BALVINDER SINGH

Ashburn, VA

#4461 Apr 25, 2014
harman singh wrote:
i tell u my story as i came from traditional gursikh family and find turban as a burden and from last 3 years i was planning to cut my hairs but never done dat coz i know this will creat mess in my house but on 20 sep this year when i was tying my turban got in argue with my father as we are getting late for shop and i am have problem with my turban as i was not able to tie it and my father was shouting with me then i came to my sister's room from where i took seccior made ponytail and chopped it all ( that time my hairs are butt length) ant i cut it till my neck after coming back to lobby everyone is shocked the saw the pony in my hand and i said that from now we will reach to shop on time after dat i gone to saloon for styling and got my face shave. my parents didnt talked to me for 1 week after dat every thing is normal my sister told me dat i look more smart now and im also feeling very relax and from now onwards im not going to keep my hairs back & now i can smoke in open as erlier i used to smoke in lonly place.
shamless u cut ur respect....u are such a big fool...
Brother

Delhi, India

#4463 Apr 25, 2014
Hello Sir,
good to read all this. Iam 21 years old guy, frm a sikh family where there is a lot of importance of keeping hair. I don't have much hair growth as my father also has almost a bald head. I have very light hairs which extend to little below my shoulders.
The problem that i face is from wearing turban. I am not able to tolerate it for more than two hours, as it severely pains in my ears. I have tried wearing it in a loose manner, but only a tightly tied turban looks good and your face looks confident.
and my ears pain like hell. I wanted to cut my hairs from quiet a long time, but i feel it is very difficult for me to face all my teachers and family members with my new look. All my school teachers, my college teachers, my acquaintances, my juniors who have loved me soo much, will gonna hate me. My parents will be hurt a lott..I feel like quitting this decision of cutting hairs, but again , everytime i wear turban, and everytime when it pains, i am not able to tolerate it. Specially in the hot weather, when u are out frm home for 9 hrs. Iam in a fix.

Frankly speaking, i have a very less beard(almost negligible) as compared to people of my age. And for a sikh, who doesnt have a beard to show, it is again very bad. I look soo young amongst my colleagues.
Iam soo confused, cant take a decision. I think, any religion is all about being true to people, sabda bhala karna, helping others, and doing good deeds. I dont noe what hairs have a role to play in. Please advise me.
khoji sikh xyz

Dallas, TX

#4464 Apr 25, 2014
vaalan diyan doe naavan-- kai sikh puchde hun ki oh sabh ki hai -- har gufa vaaja payon nau dvare pragat dasva gupat gurudvare anek roup nau navnidh ant n payea nanak -- guru gyan diyan gallan hundiyan hun -- only for -- kot madhey ko virla sevak hor sagle beohaari -- antanjaami dibdrishti saalgraam 2 kla samrath beant bal vagereh rebuild -- azaadi -- th kn of tn su to hf sk an hf oth pe on -- 50 50 or 40 40 20 --rebuild bhul di khima --rebuild
TT kaur

Ludhiana, India

#4465 Apr 27, 2014
Hi everyone...
I have been following this post since its inception.. I have been reading experiences of many sikh boys and girls who have cut their hair..
Even I am one of you people who alwayz was fascinated by haircuts.. but due to family culture, I took amrit when I was in class 10th,, I used to do paath and go to gurdwara daily but this haircutting thing was always there in me... I even used to accompany my friend to parlour to c her get her hair cut... believe me, I even trimmed her hair once... she asked me to even get mine cut but I could not because the culture in my family was very strict and everyone is amritdhari...
In my final year of college, I met a boy whom I started liking... he also liked me a lot...but the only problem was that he trimmed his beard... in this way he was not acceptable to my family..
We decided that he will not cut his beard till my parents agreed... main boht raula paya ghare k main viah karna hai taan aise munde naal hi karna hai... and now he has even stopped cutting his beard... finally, my parents agreed and I got married to this guy...
What do u all think happened next??? I leave it to u... did the boy change forever or did I cut my hair... lets discuss... what do u think should I have done???
harish

Australia

#4466 Apr 27, 2014
TT kaur wrote:
Hi everyone...
I have been following this post since its inception.. I have been reading experiences of many sikh boys and girls who have cut their hair..
Even I am one of you people who alwayz was fascinated by haircuts.. but due to family culture, I took amrit when I was in class 10th,, I used to do paath and go to gurdwara daily but this haircutting thing was always there in me... I even used to accompany my friend to parlour to c her get her hair cut... believe me, I even trimmed her hair once... she asked me to even get mine cut but I could not because the culture in my family was very strict and everyone is amritdhari...
In my final year of college, I met a boy whom I started liking... he also liked me a lot...but the only problem was that he trimmed his beard... in this way he was not acceptable to my family..
We decided that he will not cut his beard till my parents agreed... main boht raula paya ghare k main viah karna hai taan aise munde naal hi karna hai... and now he has even stopped cutting his beard... finally, my parents agreed and I got married to this guy...
What do u all think happened next??? I leave it to u... did the boy change forever or did I cut my hair... lets discuss... what do u think should I have done???
Ummm, u got ur haircut and d boy again started trimming his beard
khoji sikh xyz

Dallas, TX

#4467 Apr 27, 2014
vaalan diyan doe naavan -- sikhon te sikhniyon je koi vaal katvaun de mamle vich koi kami na reh jay te kai sikh munde kudiyan aadmi jananiyan sir janja de mamle vich puchde hun tan guru hargobind sahib da sakhi yaad ande hai --panjve guru ne baal avastha vich ohna da karayea si --hnk dtlos rebuild bhul di khima lambi sakhi hai 3750 or 375 hrp lagange dassan vich beadbi nahi karni -- rebuild azaadi th kn of tn su to hf sk an hf oth pe on 50 50 or 40 40 20 ptkpn rebuild unless majbouri kptkpn 69 samjho understand rebuild shabad-- aisa kam mule na keja jit ant pachotaiyea -te- vakht vicharey so banda hoi ----rebuild
Aadesh Singh

Delhi, India

#4468 Apr 27, 2014
Sahil Kapoor wrote:
I was born into a hindu family but my parents brought me up as a sikh as i was born after a lot of penence, so in order to thank god they made me a sikh. Our family although being a hindu goea to gurudwara and follow the teachings. The long hair never irritated me but the fact that my father was a clean shaven, my mother had a short pony, me having a patka, appeared odd. I had been such since last 13 years but wanted a haircut, but my parents wanted me to grow up more before i took any action. But my hair were not so in a goodcondition and i knew they would receed if i do wait for till i am 20-21, so haircut was the only action. Last week i as usual in the evening went to the park to play and from there went to the nearby market and entered the saloon, and ordered for a haircut. The barber denied and told me to come with my father, i told him my father himself cuts his hair and even showed him his picture , but he rold me to give my dads number so that he can ring and confirm. I gave it, he called and confirmed and to my surprise my dad told him to do whatever i say. I was very happy. He removed my patka and loosened my joora a bit and raised it to some height and cut it off with the scissors. Then he sprayed water and did his couse of ahort crop, shapes the nape and sideburns, aligned the short fringes on the forehead, cleaned the area behind the ears, gave a right partitioned haircut, gelled the hair and i was on. I really felt happy and my family is now complete. I do go to gurudwara daily, the only difference being was i had a patka earlier and now went in with a henkerchief. Life is easy now, short hair are easy and hygenic to maintain.
Hi sahil, reading your quote, i remembered mine which is some what similar, now it has been 4 years since i am having haircuts and now i am 16 years old. I was born to a sikh father and a hindu mother. My mother had a short pony while my dad had a turban but used to trim his beard while i and my younger brother had the joora on my head. The cousins whether paternal or maternal were either cut serds or hindu. During the summers of 2009, my younger brother Aakash had got a haircut as he developed some scalp allergy due to sweat so on doctors advice papa agreed for his haircut, although i knew how he managed to get that allergy by not washing his head for 5 consective months, due to dandruff and itching he developed an allergy, well that a secret, but now even aakash used to tease me because of my joora and both brothers being unlike( one having joora other having haircut) were made fun off at school, especially me. In 2010 i told my mother that i too wanted a haircut, she told me to ask my father, i told the sme to my father, to my surprise he did not deny and took me with him to a saloon. There i was a bit more surprised ehen he told tge barber to give me snd him both a haircut. I was damn excited. After the haircut i felt light and nice, father was also looking younger and since his hairline was good haircut suited him very well. Now we looked a family. When we came home mum was elated with joy seeing papa abd kept on touching papas short hair. And as u said sahil i also go to gurudwara daily but earlier went with a joora but now with a hencerchief, nithing changed in my life except confidence ease and comfort. Thanks to Aaksh and dad.
mani

Ashburn, VA

#4469 Apr 28, 2014
@TT kaur
you yourself tell what happened next ?
mani

Ashburn, VA

#4470 Apr 28, 2014
hello friends yesterday i went saloon for my new hairstyle.In morning i took bath then took breakfast. Then went to saloon with my brother.As there was opening time it was totally vacant.There were some barbers and no customers.I was first .I sat on chair.This time lady barber gave me haircut.She came with cape and wrap around me.Then i asked for style.I explained her .further i will tell you in punjabi;lady barber aayi,ohne mere vaalan nu 3 parts divide kita ,clippers fdde te sides to mere vaalan nu remove krna start krta,mere side vaal bot short hogye.last centre wle hairs di length short kiti sirf uppar vale hairs di.Neck laage hairs bs trim kite taan jo lambe ho jaan hor.At last ohne brush fdya te hairs remove kite mere utton cape utarea .i run hands on my head.i was feeling relaxed .then i paid money and came back home .i asked mom about hairstyle.she said thik ae .teri wish poori ho gyi .i was happy.i clicked snaps of mine.i am very happy and enjoying .bbie
Abhimanyu Singh

Ghaziabad, India

#4474 Apr 30, 2014
I was born into a khatri( khurana ) sikh family who were all hindus except for the bane singh. My family followed the hindu rituals like mundan, sharaads, fasting, jagratas, kundali matching etc but used to visit the gurudwara daily and do the sikh paaths and even marraiges were solemnised at gurudwaras. Someone in my great grand fathers was a sikh so in that lineage we were sikhs. But none in my family father or me or my younger brothers(2 brothers)had a joora and my mum had a short ponytail. When i was 14 and was in eighth grade my father and mother got a lot of influence into sikhism and hence got baptized as sikhs, then i and my brothers were also forced to keep long hair. It was really a turnaround difficult decision for me, but no solutions hence had to keep the joora. It took around whole one year for my hair to get neck long ( as i had crew cut with short spiked earlier) and being able to be tied into joora. When i was 16 i had hair till my back. I used to feel ugh with my look and the hygeine was totally lost as hair used to be full with sweat in summers and the joora made the hair tangled and even the joora was an obstruction in day ti day chores. By the time i was in 1st year ( 18 years) i had developed a negative feeling of my appearance and became an introvert and lost my confidence. Last week i decided to pull it all off and be myself. I straigyt away went to the saloon where i used to go when i was a child and asked for a cut and a shave. He asked me the hairstyle and i choose one. I still feel the sound of the scissors in my hair and loved the snipping sound. After an hour my face was smooth without any hair and the hair on head were light and the gelled look was somewhat making me look handsome and of course younger. When i went home parents were a bit surprised but they accepted my look. Seeing me my younger brothrers Ajay and Aakash also demanded a haircut and the very next day were their turn.
Arshdeep Singh boparai

Ashburn, VA

#4475 May 2, 2014
actually people dont know value of their hairs, they r wires which connect u to power house of guru gobind singh g, if they r not valuable then why people like bhai taru singh g perferred to get their head cut instead of hair,and its nt at all problem with hairs and nothing to do with job, u can find a sikh at every post of government and in army also. Its make u special different from others like a moon in stars, so plz keep hair and beard and be proud dnt take it as burden...

Since: Nov 13

Ashburn, VA

#4476 May 4, 2014

Since: Nov 13

Ashburn, VA

#4477 May 4, 2014
Open it once and read comment of such one person of whom you think shall be read...!!!!

Try it!!
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Shiv Singh Khanna

New Delhi, India

#4478 May 5, 2014
I belong to a kharti family where my father and mother are hindu and myself had been a sikh since my birth. I am 17 now and felt the need to cut my hair but my father and mother want me to be a sikh as i am their elder son. Reason I wanted to cut my hair was that i used to get late everyday due to my joora and turban, it almost took an hour and my school was around 1 hour from my house. So getting ready and reachiing school at 7:30 AM meant getting up at 5:AM. Moreover the long hair were a problem in maintaining and the turban made me stay away from sports as turban if it goes of my head would create a scene, and last but not the least, the jokes on my appearance and joora and nicknames like bodha, giani and baba made me feel sick and akward. Moreover my younger brother Sahil was a cut serd and he also used to pursuade parents to let me cutt of my hair. When i was 12 sahil even went on to cut my joora when i was sleeping and he had cut it all off while i woke up, my parents were futious on sahil, but i was happy, i went to a saloon nearby and got a haircut and came home, but my parents again made me grow my hair. I wanted to cut my hair and so got help from my cousin Ashish, who was my massi's son and was a hindu and was in my class, he had often told me to cut my hair and be cool with short hair like him. I went to his house last week on sunday and told him my eagerness to cut my joora, he consoled me , there were tears in my eyes, he understood my feelings and toldme to be firm with my decision. He then suggested that i should shave my beard and trimmy hair at his house so that there is no scene at the saloon, becoz generally barbers deny to cut young sikhs hair as later on their parents allege barber to ge at fault. I agreed to his plan. He maee me dit on a chair in front of the mirror, took a scissor and started trimming my beard. When ut was all clisely cropped, he took his electric shaver and adjusted it yo aclean shave and ran ig acrossmy face, in about a minute my face was smooth without any beard. Then he opened my patka and opened my joora, then took the scissors and cut thd hair from my back till my neck. Then he took me to a nearby saloon. There the barber made me sit and wear the cape. Then he asked me the style to which ashish said center partition with cropped back and sides. In around 40 mins the drill was over and i was looking awesome with short hair. The long hair on my forehead and temples was the best feeling. I looked a boy now. Sahil was pleaeed to see my look, parents were angry but they knew this will happen. I had felt the freedom of short hair when i was 12 but i revisited it today thanks to sahil for the feeling when i was 12 and ashish for todays emotions.
hahahahah

Howrah, India

#4479 May 7, 2014
Raman Preet Singh wrote:
Open it once and read comment of such one person of whom you think shall be read...!!!!
Try it!!
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can you please tell me how to tie a turban, like in this pic?

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Puneet Sethi

New Delhi, India

#4480 May 7, 2014
I belong to a sikh family, i hv grandfather mother and a younger sister. My father died when i was 10. He was a cut serd while my mother was a gursikh, but i had short hair since my birth and my sister puneeta had a mushroom cut. But after his death my mother wanted me to be a complete sikh and hence she made me and my sister grow our hairs. By the time i was 12 and puneeta was 10 i had a joora and patka and she had a waist length braid. The feeling was ok but not bad. With the passage of time puneeta wanted a haircut since all ger friends had short hair, so she started trimming her hair without telling mom, but in her enthusiasm he reduced the hair length till her back. But mum was ok with it as she noticed and scolded her once to which puneeta said that due to split ends she did it do that hair can grow longer. I was 18 by that time and i also grabbed the event and started trimming my beard, mum was ok with it but then i started shaping my beard whereby i used to shave off till my cheeks and below my chin and used to keep a stubble on the face. But all went well, last year when i was 19 in the morning as usual while i was shaving my under chin in a spur of moment had a look on my joora and opened it. I took a scissors combed the joora towards front and started cutting the hair, then next i combed the hair backwards, the hair were neck length. Then i instead of the stubble shaved off the beard entirely. Then i went to a nearby saloon and got a haircut. It was fun and today i rediscovered myself after 8 years of long hair. Puneeta now supports a mushroom cut and i have a center partition haircut and a tiny pony the back.
TT Kaur

Chandigarh, India

#4481 May 8, 2014
Hey, u didn't tell he did ur sister punee ta cut her hair again??
U encouraged her??
Puneet Sethi wrote:
I belong to a sikh family, i hv grandfather mother and a younger sister. My father died when i was 10. He was a cut serd while my mother was a gursikh, but i had short hair since my birth and my sister puneeta had a mushroom cut. But after his death my mother wanted me to be a complete sikh and hence she made me and my sister grow our hairs. By the time i was 12 and puneeta was 10 i had a joora and patka and she had a waist length braid. The feeling was ok but not bad. With the passage of time puneeta wanted a haircut since all ger friends had short hair, so she started trimming her hair without telling mom, but in her enthusiasm he reduced the hair length till her back. But mum was ok with it as she noticed and scolded her once to which puneeta said that due to split ends she did it do that hair can grow longer. I was 18 by that time and i also grabbed the event and started trimming my beard, mum was ok with it but then i started shaping my beard whereby i used to shave off till my cheeks and below my chin and used to keep a stubble on the face. But all went well, last year when i was 19 in the morning as usual while i was shaving my under chin in a spur of moment had a look on my joora and opened it. I took a scissors combed the joora towards front and started cutting the hair, then next i combed the hair backwards, the hair were neck length. Then i instead of the stubble shaved off the beard entirely. Then i went to a nearby saloon and got a haircut. It was fun and today i rediscovered myself after 8 years of long hair. Puneeta now supports a mushroom cut and i have a center partition haircut and a tiny pony the back.
Pavneet

India

#4482 May 8, 2014
Hi everyone.. M a 26 year old Sikh guy who loves a Hindu girl. She also loves me. But our parents are not agreeing to us getting married. She says that she will keep cutting her hair even after marriage te baccheya de v vaal nahi rakhne.. She has got shoulder cut hair now with bangs... She says she can grow her hair out a bit but can't stop cutting them completely...
Even for children she says k she will cut their hair from day 1... She even told me k after marriage, she will trim my hair and beard short. Vaal te daadhi choti v ho jayegi but I can keep tying turban and beard, but with shortened length and kise nu pata v nahi laggega...
I m confused now... What to do... Can't leave her just the sake of hair...
Gurjyot Singh

Delhi, India

#4483 May 9, 2014
Pavneet wrote:
Hi everyone.. M a 26 year old Sikh guy who loves a Hindu girl. She also loves me. But our parents are not agreeing to us getting married. She says that she will keep cutting her hair even after marriage te baccheya de v vaal nahi rakhne.. She has got shoulder cut hair now with bangs... She says she can grow her hair out a bit but can't stop cutting them completely...
Even for children she says k she will cut their hair from day 1... She even told me k after marriage, she will trim my hair and beard short. Vaal te daadhi choti v ho jayegi but I can keep tying turban and beard, but with shortened length and kise nu pata v nahi laggega...
I m confused now... What to do... Can't leave her just the sake of hair...
Look man I also have a girlfriend and she loves me alot, I'm a sikh and she's hindu. We both love each other alot. In our recent conversation I told her not too cut her hair she agreed to it. She said I'm hindu and after marriage I'll become a sikh. So then I cant cut my hair and all.
I just want to say you that if that girl really loved you she wouldnt say you too cut ur hair trim your breard or that about your kids.
Growup man your the blessed one you cant just leave your religion for a girl. Just take your girlfriend to gurudwara sahib tell her stories about our guru's and all.
If she really loved you she wouldn't have problem with your hair or religion.
Remember your the blessed one.
happy

Delhi, India

#4484 May 9, 2014
Hello
good to read all this. Iam 21 years old guy, frm a sikh family where there is a lot of importance of keeping hair.
The problem that i face is from wearing turban. I am not able to tolerate it for more than two hours, as it severely pains in my ears. I have tried wearing it in a loose manner, but only a tightly tied turban looks good and your face looks confident.
and my ears pain like hell. I wanted to cut my hairs from quiet a long time, but i feel it is very difficult for me to face all my teachers and family members with my new look. All my school teachers, my college teachers, my acquaintances, my juniors who have loved me soo much, will gonna hate me. My parents will be hurt a lott..I feel like quitting this decision of cutting hairs, but again , everytime i wear turban, and everytime when it pains, i am not able to tolerate it. Specially in the hot weather, when u are out frm home for 9 hrs. Iam in a fix.
Iam soo confused, cant take a decision. I think, any religion is all about being true to people, sabda bhala karna, helping others, and doing good deeds. I dont noe what hairs have a role to play in. Please advise me.

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