Why white men hate seeing black men d...
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2889 May 1, 2013
The above post was pasted from another forum. Interesting how different people think.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2890 May 1, 2013
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by Jasmin Lee
Created on: July 12, 2010 Last Updated: July 13, 2010

Okay, first off, I am not a black man, nor am I a white woman. I am, however, an Asian woman who has grown up in an extremely diverse community and have had friends (male and female) of all different races and backgrounds. I think the reason why SOME black men (and I say "some", because it's not all) love them a white woman really depends on a lot of different reasons.



In some cases, I'm sure it has to do with them having a complex about race and being constantly brain-washed by the media (and even sub-consciously having it implied by those they come in contact with - teachers, friends, shop keepers, perhaps even their own family) that "white" and/or "light" = beauty.

So naturally, after seeing ads portraying beauty as being a blond haired, blue-eyed male/female, or having a shop keeper follow you around their store because of the colour of your skin, or having been picked on by a racist teacher even when you are not in the wrong, while the white kid beside you gets away with murder (and so on and so forth), can have a big impact on some.

This is especially true for those growing up in a home with no guidance and where they are not told just how beautiful their caramel/chocolate/ebony skin is and to be proud of who they are and where they come from. On the other hand, I also think it's very possible for a black man to be extremely confident and proud of who they are AND still be curious or find an attraction to white women.

Perhaps they just find white women more appealing physically...the only piece of advice that I have for these men is - don't close the door on black women altogether, or tell yourself , "I'll never date a black woman again" simply because you've had a few bad experiences in the past. Don't categorize all women into one group simply due to their race. Not all black women are the same, just like not all white women are the same, just like not all Asian women are the same!

We all come from different walks of life and have had different experiences and are our own unique person. You could miss out on something really special because you choose to be close-minded and stubborn. It all goes back to the same saying, "never judge a book by it's cover".

Finally, some black men end up with white women by chance...maybe he wasn't necessarily looking for a "white woman" per say, but they happened to meet and fall in love unexpectedly! Happens all the time!

Learn more about this author, Jasmin Lee.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2891 May 1, 2013
20 of 26
by Ann Lafleur
Created on: September 02, 2009 Last Updated: September 06, 2009

In general, I don't believe most black men like white woman any more than any other race.[I am a white woman who ended up living in a black neighborhood in my forties during my sexual peak, and had a blast. After a three year dry spell recovering from a divorce and horrible illness, the first man to have the gumption to sweep me off my feet was a 21 year old black guy who lived across the street; I was 42; the first time he saw me I was cussing out an obnoxious neighbor; the usual white or Asian man (ie my former husband) would have thought I was a real bbut obviously this guy was not the least bit disturbed by my sassy, blunt outburst.] During the eight years I lived in that neighborhood I made many male and female friends and this is what most black men had to say: They loved black women's butts (and the butts of the few white women who had butts like sisters. They liked women who spoke their minds.(ie the stereo typical description of a sister (a black sister). They liked pretty women of every color or shade, black, white, Asian, Latina or other. They liked sex and always tried to get it, but if they were serious about a woman and she was too easy and promiscuous they sometimes doubted she was long term relationship material (just as other men did). They seemed less afraid of rejection or of offending women than the average white guy and usually had an easy going sense of humor when approaching women (though each man was different and these stereo types didn't always apply to them or to all white men). They were willing to be friends and didn't get ticked off if you weren't interested in having sex with them.(A certain percentage of white guys seemed to get really ticked off or offended or hurt if they got sexually rejected.But this was only my own experience, not a blanket truth about anything,)
Although everyone was very diverse in temperament, and taste, many of the black men in my neighborhood who dated white women seemed to be attracted to white women who seemed more like black women than like white TV media models; they generally said they liked women who were real, easy going, graceful when they moved, sort of confident in the way they carried themselves, thick (or at least a little thick). They adored Sade, Halley Berry and the usual classic beauties like them but also said they liked women who just had a sexy aura even though they were not considered beautiful in the classical sense. They seemed more open to different body types than the average
Jon Sack

Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK

#2892 May 7, 2013
Who Dat wrote:
20 of 26
by Ann Lafleur
Created on: September 02, 2009 Last Updated: September 06, 2009
They seemed more open to different body types than the average white man
In other words, she's a chubby, middle-aged white woman - goes black when she can't get anybody of her own race to show interest anymore and then pretends it was all part of her master plan. How many times have we heard this sad story. It always ends the same way, too. Said fat white woman eventually realizes the black men she believed were really interested in her were only after her pussy!!! Shock horror. Then she goes back to being a total outcast - no longer desired by whites and can't bring herself to sleep with blacks any more. Horrible scenario.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2894 May 7, 2013
Congratulations Tiger Woods for making in back to the top. Now do what you do second best, spank blondie with nubian part of the mamba....lol

http://omg.yahoo.com/news/lindsey-vonn-tiger-...
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2895 May 7, 2013
Jon Sack

Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK

#2896 May 7, 2013
Who Dat wrote:
Congratulations Tiger Woods for making in back to the top. Now do what you do second best, spank blondie with nubian part of the mamba....lol
http://omg.yahoo.com/news/lindsey-vonn-tiger-...
It always makes me laugh that rich and famous black men always go for white women and rich and famous black women always go for white men. They think it shows everybody that they've "arrived" but it portrays the opposite message. It's like as soon as they get the chance, they ditch their own race and go for an upgrade!
Having said that, I'd help Halle Berry with her vanilla obsession any day!
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2897 May 8, 2013
Spoken like an insecure white trash male who's single.

Thanks for the post...lol
Jon Sack wrote:
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It always makes me laugh that rich and famous black men always go for white women and rich and famous black women always go for white men. They think it shows everybody that they've "arrived" but it portrays the opposite message. It's like as soon as they get the chance, they ditch their own race and go for an upgrade!
Having said that, I'd help Halle Berry with her vanilla obsession any day!

Since: May 13

Des Moines, IA

#2899 May 8, 2013
NEW PBS documentary on tonight at 10pm (EST)- May 8, 2013: "Looks At White Man's Obsession With Asian Women"

...excerpt: "caucasian men's infatuation with Asian women and explores the stereotypes that paint Asian women as sexual and submissive creatures.".

So don't forget to watch this embarrassing moment for all white men everywhere:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/07/mail...

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/seeking-asian-fe...
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2900 May 8, 2013
Thanks for the informative post!
_WaitWhat_ wrote:
NEW PBS documentary on tonight at 10pm (EST)- May 8, 2013: "Looks At White Man's Obsession With Asian Women"
...excerpt: "caucasian men's infatuation with Asian women and explores the stereotypes that paint Asian women as sexual and submissive creatures.".
So don't forget to watch this embarrassing moment for all white men everywhere:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/07/mail...
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/seeking-asian-fe...
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2901 May 9, 2013
May 6, 2013



All her life Debbie Lum, a second-generation Chinese-American filmmaker, has been hounded by men with "yellow fever" -- usually, but not always, white men with a fetish for Asian women.

So she set out to expose the men who only see the stereotypical domestic, submissive and highly sexual creature, and not the person.

In her first feature-length film, "Seeking Asian Female," which airs tonight at 10 p.m. ET on PBS's "Independent Lens," Lum gets drawn into the complicated relationship of a 60-year-old white man and his 30-year-old mail-order bride.

Lum told ABCNews.com that she found the perfect subject after searching for men with yellow fever on Craig's list and other websites. Steven, a twice-divorced garage attendant at the San Francisco Airport, has been unabashedly trolling the website Asian Asia Friend Finder for five years looking for a Chinese bride.

As the film opens, viewers learn Steven, an aging and unlikely lover with an impish grin, has had scores of relationships online, but none have panned out.

"He was my favorite character -- he had no verbal filter," said Lum. "He was basically an open book and would say the things I suspected men were thinking but had the self-consciousness not to share. He gave me incredible insight into what men were thinking. About Asian women, but it was more than that, I was drawn to his complexity as a character.

"His behavior was troublesome and bothersome to me, but I could see he had a sense of humor."

Over the course of a year as the filmmaker follows Steven, he meets Sandy, who becomes an eager pen pal. He visits her in China and Sandy agrees to come to California to marry him. Sandy speaks barely a word of English and the couple struggles to communicate -- and to get along in an apartment where Steven has lived as a bachelor for 20 years.

PHOTO: Steven and Sandy on their wedding day with Debbie Lum, director of the PBS film, "Seeking Asian Female."

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/seeking-asian-fe...
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2902 May 9, 2013
lmfao, and y'all know who I'm thinking of.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2903 May 9, 2013


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Sandy gets annoyed with the years of clutter and eventually finds evidence online of Steven's obsession with other Asian women.

Viewers watch Lum get pulled deeper into their lives as translator, psychiatrist and ultimately marriage counselor. As the turbulent relationship unfolds, the stereotypes disappear and both Steven and Sandy become real human beings coping, not always successfully, with the ups and downs of a real marriage.

Lum said she began the film more than a decade ago with a much more academic approach. "I was making a multi-character, issue-oriented film and also interviewed every expert and woman under the sun on the whole topic of 'yellow fever'-- men who find the Asian woman of their dreams."
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2904 May 9, 2013
All ethnic groups have this history of racism," Saedi told ABCNews.com . "Race in our culture and society feels very dangerous to talk about and makes us intrinsically uncomfortable. There is a national denial that of the fact that we all have this racist element to us."

Researchers at Columbia University have looked at so-called "microaggressions" -- the concept that in this age of political correctness, racism has become "very covert and subtle," she said. "An example is the Asians as the model minority, brilliant. I make the assumption that if I need help with my math problem, I go ask an Asian student."

Men who have fetishes for Asian women send an "underlying message about power, dominance and white privilege," said Saedi.

Lum, who said she grew up feeling an "invisible" minority in St. Louis, first began to notice these men while going to college on the East Coast. And now in San Francisco, which she calls "the epicenter of yellow fever," it is unavoidable.

"I can't walk down the street without meeting someone like Steven here," Lum said. "Every Asian American woman knows exactly what I am talking about. Men come up to you in a way that really looks like a stare, which lasts a bit longer than it should. You can feel it. It's like they are looking through you."

But after making the film, Lum began to see Steven as more complex person, with real emotions for Sandy. She couldn't make him a "pariah," and as she got more involved with the couple, he became "surprisingly endearing."
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2906 May 9, 2013
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2907 May 9, 2013
Lum told ABCNews.com that she found the perfect subject after searching for men with yellow fever on Craig's list and other websites. Steven, a twice-divorced garage attendant at the San Francisco Airport, has been unabashedly trolling the website Asian Asia Friend Finder for five years looking for a Chinese bride.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2909 May 9, 2013
I believe Steven above is Jon Steven Jackson.....lol
Our resident troll!
Bee

Carson, CA

#2910 May 9, 2013
Who Dat wrote:
I just want to hear other people's view on this. I personally think it's out of jealousy since white women are turning to black men more and more.
So the white man needed a new trophy woman to parade around with.
MAYBE because Asian woman are fine and the White man wants EVERYTHING, like he wanted everything else!

Since: May 13

Des Moines, IA

#2911 May 9, 2013
Bee wrote:
MAYBE because Asian woman are fine and the White man wants EVERYTHING, like he wanted everything else!
Who Dat wrote:
I just want to hear other people's view on this. I personally think it's out of jealousy since white women are turning to black men more and more.
So the white man needed a new trophy woman to parade around with.
Don't agree with you "Bee". White men want Asian women primarily because of common stereotypes of Asian women -- that they are promiscuous and are very sexual and subservient. White guys are like any other guy, they will seek out the path with the least resistance to sex. Because so many Asian women are willing to "give up the ghost" (as the saying goes) for any white man regardless of how ugly and unsuccessful he is then it is no wonder why so many white guys are in a panic.

White guys would chase after black women too but Black women seem to have more self-pride and don't want to be viewed as sex objects. And so because the path to get sex is much harder for whites they then go about putting down black women and going back to any girls who will give it up to them the easiest.

This is also why you find so MANY white men also rejecting and putting down their own White women because these white women also dont want to be treated as a sex toy. It also doesn't help that a lot of white women go for Black men which makes white men even more annoyed and find even stronger reasons to hate their own white women.

Asian women will eventually find their own self-confidence and decide that being treated as a sex toy isn't good. When that happens White men will learn to behave and start acting like a human being and not as an animal. Until then, enjoy the comical frenzy (especially in California).

I performed a test on match.com a few years ago and i chose the ugliest, fattest white guy i could find on Facebook and made a very typical unemployed, unambitious white guy and wanted to see how many interested responses i got in 1 week. About 60% of my responses came from Asian women he NEEDED to contact this made up person. I got the sense they didnt care how much of a loser this profile was all they saw was a white man porcellain doll they could mount on a wall and call their own -- even if it amounted to prostituting themselves out for years to him (and his friends) to keep him happy. Once again, its things like that, that motivate the White man to get all googly eyed over wanting (i mean: needing) any asian woman.

It is as simple as that.
Who Dat

Sugar Land, TX

#2912 May 10, 2013
You're GOT DAMMMMMM RIGHT!

If they didn't read or understood those post by me how white wash works, you've don't a good job explaining it here.

All that fuss over a slender piece of ass. Women are women. All women.
Even before I met my wife I didn't mind dating any particular race if I cared for her.
_WaitWhat_ wrote:
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Don't agree with you "Bee". White men want Asian women primarily because of common stereotypes of Asian women -- that they are promiscuous and are very sexual and subservient. White guys are like any other guy, they will seek out the path with the least resistance to sex. Because so many Asian women are willing to "give up the ghost" (as the saying goes) for any white man regardless of how ugly and unsuccessful he is then it is no wonder why so many white guys are in a panic.
White guys would chase after black women too but Black women seem to have more self-pride and don't want to be viewed as sex objects. And so because the path to get sex is much harder for whites they then go about putting down black women and going back to any girls who will give it up to them the easiest.
This is also why you find so MANY white men also rejecting and putting down their own White women because these white women also dont want to be treated as a sex toy. It also doesn't help that a lot of white women go for Black men which makes white men even more annoyed and find even stronger reasons to hate their own white women.
Asian women will eventually find their own self-confidence and decide that being treated as a sex toy isn't good. When that happens White men will learn to behave and start acting like a human being and not as an animal. Until then, enjoy the comical frenzy (especially in California).
I performed a test on match.com a few years ago and i chose the ugliest, fattest white guy i could find on Facebook and made a very typical unemployed, unambitious white guy and wanted to see how many interested responses i got in 1 week. About 60% of my responses came from Asian women he NEEDED to contact this made up person. I got the sense they didnt care how much of a loser this profile was all they saw was a white man porcellain doll they could mount on a wall and call their own -- even if it amounted to prostituting themselves out for years to him (and his friends) to keep him happy. Once again, its things like that, that motivate the White man to get all googly eyed over wanting (i mean: needing) any asian woman.
It is as simple as that.

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