Woman disgusted with men who use Viagra stops dating

We've heard from The Pharmaceutical Widow and Sore and Exhausted, both women whose experiences with Viagra, "that little blue pill" that makes men "feel like they're 20 again" have been miserable.

[Susan]

Wow. This kind of thing can happen both ways. I am a 51 year old woman married to a 38 year old man. The men I dated after my divorce liked older women...ever one that I dated was younger than I was. My daughter is married to a younger man, and my 50 year old best friend is seriously dating a 42 year old.

Best thing....my husband does not need Viagra...not yet, anyway!

[Tellithowitis]

This lady sounds like a royal pain in the @$$. If her attitude has always been this disdainful, perhaps she should look at herself as the reason for a divorce. Not an erection enhancing pill.

[Sex-starved]

I wish Viagra would give my 50 year old husband the erection of a 20 year old! Instead, it gives him an extra 30 seconds to annoy me with his not-so-erect-penis before he's done!

[PML]

What a bitter old woman! No wonder she is alone with all the complaining and finger pointing. Change your attitude and you will be surprised how attractive you will be to men of all age groups regardless of the use of the little blue pill.

[Sex-starved]

Tellithowitis wrote:

This lady sounds like a royal pain in the @$$. If her attitude has always been this disdainful, perhaps she should look at herself as the reason for a divorce. Not an erection enhancing pill.

Response: You have obviously never had the type of relationship this woman has had. I can see where her anger comes from and I don't blame her for feeling the way she does. It isn't always the case, but there are men out there who feel they can do or not do whatever they want and get away with it. And while sex is discussed more openly than it was fifty years ago, the result is the same. Men's needs are immediate and women's needs take the back seat. My husband has had an erection problem for years and has done nothing about it, except to try Viagra. It doesn't work for him, nor does Cialis. He may not be happy about his condition, but I've suffered too. I haven't left him or taken a lover. If I had the sexual problem, I doubt he would leave me, but how many men would put up with not being able to have an orgasm on a regular basis?

[LifeIsWhatYouMak eIt]

If you let your spouse get away with those things throughout your whole marriage, why do you think they'll change as you age? Maybe if she had made him be an actual partner in her marriage there might be a chance that they would still be happily together? This sounds like a problem brought on by not letting the other know what it is you expect from them as opposed to thinking the other is a mind reader.

[JGolden]

My husband is 54, not suffering from ED, but no spring chicken, and I am 49. We have discussed viagra. He was reluctant to take it because of a history of heart disease in his family (he's fine thus far), but would if I wanted him to.

My answer was simple: We're not going to risk your life for a few extra orgasms every week. It's just that simple.

[mimi]

Ooh, i'm not looking forward to that any time soon. that's probably why I'm dating a guy 13 years younger than me. By the time he reaches that phase of his life, I'll probably be dead or in a nursing home, if I don't outlive him. He seems to think I will, and has said I'll probably choke to death on a vitamin pill at 83 or something like that.

Menopause didn't wipe me out the way I hear some of these other women's stories. I'm not boasting. I just guess I'm lucky, but I wonder how much diet and attitude played a part in it. I was already divorced before menopause hit, so I didn't get to experience the full trauma of 10 more years of living with a selfish baby (hint: it wasn't my daughter... she actually grew up). Without the ex-(tra baby) around, I was able to focus on eating right and getting enough exercise and teaching myself and my kid how to stand up for ourselves.

Menopause was a challenge, of course, but nothing like i"m hearing from these other women. Then, again, I'm not involved with a Viagra user. Now I don't feel so bad about dealing with a younger, pre-Viagra, middle-aged guy. I guess my advice is to take care of yourself, get addicted to being healthy, and everything else you need will come to you.

I'm old, mean and still sexy.

[observer]

lighten up you bunch of weiners and enjoy what you can

[ruby]

I remember when the Pill led to the sexual liberation of many young women, including me. Some people called us sluts just because we didn't want to worry about pregnancy.

Now there are pills that liberate old guys from the decline of age, and some people call them jerks.

All I'm saying is, these pills don't turn people into sluts or jerks. But it doesn't mean sluts and jerks don't take them.

[Susan]

Wow -- this woman really is bitter. I am a 54-year-old woman with a very robust dating life, and all the men I've been out with since my ex and I split up eight years ago are younger than me by 4 to 14 years -- and have all been physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted to me, and me to them. I'm not walking through the neighborhood looking for my ex and his new wife -- that has absolutely nothing to do with me any more. I'm leading a full, satisfying life with plenty of really good, really regular sex, and menopause has not slowed me down at all. In addition to younger men, I've also dated some who are older and found them to be just as attractive, attentive, and able to perform as the younger men. My advice -- get out, find people, be happy about who you are, and be grateful for physical intimacy. I am.

[Funny]

Funny story... 10 years ago I was dating my now exhusband. Sex was really good. I'm a wam bam type of girl. If you do it just right, it can be good real fast! Well, he was 13 years older than me and apparently thought I was faking it. So without my knowledge, he got some Viagra. One night he took the pill. I got what I needed, but he was still going. I finally had to quit. I rolled over and asked, "Did you take a pill or something?" I had no idea he had! He was very embarrassed. Anyway, he turned out to be a big loser for lots of reasons. I hope he finds someone 20 years younger than him who will enjoy the effects of the little blue pill.

[Mary]

Menopausal women who withdraw are missing out! The best sex happens after the kids leave home. But you have to take care of yourself. Mimi's got it right. The "pill" for us 50-something women is exercise, and lots of it. Not so much to get thin but to feel more energetic than your 20-year old self. Hate to proselytize--and it can be hard to get started--but the mental, physical, and emotional rewards are huge. It's not everything, but great sex can be the icing on a full and wonderful life.(And a little compassion for men wouldn't hurt, either.)

[TimP]

That little blue pill gives a lot of men an excuse not to think with their brain.

Some years ago a friend and his girlfriend lived with me for a few months while he got his life back on track after an ugly divorce. One night, after a significant amount of tequila, he announced that he had just taken two viagra tablets and expected her to make the facility available to him because he and his prized posession were planning on being awake all night. She in turn announced that because she was the only one of them employeed, she was going to bed in order to get a good nights sleep, and that the facilities were unavailable due to regularly scheduled maintenance.

He spent the next few nights on the sofa, and that was the first of many bad habits she was able to break him of before they eventually got married.

[Sabina]

I lived with a man who, after he discovered Viagra, fully expected me to be available & ready each and every time he decided to take the little blue pill.(note "he decided"; the decision had nothing to do with me) If I wasn't interested, he let me know that eventually he would be forced to find someone else.(he stated that his own father was a serial cheater and that it was his mother's fault because she closed "the entertainment center". Needless to say, this relationship did not last. That doesn't make me "a bitter woman", it made me a realistic one.

[Sandy]

This woman's problem isn't Viagra, it is her attitude. What a superficial view she has of virtually every group of people she talks about - even her own!

[BillClinton]

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[Lucy]

I've dated younger than me men, now i'm dating a great, divorced 9 years older successful Viagra user. We both wish it wasn't necessary as ofter as it were, but love will make you do things.
and part of that is deal with bitter older ex wives who feel they deserve a prize for bearing children, but not parenting them. Then to deny their ex husband a happy relationship with someone who had a career, and didn't accidently get pregnant three times.
Not my career choice.
Have some self respect, and live on your own accomplishments.
No wonder men like younger more self reliant women who don't act like dependents. No wonder these guys need Viagra. Their ex wives zapped their testosterone. Give them a break. You don't want them, they'll find someone who will.

[Sabina]

Lucy wrote:

I've dated younger than me men, now i'm dating a great, divorced 9 years older successful Viagra user. We both wish it wasn't necessary as ofter as it were, but love will make you do things.
and part of that is deal with bitter older ex wives who feel they deserve a prize for bearing children, but not parenting them. Then to deny their ex husband a happy relationship with someone who had a career, and didn't accidently get pregnant three times.
Not my career choice.
Have some self respect, and live on your own accomplishments.
No wonder men like younger more self reliant women who don't act like dependents. No wonder these guys need Viagra. Their ex wives zapped their testosterone. Give them a break. You don't want them, they'll find someone who will.

LUCY - YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO WOMEN EVERYWHERE.

[1234abz]

Viagra may be something that helps you see the problems you stated more clearly, but it isn't the problem. People are the problem. It is individuals that cause these problems, not men or women as a population. Use a tool correctly and you are better off, incorrectly and people could die. Fix your problems, not the tools!