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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Sep 17, 2013
DEAR AMY: I'm 17 years old and have a twin brother.

Recently my parents went out of town, and my brother wanted to throw a party.

I didn't want to be there because I had plans in the morning, but I decided to stay up to make sure nothing got out of hand.

At 11 p.m. someone brought an incredible quantity of alcohol and 20 guests showed up. They all began to drink heavily, and soon someone was feeling sick and wanted to go home.

I drove her home myself (I was the only sober person there). When I returned home the place was a nightmare. Everyone, including my brother, was drunk. People were vomiting, there was broken glass on the floor and someone had cut his foot and was bleeding heavily.

I almost called 911, but a sober friend showed up and persuaded me not to. Finally, the guests and my friend all fell asleep, but I stayed up all night checking on each one. I am certain that one particular person would have died had I not done this. In the morning I drove them all home while my brother cleaned up, and I have felt guilty and angry at my brother ever since. He tells me I am being dramatic and I should forgive him. Did I do the right thing? Should I forgive him?-- Terrified Twin

DEAR TWIN: You should forgive your twin -- but the route to forgiveness is smoothest when it is paved with an acknowledgment that someone has erred, along with a request to be forgiven. Has your brother done either of these things?

You sound amazingly responsible. But this is an extreme note of caution for you and any other young people who may find themselves in your situation (now that the school year has started, many high school and college students will be facing this challenge).

If you are ever in a situation where you think to yourself, "I wonder if I should call 911..." Call 911. Do it.

Alcohol is an extremely dangerous drug and an overdose can kill you. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2010, there were approximately 189,000 emergency rooms visits by persons younger than 21 for injuries and other conditions linked to alcohol. Alcohol use accounted for 4,700 deaths in underage drinkers.

In addition to the injuries (such as happened at your house), drinking can cause violence, unwanted or unintended sexual activity, destruction of property and violations of trust and friendships.

Unfortunately, your toughest job is still ahead. You must tell your parents about this. Your brother's choice could have cost your family everything. They should never leave you two home alone overnight again.

DEAR AMY: One of my best friends, "Katie," has the horrible habit of injecting the word "like" into every sentence, sometimes as often as every other word.

She is in her late 30s, super bright, beautiful, single and works in a high-level/high-profile position at a big company. It's really hard to listen to her at times. But more importantly, I also think it must be hurting her on some level. Should I say anything to her about it?

Friends of mine who have met her always mention it later. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I also know that if I had a terrible habit that was having a negative effect on people, I would hope a friend would tell me.-- "Like" a Friend

DEAR FRIEND: You have your opening line: "If I had a bad habit that had a negative effect on people, I would want a friend to tell me. Do you feel the same way?"

If she answers in the affirmative, you have your opening.

DEAR AMY: Wow, that letter from "At a Loss" really got to me. This was a situation where a female friend physically wedged herself between a married couple and basically coiled herself around the man.

I thought the wife responded perfectly. This guy really needs to apologize to his wife for even being a party to this nonsense.-- Furious

DEAR FURIOUS: The wife in question definitely took care of business, while the husband was clueless. Many readers were disgusted by his passivity.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#2 Sep 17, 2013
1 So

2 Don't

3 Care.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#3 Sep 17, 2013
L1: I think you're a fool for helping him clean up. Let him get busted and get in trouble. I"m not cleaning up after someone else's party like that. Also, unless you kept a drunk person from choking on his own vomit, your "checking" on the drunks didn't save any lives. Alcohol poisoning isn't reduced by regular wake ups.

L2: Like, good luck with that.

L3: The husband likely was cheating on his wife with that woman and was trying to "Normalize" their relationship by making it look like everything was on the up and up.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#4 Sep 17, 2013
L1. Yeah, but like it or not, those alcohol-fueled parties thrown by high schoolers are one of the rites of passage into adulthood.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#5 Sep 17, 2013
loose cannon wrote:
L1. Yeah, but like it or not, those alcohol-fueled parties thrown by high schoolers are one of the rites of passage into adulthood.
Yeah, if they live long enough to get there.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#6 Sep 17, 2013
LW1: There's a crack in the egg, Joel!

"They should never leave you two home alone overnight again."

They are 17, Amy. This is completely unrealistic since they will be headed off to college soon. The parents need to find some other consequence.

Oh, and don't forgive him until he REALLY feels sorry for what happened.

LW2: Like, whatever.

LW3: Oh yeah, he's was already schtupping her. Totally slimeball to try and get her in to their social group too.
liner

Patchogue, NY

#7 Sep 17, 2013
L1: Party on, dude!
L2: ".....super bright, beautiful, single and works in a high-level/high-profile position at a big company...."...doesn't seem to be hurting her now does it?

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#8 Sep 17, 2013
LW1: Amateurs… At your age, your only consideration should be whether or not you parents found out. I can remember more than a few parties like that when I was in high school. We all survived and many of us went on to be relatively successful. You totally missed out.

One of my best friends had one sophomore year and he had a nice house (his dad owned an engineering firm)... he had to rent a carpet cleaner, but other than that his parents never had a clue. A bunch of kegs. There had to be a good 200 people there. He is Asian, and I remember hanging out with a rice patty hat thingy (probably not the PC term for it, lol) the whole night.

LW2: Like Omg, I think you and Becky should talk to her. Like totally!... to the max!

Uh, if she’s gotten to a high-level high-profile position at a big company despite not having a filter, I’d say she’s doing fine.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#9 Sep 17, 2013
LW3 Like, I bet that like the chick is like totally way more successful than the LW and she is like totally jealous.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#10 Sep 17, 2013
Like whoops! I totally meant like LW2.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#11 Sep 17, 2013
L1: Twins have a different, closer connection. I doubt a sibling that's not a twin would have done that for no hush money.

L2: Like, why not like start injecting that word into, like -- all of your sentences. Like, yanno? I think that would get the conversation going.

L3: Still not 100% convinced that was a real letter.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#12 Sep 17, 2013
RACE wrote:
LW3 Like, I bet that like the chick is like totally way more successful than the LW and she is like totally jealous.
Like, this.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#13 Sep 17, 2013
loose cannon wrote:
L1. Yeah, but like it or not, those alcohol-fueled parties thrown by high schoolers are one of the rites of passage into adulthood.
Attending? Sure. But let some other dumb ass trash his his. Don't do that shit at yours

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#14 Sep 17, 2013
squishymama wrote:
LW1: There's a crack in the egg, Joel!
Sometimes you just gotta say, wtf.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#15 Sep 17, 2013
1- Get over yourself. No one would have died if it wasn't for you. Your brother's right, you're a drama queen. And a wet blanket.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#16 Sep 17, 2013
Toj wrote:
L1: Twins have a different, closer connection.
Not really.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#17 Sep 17, 2013
Really? How many twins have you know, edog? I've known a TON, my whole life (the class ahead of me had eight sets of twins, for example, out of only 60 kids). They DO have a different, closer connection, almost every time. A few don't get along because their personalities clash too much but for the most part, the twins I've known have been VERY tight, closer than if they were just siblings.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#18 Sep 17, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
Not really.
Some do. Not all.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#19 Sep 17, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Really? How many twins have you know, edog? I've known a TON, my whole life (the class ahead of me had eight sets of twins, for example, out of only 60 kids). They DO have a different, closer connection, almost every time. A few don't get along because their personalities clash too much but for the most part, the twins I've known have been VERY tight, closer than if they were just siblings.
I believe edog is a twin.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#20 Sep 17, 2013
Edog IS a twin....

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