“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Oct 20, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I'm 13, and a few weeks ago I met a guy online, got his number and we texted -- a lot. Before I knew it, we were flirting up a storm.

He lives in Tennessee and I'm in Texas. He's the same age as I am, so I don't see anything wrong with liking him, even if he's so far away. We have decided not to date until we have a chance to meet each other in person.

The problem is, I feel like I love him. He doesn't call me "hot," he calls me "gorgeous." He doesn't call me "Babe," he calls me "Angel." He listens to me when I have a problem and gives me sweet advice.

Yes, I know I'm young and love is supposed to come later in life. Yes, it seems shady that I met him online and we have never talked face-to-face. I know I might be mistaking love for infatuation -- I've heard all this before. But I trust this boy to be faithful and supportive of me.

How can I tell if I love him or not? Should I cut off contact with him? Is it OK to feel the way I do?-- TEENAGE GIRL IN A DREAM

DEAR TEENAGE GIRL: I'm all for young love, but before plunging in, I think both parties should know with whom they are having the pleasure. Has it occurred to you that because you met this person online and have never spoken face-to-face that he might not be who he says he is?

The person you have described may not be a teenage boy in Tennessee. He could be an adult man (or woman) anywhere. He doesn't communicate in the language most teens of today use. He doesn't call you "hot," he doesn't call you "Babe." He is using terms that someone much older would use.

Personally, I think you should take a giant step backward until you and a more experienced adult in your life learn more about him. Adults who carry on online romances with 13-year-old girls are called predators for good reason.

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of four years, "Taylor," and I are opposites in that I like to be on time and he is generally late. We usually work this out by leaving for an event I choose at the time I want, and leave for his friends' gatherings when he wants.

My problem is leaving for the airport when we travel together. We use public transportation, which takes 45 minutes, but things can go wrong and make it longer.

Taylor would like to leave so we arrive at the airport 45 minutes before our flights. This causes me a lot of stress because security lines can be long and I'm afraid of missing our plane. We have had to run through airports in order to avoid being left behind.

I'd like to be at the airport an hour and a half before flight time to be safe. Taylor hates waiting in the terminal when security is light and thinks we could be doing other things with our time. Please save me from our next argument and tell us who is right.-- FRAZZLED TRAVELER IN SAN FRANCISCO

DEAR FRAZZLED: You are. Better to be safe than sorry, especially when you have nonrefundable tickets. I have been on flights when seats were given to standby passengers because the ticketed passenger was held up for some reason. There are worse things than having to kill a half-hour at the airport. Missing your flight is one of them.

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#2 Oct 20, 2012
L1: <facepalm> On second thought, this might be a fake letter acting as a PSA.

L2: I have friends who are chronically late but still understand that there are certain things - like flights - that you can't be late for. Let Taylor miss a few flights and totally screw up his schedule and see if he changes his tune.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#3 Oct 20, 2012
1- Uh oh, she's on to me.

2- Chronically late people pzz me off. Show up at the airport without him. If he misses his flight, call him pool side with your pina colada in one hand and a cabana boy in the other and say I told you so.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#4 Oct 20, 2012
L1 what jamwow said
L2 what dog said

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#5 Oct 20, 2012
L1: Okay -- I agree. Might be a PSA. If it isn't, this 13 year old has not been listening to all the info out there. Don't give him your address, personal information, etc. until you can confirm some things. Also, remember, it's a form of escapism from your daily life and reality of this guy just might be much worse than what in front of you with the people you know at school and with your friends.

L2: You should be able to speak with your bf of 4 years when you're not on the way to a flight to discuss both of your feelings and come to a comprise. If not, review other things in your relationship as well. Might not be all that good.

Since: Mar 09

Pittsburgh, PA

#6 Oct 20, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
2-... Show up at the airport without him. If he misses his flight, call him pool side with your pina colada in one hand and a cabana boy in the other and say I told you so.
The Dog has a good idea! Go separately! I'm not real familiar w/ San Fran public transit to the airport (bus? train? taxi??) but how often does it run? Apparently at least every 45 minutes according to your letter. You leave when you want; he leaves when he wants; you meet up at the gate (IF he gets there on time!) Heck, it's not even like you'd have to pay for parking for 2 cars, since you're taking public transit.
boundary painter

San Antonio, TX

#7 Oct 20, 2012
Most Texas teen girls are happy with the boys in their own schools who they can see and spend time with....Hope LW1 is really a bored student at one the colleges.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#8 Oct 20, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L1: <facepalm> On second thought, this might be a fake letter acting as a PSA.
YA THINK? ;-)

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