“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Oct 14, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am upset with myself for getting my granddaughter the cellphone she begged me for. I wish the phone companies would put restrictions on them. I wondered why she was feeling tired in the mornings until I caught her on the phone at 4 a.m. She can't get dressed in the morning because she's texting every two minutes.

When her friend, who she was always very active with, came over, the girl wound up watching a movie with me because my granddaughter would not stop texting in her bedroom. She wasn't like this until she got this new boyfriend, and he must have no life at all. Should I talk to his parents? It is consuming her life, morning, noon and night. I have told her she can't have the phone until her homework is done.-- FRUSTRATED GRANDMA IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR GRANDMA: You shouldn't expect the phone company to decide what is acceptable in your home. As the adult in your household, it's up to you to assert control. If your granddaughter lives with you, by all means talk to the boyfriend's parents about this.

But equally important, enforce cellphone limits. If you think she can't be trusted not to use it after lights-out, see that she gives you her phone at bedtime. In the morning, return it to her once she's dressed and ready for school. And when she invites friends over, make sure she understands it is her responsibility -- not yours -- to entertain them, because what she did was rude.

DEAR ABBY: I have met a darling man I'm compatible with in every way. We have similar tastes in just about everything from decorating and landscaping to entertainment.

My problem is his past. From what he says, he has never had a monogamous relationship, even during his marriage. After the divorce he pursued anything female.

When we are out at a club or a concert, I constantly encounter women he has been with. He tells me he is happy for the first time in his life and he would never cheat on me.

I have never been the jealous type, and I'm really not now. I just don't want to be the woman everyone is laughing at because they know his history. As I said, we are content and happy, but I need to move past this or move on, I guess.-- THE CURRENT WOMAN

DEAR CURRENT WOMAN: You say this "darling" man has never had a monogamous relationship -- before, during or after his marriage. Therefore, the odds aren't great that he'll have one with you.

It's time to ask yourself (not me) if you would be willing to tolerate his fooling around if you were his wife. Some women -- the wives of attractive or powerful men -- are open-minded about it if their husbands are discreet. The real question is, are you?

DEAR ABBY: I wrote to you three years ago about throwing parties on unique days, such as 7-7-07, 9-9-09, etc., and you printed my letter.

Well, I'm still at it, even though the special numbers have run out. I planned a brunch on 11-11-11. Everyone who attended chipped in $11 apiece. The money that was left over I donated to a hunger program. Twelve of us met for lunch at noon on 12-12-12, and this time each person paid -- guess how much --$12.

This year, we'll be having brunch at 10:00 on 11-12-13, and I'm already planning ahead for next year's celebration, which will be on 12-13-14 at 1500 hours. Any suggestions?-- CLAIRE (AGAIN) IN BETHLEHEM, PA.

DEAR CLAIRE: You appear to be a fun, clever woman with a zest for life. And yes, I do have a suggestion. How about making next year's celebration a tea with a holiday theme? After all, "'tis the season," and any leftover money could be donated to a children's charity.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#2 Oct 14, 2013
1 Take the phone away, she is probably sexting the boy as well. Nobody under 18 should have a cell phone, they are the bane to society and your right, the phone companies should be responsible for what your kids are doing on their network.

2 Man bashing, the guy is being honest, and of course he needs to be crucified for it. Why is it when a man needs to date many women before he finds the right one he's a serial cheater, but when a women does it, she's empowering herself and claiming control over her life?

3 Your OCD is showing.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#3 Oct 14, 2013
RACE wrote:
1 Take the phone away, she is probably sexting the boy as well. Nobody under 18 should have a cell phone, they are the bane to society and your right, the phone companies should be responsible for what your kids are doing on their network.
2 Man bashing, the guy is being honest, and of course he needs to be crucified for it. Why is it when a man needs to date many women before he finds the right one he's a serial cheater, but when a women does it, she's empowering herself and claiming control over her life?
3 Your OCD is showing.
1. The granddaughter sounds like she is 11. Take the phone at bed time and keep it with you. She will sneak down to get it otherwise.
2. The guy is not getting crucified. He was married before and could not be monogamous then.
Do you wonder if this letter is written by Carole teh about to be ex friend in Amy's column today?
3. Don't care

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#4 Oct 14, 2013
No, with the LW's use of the words "Darling" and how "similar" They are, I was thinking this guy might be a closet flamer, not a wife beater.
PEllen wrote:
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Do you wonder if this letter is written by Carole teh about to be ex friend in Amy's column today?

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#5 Oct 14, 2013
RACE wrote:
No, with the LW's use of the words "Darling" and how "similar" They are, I was thinking this guy might be a closet flamer, not a wife beater.
<quoted text>
Maybe, but the signature says woman and the LW makes reference to the bf chasing females.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#6 Oct 14, 2013
RACE wrote:
Why is it when a man needs to date many women before he finds the right one he's a serial cheater, but when a women does it, she's empowering herself and claiming control over her life?
'Cause we're cute.

Ok, seriously, no one should be given any more or less consideration based solely on gender, but to answer your question; likely it's because simply being born with a penis you are already orders of magnitude more privileged than everyone else (i.e. women) even though you've done nothing more than take your first breath, so it kind of feels like evening the playing field a little bit.

Note, I don't agree with it, just analyzing it.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#7 Oct 14, 2013
LW1: Take the phone away.

LW2: And I’m sure he told all the other women he was with that he was not happy with them and would certainly cheat on them. So, it’s a good sign that he has told you he is happy with you and won’t cheat on you. You clearly have nothing to worry about.

LW3: <gag>

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#8 Oct 14, 2013
You had me at cute...
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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'Cause we're cute.
Ok, seriously, no one should be given any more or less consideration based solely on gender, but to answer your question; likely it's because simply being born with a penis you are already orders of magnitude more privileged than everyone else (i.e. women) even though you've done nothing more than take your first breath, so it kind of feels like evening the playing field a little bit.
Note, I don't agree with it, just analyzing it.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Brooklyn, NY

#9 Oct 14, 2013
1- Sadly, the granddaughter is probably well over 18.

2- I agree Abby is man bashing. She's got this "once a cheater, always a cheater" mentality. If the genders were reversed, Abby would probably tell the woman all she needed to do to be monogamous is find the right man.

3- Enjoy while you can. Come 2015 these gay little themes will end.(I'm not coming up with anything after 12-13-14.)

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#11 Oct 14, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
3- Enjoy while you can. Come 2015 these gay little themes will end.(I'm not coming up with anything after 12-13-14.)
You have way too much time on your hands
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#12 Oct 14, 2013
LW1: What Abby said.

LW2: The Spanish have a saying: the best husband is a reformed Don Juan. Who knows if this guy will cheat on LW? I give him points for being brutally honest about his past and he has clearly sowed his wild oats. If Warren Beatty can settle down, so can LW's bf. On the other hand, he did cheat on his wife. I say, have fun with him, but keep both eyes open.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#13 Oct 14, 2013
LW3: OMG! Squeeeeee! You are, like, So Totally Awesome! How can you, like, keep coming up with these, like OMG, So Totally Brills Ideas Year After Year After Year?! OMG, you are, like, OMG, So Totally Awesome!!!!!!!!! Squeeeeee!!!

Oh--and in the *highly likely case* that you're waaaaaaay too far up your own @## to understand simple sarcasm, You.Are.An.F-ing.Moron.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#14 Oct 14, 2013
Julie wrote:
LW3: OMG! Squeeeeee! You are, like, So Totally Awesome! How can you, like, keep coming up with these, like OMG, So Totally Brills Ideas Year After Year After Year?! OMG, you are, like, OMG, So Totally Awesome!!!!!!!!! Squeeeeee!!!
Oh--and in the *highly likely case* that you're waaaaaaay too far up your own @## to understand simple sarcasm, You.Are.An.F-ing.Moron.
Oh boy do we need a special icon for this!

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#15 Oct 15, 2013
1. Um, take the phone away at night and if she is rude to her friend, send the friend home or take the phone when she has company.

LW3: Thank God I don't have friends that like tho throw stupid themed parties.

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