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awjdpoj

Brampton, Canada

#798 Nov 24, 2010
you dumb FOBS still on this issue?

If you want to change yourself then go for it - you do you.

This GOLD guy is serious....the man posted a whole essay.
gurpinder singh

India

#800 Nov 25, 2010
tere ton wada fudu nai koi

you lost your identity
Nisha Singh

Taipei, Taiwan

#801 Nov 25, 2010
HERE IS MY STORY:
I moved to Bangalore from Punjab 6 months back for a job. Coming from a traditional sikh family i found this town a quite modern one.I was the only lady in the entire company with braided hair who used to Wear salwar kameez and used to be like an odd women out.My friends used to make fun of me.After spending 3months in my new new job I took the most difficult decision of my life ,To cut my hair.Being a sikh I have never been to a beauty parlour and had no such prior exoerience.So I took one of my friends along who is an ultra modern short haired girl from Bangalore itself.She took me to her favourite hair dresser and simple told him to give a very short wedge cut.
I was quite excited but once the hairdresser took my hair in his hand my legs started shaking and I wanted to get up and leave the place.My friend held my hand and forced me to sit.Then the hairdresser loosened up my braided hair, combed and started cutting.In half an hours time my entire hair was gone and I was left with a very short mushroom cut,which suited me brilliantly since I have a straight hair.
I felt very low for first few days and was ashamed of going to office due to the changed look.I took a leave for few days ,but then finally went to office.I was the shocked at the kind of response I got,everybody was going gaga over my new hair style.
I felt extremely happy and have decided to keep my hair short permanently.
Now I have become a pucca city girl and have started wearing western clothes in line with my hairstyle.I have also picke up the smoking habit from my boyfriend who actually initiated to smoking and i him so much that he has changed my life and took out the best out of me
sukhwant

Taipei, Taiwan

#802 Nov 26, 2010
Let me tell you something about my self,I got married to a clean shaven sikh and never knew he had such a strong fetish for hair.I come from a family of gursikhs who loved the way I looked.After marriage my husband shared with me his fantasies,he always liked and loved women in short hair.During our honeymoon in Goa he forced me to drink alchohol which I did unknowingly.I have hazy nmemories of what happened after that.He took me to a hair saloon and told the barber to cut my hair.I did not know what happened that evening,when I got up in the morning I was shocked when I ran my hand thru my hair there was nothing left.Looking at mirrir what I swa was something I couldnot believe,my wasit length hair had transformed into very short crew cut.I couldnot believe what I saw and had a good fight with my husband. Though I felt very bad that day but the fact of life is I started feeling very comfortable after that combing washing or anything.Then I realised I had fallen in love with the short hair.See how things have changed over some time ,today I cannot even imagine myself as married to a turbaned guy, because I find those moustaches and beard as very unhygeinic and ugly.As far I am concerned I have decided to keep short hair and I ensure me,my husband get a haircut atleast once a month.I actualy become a sorce of big motivation for my family as well.Inspired by me my younger brother also fought with my parents and got his hair cut.He had actually set an exmple for all bearded and turban wearing sikhs,In first day itslf he didnot only cut his hair but also shaved his beard and moustaches.What I can say is he looks far more handsome than he was when he wear turban and have beard.
ikjyot singh

Taipei, Taiwan

#803 Nov 26, 2010
hi everyone! I am sikh boy of 22yrs with knee length thick silky hairs which im planning to cut and seeking positive responce from u people please let me know what style will suits me as my face is round shaped and what should i do before getting my haircut and from where should i get my hairs cut and face shave??????????
Gold

Anand, India

#804 Nov 26, 2010
Nisha Singh wrote:
HERE IS MY STORY:
I moved to Bangalore from Punjab 6 months back for a job. Coming from a traditional sikh family i found this town a quite modern one.I was the only lady in the entire company with braided hair who used to Wear salwar kameez and used to be like an odd women out.My friends used to make fun of me.After spending 3months in my new new job I took the most difficult decision of my life ,To cut my hair.Being a sikh I have never been to a beauty parlour and had no such prior exoerience.So I took one of my friends along who is an ultra modern short haired girl from Bangalore itself.She took me to her favourite hair dresser and simple told him to give a very short wedge cut.
I was quite excited but once the hairdresser took my hair in his hand my legs started shaking and I wanted to get up and leave the place.My friend held my hand and forced me to sit.Then the hairdresser loosened up my braided hair, combed and started cutting.In half an hours time my entire hair was gone and I was left with a very short mushroom cut,which suited me brilliantly since I have a straight hair.
I felt very low for first few days and was ashamed of going to office due to the changed look.I took a leave for few days ,but then finally went to office.I was the shocked at the kind of response I got,everybody was going gaga over my new hair style.
I felt extremely happy and have decided to keep my hair short permanently.
Now I have become a pucca city girl and have started wearing western clothes in line with my hairstyle.I have also picke up the smoking habit from my boyfriend who actually initiated to smoking and i him so much that he has changed my life and took out the best out of me
This is a very motivating story and should be helpful to all those who are in a fix as what to do.
I appreciate your courage to change and accepting the change.
It has in fact delivered you form a separate look and helped your inner self merge with the people of today.
But I have one point to disagree.
You should not have taken up smoking. I know that it looks very inspiring to follow someone and then be a part of a peer group but if it is only for fun. Enjoy and then forget. If it becomes a habit then it would be difficult to kick the habit and again you will be a part of a select group.
But if you want to stick to your boyfriend and it is for life long relationship then it is best that both of you should have similar likes and dislikes.
Once again thanks for sharing your experiences and this is the prime reason the forum has been started.
Should be helpful for those who are wanting to but are not able to take the final step.
Congratulations!
Gold

Anand, India

#805 Nov 26, 2010
sukhwant wrote:
Let me tell you something about my self,I got married to a clean shaven sikh and never knew he had such a strong fetish for hair.I come from a family of gursikhs who loved the way I looked.After marriage my husband shared with me his fantasies,he always liked and loved women in short hair.During our honeymoon in Goa he forced me to drink alchohol which I did unknowingly.I have hazy nmemories of what happened after that.He took me to a hair saloon and told the barber to cut my hair.I did not know what happened that evening,when I got up in the morning I was shocked when I ran my hand thru my hair there was nothing left.Looking at mirrir what I swa was something I couldnot believe,my wasit length hair had transformed into very short crew cut.I couldnot believe what I saw and had a good fight with my husband. Though I felt very bad that day but the fact of life is I started feeling very comfortable after that combing washing or anything.Then I realised I had fallen in love with the short hair.See how things have changed over some time ,today I cannot even imagine myself as married to a turbaned guy, because I find those moustaches and beard as very unhygeinic and ugly.As far I am concerned I have decided to keep short hair and I ensure me,my husband get a haircut atleast once a month.I actualy become a sorce of big motivation for my family as well.Inspired by me my younger brother also fought with my parents and got his hair cut.He had actually set an exmple for all bearded and turban wearing sikhs,In first day itslf he didnot only cut his hair but also shaved his beard and moustaches.What I can say is he looks far more handsome than he was when he wear turban and have beard.
Sukhwant it is a very interesting and bold story. And I am sure it is true. I think that instead of using alcohol to make you hazy I think your husband should have prepared you for the haircutting experience and maybe you would have also enjoyed your first haircut. But I am glad to learn that you have settled for the short cut and I am sure you would have sported a boycut which is so convenient. I also congratulate you in inspiring you brother who would have had a secret desire earlier too and your transformation was in fact a catalyst for him
My congratulations to him for the courage and boldness and also the barber who changed him.
Many a times the barbers do not wish to unturban the boys and ask them to cut the hair themselves and then come for the styling.
And as you said there is a lot of hygiene and you are more appreciated when you have short hairs. In this busy world there is hardly time to spend on long hair. Also the parlour experience is a stress buster. Your children would love you when you would never ever ask them to sport long hair. And your bhabhi would also appreciate your inspiration to your brother and be all the more thankful and may also seek your help on going for short hair.
Perfect experience and best use of the forum.Many more people should come forward with their experiences.
Congratulations
Gold

Anand, India

#806 Nov 26, 2010
ikjyot singh wrote:
hi everyone! I am sikh boy of 22yrs with knee length thick silky hairs which im planning to cut and seeking positive responce from u people please let me know what style will suits me as my face is round shaped and what should i do before getting my haircut and from where should i get my hairs cut and face shave??????????
Forget the style. Just go and chop off the hairs and then ask the barber to give your a close buzz. This will help your hair grow naturally as up to now they were in a form which was a top knot. So the earlier you buzz the hair off the sooner the hair grow naturally and then you can choose the style. As you have mentioned that you have silky hair any wind blown style would suit you fine.
Congrats in anticipation that we will share your experience on the forum
freetobeme

Papakura, New Zealand

#807 Nov 27, 2010
I have Sihk friends and they where their turbans. I have asked them if they would prefer to have their hair shorter to lighten the load they carry on their head. They said yes but would prefer to follow the culture even though they do not always agree.
Culture is strong with many ethnicities and sometime hard to break away from if you don't beleive too strongly about certain things of the culture. Either way there are positive and negative consequences for the choice you have made because of the expectancy in your culture. I can see where your parents are coming from, it was because theu were shocked from disbeleif of what they saw when they saw you holding your ponytail. However they soon had time to settle down and reflmeect on what happened, why and where to from then.
If you are relieved with the choice you have made
because of your reasons then good but caution is needed when you start to do other things that would continue to hurt and disrespect your parents because you made a stand to cut your hair.
Enjoy your light headedness because I can understand what you are going through as a female with a head of hair.
Enjoy life, honour your parents and you will be blessed regardless of having cut your hair. This is my belief.

Since: Feb 10

Bangalore, India

#808 Nov 27, 2010
My Story: I am a sikh boy who studied till high school in my home town. During my 10th class many of my friends got a hair cut and i thought of the same and got a hair cut.

From then i moved to Bangalore for engineering. The two year i spent here i realized how i had lost my identity by cutting hair (which my non-sikh friends made me realize). The connection of turban and Punjab was lot stronger than i thought. Then after it took 1 year for me to plan and i decided to grow my hair back.

In Bangalore no one had seen earlier me with turban so all were shocked and lot of questions came and i answered them all and felt no hesitation in accepting my mistake in any discussion. I know have almost grown full hair (2 years after i started keeping my hair). The reaction of boys and girls was stunning , all the people here from different regions of India were able to understand the reason behind keeping my hair back.

Today i feel proud with added advantage of being easily noticed. I get lot of doubts here from girls about why we tie turban and all. And i happily explain them philosophy and history of my religion.
People say i am lucky to get back on this path because most people after hair cut never returned.

But still i would say do what your conscience says mine didn't take it anymore after 4 years so i reverted back maybe yours is different. Do watch a nice movie on this concept 'Ocean of Pearls'
hi-fi tarkhaan

Patiala, India

#809 Nov 29, 2010
MY STORY - from age of 12 i'd always wished for a haircut but i was never able to say that to my parents. sooner i got 17 and i forgot all the haircut craze and lived a normal and happy life. but still that will to sit on barber chair once and feel is existed in my heart somewhere.

at 18 i moved to canada. i lived 6 months with turban . girls were ok with me as i luked gud. then last summers i visited india and noticed that many girls and boys who used to have long hair a year ago already cut it. so i too decided to get them cut in india.

i booked an appointment in reputed unisex salon in patiala . call was picked up be a female nearly 20 . she told me she understands. she arranged a time when nobody was around to see me. i went in and she made me meet my hairdresser. hairdresser was also a female around age 21 maybe. i was actually shy from a female hairdresser. lollz.

then she asked me if i really wanna do this and all. then she said me not to open my hair myself. she said shes gunna do it all for me. she removed my cap. untied my hair . combed them smoothly . then gave me a head wash. her hands were magicall . lol. she dried my hair a bit. then she picked up her scissors and comb. and i was shiverring there. she just stood near me. kept her hand on my shoulder and asked me again if i wanna do this. i said i am loving it actually . she smiled a bit.

she saw that my hair growth was good and i could get a style first time only. so she decided to do it with scissors. she just touched her scissors with my hair near my back neck. and slight of them fallen down. i was gunna cry in joy.

then she combed and cut and repeated the same. she cut all my back hair . then she moved towards front hair. she combed them over 2 sides in front. that was the time when i last saw myself with long hair. she set my head in a position with her soft hands. she started cutting left side hair slowly. i could easily see them falling on my arm and shoulder amoothly making my enjoy a lot. she repeated the same with right side. when all my hair were cut short i was like hawwwwwww !!! but she said me not to worry. shes there.

she then styled them well according to first time. she used clippers for back head. when she was styling my hair i was seeing more at her than my hair. when she ended i saw myself with a really gud hairstyle. i reached the world of ultimate joy. i saw my hair pieces on myself. she removed the apren and cleaned my neck with brush. i felt as if this was the day i was born for.

after that my hairdresser told me her name and that shes also sikh and had cut hair . now whenever i come to india i get it done from her and she does it sooo smoothly. i often talk her on net and phone. and shes a gud and nice friend to me.

i started going gurudwara more than earlier and do sewa in nagarkirtans . i feel myself a proud sikh inspite of getting haircut. i enjoy both sikhi and modern world and im proud of it.
hi-fi tarkhaan

Patiala, India

#810 Nov 29, 2010
do tell me your views ........thanxx !
Gold

Pune, India

#811 Nov 29, 2010
hi-fi tarkhaan wrote:
MY STORY - from age of 12 i'd always wished for a haircut but i was never able to say that to my parents. sooner i got 17 and i forgot all the haircut craze and lived a normal and happy life. but still that will to sit on barber chair once and feel is existed in my heart somewhere.
at 18 i moved to canada. i lived 6 months with turban . girls were ok with me as i luked gud. then last summers i visited india and noticed that many girls and boys who used to have long hair a year ago already cut it. so i too decided to get them cut in india.
i booked an appointment in reputed unisex salon in patiala . call was picked up be a female nearly 20 . she told me she understands. she arranged a time when nobody was around to see me. i went in and she made me meet my hairdresser. hairdresser was also a female around age 21 maybe. i was actually shy from a female hairdresser. lollz.
then she asked me if i really wanna do this and all. then she said me not to open my hair myself. she said shes gunna do it all for me. she removed my cap. untied my hair . combed them smoothly . then gave me a head wash. her hands were magicall . lol. she dried my hair a bit. then she picked up her scissors and comb. and i was shiverring there. she just stood near me. kept her hand on my shoulder and asked me again if i wanna do this. i said i am loving it actually . she smiled a bit.
she saw that my hair growth was good and i could get a style first time only. so she decided to do it with scissors. she just touched her scissors with my hair near my back neck. and slight of them fallen down. i was gunna cry in joy.
then she combed and cut and repeated the same. she cut all my back hair . then she moved towards front hair. she combed them over 2 sides in front. that was the time when i last saw myself with long hair. she set my head in a position with her soft hands. she started cutting left side hair slowly. i could easily see them falling on my arm and shoulder amoothly making my enjoy a lot. she repeated the same with right side. when all my hair were cut short i was like hawwwwwww !!! but she said me not to worry. shes there.
she then styled them well according to first time. she used clippers for back head. when she was styling my hair i was seeing more at her than my hair. when she ended i saw myself with a really gud hairstyle. i reached the world of ultimate joy. i saw my hair pieces on myself. she removed the apren and cleaned my neck with brush. i felt as if this was the day i was born for.
after that my hairdresser told me her name and that shes also sikh and had cut hair . now whenever i come to india i get it done from her and she does it sooo smoothly. i often talk her on net and phone. and shes a gud and nice friend to me.
i started going gurudwara more than earlier and do sewa in nagarkirtans . i feel myself a proud sikh inspite of getting haircut. i enjoy both sikhi and modern world and im proud of it.
i am pleased to read your story.
It is so good that you could get to do what you wanted and the experience was from an experienced person. I am also happy to read that the hairdresser was from a sikh family and could empathize with you and in the same time also help you achieve what you wanted. We need more of such persons.
I am sure you would never ever go back to the long hair stage and are at comfort with yourself. Also you would be more acceptabel with the society.
How did people react to your makeover?
Are you comfortable?
Go ahead with your freindship and wish you all the best.
Help deliver more boys and girls from htis dilemna
Love
hi-fi tarkhaan

Patiala, India

#812 Nov 30, 2010
well as i already said that my hair growth was well so people were amazed . especially my friends. some of my friends (girls) even wanted to touch my hair. and they did too. im very much comfortable without heavy pagg and squeezed ears. and where going to long hair again is concerned ,i just dont know. i dont think my friends will like me with beard and pagg again as all of them themselves cut hair. i'm hapy to be one of them. sitting on barber chair for a sikh is really joyable. every sikh will love his or her hair falling down. but neither do i think that just for the sake of short time fun we should cut hair. so im neutral. i dont encourage someone to cut hair. neither do i discourage. i just say if u really wanna enjoy then your place is on barber chair and ur hair in the scissors.
Gold

Pune, India

#813 Nov 30, 2010
Good response. And I am sure it has helped some more who seek insipration form the forum to decide. You have rightly said that if you want to enjoy, then the place is in the barber's chair and the way they treat you is soooo special. It is not that we encourage of discourage anyone but seeing us change people are encouraged to try and then they enjoy. Also girls love it. It is actually so cool - literally and figuratively.
Good luck with your comfortable life and enjoy.
Thanks hi-fi for responding
Rajneet Kaur

Delhi, India

#814 Nov 30, 2010
u r so stupid man & ur sister also who told u that u r very smart.u think if u cut ur hairs then u looking very smart that is ur mistake......its a big mistake u birth in a gursikh family.....shamless.....shame. ...shame....shame....who r not true for our religion he is not true for anyone..........

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#815 Dec 1, 2010
Rajneet Kaur wrote:
u r so stupid man & ur sister also who told u that u r very smart.u think if u cut ur hairs then u looking very smart that is ur mistake......its a big mistake u birth in a gursikh family.....shamless.....shame. ...shame....shame....who r not true for our religion he is not true for anyone..........
truly said rajneet. for a short while of fun people should not sacrifice their religion. i almost left commenting on this topic cuz i know that people like gold will never understand that.

and mr. tarkhaan : u havent answered if u will ever like becoming turbaned again.
velly jatt

Mumbai, India

#816 Dec 1, 2010
SHAME ON U MR.TARKHAN ,SALLYA TRAKHANA OKAT VEKHA DITTI TU APNI AAH STORY LIKH KEY,TUSI SALEY TARKHAN HUNDEY HI GADDDAR O,BHENCHODA JE TU BALL KTWAYE HI AA TAA ITHEY KYU APNI RAMYAAN LIKHI JAANA .SHRAM KRO OYE APNEY HI DHRAM NU KHORA LAUN LAGGEY O ,AND AAH PERSONAL CHOICE HUNDI BNDEY DI HAIR RAKHNEY AA KEY KTAUNEY AAA ,AND U MR.GOLD ,BNDAA BAN JAA TUVI VAISEY SIKHAN NU TUHADEY WARGEY GADDARA TU KOI BOHTA FARAKKK NEI PAINDA

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#817 Dec 1, 2010
velly jatt wrote:
SHAME ON U MR.TARKHAN ,SALLYA TRAKHANA OKAT VEKHA DITTI TU APNI AAH STORY LIKH KEY,TUSI SALEY TARKHAN HUNDEY HI GADDDAR O,BHENCHODA JE TU BALL KTWAYE HI AA TAA ITHEY KYU APNI RAMYAAN LIKHI JAANA .SHRAM KRO OYE APNEY HI DHRAM NU KHORA LAUN LAGGEY O ,AND AAH PERSONAL CHOICE HUNDI BNDEY DI HAIR RAKHNEY AA KEY KTAUNEY AAA ,AND U MR.GOLD ,BNDAA BAN JAA TUVI VAISEY SIKHAN NU TUHADEY WARGEY GADDARA TU KOI BOHTA FARAKKK NEI PAINDA
very well said about both of them but dont say all tarkhans bad. im also a tarkhan and favouring turban :P
abdulqudoos

Santa Clara, CA

#818 Dec 1, 2010
Maino ik piyar chaiyay zindgi k liyay

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