Valentine's Day Date Advice Needed......

Valentine's Day Date Advice Needed....Any Takers?

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Austin, MN

#1 Feb 12, 2013
Hi...this is my first post. I met a guy online about a month ago, we texted for a while, then one night we really hit it off, and were texting until about 4:30 AM. We decided to meet a few days after that. I was thinking we were just meeting for dinner, but we ended up bowling, going to a bar, and going back to my place to watch a movie after that. There was a little making out and cuddling as well. The date lasted 8 hours, and he went home. We went on a 2nd date about a week later, and had dinner, went to a bar, and then went back to his place.(We live about 90 minutes away from each other.) This time, we were watching TV, cuddling, and ended up getting naked and almost having sex....but, we decided to slow it down a little. Now, we are meeting for a third date, on Valentine's Day. We decided it would make sense to meet at a hotel that's in a town inbetween where we both live, because we decided it would be a good time to just have a low-key evening, and get to know one another better, and we also have roommates, so we didn't want to be interrupted or anything like that. I really like him a lot...but, I'm getting worried about what this date really means. Are we supposed to have sex? I know there's no clear cut answer...but based on what I've said, should I expect to just lay in bed cuddle eat room service and watch TV, or should I expect more? And should I buy him gifts?*Sigh*.....Sorry, lots of questions. Any info would be great. Thanks a lot!!

Buckland Newton, UK

#2 Feb 13, 2013
A hotel is a horribly bad idea, no offense. It sounds like you haven't known this guy long, so even if you 'really hit if off' you need to be careful. What kind of impression do you think he is going to have of you, when you suggested a hotel after only going on three dates?! Of course he would expect sex, and you'd be stupid not to think otherwise, its misleading.

I would advise you cancel the hotel to avoid coming off as cheap and easy, and just go out for a nice lunch or dinner together - keep it simple, its just your third date! And you haven't even had sex before (how old are you), so you don't want to be sleeping with a guy you barely know on your third date... will be a big regret! Present wise, I wouldn't bother, because I doubt he counts you two as being 'together' yet, maybe a friendly card would be nice though.

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