“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#1 May 4, 2013
gs. I haven't seen my father for three years, but now that he's living with my grandparents and me, I decided to give him a second chance.

He has been very "hand-sy" with me -- giving me massages, kissing my cheek -- and this all makes me very uncomfortable. I thought it was because he hasn't seen me in a while, but today as I was leaving to go to my mom's, he slapped my butt as I walked out the door. Now I'm scared. I spend a lot of the day at home with him alone. I don't want things to get out of hand. Any advice?-- WORRIED IN DELAWARE

DEAR WORRIED: Your father has lost three years with you. He may not realize that his "little girl" is no longer a child. That is why it is important that you tell him what he's doing makes you uncomfortable. You should also tell your mother and grandparents about what's happening and that it scares you. You do not have to tolerate unwanted contact, and if it persists, report it to a teacher or counselor at school or contact me again.

DEAR ABBY: I have a dilemma. I work in a small high school in a student support position. Girls come into my office who are pregnant and excited about it! Telling them congratulations for putting themselves in this position seems counterproductive, or like I am endorsing this choice. I don't!

No high school girls -- or boys, for that matter -- should put themselves in a position to be a parent when they themselves aren't fully grown and independent. I feel like saying, "You have ruined your life" instead, but I hold my tongue. What do you suggest?-- DON'T WANT TO ENCOURAGE THEM IN ILLINOIS

DEAR DON'T WANT TO ENCOURAGE: Your job is to support the students, not to condemn or endorse their predicament. Telling a pregnant girl she has ruined her life isn't helpful. What you need to do is encourage the girl to get a diploma while she can.

Too many girls fail to complete their high school education when they have a baby, and it impedes their ability to provide for themselves and their child because they are suited only for minimum-wage jobs. If you are enthusiastic about helping them, your positive attitude may be contagious and inspire them to succeed.

DEAR ABBY: I wrote you a short time ago about my marital problems, but I have to share this with you! My husband, who walked out on me, went to a counselor for a session. Then we went together, and he learned a few things about me and himself.

He is coming back, and we are going to work harder at our marriage. We both recognize there were places where we needed to work together more, that he doesn't need to be afraid to talk to me and I can be pretty understanding.

Thank you so much for being there, Abby. I know you always recommend talking to a counselor before doing anything rash, and you are so right. It made all the difference.-- GRATEFUL WIFE IN ARIZONA

DEAR GRATEFUL: I'm pleased counseling helped to open the clogged lines of communication between you and your husband. While it may seem expensive, it's far cheaper than a divorce can be, both emotionally and financially.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#2 May 4, 2013
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DEAR ABBY: I'm a 13-year-old girl who has been trying to give my father a second chance. I was taken away from my parents when I was 8 because they were on drugs. I haven't seen my father for three years, but now that he's living with my grandparents and me, I decided to give him a second chance.

He has been very "hand-sy" with me -- giving me massages, kissing my cheek -- and this all makes me very uncomfortable. I thought it was because he hasn't seen me in a while, but today as I was leaving to go to my mom's, he slapped my butt as I walked out the door. Now I'm scared. I spend a lot of the day at home with him alone. I don't want things to get out of hand. Any advice?-- WORRIED IN DELAWARE

DEAR WORRIED: Your father has lost three years with you. He may not realize that his "little girl" is no longer a child. That is why it is important that you tell him what he's doing makes you uncomfortable. You should also tell your mother and grandparents about what's happening and that it scares you. You do not have to tolerate unwanted contact, and if it persists, report it to a teacher or counselor at school or contact me again.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 May 4, 2013
1 Your dad knows what he is doing. Sorry kid but you have to be the adult and put him in his place.

2 get a different job.

3 If you had gone to the priests of numb-chucks and spell casters inc, you could have saved a ton of money. I read testimonials about them all the time.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#4 May 4, 2013
"contact me again." And what are YOU gonna do? Honey, tell creepazoid to keep his hands off you.

2- How many pregnant girls are there is this "small" school? But keep your judgmental attitude to yourself, it's not your place to tell these girls they've ruined their lives. They'll figure that out on their own when they're living in a trailer and waitressing... or stripping.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#5 May 4, 2013
LW1 - Tell a TRUSTED adult. Your bio dad seems to be a creep.

LW2 - Edogg, it's probably a continuation school for troubled kids. A lot of pregnant girls end up in those. And yep, the LW should keep her judgmental attitude to herself.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#6 May 4, 2013
Cass wrote:
LW2 - Edogg, it's probably a continuation school for troubled kids.
Doesn't sound like she's probably the best candidate for that type of position.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#7 May 4, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Doesn't sound like she's probably the best candidate for that type of position.
Definitely not. ;-)

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