hair cut stories of sikh boys and girls
Ravzilla

Pleasant Hill, CA

#44 Dec 7, 2009
I grew up in a very religious family. Kept my hair and beard long until the begining of college, which was difficult because I swam competitively and had to wash it out every night. I now have shoulder length hair and a very neat beard and still wear a turban. Here's my take on the hair, turban, sikhism debate:
- while i understand that we (sikhs) come from a very conservative society which values the continuation of tradition we are also very short sighted about the nature of world at large. Having being called a terrorist/osama/muslim and not having any girlfriends or even many same gender friends have all taken a toll on me emotionally. I have been depressed for a long time. I, and other sikhs in my position, have had it hard in the sense that we have to fit into the molds that both our families and our society cast for us. I am an atheist for purely scientific reasons but I personally believe that hair/turbans/your level of religious beleif should be a matter of personal choice when you are an adult. I, from personal experience, know that having to live a split life and not feeling that you inside are not the person you see in the mirror can take a heavy toll on a person. Similarly: hair, biologically, is the same as our nails (keratin) which we all, i hope, cut. My final bone to pick is with the hypocrisy of so called highly conservative women in our society which ultimately led me to shorten my hair lenght: these women all shave their armpits and legs, have hair lazer-removed from thier faces without being called out while I got a lot of garbage for just trimming my beard. The explanation i got for this was that its ok because all women in society value shaved armpits and legs; well men value short hair and a professional image in society too but dont get preferential treatment in dealing with it. I still wear a turban but am strongly considering getting rid of it. im not judging you, i expect you to offer me the same courtesy. this is my rant, thanks for listening. sorry about the wall of text.
Confusd

Netherlands

#45 Dec 7, 2009
Hey i think ur in same position i am, the society shouldnt rule our live all we need is wahwguru. We are in this "joeni" of our mistakes but now we got the chance and waheguru will help us. He will attach us to his colours and look and He will give us gyan to understand.
Im a girl and its hard not to shave. U can cover it by wearing long clothes but when im having pe and ive to change im emberesed. I always wear a pajami so they cant see it. Its a hard road but the most blessfull way this is why we are living. Im on my way....
Ravzilla

Pleasant Hill, CA

#46 Dec 7, 2009
Ummm, what didn't you understand about me being an atheist? Everyone seems to say that following god is the answer but I've already proven to myself that the existence of a higher being is unlikely. I completely understand and respect where these people are coming from, having personally grown up in an orthodox family, but their logic regarding god and the keratin that grows on our bodies is ultimately flawed in my opinion. I have lived in their world long enough, 22 years, to understand it completely, but am given a lot of trouble/ resistance when even bringing up my opinion. I find it to be childish to ignore absolute facts when they are staring you in the face, but that is only my opinion. May logic bless you all.
Confusd

Netherlands

#47 Dec 12, 2009
If thats ur believe i wont say anything
God is the only judge and i hope he will make u realise his path is right..
manjeet

Stroud, UK

#49 Dec 14, 2009
i am also a sikh and i am not religious but my family think they are in sikhism u are not allowed to eat meat and drink and cut your hair. my parents drink and eat meat but dont believe in cutting there hair i really get upset cas i live in a white area and i use to get bullied cause of my beard and turban. and i have just turned 18 and i am seriously thinking of cutting my hair
Confusd

Netherlands

#51 Dec 16, 2009
Pleasee dont make the mistake. Do ardaas and ask to help tru rough times. Was all the sacrifising od gurus not enough to make beliebve:DONT CUT HAIR
Waheguru de lar lago. Let the gore make fun they will get punished.
Bhul chuk maaf
Ravzilla

Pleasant Hill, CA

#52 Dec 18, 2009
Wait so your parents believe that eating meat and drinking are ok but have a problem with you cutting your hair? Sounds a bit hypocritical to me personally. To confused: god is too busy not existing to "show me the way". You truly are confused if you think stuffing more religious bs down our throats is helping on a forum for people who are having trouble specifically due to their appearance due to their religion. I doubt you would understand this though as women in our society are alloted dual identity because they are not singled out in public the way men are due to wearing a turban. You are accepted in society at large and are preaching to people who have it worse than you because they are not. Cut it out, stop talking about things you have no idea about before someone puts you in your place worse than I just did.
Confused Girl

Singapore, Singapore

#53 Dec 19, 2009
Hi...I'm at twelve year old Sikh girl. I have been paranoid with this topic for so long that I decided to Google it. My mother is an Amritari so she would be terribly hurt if I ever remove hair. I told her that I wouldn't cut the hair on my head but remove it from some parts of my body. She was really upset. She told me no. I told her I would still do it and now this topic is really a sore topic with us. I don't want to turn my back on my religion, but the world we live in is modern today. I agree that Sikhs are brave lions and all, but I am absolutely confused here. I haven't done it and I'm scared to. My mother told me something that I can't reveal so I will just tell you, the thing she told me is playing a big part in stopping me. I need help BIG TIME. Thanks ~
herman singh

Delhi, India

#54 Dec 21, 2009
well i am sorry miss prabhjyot........my mistake......but still proud of u......we need girls like u in our religion.if all the sikh girls think like u.sikhism might prosper.n i hope u continue ur thinking in the future too...well for u ravo i think ur a bitch........dont dare to say anything against sikhism....go fuck off........n one more word against sikhism n ill beat ur ass off....do watever u like but no word against sikhism........well keeping the hair is basic......n those who dont dont keep there hair r not sikhs.....let me make it very clear to you jessie that if keeping hair really hurts you or it hurts ur self esteem.......then think about the gurus.....n many shaheed sikhs......i hope that all the people behind this blog n the ones supporting it really understand n get there check up.......coz one day ur gonnareally feel guilty
sat sri akal
wahe guru ji ka khalsa wahe guru ji ki fateh
prabhjot pannu

Hollywood, FL

#55 Dec 21, 2009
herman singh wrote:
well i am sorry miss prabhjyot........my mistake......but still proud of u......we need girls like u in our religion.if all the sikh girls think like u.sikhism might prosper.n i hope u continue ur thinking in the future too...well for u ravo i think ur a bitch........dont dare to say anything against sikhism....go fuck off........n one more word against sikhism n ill beat ur ass off....do watever u like but no word against sikhism........well keeping the hair is basic......n those who dont dont keep there hair r not sikhs.....let me make it very clear to you jessie that if keeping hair really hurts you or it hurts ur self esteem.......then think about the gurus.....n many shaheed sikhs......i hope that all the people behind this blog n the ones supporting it really understand n get there check up.......coz one day ur gonnareally feel guilty
sat sri akal
wahe guru ji ka khalsa wahe guru ji ki fateh
ummm... don't use those words, plz
prabhjot pannu

Hollywood, FL

#56 Dec 21, 2009
herman singh wrote:
well i am sorry miss prabhjyot........my mistake......but still proud of u......we need girls like u in our religion.if all the sikh girls think like u.sikhism might prosper.n i hope u continue ur thinking in the future too...well for u ravo i think ur a bitch........dont dare to say anything against sikhism....go fuck off........n one more word against sikhism n ill beat ur ass off....do watever u like but no word against sikhism........well keeping the hair is basic......n those who dont dont keep there hair r not sikhs.....let me make it very clear to you jessie that if keeping hair really hurts you or it hurts ur self esteem.......then think about the gurus.....n many shaheed sikhs......i hope that all the people behind this blog n the ones supporting it really understand n get there check up.......coz one day ur gonnareally feel guilty
sat sri akal
wahe guru ji ka khalsa wahe guru ji ki fateh
i don't feel confortable when people say those words... and its ok
Ravzilla

Pleasant Hill, CA

#57 Dec 22, 2009
I don't care anymore. In terms of threatening me with violence I would love to see you try to fight me, bring it on pussy, I could beat you down so hard your ancestors would feel it. Back to the issue: the main point I'm trying to make is that you're only given one life (whether that is a result of god or chance is debatable). What you do with your life is up to you. I'm going to leave it at that, nuff said. Peace to all.... except for herman singh.
herman singh

Kottayam, India

#58 Dec 27, 2009
well if any body feels bad about my words then i really apologise.......well i cant tolerate any body saying anything against my religion........well razvilla for u i just want to say that u dont need to care for me coz i wil definetely get peace coz im true to my religion........people here who cant even keep there hair who r not true to there religin how can they be true to anybody......these people cant be trusted as they r not true to there religion..........well my words might hurt everybody out here.........but thats the way ot goes.......well if anybody here wants to fight.......then i tell him that im a khalsa n im scared of nobody except the akal purakh........i know the people against me right now might be someday definetely wid me......so no problems
sat sri akal
wahe guru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh
vin_dhillon

Malaysia

#59 Dec 28, 2009
I am a sikh boy who had a turban for 27 years of my life. on the day i finished college, my girlfriend gathered my waistlenght hair into a braid and cut it off.i didn't askher to do it because of looks or trends, i asked her to do it for me, for it was what i wanted. it was the most liberating thing i had done
prabhjot pannu

Hollywood, FL

#60 Dec 29, 2009
this really isn't going anywhere... i have really thought over n' over. i think it's just a waste of time if harman doesn't respond to any of my messages. I really don't want to fight anymore, other people are just not listening. by the way... thx to all the people that took my side.
prabhjot pannu

Hollywood, FL

#61 Dec 29, 2009
Confusd wrote:
Hey i think ur in same position i am, the society shouldnt rule our live all we need is wahwguru. We are in this "joeni" of our mistakes but now we got the chance and waheguru will help us. He will attach us to his colours and look and He will give us gyan to understand.
Im a girl and its hard not to shave. U can cover it by wearing long clothes but when im having pe and ive to change im emberesed. I always wear a pajami so they cant see it. Its a hard road but the most blessfull way this is why we are living. Im on my way....
itz da same here, but i'm still living
herman singh

Pune, India

#62 Dec 30, 2009
well prabhjyot giving up isnt the way sikhs do it..........well i think its our responsibility to help our brothers n sisters who r going the wrong way......u have opposed this blog from the beginning so why give up now........we might be gettin less support here but still we can continue till all the people here realise the true meaning of keeping hair n maintaing there true identity as sikhs........
may wahe guru bless u
sat sri akal
jp singh

Phoenix, AZ

#63 Jan 1, 2010
i am from sikh family. my family member make me hair cut.why i cut my hair.new year i went to guru ghar,i feel so bad,i realise that. I need help to grow my hair,please tell how.I do guru granthji path every other day.
SusanDianeMurphr ee

United States

#64 Jan 1, 2010
Religion is merely a brainwashing tool rewritten by those who wish to control the masses and it is always used more as a WEAPON of FEAR than as a tool to soothe and restrain unsuitable behavior. My son has done quite the opposite, he's trying to grow his pony tail to his ankles!(I don't like men who have longer hair than myself, by the way and mine is short due to my age and convience.)
SusanDianeMurphree/Marianna,Ar kansas/Jan01,2009
ravo

Aberdeen, UK

#66 Jan 1, 2010
shut up idiot youre to much i dont wear a turban i shave i eat meat and drink im only 16 and also i dont follow sikhism honestly it is bullshit so would you call be a siks as you know everything

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