“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Jun 25, 2014
DEAR ABBY: I met a guy four months ago. Our relationship is new and pretty casual for the most part. We like each other's company and spend nights together, but when we're intimate, he keeps his clothes on -- boxers and all. He is only 26, but he has told me about past relationships, so I know he has had experience.

Over the past two years he has lost almost 100 pounds. He looks great now -- healthy and toned. I have seen him get in and out of the shower.(I noticed a little excess skin on his stomach, but not much.) It's really weird. I don't feel comfortable taking my own clothes off when he doesn't.

This isn't exactly a deal breaker for me, as I obviously am attracted to him. I just would like him to be comfortable with me. Should I address this with him, and if so, how? Or should I just leave it be for now?-- AWKWARD SITUATION IN GEORGIA

DEAR AWKWARD: It's apparent that he still has body issues having to do with his extreme weight loss. If you know him well enough to spend nights at his house, you should be able to communicate with him about sex on a mature level and tell him the experience would be more satisfying for you if there was less between you when you are in his arms.

DEAR ABBY: My fiancee and I work full time. We are trying to save for our wedding and a deposit for a house. The trouble is, after paying rent, bills and day-to-day expenses, we are left with next to nothing.

I played poker when I was in college, which generated a nice income during my late teens and early 20s. A few months back, I decided to pick it up again and found a group of people who like to play. Since then, I have been playing four hours two or three nights a week, and it has generated an extra monthly income of $1,000 to $1,500. Our finances have improved a lot.

There are nights my fiancee wants me to stay home. She says if I had a part-time job, she would understand why I couldn't stay home on the days she asked. But to me, poker IS a part-time job, and it pays more than anything else I could find in this area. I play the same set schedule every week, so she should know what nights I need to go in to "work." What do you say?-- ALL-IN IN VIRGINIA

DEAR ALL-IN: You appear to be a skillful card player or a very lucky one. Assuming that the games in which you are participating are legal, I see nothing wrong with what you're doing. Because your fiancee feels lonely when you're not with her, suggest that she do something with friends or take up a hobby. After all, you're doing this for the both of you, aren't you? And this "part-time job" isn't going to be forever.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#2 Jun 25, 2014
1 Creepy.

2 If you keep winning, your group is not going to let you play, and $1500 over 3 month is $500 a month /12 days is only like $40 a night, or about $10 an hour. You aint ready for Vegas yet.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#3 Jun 25, 2014
LW1 - How do you do the deed with boxers on?

LW2 - How about getting married in a court house or, if a church wedding is important to you, talking to your local priest/minister/rabbi about a private ceremony with just you and the witnesses? If you really want a party (rather than just being married), have a backyard BBQ.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#4 Jun 25, 2014
RACE wrote:
2 If you keep winning, your group is not going to let you play, and $1500 over 3 month is $500 a month /12 days is only like $40 a night, or about $10 an hour. You aint ready for Vegas yet.
Where are you getting three months? He said he gets 1000 to 1500 monthly.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#5 Jun 25, 2014
My bad, reading comprehension fail. Stupid work....
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
Where are you getting three months? He said he gets 1000 to 1500 monthly.

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#6 Jun 25, 2014
Cass wrote:
LW1 - How do you do the deed with boxers on?
I was wondering that. I guess he sticks his junk through the little trapdoor in the front.
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#7 Jun 25, 2014
LW1: That's different. But it could be due to his weight loss. Maybe he has loose skin or maybe he had surgery to remove the loose skin that left him with scars. If you like him, just wait a while and see if he is able to get more comfortable with you.

LW2: IMHO, this is a dangerous game you are playing. I suggest that you both get part-time evening jobs until you can save a little money.

A Hawaiian entertainer that I know, George Kahumoku, tells a story about when he was a kid and used to go to chicken fights. "The 13 Fight Chicken." He was making good money betting on his chicken. His chicken was quite the warrior. However, George got greedy and over-confident and bet most or all of his money on the 13th fight, which his chicken lost. He has never gambled since.

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