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anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#510 Jun 20, 2013
chicaboom wrote:
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I would love to move to Hawaii (or islands) been 3x. So many people do though.
Yes, the islands and locals are beautiful people. I mean inside. There is definitely an acceptance and general feeling of love here so unlike the mainland. Even if one encounters a judgemental or rude person, there is more positive here than negative. But, it does concern me that this will change. I've seen negative changes even during my time here. These negative aspects have even affected my employment in the past and my current relationship. My boyfriend is from here yet not. So, there are times that I feel like he is forcing me to assimilate or to be a mirror image of himself....the generalised requirement of assimilating in the U.S. This "requirement" is more American influenced than Hawaiian influenced. For example, if I do not speak a certain way or use words he thinks I should then I am reprimanded harshly for this. This same treatment also was very common on the mainland. For example, my boyfriend will say that I do not have to like football to acclimate but yet I have to fulfill HIS American requirements. So, this "assimilation" American requirement causes even relationship issues revolving around lack of tolerance and acceptance- whether it be friend, boyfriend, husband, adult children, employer, acquaintance, customer, etc.

I think I am going to contact the International Organisation of Pluralism. It's a movement very similar to what I have been posting on many threads. I believe it's a good place to start with removing hatred and control and supremacy. I also want to find out which countries are currently adopting this philosophy.
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#511 Jun 20, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
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Goodnight, and you're right. If you want, we can discuss this over messaging. God bless you, sleep tight.
Thank you. God bless you as well. I also think I will, well I already have, contact the Global Centre for Pluralism. Pluralism comes close to what I have suggested for a multicultural city. At least there would be no dominant culture to assimilate to....especially one with a history of racism, hate and annihilation. And, no one would force me via financial distress or broken relationships to "wear a smile," communicate a certain way, and think a certain way. I can be natural with natural feelings....you know human. I'm going to find out which countries are actively adopting pluralism as a philosophy instead of assimilation. You've got to start somewhere! BTW, Hawaii is a beautiful place, and I do love it here. But, people coming here to force assimilation of THEIR culture upon the people born in Hawaii or upon people who have adjusted to Hawaiian culture. I worry that it will be another mainland state. And, unfortunately the dominant culture to assimilate to in the states is rooted in hate, control, racism, misogyny, and supremacy (white anglo saxon protestant).

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#513 Jun 20, 2013
Btw, people from LA really don't like people from Boston. One prime example is Frank McCourt. He was hated so much by LA DODGER FANS, the entire city BOYCOTTED THE DODGERS INTO BANKRUPTCY, so that McCourt would have to sell the DODGERS to another group! LOL!

Its the first fan boycott to ever drive out an owner in the history of sports. No BOSTON WHITE BOY will EVER own a sports team in LOS ANGELES EVER AGAIN!
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#514 Jun 20, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
Btw, people from LA really don't like people from Boston. One prime example is Frank McCourt. He was hated so much by LA DODGER FANS, the entire city BOYCOTTED THE DODGERS INTO BANKRUPTCY, so that McCourt would have to sell the DODGERS to another group! LOL!
Its the first fan boycott to ever drive out an owner in the history of sports. No BOSTON WHITE BOY will EVER own a sports team in LOS ANGELES EVER AGAIN!
funny! That should bring back memories for them ...Boston Tea Party! They can add the boycott to their town square history.
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#515 Jun 20, 2013
but I understand what you mean!

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#516 Jun 20, 2013
anonymousofcourse wrote:
but I understand what you mean!
I am in Korea and I get told all the time by women I dated or my wife, when I disagree with something like... why does a man have to do this? that? In America a man can have children out of wedlock and girlfriends other than the baby momma and be admired, and have wild sex parties that are legal in Nevada, etc... etc... they say to me... " well, you are in Korea now."

I have nothing to say. I think you should tell him " Well, you are in Hawaii now, not Texas". And let him know that people in California and New York speak differently from him too.
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#518 Jun 20, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
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I am in Korea and I get told all the time by women I dated or my wife, when I disagree with something like... why does a man have to do this? that? In America a man can have children out of wedlock and girlfriends other than the baby momma and be admired, and have wild sex parties that are legal in Nevada, etc... etc... they say to me... " well, you are in Korea now."
I have nothing to say. I think you should tell him " Well, you are in Hawaii now, not Texas". And let him know that people in California and New York speak differently from him too.
Thanks. What you said at the end was funny in a way I wished you knew. So funny! BTW he was raised on a U.S. Army military base. Objectively speaking, his father is worse than he is. Yet they have a way of convincing all they are saints...i'm serious! It's quite amazing to watch. My boyfriend goes in and out of being very nice to me to treating me like a supremacist hick. You would swear that they both are from the woods of Texas instead of Hawaii. So, now I'm tallying how many good behaviours versus bad behaviours of boyfriend. And, when both father and son go at it, it's quite disgusting! They both really believe they are right, that the other is lying, and it's always a one-up manship game. They both gossip about each other regularly. It's quite stupid and dysfunctional. So, I just don't know......

but anyway thanks...you gave me something to laugh about it all...:)
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#519 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
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I am in Korea and I get told all the time by women I dated or my wife, when I disagree with something like... why does a man have to do this? that? In America a man can have children out of wedlock and girlfriends other than the baby momma and be admired, and have wild sex parties that are legal in Nevada, etc... etc... they say to me... " well, you are in Korea now."
I have nothing to say. I think you should tell him " Well, you are in Hawaii now, not Texas". And let him know that people in California and New York speak differently from him too.
The way I see it, is that he cares about my assimilation more than he cares about me. And, as he would say,"End of story."

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#520 Jun 21, 2013
anonymousofcourse wrote:
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Thanks. What you said at the end was funny in a way I wished you knew. So funny! BTW he was raised on a U.S. Army military base. Objectively speaking, his father is worse than he is. Yet they have a way of convincing all they are saints...i'm serious! It's quite amazing to watch. My boyfriend goes in and out of being very nice to me to treating me like a supremacist hick. You would swear that they both are from the woods of Texas instead of Hawaii. So, now I'm tallying how many good behaviours versus bad behaviours of boyfriend. And, when both father and son go at it, it's quite disgusting! They both really believe they are right, that the other is lying, and it's always a one-up manship game. They both gossip about each other regularly. It's quite stupid and dysfunctional. So, I just don't know......
but anyway thanks...you gave me something to laugh about it all...:)
haha you should say to him...

" Oh, so today you're a cowboy taming all the natives huh?"

other lines include:

" But when u invaded, the natives were 6 foot and the europeans were all 5'5 on average, so why are u so hoity toity?"

" It was the diseases that killed 90% of the native americans... so maybe you should sneeze instead of acting violent. that was more successful in the past"

those three things should keep his attitude in check. haha

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

United States

#521 Jun 21, 2013
anonymousofcourse wrote:
<quoted text>
The way I see it, is that he cares about my assimilation more than he cares about me. And, as he would say,"End of story."
tell him he cares more about his cowboy taming the natives fantasy than ur feelings. and thats the real ending. jeez he sounds like a party pooper for reals.
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#522 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
<quoted text>
haha you should say to him...
" Oh, so today you're a cowboy taming all the natives huh?"
other lines include:
" But when u invaded, the natives were 6 foot and the europeans were all 5'5 on average, so why are u so hoity toity?"
" It was the diseases that killed 90% of the native americans... so maybe you should sneeze instead of acting violent. that was more successful in the past"
those three things should keep his attitude in check. haha
hahahahahah! so funny!
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#523 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
<quoted text>
tell him he cares more about his cowboy taming the natives fantasy than ur feelings. and thats the real ending. jeez he sounds like a party pooper for reals.
OUCH! Good one! so true, isn't it?
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#524 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
<quoted text>
I am in Korea and I get told all the time by women I dated or my wife, when I disagree with something like... why does a man have to do this? that? In America a man can have children out of wedlock and girlfriends other than the baby momma and be admired, and have wild sex parties that are legal in Nevada, etc... etc... they say to me... " well, you are in Korea now."
I have nothing to say. I think you should tell him " Well, you are in Hawaii now, not Texas". And let him know that people in California and New York speak differently from him too.
wanted to say earlier....true! I feel that relationship morals in America are bad. It would not surprise me if he has committed offences against our relationship. He has at times either acted guilty or WAS guilty. He also hangs out with people who do these types of things and cover for each other. And, he a lot of times "didn't hear his cell ring." But, karma plays games quite perfectly. He should know that! One of his friends got caught in the act. His marriage is gone, and he's stuck with his whore who will probably screw around on him too. If he did or is doing, he'll probably end up in a relationship with one of his whores not knowing if the child she is carrying is really his because of "vague and inconclusive" paternity tests! Then, she will do to him what he did to me. Justice! And, I will be with a man who not only genuinely loves me but knows how to be a real man to a real woman. And, he will think his life represents everyone's when in fact it's scraping the bottom of the barrel. People have the capacity to acclimate to anything. Or, I could decide to leave him in his old age for another.........better man...when he needs me the most. But, I'll call one of his "friends" so that they can take my place. They can wash his clothes and buy him new underwear! But seriously, basically, whatever karma dictates, I will know by letting nature run its course. 100% of the time, people who have harmed me in some way, I swear, the same thing happens to them. It's so weird. And, all of the time, I had forgotten about them and the offences but find out about their lives via gossip or from someone who approaches me with "news." That's why I believe in karma so much.

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#525 Jun 21, 2013
anonymousofcourse wrote:
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wanted to say earlier....true! I feel that relationship morals in America are bad. It would not surprise me if he has committed offences against our relationship. He has at times either acted guilty or WAS guilty. He also hangs out with people who do these types of things and cover for each other. And, he a lot of times "didn't hear his cell ring." But, karma plays games quite perfectly. He should know that! One of his friends got caught in the act. His marriage is gone, and he's stuck with his whore who will probably screw around on him too. If he did or is doing, he'll probably end up in a relationship with one of his whores not knowing if the child she is carrying is really his because of "vague and inconclusive" paternity tests! Then, she will do to him what he did to me. Justice! And, I will be with a man who not only genuinely loves me but knows how to be a real man to a real woman. And, he will think his life represents everyone's when in fact it's scraping the bottom of the barrel. People have the capacity to acclimate to anything. Or, I could decide to leave him in his old age for another.........better man...when he needs me the most. But, I'll call one of his "friends" so that they can take my place. They can wash his clothes and buy him new underwear! But seriously, basically, whatever karma dictates, I will know by letting nature run its course. 100% of the time, people who have harmed me in some way, I swear, the same thing happens to them. It's so weird. And, all of the time, I had forgotten about them and the offences but find out about their lives via gossip or from someone who approaches me with "news." That's why I believe in karma so much.
Ah ok ok icic

I guess i believe in enforcing karma. Tee hee
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#526 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
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Ah ok ok icic
I guess i believe in enforcing karma. Tee hee
you're funny! Seriously. I really do let karma do its duty. Why? Because, sometimes I don't even know what's happening until karma does play it's role. And, then THAT'S when I learn that that person had harmed me. I really have no proof that he has done anything (for example). But, the way to find out is to allow karma to do what it does best. And, if something happens, then I'll know all of his offences....and then nature always works things best. Seriously, if you leave everything along....forgive / forget.....karma does everything for you....I kid you not!
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#527 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
<quoted text>
Ah ok ok icic
I guess i believe in enforcing karma. Tee hee
he could be just coincidentally looking guilty.....but the best teacher, discipliner, and problem solver is karma. And, I end up with my baggage resolved with no hate, revenge, or vindictiveness in my heart to cloudy my thoughts and spirit.'Cause when I do hear news of someone experiencing what they did to me, I do feel sympathy for them but I also feel like there is a higher power doing their job. And, I trust that! So, my job is to monitor my thoughts, feelings, and heart.

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#528 Jun 21, 2013
anonymousofcourse wrote:
<quoted text>
you're funny! Seriously. I really do let karma do its duty. Why? Because, sometimes I don't even know what's happening until karma does play it's role. And, then THAT'S when I learn that that person had harmed me. I really have no proof that he has done anything (for example). But, the way to find out is to allow karma to do what it does best. And, if something happens, then I'll know all of his offences....and then nature always works things best. Seriously, if you leave everything along....forgive / forget.....karma does everything for you....I kid you not!
Yea i think that works well on islands where everyone is connected with nature... But in big cities the wolf eyes take over

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#529 Jun 21, 2013
Tee hee u make me miss la and hawaii
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#530 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
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Yea i think that works well on islands where everyone is connected with nature... But in big cities the wolf eyes take over
Oh! That's too bad. Nature knows what it's doing....better than I do.

I'll stay away from the big cities then....
anonymousofcours e

Honolulu, HI

#531 Jun 21, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
Tee hee u make me miss la and hawaii
Aaawh! Sorry! Hawaii is a special place....special people! Mahalo! But, you know that already! Maybe you can visit?

Someday, when I can, I want to visit Korea, Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong and Vietnam. But, then I would miss Hawaii like you and be right back here.

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