The man

Houston, TX

#91 May 26, 2013
JasonFMW wrote:
Hello,
I didnt know where to get answers for a question I have. Please if anybody can give advice it would make things so much easier.
I'm a 15 yr old non-Muslim male, I believe in God but not the Bible, church, etc. There is this Muslim girl who rides my bus, I find her very beautiful and cant stop thinking about her. I think its because 1. She's so pretty. 2. The Islamic way of life. 3. And that, from what I've read, she looks decent and respectable + high moral values.
I dont know how to approach her, or even if she is able to dare me, I've read some stories of Muslim female w/ non-Muslim male. Just hoping someone can give advice as to what to do or say. I'm always polite and let her get off bus first in hope that she might say something to me, but she just smiles at me. I get a srong feeling though that she likes me too. Please anyone respond.
Just remember she doesn't have the same code of "politeness" or anything that you do. Also something to consider is her family. Do you know anything about her family? Looks are a very small part of the equation. Did you really want to eat Muslim food for the rest of your life? Look to yourself for happiness. Conflict breeds misery. You couldn't pay me enough to date a Muslim woman.
Malus

Oklahoma City, OK

#94 May 27, 2013
Muslim woman aren't support to date not Muslim men on beliefs that the man might not let her practice her beliefs and so forth. The majority of white males are Muslim not trying to be racist but it's true in the western countries. So there u go
maryam

Fremont, CA

#95 Jun 3, 2013
I am a Muslim woman and I like my Hijab.We respect for us and men with our Hijab.We have to take off our Hijab against our husbands and I think this is right and beautiful.
Salma

Doha, Qatar

#96 Jun 3, 2013
Im middle easten i was married to an american who converted to islam, yes they find us very beautiful and its really different when it comes to respect and taking care of a husband, we do take good care of our hubby more than western woman , the first few days he was wondering why i do all that but later he came to understand its just the way we are. but, for some reason of health issues we had to divorce, we had a fantastic life though.
The man

Houston, TX

#97 Jun 3, 2013
She would have to denounce her Muslim faith to date me.
Salma

Doha, Qatar

#98 Jun 3, 2013
Im middle easten i was married to an american who converted to islam, yes they find us very beautiful and its really different when it comes to respect and taking care of a husband, we do take good care of our hubby more than western woman , the first few days he was wondering why i do all that but later he came to understand its just the way we are. but, for some reason of health issues we had to divorce.
Nabiha

Oklahoma City, OK

#99 Jun 9, 2013
Hey guys so I'm a muslim girl and I think y'all are freaking out over nothing. Not every muslim family is strict okay? You have feelings for a girl? Ask her dad/parents for her hand in marriage; not because she is their property but out of respect and appreciation. My cousin got married to a white man (who btw wanted to convert to Islam) and my whole family is supportive of him and likes him. I also am a very talkative person that needs to be told to shut up sometimes, I also love to sing and have been in choir for four years. If you have any questions or just want to know more, go find me on Instagram: nabiha_ahmad.
some arab chick

Ottawa, Canada

#100 Jun 18, 2013
JasonFMW wrote:
Hello,
I didnt know where to get answers for a question I have. Please if anybody can give advice it would make things so much easier.
I'm a 15 yr old non-Muslim male, I believe in God but not the Bible, church, etc. There is this Muslim girl who rides my bus, I find her very beautiful and cant stop thinking about her. I think its because 1. She's so pretty. 2. The Islamic way of life. 3. And that, from what I've read, she looks decent and respectable + high moral values.
I dont know how to approach her, or even if she is able to dare me, I've read some stories of Muslim female w/ non-Muslim male. Just hoping someone can give advice as to what to do or say. I'm always polite and let her get off bus first in hope that she might say something to me, but she just smiles at me. I get a srong feeling though that she likes me too. Please anyone respond.
dude just talk to her!, most Muslim chicks think white guys arn't interested and only want to date other white girls. Also Muslim chicks arn't very bold, they're traditional, so they don't do the asking out, ice breaking, etc.

To all white dudes interested in Muslim chicks, talk to them and give it a try, I know lots of Muslim girls interested in white guys they know but they're not sure if white guys wanna date them or anything. So try getting to know them, maybe being friends, then letting them know you might want something more. The wort case scenario a new friend.
muslimgirl18

London, UK

#101 Jun 19, 2013
all men have different opinions. im a 18 year old muslim girl and i personally like white men alot. there are men in this world who like muslim women and girls too (like jasonFMW), and you should just look for someone who likes your morals, and pretty much everything about you. dont think too much about people who may or may not like you.
halimah

New York, NY

#103 Jun 20, 2013
Catwoman wrote:
Ruqi, the problem is that a man shouldn't HAVE to go through a parent pr a father to date seomeone. Neither should a woman have to ask permission from her father to date if she is an adult. Women are not property and are individuals. Daddy has no right to tell her what to do as an adult. Now with that being said, sure. You want a mate who repects and likes your family and vice versa. Sign of good breeding and manners. Family can give opions on things other would have no place offering. Also age does confer wisdom so advice from them is a good thing. BUT. In the end however it is the choice of the woman. She must make the final call if she wants to date someone who has expressed interest in her. Any woman who is not ready to stand up and declare who she wants to be with, with or without Daddys permission is not yet an adult. Same with a man.
yes, you're right, it is her decision. in islam, a woman's father or brother or whoever forcing her into marrying some one she doesn't wan't to is completely not allowed and punishable by God (although many tend to overlook the fact and force marriage anyway). so yes, its her choice but he should still go up to her father first to create a good first impression and so that the father can get to know him a little better before his daughter does. at least if at the end of the day her father for his own selfish or stupid reasons doesn't allow the relationship to move forward, then it'll be between him and God and he'll be responsible for what he's said and done. if the girl likes what she sees (physically and his behavior) and wants to pursue the relationship despite her parents' disapproval, she can talk to her local imam about it and maybe she and the imam can try to convince the parents. if they're still stubborn about it, then technically, she can marry the guy and not be penalized religiously but she will have to harm her relationship with her parents. and who wants to do that: give up your whole life's relationship with your parents (the most important people in the world) for 2 months of getting to know a stranger. and is he's a rlly good guy, he wouldn't let her ruin that relationship with her parents. there are plenty of other fish in the sea but again, if she decides to marry the guy against her parent's wishes the more power to her.
halimah

New York, NY

#104 Jun 20, 2013
The man wrote:
<quoted text>
Just remember she doesn't have the same code of "politeness" or anything that you do. Also something to consider is her family. Do you know anything about her family? Looks are a very small part of the equation. Did you really want to eat Muslim food for the rest of your life? Look to yourself for happiness. Conflict breeds misery. You couldn't pay me enough to date a Muslim woman.
thats a pretty dumb thing to say. there's no such thing as "muslim food." islam is a global religion not a race
halimah

New York, NY

#105 Jun 20, 2013
yes, you're right, it is her decision. in islam, a woman's father or brother or whoever forcing her into marrying some one she doesn't wan't to is completely not allowed and punishable by God (although many tend to overlook the fact and force marriage anyway). so yes, its her choice but he should still go up to her father first to create a good first impression and so that the father can get to know him a little better before his daughter does. at least if at the end of the day her father for his own selfish or stupid reasons doesn't allow the relationship to move forward, then it'll be between him and God and he'll be responsible for what he's said and done. if the girl likes what she sees (physically and his behavior) and wants to pursue the relationship despite her parents' disapproval, she can talk to her local imam about it and maybe she and the imam can try to convince the parents. if they're still stubborn about it, then technically, she can marry the guy and not be penalized religiously but she will have to harm her relationship with her parents. and who wants to do that: give up your whole life's relationship with your parents (the most important people in the world) for 2 months of getting to know a stranger. and is he's a rlly good guy, he wouldn't let her ruin that relationship with her parents. there are plenty of other fish in the sea but again, if she decides to marry the guy against her parent's wishes the more power to her.
chaz

Fort Huachuca, AZ

#106 Jun 26, 2013
My fiancee is mulsim (sunni) and hails from Egypt. I met her there while I was a U.S. Soldier stationed there in the Sinai Peninsula. I was there as part of a multinational force whose job was to ascertain whether or not Israel or Egypt were violating their treaty. I was intially there for a year as U.S. Soldier, however, I stayed for an additonal two years as a U.S. civillian (consequently making nearly triple my previous salary and a salary nearly five times what I was making net profit as a teacher ((my normal civillian job stateside.))

While there, I met a beautiful islamic women who was a teacher by trade at a British Christian school. She also had a side job as a graphic designer. Although she lived in Cairo, I met her in Sharm El Sheikh (a resort area in the Sinai Peninsula.) We fell in love and were dating for pretty much the entirety of the time that I was there. Every six weeks, I would get to spend approximately five days with her down in Sharm El Sheikh. We fell in love and eventually had sex, thus taking her virginity.

I am now back stateside and we are in the process of bringing her over to the U.S. on a fiancee visa. Although I was raised Christian, I am for the most part agnostic. While she is muslim, she by her own admission is not very devout i.e. she doesn't really pray, has drunk alcohol before and has eaten pork, though she doesn't like it. She says that she only really recognizes Ramadan. I have made it clear that I am not converting to Islam. She should be over in the U.S. in November or December if everything goes according to plan with U.S. immigration. We will get married in a court house and have a ceremony later on after we have done some more planning. We will have a Unitarian minister do the ceremony. We have decided that we will expose our children to both religions.

We can't wait to start our married life together despite the fact that Islam forbids it, however, it is abundantly clear that such a rule is yet another way in which men seek to subjugate women in the Islamic faith.
Salma

Doha, Qatar

#107 Jun 26, 2013
Chaz..im so sorry to say that, she is just breaking the islamic rules and in the future both of you will regret bcz her parents will disown her or at least any of from family thats for sure , bcz we dont marry other than muslim..either u will have to convert or that marriage is not recognized by islam..that is the truth ..i know you will not like what i say but, the truth remain at its place. and her eating pork or having sex before marriage that is all against islam , one day when she will wakeup from the dream she will realize and im so sorry for her. if you really love her i dont think you would be happy to see she her being disowned with her family, if you really love her you would try to even understand islam..you lose nothing to try even read and understand, you should feel what pain she will be in when she wakeup from a dream that is called fake love. we muslim dont blv in love to human more than the love of CREATOR (ALLAH). so im sure she will be in pain one day so, if you really love her ..try to think of this. i know she will say a lot of things to you like, no problem i wont pray, i will eat what u eat and bla bla bla but one day really one day she will wakeup from the dream! and you will remember my words.
the heart matters

Hilliard, OH

#108 Jun 26, 2013
Muslim women are the most beautiful women. But. Just because your muslim doesnt mean your beautiful on the outside but in their heart and who they are. They have self respect, Confidence, modest. We dont have to show the world our body shape, curves. We are who we are on the inside where the truth is.
laura

San Antonio, TX

#109 Jul 2, 2013
soooooooooooo sexy
Alaa

Bexley, Australia

#111 Jul 17, 2013
Chaz wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes, her religion (islam) forbids her to marry a christian man. Realize that she is not very religious, and the only time that she prays is during ramadan. Her family is in egypt. America does not care what her religion is....we are getting legally married. We have already discussed how we are going to raise our children and we will expose them to both. With america being for the most part a christian nation, I can only surmise that our children will probably opt to remain christian. Furthermore, I really dont know how so many women that are muslim consider it a beautiful religion when all it does is seem to subjugate them.
Islam does not subjugate women, I know so many muslims who dress in western clothing and aren't so religious, besides a women doesnt have to wear a scarf and no one can force her to as it is her choice and its also forbidden to force her, although yes their are those who are too extreme, I personally feel very uncomfortable without it and its really warm in winter too in summer you dont really feel the heat coz ur so used to wearing it and my Asian friend shes atheist and I love her and she goes she plans on wearing it not for religion but becoz she wants to, and I dont think you should covert just for her but rather for god, coz whats the point you can covert but who says you would follow the Islamic practices also id like a white guy, dark hair blue eyes and dark skin too it looks really beautiful and congratulations too.
Salma

Doha, Qatar

#112 Jul 17, 2013
Alaa can i ask if you are a muslim? or do you really know about islam? who said it is anyones choice to wear hejab or not? if someone refuses or does not want to follow anything that islam says then he/she is out of islam, if someone does not want to be one then why calling himself or herself muslim? Muslim woman is forbiden to marry non muslim!! if she does she is out of islam she cannot call herself muslim while breaking the rules of islam what is the point of being muslim if all what islam says you are against it?...islam does not force anyone to be one..but it forces if you are accept it then follow what it says, as simple as that!
Alaa

Bexley, Australia

#113 Jul 18, 2013
Salma wrote:
Alaa can i ask if you are a muslim? or do you really know about islam? who said it is anyones choice to wear hejab or not? if someone refuses or does not want to follow anything that islam says then he/she is out of islam, if someone does not want to be one then why calling himself or herself muslim? Muslim woman is forbiden to marry non muslim!! if she does she is out of islam she cannot call herself muslim while breaking the rules of islam what is the point of being muslim if all what islam says you are against it?...islam does not force anyone to be one..but it forces if you are accept it then follow what it says, as simple as that!
I know and yes im Muslim but if u recall he said his wife isnt religious and only prays during Ramadan so that is one thing she isnt following so I dont believe that the others are of concern to her, but its true thats no one can force her too it is her choice to wear it and I know a women cant marry a non muslim, besides ive been wearing a scarf since I was eight and only wear skirts and maxi dresses except at home obviously and I pray and fast all the time I read quran and do so much other things too, but her faith in god is not strong enough she is not willing to follow he religion and I cannot judge her on that, god is the only judge
Muslim girls

Lachine, Canada

#115 Aug 11, 2013
JasonFMW wrote:
Hello,
I didnt know where to get answers for a question I have. Please if anybody can give advice it would make things so much easier.
I'm a 15 yr old non-Muslim male, I believe in God but not the Bible, church, etc. There is this Muslim girl who rides my bus, I find her very beautiful and cant stop thinking about her. I think its because 1. She's so pretty. 2. The Islamic way of life. 3. And that, from what I've read, she looks decent and respectable + high moral values.
I dont know how to approach her, or even if she is able to dare me, I've read some stories of Muslim female w/ non-Muslim male. Just hoping someone can give advice as to what to do or say. I'm always polite and let her get off bus first in hope that she might say something to me, but she just smiles at me. I get a srong feeling though that she likes me too. Please anyone respond.
I am a muslim girl and I think she could like youbut it is haram (meaning forbidden or something not allowed in religion) for her to date you in our religion tg only way she could be with you is through marriage and since you are 15 you are DEFINETLY to young to get married

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