Indian guys in interracial relationsh...

Since: Aug 10

Richmond, VA

#23 Sep 24, 2010
Rivera wrote:
I've just started dating and Indian guy and I am Puerto Rican... that's a whole difference ballgame. Hes' really super scared about his parents finding out about us. He's from south india and apparently his parents will completely disown him if they find out about me... it really sucks :( He broke it down to me like this... I'd have to be Malu AND Kna for it to br okay. Even if i was indian but not from south india it would be a disaster, or if i was south indian but not Kna it would be a disaster...
So being an Agnotic Puerto Rican with African and Indigenous roots that are VERY obvious in my appearance pretty much puts me in the End of the World category... any words of encouragement?
I can totally understand your concern .. deja vu!
Let me tell you that when I was back in India, I did end up loving two wonderful women (not at the same time!) and none of them happened to be from my part of the country and well as you must have guessed by now - none of them worked out either. It was not that we did not love each other enough, its just that we had to sacrifice for our parents and in my case it was primarily the resistance from my ex-girlfriends' side - I know it might sound a bit weird here but well these things make a lot of sense back in India.

So as I said before, I can understand the guy's perspective and check if he is willing to take you to meet his parents. You guys can then take it from there.

Hope it works out!
Naves

Sweden

#24 Sep 29, 2010
Damn you guyz are lucky to have dated latinas, spanish, italian. I have only dated indian girlz. Think it wud be cool to date from another race.

Since: Oct 10

Ottawa, Canada

#25 Oct 13, 2010
sweetcupcake537 wrote:
i am an southeast asian girl and im dating a guy who is east Indian punjabi. he and i have so much in common but a big difference is our religion. he is Sikh and i am christian. he was born in the US so i guess you can say he is americanized.
before, i've heard indian guys were very disrespectful towards women and dont see them as equals. is that how most indian guys really are? i heard they beat their wives and dont allow them to talk to other males in public.
of coarse my boyfriend doesnt harm me but i sometimes feel as if he doesnt see me as equal to him being a male.
hes told me before, that he wont let any girl meet his family unless he is being serious with her..and i'd have to say i met his fam :)
i've never seen another indian and asian couple before. and its my first time dating an indian guy, and i just think indian guys are sooo gorgeous, and sexy...well not all of them.. but most :)
does sex mean a lot to indian guys?
LOL!You dont need to worry about an americanized indian. Though their parents are a bit conservative, like my own, I have been myself very outward in relationships. He might demand of himself being superior, as most of us indians see that in our parents (dad being the head of the family).

However, you should be calm enough and understand him. It will be clear to you what his intentions really are.

And best of luck! We Indians are a proud race, and I think I enjoy company of any girl, as far as she is in her senses.

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#26 Jan 20, 2011
Well, lets have a bit more discussion on this

“Lets have breakfast at 6pm :3”

Since: Dec 10

Location hidden

#27 Jan 21, 2011
pete98146 wrote:
One of my Indian friends is married to a white lady and the only reason the relationship works is because she is a stay at home mother. That said, he still admits that the cultural differences are a headache at times.
I'm an American and I'll freely admit that our culture lacks history, tradition and discipline. Most Indians that I know (rightfully so) want to hang onto their Indian ways and this is why you see so many Indians marrying Indians.
Cultural differences can be a headache when you and your partner are involved in vastly different religions. I don't think color defines people, I don't think 'indian' should describe someones personality, I don't think 'black' should describe someones personality, neither should 'white'. Personalities vary once the person you're dating or in a relationship finds you beautiful/attractive thats that, but for a relationship to work you have to have chemistry...which is not defined by race.

Anything else, like 'understanding racial problems' honestly, there are no 'racial problems' your lover will meet many annoying people in his life, white,black,red,blue,yellow; the clause is that some people MAGNIFY problems when it is brought upon them by people of another race, yet they tolerate it when it's their own race at fault. You have to be there to comfort him no matter who it is that hurt him, no matter how hurt he is, you don't have to 'understand' a problem to assure/comfort someone because things do get better, and even say his ego is hurt because its a man who he thinks is feeling 'racially superior', talking bad about that man will do what for the problem?? How does this solve it, or make it better in any way??
Norester

Newark, NJ

#28 Feb 13, 2011
Wow. Considering Americans usually bail out most of your pathetic countries, I'll remember that they have" no history, culture, etc. "
The US apparently has no need to
Protect you pathetic jack wagons. Good luck!
Frank

Horsham, UK

#29 Feb 13, 2011
Wow! A thread about Indian guys that did not sink into a thread full of racist stereotypes and "Well I had a friend once...." type bullsh*t! Well done all of you, I've got a little faith back, thanks.
smokybacon

Charlotte, NC

#30 Feb 16, 2011
Norester wrote:
Wow. Considering Americans usually bail out most of your pathetic countries, I'll remember that they have" no history, culture, etc. "
The US apparently has no need to
Protect you pathetic jack wagons. Good luck!
Americans bailing out India? When did that happen, or are you just one of those American morons who can't even point out where USA is on the world map, LOL. For that matter, it's USA that has the highest debt, in trillions of dollars in the world today, talk about bailing out, hahahahaha, what a joke. Also, China has US by it's balls now.

Typical American moron, all talk but no show
indian man

UK

#31 Apr 26, 2011
i was born in england and indian men born in other countrys except india are like like indian men from india who just want to marry women from there own country but i think thats it im from england all my life i seen white women so im very attracted to white women i have indian friends who lived all there life in other countrys with other tuypes of women and find them women in that country attractive so its about which country you in and what kind of girls liveing there you will find attractive.
Peace

Kolkata, India

#32 Apr 27, 2011
Norester wrote:
Wow. Considering Americans usually bail out most of your pathetic countries, I'll remember that they have" no history, culture, etc. "
The US apparently has no need to
Protect you pathetic jack wagons. Good luck!
And I thought Warren Buffet was here for business opportunities!
I expect this moron to start his own version Wikileaks soon, with those wierd, ridiculous 'disclosures'.
lol
Johnathon

Brampton, Canada

#33 Jun 6, 2011
I think its really cool that some of you have dated ppl from another race...after i get through uni in two years i plan on going to Montreal, where i wanna date ppl from other races (so like chinese, black and white).
Raj

Enfield, UK

#34 Aug 3, 2011
First of all, I think it's wrong to generalise and pigeon hole indian guys, or all races for that matter.

Here in the UK, UK-born indian guys tend to date other races - I've seen this quite alot. It really depends on whether they are liberal or traditional minded. Also, my undertanding is that white women are more likely to be attracted to indian men that are more westernised than those from India. Their outlooks/perspectives in life are completely different.
Job

Christchurch, New Zealand

#36 Aug 14, 2011
I am an Indian guy married happily to a Chinese gal!
Indian Beauty

AOL

#37 Aug 29, 2011
Norester: Seriously, you are making me feel embarassed about my fellow American citizens Please find out facts before making silly comments. The US does not "bail" India out. People of Indian origin make great contributions across the globe including the US. India has a great and rich history of philosophy, art, music, cuisine, beauty to name a few.

As far as interracial dating goes, you do see some Indian males as well as females with people of other races but it is not very common (not even with those of us raised in the US.) Indian-ness has magical powers that keeps us together through the common bond.

Having said that, I think if one falls in love with someone of another race, they should honor their love and the person they fell in love with. Love is a gift from God.
soulvibe

Toronto, Canada

#38 Oct 12, 2011
My school has tons of Indian guys with Asian girls. Although I must say that I do agree with the original poster. These Indian guys tend to be light skinned. It shouldn't matter though. When you like someone, just go for it.

Since: Jan 10

Delhi, India

#39 Oct 13, 2011
soulvibe wrote:
My school has tons of Indian guys with Asian girls. Although I must say that I do agree with the original poster. These Indian guys tend to be light skinned. It shouldn't matter though. When you like someone, just go for it.
Thumbs UP.
BEP

Augusta, GA

#40 Nov 3, 2011
I am a white woman, and I was married to an Indian man for 4 years. We have two kids together. While we were married, his parents had to live with us for three months at a stretch each year. Unfortunately, they treated me horribly. they called me the "white girl" in their language, and refused to speak to me while they were in the household. They would even snatch my baby out of my hands and not let me hold or see him when he was 2 months old. My husband said I was a spoiled white girl because I was upset about this. I was working full time and going to college, and he said I was spoiled because I didn't let his parents run over me. Just recently, he beat me up really bad, and I took the kids away with me and am seeking a divorce now. He is the first full-blooded Indian man I have ever been with, so I don't know if this is a rare experience or the norm. I'm sure that every race has their share of assholes, so I'm going to assume that he was just a random asshole that happened to be Indian. I've met men like him in every race.*sigh* I hope that other experiences have been much more positive than mine.

Since: Jan 10

New Delhi, India

#41 Nov 3, 2011
BEP wrote:
I am a white woman, and I was married to an Indian man for 4 years. We have two kids together. While we were married, his parents had to live with us for three months at a stretch each year. Unfortunately, they treated me horribly. they called me the "white girl" in their language, and refused to speak to me while they were in the household. They would even snatch my baby out of my hands and not let me hold or see him when he was 2 months old. My husband said I was a spoiled white girl because I was upset about this. I was working full time and going to college, and he said I was spoiled because I didn't let his parents run over me. Just recently, he beat me up really bad, and I took the kids away with me and am seeking a divorce now. He is the first full-blooded Indian man I have ever been with, so I don't know if this is a rare experience or the norm. I'm sure that every race has their share of assholes, so I'm going to assume that he was just a random asshole that happened to be Indian. I've met men like him in every race.*sigh* I hope that other experiences have been much more positive than mine.
Awww!! I am also a full blooded indian man, I can assure you the experience yo went through was a rare one! and see its not his indianess to be blamed here you just got picked up the wrong person here.

Indians are very emotions when it comes to family values and all which is okay to some extent but it looks foolish when in an effort to nurture those values they forget about other moral responsibilities like the right of FREEDOM of their women or children. I regret to know form you that your husband treated you badly. I wish you all the best to you and start a new life with a better man race irrelevant just try to find a man who sensibly follows human morals and values.

Since: Jan 10

New Delhi, India

#42 Nov 3, 2011
*emotional
Danny

Chicago, IL

#43 Nov 4, 2011
My good friend is an Indian guy and we both started with online dating because we really don't have much free time to meet the ladies. Fast forward two months, we had detailed profiles and nice profile photos - and I had a couple of dates, but my friend was on 4 dates and he is in a relationship with a girl he met online. So I guess, it's nothing rare, maybe in small towns, rural America. Source: adventures at Asian dominatrix website - http://www.asiandominatrix.co.uk/ .

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