Kulbir

Mumbai, India

#3251 Jan 14, 2013
We should allow our children to cut their hair as all Guru's did not want to force their opinion on anyone, they even laid down their lives to protect others right even if it was something they opposed.
Today hairs for sikhs have become new "Janehu" they are being forced by their parents to keep long hair even if they donot like them. This is similar in principal to forced conversion by muslim rulers, guru's opposed forced conversions how can any one think that they would have liked what is happening today?
No religion or ideology which is based on force has ever survived the test of time therefore we should be very careful about hairs and not force them upon our future generations.
Kulbir

Mumbai, India

#3252 Jan 14, 2013
Maninder wrote:
Ghar walea nu bde dukh pujde ae mittro
Maninder the above msg is for your parents, make them understand ur viewpoint i know they will understand.
Kulbir

Mumbai, India

#3253 Jan 14, 2013
AKJ Singh wrote:
if u cut ur hair, then ur not a sikh. Read Reht namahs. How do call urself a sikh if u dnt even follow the basic principles.
Rehat Maryada was never written by Guru Gobind Singh and the whole idea of "Rehat pyari mujhko sikh pyara nahi" is wrong as the oldest Rehat Maryada was also written down after Guruji's death, so how could Guru Gobind Singh Ji write such harsh words about sikhs for document which is non existent . The current Rehat was finalized in 1950.
Our history is not proper guide to historical facts as we all know that history is tampered with but we have Guru Granth Sahib Ji which is our great luck and accomplishment of sikhs as it was never allowed to be tempered by anyone. For our moral guidance we should look towards our eternal Guru and not some fudged historical documents and all our current problems will disappear.
Their is no specific instruction given in Guru Granth Sahib with regards to keeping long hair, on the contrary there is one shabad of Bhagat Kabir which states that you will not find God by shaving your head nor by growing long hair.
We should all try to live our lives under the blessing and moral principals of Shri Guru Granth Shahib and stop bickering our
chidlren for cutting their hair as it better for our children to be better human beings under the guidance of eternal Guru then for them to leave our religion all together.
Kulbir

Mumbai, India

#3254 Jan 14, 2013
SunnyLeLion wrote:
<quoted text>
The God is not going to punish you for cutting your hair ...
but now you cant call yourself sikh...As I said Sikhism is not only a religion but also a way of living and an Army.
In an Army you have follow a code of conduct and wear an uniform.Those who cant follow code or cant wear its uniform, cant remain in Army...
Anyway if you wants to join an Army known as Sikhs again , become brave ,kind , learn Martial Arts ,do some study about Sikhism and then start following the orders of 10th guru of sikh ,Shri Guru Gobind Singh Ji ...
Khalsa belongs to God; victory belongs to God!!!
I have heard this argument before that Sikhs are army and therefore should adhere to strict rules and wear uniforms. This argument is false as rules were not made by Guru's and nor are they mentioned in Shri Guru Granth Sahib, if Guru Gobind Singh Ji wanted he could have mentioned these rules in Guru Granth Sahib Ji as he added to Adi Granth Bani of Guru Tegh Bahadur.
According to your understanding the first nine guru's were not sikhs as they did not adhere to Sikh Rehat Maryada. I just to add one point here that bravery does not come by wearing uniforms and keeping weapons, true bravery is comes from within and by having independent thought process.
Guru Tegh Bahadur was very brave because he sacrificed his life for rightful cause and protection of humanity, he did carry any sword nor wore any uniform. Sardar Bhagat Singh was a atheist and still a extremely brave person because he struck to his ideals, his lack of faith did not make him less of martyr.
Therefore pls stop making arguments that only wearing uniforms and having faith makes you courageous and bold, even rational thinker can be as brave and as fearless as others.
sikhi

Wylie, TX

#3256 Jan 16, 2013
im a sikh girl and my hair almost reaches my knees and im 5 3. well one day i was a t walmart and this black lady saw my hair and shes like you should give me your hair. she like creeped up on me i got scared and ran to my mom. having long hair is a responsiblity not many girls can bear but the rewards are great. i never have to worry about hair styles since its always in a braid. almost every day i get compliments from someone. people also respect you since you have to take care of your hair. right now im trying to see if my hair will grow to the ground! i wanna see that. i cut off slpit ends but thats it. i love my hair cause theres a lot of people who aren't as fortunate as me and can't take of their own hair. Thank you.
Sam M

Ashburn, VA

#3257 Jan 16, 2013
I don't know why all people are cutting their hairs. but I'm for sure that one day they will regret for their shameless act :(
dhki

Howrah, India

#3258 Jan 18, 2013
Sam M wrote:
I don't know why all people are cutting their hairs. but I'm for sure that one day they will regret for their shameless act :(
no
Harpreet

New Delhi, India

#3261 Jan 25, 2013
This forum is dying !! c'mon people more haircut stories !!
anonymous

Mumbai, India

#3263 Jan 25, 2013
May i know the purpose of this forum ?
Singh

Barking, UK

#3264 Jan 25, 2013
I have turned fifteen last week and really want a haircut. I have lived in Southend for 5 years where there are loads of white people and basically our family where like the only Sikhs. I used to face bullies, racism etc. Once I asked my mum for a haircut and she said no, I don't think she told my dad that I had asked her for one. Anyway, now we have moved to London and my new school still have a majority of white kids and no Sikhs. I start school this Monday and have planned to ask my parents for a haircut tonight.(My dad has his haircut by the way and really regrets getting it cut he says its because he gets no work when he wears a turban). I can't gather up enough courage to ask them and am to scared, do you know how scary Sikh dads are. Anyway I need help and advice on how to ask them. I was thinking of sitting them down and asking them civilizedly, but its much easier to think than do... Help me please!
Singh

Barking, UK

#3265 Jan 25, 2013
... Oh, and also I wear a patka and my dad wants me to start wearing a pagh everyday, and I hate wearing them. And for some reason he doesn't mind me trimming my facial hair???
Singh

Barking, UK

#3266 Jan 25, 2013
I need answers quick please. My dad will be home soon, I'm so scared and its like now or never, i wanna start this school as just a normal guy.
Singh

Barking, UK

#3267 Jan 25, 2013
Won't anyone help?
Singh

Barking, UK

#3268 Jan 25, 2013
I can't gather up enough courage... Any tips?
Harsimran

Mumbai, India

#3269 Jan 26, 2013
my wife is willing to cut her long tresses.she is forcing me to give her permission for haircut
Gold

Jalandhar, India

#3270 Jan 27, 2013
Harsimran wrote:
my wife is willing to cut her long tresses.she is forcing me to give her permission for haircut
GREAT! It is very nice that your wife is taking the initiative of cutting her hair. And it is very genuine of her to ask your consent, Since she has made her mind of cutting her hair even if you do not support her, she will go for it one of these days. And then you will not appreciate. Support her and let her enjoy the experience of haircuts. Also you will love the 'new wifey' that you will see. Since you are living in Mumbai, it is good to get into the metro mood. It is also catching up in Punjab so why are you slow to agree. I would go a step further and suggest that you help her choose a style.
Allow her and let us share the experience of her haircuts and also how you appreciate.
Deep Kaur

Ashburn, VA

#3271 Jan 27, 2013
Harsimram : I think u should allow her to cut as she want to cut
Harsimran

Chandannagar, India

#3272 Jan 28, 2013
Gold wrote:
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GREAT! It is very nice that your wife is taking the initiative of cutting her hair. And it is very genuine of her to ask your consent, Since she has made her mind of cutting her hair even if you do not support her, she will go for it one of these days. And then you will not appreciate. Support her and let her enjoy the experience of haircuts. Also you will love the 'new wifey' that you will see. Since you are living in Mumbai, it is good to get into the metro mood. It is also catching up in Punjab so why are you slow to agree. I would go a step further and suggest that you help her choose a style.
Allow her and let us share the experience of her haircuts and also how you appreciate.
Mr/Ms Gold thanks for your advice but i am upset that how to handle the situation there are so many questions in my mind like
1) Why my wife wants to cut her long hairs?
2) who is encouraging her for hair cutting?
3) Why not she cleared it to me before marriage, that she will cut her hair in future or after marriage?
4) What will be the impact of her haircut on me? because in our family nobody cuts hair, she will be the first if she does cut her hair
5) finally people/relatives will laugh at me and they will make fun of me if my wife goes for haircut
6) How can i face my family members, as she is forcing me to take her to the saloon for haircut, so that she can told to every one that her husband took her for haircut and in this way she can indirectly put a blame on me for her haircut.
7) Mr/Ms Gold as a male if you would be a husband at my position what would you do? & and if as a female, if you would be at my wife's position what will you expect or do?.

i am so confused and upset because due to this i lost the peace of home and heart
what can i do?
Harsimran

Chandannagar, India

#3273 Jan 28, 2013
Deep Kaur wrote:
Harsimram : I think u should allow her to cut as she want to cut
thanks for advice but for me it is little awkward to imagine my wife in a haircut also there are lot of questions in my mind like
1) if she does cut her hair how will she look?
2) also she want me to go along with her so that she can put a blame on me for her haircut. I have never visited a saloon so how can i took her to saloon?
3) most importantly, how much hair they(hairstylist) cut, as my wife wants a major change but i am not in favor by heart
4) what will be the reaction of relatives? what people will think ?
i am totaly confused and stressed due to this
please suggest a solution
Kulbir

Mumbai, India

#3274 Jan 28, 2013
Harsimran wrote:
<quoted text>
thanks for advice but for me it is little awkward to imagine my wife in a haircut also there are lot of questions in my mind like
1) if she does cut her hair how will she look?
2) also she want me to go along with her so that she can put a blame on me for her haircut. I have never visited a saloon so how can i took her to saloon?
3) most importantly, how much hair they(hairstylist) cut, as my wife wants a major change but i am not in favor by heart
4) what will be the reaction of relatives? what people will think ?
i am totaly confused and stressed due to this
please suggest a solution
Hi Harsimran,
You should support your wife in her decision to cut her hair as cutting hair does not change a person from inside. Guru Nanak never laid emphasis on outer appearance, its what are you from within that matters. Your personal anxiety is arsing from her outer looks and what will others think about her. Stop caring about what others think as it a non issue as no one can make everybody happy.
Somewhere I feel that you are resisting change which is futile as "Only thing constant about change is change itself", therefore rather than fighting change you should embrace it. Talk to your wife frankly about this and tell her your personal views, your confusions will dissipate and your relationship will get stronger.

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