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“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Des Plaines, IL

#1 Oct 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: Last summer, after 24 years of marriage, I finally summoned the nerve to take my teenage daughter and leave my emotionally abusive husband. We are both thriving now.

I have been in therapy, lost almost 45 pounds and have rediscovered my self-confidence all over again. A friend I have known for more than 10 years has expressed interest in dating me. I like him very much, but I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to date yet. What do you think?-- TENTATIVE IN MASSACHUSETTS

DEAR TENTATIVE: Tempting as this is, proceed with caution. When a person has been emotionally starved for a long time, then begins to feel attractive, accepted and validated again, the result can be euphoria -- a powerful high. Right now you need to be rational.

What I think about your dating this man is less important than what your therapist thinks right now. Please make this question a priority during your next sessions because the insight you'll gain into yourself will help you not only in a relationship with this man -- if you decide to have one -- but in future ones as well.

DEAR ABBY: My 86-year-old dad buys all his food from the markdown quick sale tables, then lets it sit in the fridge for weeks or even months before he eats it. He insists the mold is penicillin and good for you. He eats moldy cheese, bread, fruit and meat I wouldn't feed to my dogs. He has a turkey in the freezer that expired in 2008, and he can't understand why I won't cook it for my pets.

Dad reads your column every day, so please give me some input. By the way, he isn't poor and can afford good, fresh food.-- PERPLEXED DAUGHTER IN SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA

DEAR PERPLEXED DAUGHTER: Your father is a product of his upbringing during the Great Depression, a time when many people were starving. The habits people form when they are young can be hard to shake.

One reason that perishable products have a sell by date is that the food begins to lose its nutritional value. As to your father's excuse that he's ingesting penicillin when he eats moldy fruits, vegetables, baked goods and dairy products -- I'm sure his doctor would prefer he get it by prescription only.

Spoiled food can cause serious illness, which is why the U.S. government publishes pamphlets on the important topic of food safety. Visit www <dot> foodsafety <dot> gov and print out some of the Food Safety at a Glance charts for him. If he refuses to take your advice and mine, perhaps he'll be more receptive to what Uncle Sam has to say.

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of two years, Jesse, has suddenly changed. He's pushing me away. We are both 17 and have a 9-month-old baby.

Jesse spent the first six months of our son's life in state custody. Since he has been back, he has been really distant. He ignores me and isn't affectionate anymore. When I get upset about it, he denies it and says I have no reason to be upset.

I'm scared our relationship isn't as strong as I thought. My son deserves a family, but it's falling apart. What should I do?-- TROUBLED IN TENNESSEE

DEAR TROUBLED: You have no idea what might have happened to Jesse after he was sent away, so give him some space, but let him know that if he wants to talk about it, you are willing to listen and be supportive. Don't push and don't be clingy. You may have to be strong for all three of you. Complete your education, take parenting classes, and encourage Jesse to do it, too. Do this and your son will have a family, whether or not it's the one you thought you'd have with Jesse.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#2 Oct 21, 2013
3- Bubba got to him when he was in jail. And he realized he kinda liked it. Now he's got a thing for fat, black men.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 Oct 21, 2013
1 Bleh, just ask your shrink if its ok if you scratch your itch with some guy, nothing serious, just a fling.

2 Your dad is 86, and he got there by doing what he is doing. Maybe instead of listening to liberal advice columinists and drinking the Govt koolaid you could start taking notes. The govt wants everyone to die very nicely at 62, and you will if you eat all the processed crap the govt tells you is healthy.

3 Baby momma drama. Close your legs, go to school and telly baby daddy to do the same.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#4 Oct 21, 2013
LW3: Had to laugh because I was thinking "What trailer park do you live in" then I saw she is in TN. How perfect! 17 with a 9 month old kid and a beau with a history of going to jail. Can't wait to here where she is in 10 years.

LW should have given the kid up for adoption and dumped this loser. Guess it's too late now for the kid, but not for dumping the loser. LW needs to grow up, get birth control and an education and kick Cletus to the curb. If she wants a better life for her kid, she needs to make better choices and maybe in a few years (hopefully at least 8) find a decent, upstanding guy to have a family with.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#5 Oct 21, 2013
LW1: Sounds good to me.

LW3: <rolls eyes>

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#6 Oct 21, 2013
LW1: Just take it slow.

LW2: It hasn't killed him yet. And I'm guessing that anything the government produces is going to be considered suspect by this guy. He needs to actually get ill and have a doctor tell him it was the moldy food he was eating that did it. Stubborn old coot!

LW3: Stop thinking about what *you* need. Once you decided to bring that baby into the world and raise it yourself, you lost your right to be selfish. Do what is best for the child, and I understand that since you are pretty much a child yourself this might be hard to determine, but I guessing you're guessing the daddy is not much good for your child. Good with that feeling.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#7 Oct 21, 2013
LW1 Two things I want to know. Does "last summer" mean 2012 or 2013, and are you divorced or just separated?

Time and commitment to the fact that your marriage is over are important predictors whether you are ready to start dating.

LW2. Interesting that Abby did not say the mold was not penicillin.

There has been a lot of press about this lately. The use by dates are artificially imposed by the food manufacturers. The dates may have some relation to the taste quality, but it appears they have little or no relation to food safety.

If the turkey has been continuously frozen since 2008, it will be safe to eat although perhaps stale tasting. The dogs will do fine.

LW3 Let's see. You are 17. You have a 9monyth old baby so you were 16. That means you got pregnant perhaps as early a 15, maybe early 16. The BF has been in jail already.

I best your school had an abstinence only sex ed curriculum and the BF was in jail for statutory rape. I guess we should be glad he isn't your first cousin. He's not, is he?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#8 Oct 21, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
LW3: Had to laugh because I was thinking "What trailer park do you live in" then I saw she is in TN. How perfect! 17 with a 9 month old kid and a beau with a history of going to jail. Can't wait to here where she is in 10 years.
You're from Florida. I wouldn't say you have much room to talk.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#9 Oct 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
I best your school had an abstinence only sex ed curriculum and the BF was in jail for statutory rape.
This is awfully presumptuous.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#10 Oct 21, 2013
I was hoarding food for the zombie apocalypse that never came. I started eating it because a lot of it expired in 09. Not sick yet.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#11 Oct 21, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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This is awfully presumptuous.
Yep, usually is, too.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#12 Oct 21, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
I was hoarding food for the zombie apocalypse that never came. I started eating it because a lot of it expired in 09. Not sick yet.
Got you best on this. I was cleaning out the closet under the stairs to the basement and found the powdered milk, bottled water, multivitamins and granola bars from Y2K

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#13 Oct 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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Got you best on this. I was cleaning out the closet under the stairs to the basement and found the powdered milk, bottled water, multivitamins and granola bars from Y2K
At work, we recently got new carpet and paint, which required us to pack up everything. I started a contest to see which section had the most obsolete item stashed away in a drawer. And I really thought I had won because I found legal sized carbon paper, but the girls in exams found ink for a mimeograph machine.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#14 Oct 21, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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You're from Florida. I wouldn't say you have much room to talk.
Touche. But, luckily, I'm not in the middle of the state or the northern part of the state. THAT'S where it gets really scary!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Melrose Park, IL

#15 Oct 21, 2013
Stina2 wrote:
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Touche. But, luckily, I'm not in the middle of the state or the northern part of the state. THAT'S where it gets really scary!
See, you southern Floridians think you're not rednecks, and sorry to break it to ya, but, yes you are.

Derp derp derp

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#16 Oct 21, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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At work, we recently got new carpet and paint, which required us to pack up everything. I started a contest to see which section had the most obsolete item stashed away in a drawer. And I really thought I had won because I found legal sized carbon paper, but the girls in exams found ink for a mimeograph machine.
Mimeograph copying was the only mass reproduction available when I was in school. It had a distinctive odor. I feel like I am 12 again just thinking about it.

I was in grad school in the late 70's. I had my grandfather's books when he was at the same college in the mid 1920's. I have one of his exams... which was mimeographed.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#17 Oct 21, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Derp derp derp
Derp derp derp?

Care to translate?

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#18 Oct 21, 2013
squishymama wrote:
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At work, we recently got new carpet and paint, which required us to pack up everything. I started a contest to see which section had the most obsolete item stashed away in a drawer. And I really thought I had won because I found legal sized carbon paper, but the girls in exams found ink for a mimeograph machine.
That sounds like a fun contest!

Last year when I cleaned out my office, I found floppy disks. The 3.5" ones though, not the 5" ones.

Quick google search reveals that those suckers are still available, and for $20 for a pack of 25. Maybe people use them as coasters or as part of a Halloween costume or something.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#19 Oct 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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Derp derp derp?
Care to translate?
That's Floridian redneck for, "Good afternoon, I am a nuclear physicist."

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#20 Oct 21, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
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That sounds like a fun contest!
Last year when I cleaned out my office, I found floppy disks. The 3.5" ones though, not the 5" ones.
Quick google search reveals that those suckers are still available, and for $20 for a pack of 25. Maybe people use them as coasters or as part of a Halloween costume or something.
At my previous job (I left there in 2003) I was assigned to clean out the filing room and found 9" floppy disks. I was just about to toss them when our IT guy came in and almost wet his pants when he saw them. It seems that the telephone system still used them as back-up...in 2003.

I found lots of 3.5" floppies. If they were labeled, I put them in a file, if they were blank, I put them in the garbage. We're not even sure that we have a way to look at the ones I've saved, but I had to save them anyway. It will be up to the next secretary in this section to deal with.:D

I remember seeing a mosaic that someone had done with all the aol disks they'd gotten in the mail, maybe something similar could be done with the 3.5" floppies...

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