I agree with you. I dated an Indian guy from India for a while. I did fall for him but he acted very sneaky and constantly disappeared on me. I think its because he can't get over his tradition (dating a foreigner is pretty rare in India) and I suspect he's in some form of arranged marriage agreement etc (though he insisted he was single at that time). Either way, my heart was closed since then.A past relationship with an Indian guy taught me alot about Indians and family life, although maybe it has stereotyped it a bit. I am not Indian btw.
1. Many are players, cheat & lie, as parents already have some girls lined up for arranged marriage. Most in the end do not end up with girls who are not Indian due to family being against it.
2. Culture/religious differences.
3. Their thoughts about role of women after marriage. Traditional ones like to live with in-laws.
4. Boys very attached to mother, few will be on wife's side if diff in opinions.
5. Depending where they come from, can be big drinkers and drug users.
6. Some family backgrounds - family consists of abusive and cheating fathers who don't treat wife well. Guess this doesn't just happen in Indian families though but you do read alot about it.
I think there are some really nice Indian guys out there and if they weren't like the above, I would be still happy to go with them as they can be very loving. Also there appears to be a huge difference between Indian guys born overseas vs Indian guys born in India (as per mine was). However, it's just difficult to take the chance now to go out with one who might not want to take a non-indian/indian relationship seriously. You just don't want to get hurt again.
I like Indians, but I'm wary because of what happened in the past. Perhaps Indians who are bred and born in the States are more open-minded. I'm Chinese and I'm probably one of the very few girls here who is open to dating brown guys. As a matter of fact, I find brown men more attractive than pale guys, no offence. With the above being said, the person who is involved with the Indian guy should understand their family/traditions/etc and see if she can deal with the above; if not, I suggest cut the relationship ASAP.
And FYI, rumors have it that Indian men in general are less endowed - in my limited experience, the above statement is accurate.(and I don't want to generalize)I personally could deal with the above, but I couldn't deal with his sneaky and selfish behavior.