Yeah, it is now, I still think, considering how the other sentence is phrased, that he has tried it, just decided it wasn't "right".<quoted text>I keyed in on this line:
"this is very much against my values".
Regardless, she's an adult, and he's wasting his time, and may well cause their relationship to go up in smoke if he keeps up with his efforts to control her.
I doubt very much that he was ever a "raging pothead". He's just a control freak who doesn't know his own limits.