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Aug 28, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Absolutely. Even just a random email, checking in, letting you know you're in her thoughts, even rambling on about her own daily stuff, just keep you in her thoughts and apprised as to what's been going on, tells you that they care.
There was a program years ago -- Bill Clinton was a big supporter -- that paired American women with women in the war-torn Baltic States after the fall of the Soviet bloc. Basically, you send the program $20 a month, they keep $2 for administrative costs (which isn't bad, really), and $18 *cash* was given to the woman you were paired with, just to help her out a bit, but the main part of the program was, you were to write letters talking about your life. THey were women with lives like ours -- jobs, cars, kids in college -- and then war took much of it away, they didn't need to talk about their own lives -- they had their own family and friends to do that with. They wanted to be reminded about the mundane aspects of life. They wanted to know how your college course was going, how your vegetable garden was doing, how your kid's band recital went, etc. Take them back to the life they had before the war, so they could look forward to those kinds of days again.
Good program that I was a little too young/broke to get involved with at the time.
Yup.
Life goes on, and sometimes, it's nice to have a reminder of that fact.

In a completely unrelated topic, our CEO just berated me for calling him Dude in an IM. Apparently I am a smidge too comfortable sometimes. He doesn't appear to like Your Grace much better though. Oh well.

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Aug 28, 2013
 
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Yup.
Life goes on, and sometimes, it's nice to have a reminder of that fact.
In a completely unrelated topic, our CEO just berated me for calling him Dude in an IM. Apparently I am a smidge too comfortable sometimes. He doesn't appear to like Your Grace much better though. Oh well.
Maybe he prefers "Your Holiness." Or "Your Holeyness."

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Aug 28, 2013
 
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Maybe he prefers "Your Holiness." Or "Your Holeyness."
I'm partial to "Your Worshipfulness".

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Yup.
Life goes on, and sometimes, it's nice to have a reminder of that fact.
In a completely unrelated topic, our CEO just berated me for calling him Dude in an IM. Apparently I am a smidge too comfortable sometimes. He doesn't appear to like Your Grace much better though. Oh well.
Ha! You called the CEO, "Dude". Love it.

Of course now when you see him you're going to have to call him MR. CEO and really emphasis the "Mr." part in a sarcastic way. Or start calling him MR. Dude.

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Aug 28, 2013
 
Where have I been all day?
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Aug 28, 2013
 

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3: i get where the op was coming from...people they thought they were close to weren't there for them. Apparently the closeness was one sided.

Personally I was glad when everyone left me alone but stayed reachable. But that's me and not everyone will feel like that. And fwiw there's really nothing that's better than domething else..."I'm sorry" seems to work though.
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Aug 28, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L1; I completely disagree with Amy. This is for LW's WIFE to nip in the bud. Why didn't he tell us what she said to this guy? How did she respond? Firmly?
Precisely.
I would love to know if they "discussed" it only because LW brought it up. Would wife had kept it quiet? Letting it go is not something *I* would personally do. He crossed a line (with her and a bro code) and he needs to know it's not acceptable.
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Aug 28, 2013
 
PEllen wrote:
LW1's wife told him promptly because they discussed it the next day.
Technically, didn't he say they discussed it; not who broached the subject. I'll bet it was him.
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Aug 28, 2013
 
2: Idiot. You gave her your cell and FB friendships; you deserve this (not really), but idiots on the fringe of normal don't get clues or hints or sometimes, outright telling.
Grow a pair.

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Maybe he prefers "Your Holiness." Or "Your Holeyness."
My old boss ( and current good friend) request Your Awesome Magnificence. His wife refused to be called a (JA)Princess and thus ha been fondly and publicly known as The Empress.

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So, I wouldn’t worry about it or make a big deal about it. Are you going to confront every guy who makes a pass at your wife? IF she is attractive and men find her interesting, it’s going to happen.
So you don't think its a big deal if someone you socialize with pulls this? To me this is quite different than some random dude seeing her in a bar on girls night out and hitting on her or, in your wife's case, one of her patients. I'm not saying I'm gonna run up on the dude and pull a Rambo on him, but from that moment on, I would have zero desire to be friendly with him.

For an acquaintance to do that, its more than disrespectful to her, it would be disrespectful to me. The dude is thinking that if she's down with it, then he can be f'n my wife one night and look me in the face the next couples outing as if nothing happened laughing inside about how he's f'n my wife?
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but this is a couples friendship.
Not anymore. To me, that friendship is over. Wife can continue a one on one relationship with her female friend, but there would cease to be any more couples outings.

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Ha! You called the CEO, "Dude". Love it.
Of course now when you see him you're going to have to call him MR. CEO and really emphasis the "Mr." part in a sarcastic way. Or start calling him MR. Dude.
At my last job, there was a head honcho of the sales department. One of the high ranking people below him, would refer to him as Mr. Jones when speaking of him. No one was referred to in that manner. Not even the CEO. I know she would also refer to him by his first name and so one day I was like what's up with the Mr.?

Basically, it sounded like this dude was a pompous ass and all the lowly sales people were to refer to him as Mr. Jones. She was just in the habit from referring to him that way when talking to the underlings.

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So you don't think its a big deal if someone you socialize with pulls this? To me this is quite different than some random dude seeing her in a bar on girls night out and hitting on her or, in your wife's case, one of her patients. I'm not saying I'm gonna run up on the dude and pull a Rambo on him, but from that moment on, I would have zero desire to be friendly with him.
For an acquaintance to do that, its more than disrespectful to her, it would be disrespectful to me. The dude is thinking that if she's down with it, then he can be f'n my wife one night and look me in the face the next couples outing as if nothing happened laughing inside about how he's f'n my wife?
<quoted text>Not anymore. To me, that friendship is over. Wife can continue a one on one relationship with her female friend, but there would cease to be any more couples outings.
I agree. The intent was bad.*I* wouldn't want to be around the guy again, I sure wouldn't push my husband to spend time with the guy who tried to go behind his back to bang his wife.

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Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>At my last job, there was a head honcho of the sales department. One of the high ranking people below him, would refer to him as Mr. Jones when speaking of him. No one was referred to in that manner. Not even the CEO. I know she would also refer to him by his first name and so one day I was like what's up with the Mr.?
Basically, it sounded like this dude was a pompous ass and all the lowly sales people were to refer to him as Mr. Jones. She was just in the habit from referring to him that way when talking to the underlings.
That's a person who believes he's a better person than you simply because of the job he has.

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Aug 29, 2013
 
Toj wrote:
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Ha! You called the CEO, "Dude". Love it.
Of course now when you see him you're going to have to call him MR. CEO and really emphasis the "Mr." part in a sarcastic way. Or start calling him MR. Dude.
Saw him in the hallway this morning, and called him Sir, with about six syllables. It's a good thing he likes me so much.
Of course, if I didn't know he would be OK with it, I never would have done it in the first place, and I never do that kind of stuff if there was anyone else around.

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Saw him in the hallway this morning, and called him Sir, with about six syllables. It's a good thing he likes me so much.
Of course, if I didn't know he would be OK with it, I never would have done it in the first place, and I never do that kind of stuff if there was anyone else around.
I think it's hilarious -- but you never know how people are going to take things. Our head honch likes to be called by his nickname. And most people do. Everyone respect him even if they may disagree with him. I've worked for people who get way too pompous.

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honch = honcho

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Mister Tonka wrote:
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So you don't think its a big deal if someone you socialize with pulls this? To me this is quite different than some random dude seeing her in a bar on girls night out and hitting on her or, in your wife's case, one of her patients. I'm not saying I'm gonna run up on the dude and pull a Rambo on him, but from that moment on, I would have zero desire to be friendly with him.
For an acquaintance to do that, its more than disrespectful to her, it would be disrespectful to me. The dude is thinking that if she's down with it, then he can be f'n my wife one night and look me in the face the next couples outing as if nothing happened laughing inside about how he's f'n my wife?
I said,“The important thing is you can trust your wife. So, I wouldn’t worry about it or make a big deal about it. Are you going to confront every guy who makes a pass at your wife? IF she is attractive and men find her interesting, it’s going to happen.”

So, I wouldn’t confront the guy. I wouldn’t want to hang out with him anymore, spend my vacation with him, or be friends with him, tho.

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Aug 29, 2013
 
Tonka said...
. I'm not saying I'm gonna run up on the dude and pull a Rambo on him, but from that moment on, I would have zero desire to be friendly with him.
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I wouldn’t confront the guy. I wouldn’t want to hang out with him anymore, spend my vacation with him, or be friends with him, tho.
Both sound strangely similar.

I however would get in the dudes grill, because as Tonka said, the guy is disrespecting me as well as my wife, and while I can ignore the antics of a random stranger, I would not let that sheit slide with someone I socialized with because I would want the rest of my circle to know, publicly, why I would not be pretending to like that person. That would eliminate any gossip, or facades.

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Aug 29, 2013
 
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I however would get in the dudes grill, because as Tonka said, the guy is disrespecting me as well as my wife, and while I can ignore the antics of a random stranger, I would not let that sheit slide with someone I socialized with because I would want the rest of my circle to know, publicly, why I would not be pretending to like that person. That would eliminate any gossip, or facades.
If folks asked, I would tell them.

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