Should he pay maintenance for her in ...

Should he pay maintenance for her in Italy or not


Geneve, Switzerland

#1 Aug 16, 2012
I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We are madly in love and about to get married. Before he met me, he had a one week fling, with a woman in South America. It was just sex, he was not in love with her. She lied and told him she was on the pill. Nine months later, she was pregnant and demanding child care payments. He has always paid but has no interest in seeing the child. The woman abandoned the baby one month after giving birth and went to live in Italy. She has been living there the past 3 years and has not once gone back to see her child. Since then the child has been living with her parents.

Recently she wants to take the 3 year old to live with her in Italy. That means that he will have to pay at least 600 Euros per month if not more. She is asking him to sign childcare payments for a higher rate in Italy and says she will take the child to live with her there. He is not obliged to sign these papers. However, he is obliged to pay the payments in Ecuador. He has been paying 100 dollars to 200 dollars a month for childcare payments in Ecuador.

I told him not to sign the papers to transfer the child to Italy. I said to him "we will never have our own family", "you will spend you life paying for a child you didn't want and we can never afford to have our own".

So he told her he is not going to sign the papers for Italy. She must return to Ecuador and be with her child. He will continue to make the payments for the child in Ecuador.

Do you think we did right?

When he told her his decision he said "I am in love with a woman in Europe who I want to have children with. I will pay for the child in Ecuador but that's it. I am not going to sign the papers for Italy."

She replied "I don't care if you want to have other children in Europe, sign the papers for Italy you asshole".

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