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Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#21 Feb 12, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>re lw1:
My first memories of my life, we had my uncle living with us. We moved to Fl, and tempirarily lived with another uncle(with wife and 2 kids). Later in life there was more than one occassion where we had someone moving to Fl and living with us temporarily. I never had a problem with it.
I don't have anything against family members living with/staying with one another (believe it or not... it's just not for me personally). I'm taking issue with the parents letting a 17-year-old minor who's their son's girlfriend stay with them. Especially with another child in the house.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#22 Feb 12, 2014
Toj wrote:
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I don't think it said the husband was excluding her.
"He opted not to share this information with me.... I fear he will keep other things from me in the future."
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#23 Feb 12, 2014
edogxxx wrote:
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I don't think it's healthy for spouses to keep secrets from each other
I agree in principle, but I think not everything in life is black and white. Secrets of any kind have a way of surfacing. If you truly don't want anyone to know, tell a therapist.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#24 Feb 12, 2014
j_m_w wrote:
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I don't have anything against family members living with/staying with one another (believe it or not... it's just not for me personally). I'm taking issue with the parents letting a 17-year-old minor who's their son's girlfriend stay with them. Especially with another child in the house.
I totally agree that this wasn't a good idea.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#25 Feb 12, 2014
The "PS" is not required, your inaccurate observation can simply hang at the end.

I was not shtfaced, I simply fell onto a doorknob. I am wearing sunglasses to spare you the challenge of gawking at me, while trying to look like you're not.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> No, I can't. I agree with Abby and Toj. Some things ARE an after thought and do belong at the end.
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Alright then. I get of work at 5. Should be home by 5:30. We'll see you at Red Lobster at 6pm.
PS Race got shtfced last night and busted his eye. Been wearing sunglasses to try to hide it. Don't bring attention to it. He's very self conscious

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#26 Feb 12, 2014
j_m_w wrote:
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I don't have anything against family members living with/staying with one another (believe it or not... it's just not for me personally). I'm taking issue with the parents letting a 17-year-old minor who's their son's girlfriend stay with them. Especially with another child in the house.
ah. I thought your angle was the fact that they let anyone, related or not, move in. I see your point.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#27 Feb 12, 2014
RACE wrote:
The "PS" is not required, your inaccurate observation can simply hang at the end.
I was not shtfaced, I simply fell onto a doorknob. I am wearing sunglasses to spare you the challenge of gawking at me, while trying to look like you're not.
<quoted text>
never said it was required. But its certainly helpful. A variation of saying, "by the way...", or as the kids like to text, btw.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#28 Feb 12, 2014
But none of those things is needed either, thats my point. You dont need to preface the sentence with any acronym. All of those things are meant to include a further piece of information relating to something already said, not a separate statement. By tonka logic you could preface every sentence with BTW.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>never said it was required. But its certainly helpful. A variation of saying, "by the way...", or as the kids like to text, btw.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#29 Feb 12, 2014
RACE wrote:
But none of those things is needed either, thats my point. You dont need to preface the sentence with any acronym. All of those things are meant to include a further piece of information relating to something already said, not a separate statement. By tonka logic you could preface every sentence with BTW.
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I think you're alone on this one, Race. It's a way to make a smooth transition to another topic or related topic. To use Tonka's example, you're wanting to say "okay, we'll meet at Red Lobster at six and race has a black eye." That could lead to some confusion. That information is totally out of left field. To preface with btw or p.s., you're giving a "heads up," so to speak, that the topic is gonna shift.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#30 Feb 12, 2014
edogxxx wrote:
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I think you're alone on this one, Race. It's a way to make a smooth transition to another topic or related topic. To use Tonka's example, you're wanting to say "okay, we'll meet at Red Lobster at six and race has a black eye." That could lead to some confusion. That information is totally out of left field. To preface with btw or p.s., you're giving a "heads up," so to speak, that the topic is gonna shift.
I think I'm a bit slap-happy this afternoon b/c this made me crack up.... Meet at Red Lobster at six and Race has a black eye.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#31 Feb 12, 2014
Kuuipo wrote:
Secrets of any kind have a way of surfacing. If you truly don't want anyone to know, tell a therapist.
As they did in this case, hence the LW's concern. It doesn't sound like the daughter didn't want ANYONE to know, just her dad's latest bride. To single out particular family members and try to keep them in the dark on things everyone else knows, is wrong in my book. We've had similar discussions about this about not telling grandma or whoever something for fear of offending her sensitivities. I'm not sure, but I think the general consensus was that it will be MORE harmful for this family member to find out by a third party after the fact. Here we see the result of that. To simply tell the LW that she's GONNA be kept out of things and not be accepted into the family so she should just get used to it, is the wrong attitude to have. Instead, there could be more of an effort on everyone's part to change the situation. This LW is dad's wife and part of the family now, the daughters need to accept this.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#32 Feb 12, 2014
I find nothing humorous or confusing about such a sentence.
But I guess some people are more easily confused and humored that others.
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
I think I'm a bit slap-happy this afternoon b/c this made me crack up.... Meet at Red Lobster at six and Race has a black eye.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#33 Feb 12, 2014
RACE wrote:
I find nothing humorous or confusing about such a sentence.
But I guess some people are more easily confused and humored that others.
<quoted text>
How about Meet us at Black Lobster and Race has red eyes.? Or, since its in the news, pink eye..
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#34 Feb 12, 2014
j_m_w wrote:
L1: Doesn't anyone think it was a bad idea to let Lindsay move in in the first place?
It's the only thing I was thinking.
I get the jealous kids...they are kids and this is a practical stranger.
Parents have the final say, but I would never allow this. Never mind my moral reasons; I cannot help someone cheat the system. He "loves" her but they are kids....come on...
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#35 Feb 12, 2014
2: Eh, to me a marriage makes one person. Two parts uniting. I mean, it's biblical like that in my eyes.
My best friend and her hubby are so tight it's great. And you know if you tell her, he will find out and vice versa. They are a package deal. Thing is, if you want it secret, they BOTH will keep it secret.
I like that and want it.
How does LW know he knows? Did he say, "I found out something crazy about Lillybell but I can't tell you." That would be cruel. Just keep quiet in that instance.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#36 Feb 12, 2014
cheluzal wrote:
2: Eh, to me a marriage makes one person. Two parts uniting. I mean, it's biblical like that in my eyes.
My best friend and her hubby are so tight it's great. And you know if you tell her, he will find out and vice versa. They are a package deal. Thing is, if you want it secret, they BOTH will keep it secret.
I like that and want it.
I agree and this is also my motto of "marriage."
Coming from someone who's never been married....
And listening to the opinions of people who've been divorced....
cheluzal wrote:
How does LW know he knows? Did he say, "I found out something crazy about Lillybell but I can't tell you." That would be cruel. Just keep quiet in that instance.
I don't think that's how it happened. That's the problem with trying to keep something "secret" that everyone else knows about. Maybe she read it in the paper, maybe she saw a fb comment, maybe the police knocked on her door with a warrant.

I'm of the opinion that secrets among family CAN'T be kept indefinitely, so don't bother trying.

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