Why do most girls dislike Indian guys?
Nicoletta

Central District, Hong Kong

#1807 Feb 13, 2010
Girl from Oz wrote:
A past relationship with an Indian guy taught me alot about Indians and family life, although maybe it has stereotyped it a bit. I am not Indian btw.
1. Many are players, cheat & lie, as parents already have some girls lined up for arranged marriage. Most in the end do not end up with girls who are not Indian due to family being against it.
2. Culture/religious differences.
3. Their thoughts about role of women after marriage. Traditional ones like to live with in-laws.
4. Boys very attached to mother, few will be on wife's side if diff in opinions.
5. Depending where they come from, can be big drinkers and drug users.
6. Some family backgrounds - family consists of abusive and cheating fathers who don't treat wife well. Guess this doesn't just happen in Indian families though but you do read alot about it.
I think there are some really nice Indian guys out there and if they weren't like the above, I would be still happy to go with them as they can be very loving. Also there appears to be a huge difference between Indian guys born overseas vs Indian guys born in India (as per mine was). However, it's just difficult to take the chance now to go out with one who might not want to take a non-indian/indian relationship seriously. You just don't want to get hurt again.
I agree with you. I dated an Indian guy from India for a while. I did fall for him but he acted very sneaky and constantly disappeared on me. I think its because he can't get over his tradition (dating a foreigner is pretty rare in India) and I suspect he's in some form of arranged marriage agreement etc (though he insisted he was single at that time). Either way, my heart was closed since then.

I like Indians, but I'm wary because of what happened in the past. Perhaps Indians who are bred and born in the States are more open-minded. I'm Chinese and I'm probably one of the very few girls here who is open to dating brown guys. As a matter of fact, I find brown men more attractive than pale guys, no offence. With the above being said, the person who is involved with the Indian guy should understand their family/traditions/etc and see if she can deal with the above; if not, I suggest cut the relationship ASAP.

And FYI, rumors have it that Indian men in general are less endowed - in my limited experience, the above statement is accurate.(and I don't want to generalize)I personally could deal with the above, but I couldn't deal with his sneaky and selfish behavior.
Nicoletta

Central District, Hong Kong

#1808 Feb 13, 2010
To add to the above, I think some of the Indians lie and cheat (most guys in other cultures do too) because they haven't come to terms with their own culture and tradition. Their heart might want something else, but because of societal and familial pressure, they might just have to do the "right" thing in their opinion. Since they aren't sure of themselves (I think growing up from such suppressed environment would limit their personal growth and hence lower their confidence level. Unlike guys who are grown up in a liberal environment, I don't think they have the "balls" to listen to their own heart and really do what they want to do. They act based on societal pressure, based on fear, not based on love. As a matter of fact, the guy I dated though successful was not confident with himself personally at all, in my opinion) they can't make up their mind and just date the girl they want to date in their heart. They might waver while dating the girl they like, but then because their family wants them to date within their own race/clan, they'll listen to their family. Or they might just lie and cheat because they want attention because they're just so unsure of themselves as they were being brought up in such an oppressed environment (esp if they're not endowed as this affects their confidence level)

I'm not here to generalize because I have met other Indians who genuinely wanted to have an honest and open relationship with me (though I wasn't attracted to them) but you've got to be careful and do your background check.
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1809 Feb 13, 2010
cool_boy wrote:
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randi ke bacche teri maa ki chutt.. Do I still sound like a white one? But you do sound like a frustrated ugly dude. Please, don't say that you are indian that's why no white girl wants to go out with you. It's just because you are ugly, short...
Me frustrated? LMAO if you say so canadian immigrant! Dude I heard in Canada the Indians try so hard to blend in with Canadians that they act snobbish and racist towards other Indians!?!?! why is that, dude? Are Indians in canada Retarded?
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1810 Feb 13, 2010
cool_boy wrote:
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randi ke bacche teri maa ki chutt.. Do I still sound like a white one? But you do sound like a frustrated ugly dude. Please, don't say that you are indian that's why no white girl wants to go out with you. It's just because you are ugly, short...
If I ever see a canadian indian in uk i will send him back on a boat straight to south india
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1811 Feb 13, 2010
cool_boy wrote:
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I totally agree with you. It doesn't matter if you are white,black or anything, if you are attractive, girls will like you. I would say rather in india, lot of us think only fair skinned girls/boys are beautiful.
When I came here first to study at Uwindsor, white girls or even anybody would not look at me when i was walking around school or mall. It's just because I was skinny tall boy with long hair. My eyes were always red as I used to study whole night.
Anyway, things have been changed a lot now. I graduated and attending to a med school. I have been working out gym for a while. I changed my dress up. I have very short hair now. Guess what? I don't have any problem with dating or finding a white girl. I am kinda now addicted to "going to clubs". Cause, lot of girls hit on me at clubs.
Basically, it doesn't matter if you are arab or indian. Oh, I must mention another thing. My friend is kinda middle eastern skinned guy. All indians girls were crazy about him. But now he goes to clubs with me, hardly any white girls hit on him. It's just because he is not muscular built physically and only 5 8'' tall.
So, please don't say white girls dont like indians. If you have a nice career, are a good looking, tall and well-shaped guy, you rock!
You are just a Canadian FOB! You havent a clue what you on about. All FOBS are desperate sex maniacs!
First thing a FOB does when he comes to the West to study is asks, WHERE CAN I GET A WHITE GIRLFRIEND
jjj

United States

#1812 Feb 13, 2010
blush wrote:
As a self-confessed white girl who loves Indian guys, can I ask a kinda gross question?
So..*ahem* as a general rule... what do Indian guys prefer as far as bikini lines go? Hair, none at all or just a little bit of "grooming?"
I don't expect you to speak for the whole subcontinent but some guidance would be nice ;-)
White girls are hella sexy and nice.
i indian and i have a white girlfriend!
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1813 Feb 13, 2010
jjj wrote:
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White girls are hella sexy and nice.
i indian and i have a white girlfriend!
White girls have become a 4th world race. Nobody wants them. Indians born and bred in uk dont want them, only desperate sexually deprived guys want them.
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1814 Feb 13, 2010
jjj wrote:
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White girls are hella sexy and nice.
i indian and i have a white girlfriend!
You are either a white girl or an indian FOB
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1815 Feb 13, 2010
jjj wrote:
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White girls are hella sexy and nice.
i indian and i have a white girlfriend!
Go to Youtube and see how much everyone hate white girls.
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1816 Feb 13, 2010
jjj wrote:
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White girls are hella sexy and nice.
i indian and i have a white girlfriend!
White girls seem nice now because it has become fashionable to date indian guys. Indian guys are seen as the top most exotic and good looking men in the world at the moment!
apogee

Glasgow, UK

#1817 Feb 13, 2010
Just in the past year I've heard about half a dozen white girls say something like; I wasnt attracted to Indian guys before but I like them now
adorable guy

Jatni, India

#1818 Feb 14, 2010
thts absolute bulshit.... thts not because u r an indian girls dont like to talk to u but may be u boring nature makes them so.......
Xeee

Portland, OR

#1819 Feb 14, 2010
Uhhh, isn't that funny you say that! As it sounds you are acting the same way as you accuse this person of being! How interesting.
apogee wrote:
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Me frustrated? LMAO if you say so canadian immigrant! Dude I heard in Canada the Indians try so hard to blend in with Canadians that they act snobbish and racist towards other Indians!?!?! why is that, dude? Are Indians in canada Retarded?
Sunny

United States

#1820 Feb 14, 2010
I'm an indian guy and have always dated american girls.Com e on people, race is no issue. We're all human beings and have feelings. So whats the big deal? and not to mention, the world is mixing right about now.
Spencer says

New York, NY

#1821 Feb 14, 2010
Disgusting animal, perhaps its only the trash you can pick up who are being paid, essentially hookers, idiot.
Tony wrote:
Hey bro, white american girls suck anyone, so thats bullshit
Spencer says

New York, NY

#1822 Feb 14, 2010
Agreed its not about race, American women are not idiots, we take dating serious. If you are honorable then show it, like any woman she wants respect and be introduced to your family..then you have a chance , why do you want to be an American but dont want to marry one...have you told your parents or family, if not dont bother and go back to India
Sunny wrote:
I'm an indian guy and have always dated american girls.Com e on people, race is no issue. We're all human beings and have feelings. So whats the big deal? and not to mention, the world is mixing right about now.
Spencer says

New York, NY

#1823 Feb 14, 2010
IF so...then why not leave the U.K and go back to India.
apogee wrote:
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Go to Youtube and see how much everyone hate white girls.
Spencer says

New York, NY

#1824 Feb 14, 2010
How interesting your posts, love to see a picture of you, perhaps you are frustrated and ugly , lol...Yes, so rare and wonderful thats why they are all over the magazines, they are soooo wanted.lol...unlike your ugly nasty attitude so sad...and tell me have you are you a girl or chap, ever had sex with a white girl, then you will never ever ever ever go back to dark meat.lol....
apogee wrote:
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White girls have become a 4th world race. Nobody wants them. Indians born and bred in uk dont want them, only desperate sexually deprived guys want them.
TARA IN JERSEY CITY

Coatesville, PA

#1825 Feb 14, 2010
Indian Techie wrote:
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The local Hindu temple has plenty of evening and weekend classes
Just sign up and you can meet lots of Indians
My local hindu temple has no such classes and most of the Indians atending arti there are old uncles or aunties. Any other suggestions?
JustAnotherIndia nGuy

Oakland, CA

#1826 Feb 15, 2010
Can't agree more with Girl from Oz. Taking a relation with a non-indian seriously is almost impossible for most of us. And I have seen very few who did that.

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