“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#2 Apr 5, 2013
Lw1: "I met the woman of my dreams"
"she's a hoarder"
"I am a clean freak"

Sounds like you've been having nightmares.

I also think its really strange how wrapped up you are in her family. You don't want to lose her family? Creepy.

LW2: "Abby, it worked! No grandchildren appeared until after they were married."

While I do like your lesson, way to pat yourself on the back and assume the credit. I never had any such talk with my parents, yet miraculously, I did not have a child till I was married and in my 30's. But you go on believing that you had no whoops grand babies all because of your talk.

LW3: Christ almighty, what's tomorrow's useless letter going to be? The "right" way to hang the toilet paper roll?

Since: Jan 10

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#4 Apr 5, 2013
L1: Why are you living with a woman after only a year of dating when she has children? Get your own place for crying out loud.

L2: "unless the girl has twins, which would double the amount" Not true. Two kids increases child support but does not double it.

L3: WTF cares?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#5 Apr 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L2: "unless the girl has twins, which would double the amount" Not true. Two kids increases child support but does not double it.
I think the accuracy of that statement is less important than the message that it's gonna be real god damn expensive to you if you knock some girl up.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#6 Apr 5, 2013
LW1: Unless you are a masochist, if she were the woman of your dreams you wouldn't have left her several times and living with her wouldn't drive you insane.

Also, sorry bub, your drinking compulsion is on you. Stop blaming it on other people.

LW2: Whatev.

LW3: Dumb.

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"Always On The Go "

#7 Apr 5, 2013
L1 Sounds like both have of you "issues". If you want to stay together, you both need to be in counseling for your problems. Hope it works out.

L2 I never thought of money as a motivator that way, but to each his own.

L3 Right side out.

“Colorful Beyond Words”

Since: May 11

"Always On The Go "

#8 Apr 5, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
LW3: Christ almighty, what's tomorrow's useless letter going to be? The "right" way to hang the toilet paper roll?
You place it so that the roll "rolls" over the top and not down the back side of the roll.:)

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#9 Apr 5, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I think the accuracy of that statement is less important than the message that it's gonna be real god damn expensive to you if you knock some girl up.
Oh, totally. But I also thought the LW is a pompous ass who is taking way too much credit for his kids not having kids too soon (as you mentioned)>

Since: Jan 10

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#10 Apr 5, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
LW1: Unless you are a masochist, if she were the woman of your dreams you wouldn't have left her several times and living with her wouldn't drive you insane.
Also, sorry bub, your drinking compulsion is on you. Stop blaming it on other people.
I agree.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#11 Apr 5, 2013
Ooo, goody! I get to play guess the question.

Post #1 is gone.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#12 Apr 5, 2013
squishy, can you not see my post of the column (after Tonka's responses)?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#13 Apr 5, 2013
Wish I knew what these letters were!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#14 Apr 5, 2013
Did we forget to edit out the phone number in letter one? That's why the posts aren't sticking.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#15 Apr 5, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
squishy, can you not see my post of the column (after Tonka's responses)?
Nope. Post #3 is gone too.

It's cool. Your responses are entertaining enough.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#16 Apr 5, 2013
L1: Quit blaming her for your drinking. Either you quit drinking or you don't. Either you can live with how the house is and how thtey live, or you can't.

L2: The LW had it right, they don't think it could happen to them. That's why you have to have more than one "talk" and keep those condoms available.

L3: Seriously? Undershirts? Whatever. I wash plenty of clothes inside out on purpose, on delicate, cold water. White undershirts and socks get hot water, bleach and detergent. Nothing is going to live through that inside out or not.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#17 Apr 5, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
Did we forget to edit out the phone number in letter one? That's why the posts aren't sticking.
Yup. There's a phone number.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#18 Apr 5, 2013
1 Eat more bran, that will fix ya.

2 sex is good, they should have started sooner

3 I have no clue, but I would use armor-all instead

When you dont have the letter, you get to make stuff up
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#19 Apr 5, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I met the woman of my dreams about a year ago. Her husband had died about two months before our paths crossed. She has two teenage daughters I'm very fond of.
I have a history of alcoholism and she's a hoarder. A week ago, I had an "epiphany": I am desperately trying to quit drinking for my own sake.

Abby, I am a clean freak living with a hoarder. I come home from work and get depressed and stressed from looking at all the clutter. It is driving me insane. I feel like it is triggering me to stay drunk every night.

I don't want to lose this woman and her family, but I can't co-exist in this house. I have left several times, only to miss her and go back. I'm trying to kick the booze, but I know I won't be able to achieve sobriety while living in this house.-- TRULY TORN IN TEXAS

DEAR TRULY TORN: If you quit drinking only a week ago, it is important that you find an AA group to help you hang onto your sobriety. That's step one.

Next, realize that you and the lady you're living with may share a similar problem. You say you are a "clean freak." This can be a symptom of an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Hoarding can be a symptom of the same disorder.

The International OCD Foundation is a reliable resource that may be able to help you both. It offers individuals with this disorder the support they need to manage their symptoms, and has many local chapters. You can locate it online.

DEAR ABBY: Maybe you would like to pass this on to the parents of teenage boys. It worked for me when I had the sex talk with my sons. I knew their brains had not yet fully developed. They thought they were invincible and had an "it could never happen to me" attitude.
Because money seems to be the one thing at that age they can relate to, I decided to turn it into a mathematical problem: I told them that if they got a girl pregnant, they could figure on a minimum of $300 a month child support, multiplied by 12 months for 18 years.(That totals $65,000 -- unless the girl has twins, which would double the amount.)

Then I told them if they were tempted to have unprotected sex, they should look at the girl and ask themselves if they would pay her $65,000 to have sex with them. If they couldn't answer yes, then they needed to walk away.

Abby, it worked! No grandchildren appeared until after they were married. Feel free to share this with other parents who would appreciate a "non-traditional" approach that is effective.-- TONY IN SAN DIEGO

DEAR TONY: Gladly. I'm passing your technique along because money is a great motivator, and your idea makes "cents."

DEAR ABBY: My roommate insists that undershirts should be washed right-side-out. I say as long as you're using detergent and bleach, it doesn't matter. Who is right?-- MR. CLEAN IN OCEANSIDE, CALIF.

DEAR MR. CLEAN: I don't claim to be a domestic goddess, but I don't think there is a right or wrong way to wash undershirts. I have heard, however, that washing garments inside out will prevent lint buildup on the outside, and in the case of denim, less fading.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#20 Apr 5, 2013
Oh goody, the letters.

1 yeah, you drink cause she's a slob. What was your reason before you met her?

2 Yeah, or maybe they pulled out soon enough, or maybe they wore a wrapper, or maybe the girls would not put out till they married or maybe they just got lucky or maybe...

Dont break your arm patting yourself on the back.

3 Tell your roommate when he does your laundry he can wash them any which way they want.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#21 Apr 5, 2013
Kuuipo wrote:
DEAR ABBY: I met the woman of my dreams about a year ago. Her husband had died about two months before our paths crossed. She has two teenage daughters I'm very fond of.
I have a history of alcoholism and she's a hoarder. A week ago, I had an "epiphany": I am desperately trying to quit drinking for my own sake.
Abby, I am a clean freak living with a hoarder. I come home from work and get depressed and stressed from looking at all the clutter. It is driving me insane. I feel like it is triggering me to stay drunk every night.
I don't want to lose this woman and her family, but I can't co-exist in this house. I have left several times, only to miss her and go back. I'm trying to kick the booze, but I know I won't be able to achieve sobriety while living in this house.-- TRULY TORN IN TEXAS
DEAR TRULY TORN: If you quit drinking only a week ago, it is important that you find an AA group to help you hang onto your sobriety. That's step one.
Next, realize that you and the lady you're living with may share a similar problem. You say you are a "clean freak." This can be a symptom of an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Hoarding can be a symptom of the same disorder.
The International OCD Foundation is a reliable resource that may be able to help you both. It offers individuals with this disorder the support they need to manage their symptoms, and has many local chapters. You can locate it online.
DEAR ABBY: Maybe you would like to pass this on to the parents of teenage boys. It worked for me when I had the sex talk with my sons. I knew their brains had not yet fully developed. They thought they were invincible and had an "it could never happen to me" attitude.
Because money seems to be the one thing at that age they can relate to, I decided to turn it into a mathematical problem: I told them that if they got a girl pregnant, they could figure on a minimum of $300 a month child support, multiplied by 12 months for 18 years.(That totals $65,000 -- unless the girl has twins, which would double the amount.)
Then I told them if they were tempted to have unprotected sex, they should look at the girl and ask themselves if they would pay her $65,000 to have sex with them. If they couldn't answer yes, then they needed to walk away.
Abby, it worked! No grandchildren appeared until after they were married. Feel free to share this with other parents who would appreciate a "non-traditional" approach that is effective.-- TONY IN SAN DIEGO
DEAR TONY: Gladly. I'm passing your technique along because money is a great motivator, and your idea makes "cents."
DEAR ABBY: My roommate insists that undershirts should be washed right-side-out. I say as long as you're using detergent and bleach, it doesn't matter. Who is right?-- MR. CLEAN IN OCEANSIDE, CALIF.
DEAR MR. CLEAN: I don't claim to be a domestic goddess, but I don't think there is a right or wrong way to wash undershirts. I have heard, however, that washing garments inside out will prevent lint buildup on the outside, and in the case of denim, less fading.
posterity
Julie

Chicago, IL

#22 Apr 5, 2013
LW1: You're an alcoholic clean freak and the "woman of your dreams" is a hoarder whose husband died *2 months* before you met. This is AWESOME!!! You two are a MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN! <jumpy claps>

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