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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Jul 30, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I work in the print center of an office supply store. Often when parents of small children come in to get copies made, they'll sit their babies/toddlers on the counter while we discuss their needs. Sometimes these children have dirty diapers.

While I am not a parent, I do understand that small children have a tendency to run off or otherwise misbehave if they are left standing. But sitting children on the counter strikes me as unsanitary and unsafe.

Would it be appropriate to ask these parents to remove their children from the counter? Because my workplace is geared toward satisfying the customer, I worry about offending a customer and displeasing management. I haven't said anything so far, but this is really getting to me.-- DISGUSTED IN OHIO

DEAR DISGUSTED: After reading your letter, I confess that my first impulse was to gag. The idea of a child in a soiled diaper sitting on a counter in a place of business is, indeed, disgusting. You would be doing your employer a favor to suggest that if a child should fall off the counter, there could be liability involved.

Tell the customer that for the child's safety to please remove him/her from the counter. And if the child has a dirty diaper, make sure you have a large supply of sanitary wipes on hand so staff and customers will be protected from the bacteria.

DEAR ABBY: After years of enduring overdraft charges and dodging bill collectors, I have finally gotten my financial house in order. I pay all of my bills, and I pay them on time. However, I have very little money left over at the end of the week.

Many of my friends have two-income households or use credit cards when they go out to eat or to the movies, which is often. I want them to know that because I decline their invitations does not mean I'm anti-social -- I just can't afford it. I have said so at times, but I hate to be a broken record.

Friends: Please know that I appreciate being invited, but don't be offended when I am unable to join you.-- ON TRACK BUT STILL BROKE IN MAINE

DEAR ON TRACK: I congratulate you for straightening out your finances. It's not always easy to do, and breaking ingrained habits can be a challenge.

The next step in your "recovery" is to keep reminding your free-spending friends that while you'd like to join them, you are not always able to do so. If you repeat it often enough, eventually they will get the message. It would be better if they hear it directly from you rather than read it in my column.

DEAR ABBY: My neighbors borrow my lawnmower every summer to mow their lawns. It broke down, and I had to purchase a new one.

The dealer told me not to loan it to anyone because they pushed the old one over sticks and stones and destroyed the blades. How do I tell them to buy their own mowers? My new one is expensive.-- AGAINST MOWER-MOOCHERS

DEAR A.M-M.: Here's how: Keep uppermost in your mind that it is perfectly all right to advocate for yourself. Then tell your mower-mooching neighbors that after what happened to the last one, you are no longer loaning your mower to anyone.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#2 Jul 30, 2013
1- Unless there's cr@p oozing out of the diaper, I think you're being a bit of a hypochondriac.

2- Seriously, this is your question? Just keep asking if they'll pay for you. They'll eventually stop asking you to dinner.

3- Okay, the only thing that stuck out is why do you need a new lawnmower because the blades were ruined? Blades can be replaced.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#3 Jul 30, 2013
L1: Agree with Abby. Just keep a box of wipes for the counter. How often could this happen? Although this is kind of an ick factor.

L3: After picking myself off the floor because this is the second time in a few days that I agree with the dog...the blades were my first thought. And then why would someone loan a mower all summer? Obviously he can't say no. He has to write Abby to learn how?
Be neither a borrower nor a lender of power tools is my motto.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#5 Jul 30, 2013
1 I think you are overreacting. I cant imagine why you have not asked your employer about this before you scampered off to abby. Oh, right, its all you have to whine about.

2 Keep saying no, and they will eventually stop asking. Then you can write into abby about how your friends dumped you.

3 Your lawn mower guy took you for a ride! Ruined blades do not = needing a new mower, but since you have already been had by your neighbor and the lawnmower dude, just give your old one to your neighbor....OH, Wait.... You let the lawnmower dude have your old one didn't you....
Schlep! go back in 3 weeks, you will see a used mower just like the one you had for sale.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#6 Jul 30, 2013
L1: I think you're making a big deal out of nothing. Unless there is diaper leakage, I don't see the big deal.

L2: Suggest cheaper places. Host a small party. There are other options here.

L3: How do you tell them they can't use your mower? Well, you seem to have the power of speech, so you're not mute. Oh, I get it, you want to tell them they can't use your mower but you don't want to deal with how they may respond.

Grow up.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#7 Jul 30, 2013
LW1: I bet this happens rarely. I also bet even when it does happen, the kid doesn’t have crap oozing out of his diaper. You are just looking for an excuse to be a pr1ck.

LW2: Too dumb for me to even comment on.

LW3: Um, even if they destroyed the blade you can but a new one or get them resharpened (which you should do each year anyway). However, I wouldn’t be loaning out stuff like that to any neighbors on a regular basis. Learn to say no.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#8 Jul 30, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
LW3: Um, even if they destroyed the blade you can but a new one or get them resharpened (which you should do each year anyway). However, I wouldn’t be loaning out stuff like that to any neighbors on a regular basis. Learn to say no.
Honestly, I can't imagine asking to borrow someone's mower other than in a real bind (mower just died and the grass is overgrown). Especially someone's NEW mower? I wouldn't have the nerve.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#9 Jul 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Honestly, I can't imagine asking to borrow someone's mower other than in a real bind (mower just died and the grass is overgrown). Especially someone's NEW mower? I wouldn't have the nerve.
We're pretty close to our neighbors, and one of them has asked to borrow the lawn mower, once (and was allowed to borrow it, his had just broken down and his lawn was half-mowed). In ten years.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#10 Jul 30, 2013
My neighbor borrowed mine once. When he brought it back he was like "It's a good mower but I cant keep up with it!" I had told him it was a personal pace mower, it goes as fast as you do. Push the bar a little and it goes slow, push it harder and it goes faster. He must have had that bar pushed all the way down the entire time!

I highly recommend getting one of these. I have had mine for over 13yrs, and it still starts on the first pull. And the variable speed thing is really great.
pde wrote:
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We're pretty close to our neighbors, and one of them has asked to borrow the lawn mower, once (and was allowed to borrow it, his had just broken down and his lawn was half-mowed). In ten years.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#11 Jul 30, 2013
RACE wrote:
My neighbor borrowed mine once. When he brought it back he was like "It's a good mower but I cant keep up with it!" I had told him it was a personal pace mower, it goes as fast as you do. Push the bar a little and it goes slow, push it harder and it goes faster. He must have had that bar pushed all the way down the entire time!
I highly recommend getting one of these. I have had mine for over 13yrs, and it still starts on the first pull. And the variable speed thing is really great.
<quoted text>
We will have to look at those.

We are talking about putting a lot of things like the lawn mower/snowblower/etc on Craigs list rather than moving them 2000 miles. And they are all getting oldish and probably in need of replacement in the next few years anyhow.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#12 Jul 30, 2013
Snow blower??? Is that like a fan or something?
pde wrote:
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We will have to look at those.
We are talking about putting a lot of things like the lawn mower/snowblower/etc on Craigs list rather than moving them 2000 miles. And they are all getting oldish and probably in need of replacement in the next few years anyhow.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#13 Jul 30, 2013
RACE wrote:
Snow blower??? Is that like a fan or something?
<quoted text>
It's a prostitute for snowmen.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#14 Jul 30, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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It's a prostitute for snowmen.
Is that why all the Indiana people I know call it a snow thrower instead of snow blower?

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#15 Jul 30, 2013
LW2 - re others using hteir credit cards "all the time" - they could be debit cards, point-earning cards, or cards that are paid off at the end of teh month. we use credit cards a lot, but i (a) get points that i use for gift cards for places i go to anyway and (b) pay them off 100% at the end of the month. i dont' necessarily tell people that's what i do.

on teh flip side, i've been telling a good friend who;s in a similar boat for years that we don't have to go "out" to get togheter... it can be coffee or catching up on the couch. I even offer to bring the wine, but i never get an acceptance to my offer. <shrug>
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#16 Jul 30, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
LW2 - re others using hteir credit cards "all the time" - they could be debit cards, point-earning cards, or cards that are paid off at the end of teh month. we use credit cards a lot, but i (a) get points that i use for gift cards for places i go to anyway and (b) pay them off 100% at the end of the month. i dont' necessarily tell people that's what i do.
on teh flip side, i've been telling a good friend who;s in a similar boat for years that we don't have to go "out" to get togheter... it can be coffee or catching up on the couch. I even offer to bring the wine, but i never get an acceptance to my offer. <shrug>
Right. Using a card isn't a sign of anymore more than using a card. I don't generally carry cash anymore, I put everything on a particular card, and in the 15 years I've had that card I've never carried a balance month-to-month or paid any interest fees.

I find it a good way to have a record of where all the money is going--at the end of the moment, I have a statement which has probably 95% of my monthly purchases all laid out in black-and-white.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#17 Jul 30, 2013
pde wrote:
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Right. Using a card isn't a sign of anymore more than using a card. I don't generally carry cash anymore, I put everything on a particular card, and in the 15 years I've had that card I've never carried a balance month-to-month or paid any interest fees.
I find it a good way to have a record of where all the money is going--at the end of the moment, I have a statement which has probably 95% of my monthly purchases all laid out in black-and-white.
yup, i like that too. i was a bit flabberghasted when i found that i spent $400 at specialty fabric shops one month, and most of that was discounted some (due to a special prgram going on), but waht is a budding quilter to do?

I do try to not charge less than $20, and half the time i forget to actually use my hobby lobby gift card (that i got from points). oh well...

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#18 Jul 30, 2013
pde wrote:
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We will have to look at those.
We are talking about putting a lot of things like the lawn mower/snowblower/etc on Craigs list rather than moving them 2000 miles. And they are all getting oldish and probably in need of replacement in the next few years anyhow.
I missed the part about the 2000 mile move. Where, when, why, etc?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#19 Jul 30, 2013
LOL! Really, I really did just take a sip of water, and nearly spewed it out when I read this.
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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It's a prostitute for snowmen.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#20 Jul 30, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>I missed the part about the 2000 mile move. Where, when, why, etc?
To the Pacific Northwest, relocation due to my husband's job.

The when is probably "spread out over the next six months or so". He's going before the end of August.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#21 Jul 30, 2013
pde wrote:
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Is that why all the Indiana people I know call it a snow thrower instead of snow blower?
I've heard there is a difference between a blower and a thrower, but I am too lazy to Google it right now.

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