8, 2013
1- Another gdam liberal forcing their views on everyone else!

2- Tonka, if a bratty kid next to me is playing angry birds on his ipod while I'm trying to enjoy the third-grade rendition of Romeo and Juliet, that's disruptive to ME.

The kids can sit on their hands and suffer through it like we had to.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#17 Nov 8, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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Should and can don't always meet up.
I think I'd rather deal with the minor annoyance of a screen in the semi-dark that's only sort of bothering the people in its immediate area than the major irritation of a wiggly, impatient, chatty kid who is disrupting the show for everybody.
The stuff the girls have been in, like the ice show, are long and boring if it's not your family member's time on the ice, and I see no problem with letting a young child play an electronic game so his/her parent doesn't have to be worried about them distrubing the people around them, who's kid may be on the ice at that moment. Or have to take them out of the rink altogther and risk missing the very performance they were there to see.
Fair enough. I'll concede to the actual parents in this argument.

I have to admit a bit of jealously of this younger generation. With uber church-y parents, I did a LOT of sitting through
very, very boring things as a kid.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#18 Nov 8, 2013
Matilda77 wrote:
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Fair enough. I'll concede to the actual parents in this argument.
I have to admit a bit of jealously of this younger generation. With uber church-y parents, I did a LOT of sitting through
very, very boring things as a kid.
Oh, I hear you about being jealous! Angry Birds is way more fun than a coloring book.

I try my best not to resort to the electronic distrations. I don't let them play on my phone much and we don't have a DVD player in the car and only use the portable one for loooong road trips (down to grandma's doesn't count). I encourge the coloring and the staring out the window as much as I can; they need to learn to rely on their own imaginations to entertain them.
dahgts

Chicago Heights, IL

#19 Nov 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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Not practical.
Each of my kids got dragged to the others' ice show, dance recital, piano recital,oboe recital Spring Sing, class play, Christmas Pageant,etc. The alternative would have meant either a babysitter or one arents staying home .
Teaches the kid manners, to sit quietly and not distract other people.
Before hand held games, we took the girls to some grownup performances. Kids fidget. We had crayons in a cloth (no-rustling) bag and paper . They listened to the music they knew and amused themselves otherwise. I found this much preferable to having to fuss with a bored child. People sitting near us fellt likewise- at least one said so.
I agree with your solutions, but I doubt you would have allowed lit up screens distract others.
Most complaints at movies are about electronic distractions.

Also, as we know, little kids don't have the self control to not make comments or whatever when the games, etc. are pretty animated. they're not bad kids, just kids.
Tonka obviously can't visualize what it would be like to have an audience full of electronic screens. Very unfair to MOST people who don't have blinders glued to their heads.
So, sit all the way in the back with them.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#20 Nov 8, 2013
So, you and only you get to determine how much distraction is too much distraction? If your kid is playing video games and I am in the seat right behind him, I'm supposed to tough it out even though the kid is shaking the thing and weaving it from side to side? The screen flashes, explosions, all of which I see in my peripheral vision, but I have to put blinders on?

Seems to me that your asking me to do a lot of things just so your child does not have to learn how to sit quietly.

If your not going to throw a blanket over the kid, then take him outside or get a sitter. Dont tell me *I* have to deal with it.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>So the disinterested child should be forced to focus on the percormance, but the adult who allgedly is very interested is so easily distracted by a 4 inch screen nearby? Sorry if this is another thing to add to the list of reasons why I'm an asshole, but I have little concern for people that can't focus unless everything is perfect. Get blinders and sit in the front row. Your lack of focus is your issue, not mine.(you on general, not you specifically). As long as no one is blocking your view or making noise, stfu.

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