LETS EAT AND DRINK and be merry.
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3300 Sep 15, 2012
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LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3301 Sep 15, 2012
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3302 Sep 15, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Leeann, thanks for your understanding words..
well , my grandaughters may 'know the truth' in the end, but i find it so sad because it doesn't have to be this way..
..and i don't want them to think badly of their own mother either, that's not nice for them..
It's unbelievable how much suffering human beings can inflict on each other, even in relatively 'minor' ways, and sometimes,even in the name of 'love'.
Yes we always love our grandchildren.. and I guess they know it..
:-)
the REAL QUESTION IS WHY WOULD ANY ONE WANT TOO CAUSE pain on someone that is so good to them? my d.l.L. Has managed once again to put a wedge between my grandson (the 7 year old) and us. we very likely won't see him for a while. The last time we saw him his mom told him to hit me and tell me that i was mean. She has done this many times and he has done so, to please her. This last time he just ran up stairs to avoid us; Better that way. She is the devil that is for sure, so beautiful to look at but so evil to be with. Trust me as sick as this is, her looks gets her what ever she wants. But there will be a day that will not work any more. Honey you just keep up what you can do and pray. We will be okay. All will work out for us and our GRAND KIDS. God knows our hearts.
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3303 Sep 15, 2012
NEED HOLIDAY RECIPES!!!!!!!!!!

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

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#3304 Sep 15, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text>the REAL QUESTION IS WHY WOULD ANY ONE WANT TOO CAUSE pain on someone that is so good to them? my d.l.L. Has managed once again to put a wedge between my grandson (the 7 year old) and us. we very likely won't see him for a while. The last time we saw him his mom told him to hit me and tell me that i was mean. She has done this many times and he has done so, to please her. This last time he just ran up stairs to avoid us; Better that way. She is the devil that is for sure, so beautiful to look at but so evil to be with. Trust me as sick as this is, her looks gets her what ever she wants. But there will be a day that will not work any more. Honey you just keep up what you can do and pray. We will be okay. All will work out for us and our GRAND KIDS. God knows our hearts.
goodness, your d in l sounds horrible.. i think mine is an angel by comparison. She is really messing with your grandsons mind.. All you can do is hope you get some access soon so that you can try to redress the balance of the damaging upbringing he could be having.
have you thought to take it to the courts to get access..?
I am considering it, but don't want to complicate my sons efforts, so i will wait to see if he gets what he is asking for. If he does, there will be plenty of time for me to see them while he has care of the girls..
Anyway, i am trying not to let this overshadow the happy prospect of my younger sons first child.. who is due in november.
daughter in laws.. a d in l is defo the new 'mother in law'.. and some.
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3305 Sep 15, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
goodness, your d in l sounds horrible.. i think mine is an angel by comparison. She is really messing with your grandsons mind.. All you can do is hope you get some access soon so that you can try to redress the balance of the damaging upbringing he could be having.
have you thought to take it to the courts to get access..?
I am considering it, but don't want to complicate my sons efforts, so i will wait to see if he gets what he is asking for. If he does, there will be plenty of time for me to see them while he has care of the girls..
Anyway, i am trying not to let this overshadow the happy prospect of my younger sons first child.. who is due in november.
daughter in laws.. a d in l is defo the new 'mother in law'.. and some.
We live in conn. and our laws are all for the mom's. All we can do is give it up to our lord. He will take care of it in is time. Breatt, i truly believe that what comes around goes around. She will get hers. She has hurt to many people for no reason. And you are hanging in there and are doing what is right for your son, trust me it will turn around in your favor. Lets just keep praying for each other. Bless you.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

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#3306 Sep 16, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text> We live in conn. and our laws are all for the mom's. All we can do is give it up to our lord. He will take care of it in is time. Breatt, i truly believe that what comes around goes around. She will get hers. She has hurt to many people for no reason. And you are hanging in there and are doing what is right for your son, trust me it will turn around in your favor. Lets just keep praying for each other. Bless you.
really..? Here, they concentrate on the child's best interests.. the problem is a parent can alienate their child from the other parent , deliberately or not , which can complicate the situation.
Whatever level of access my son gets , at least the decision and the power will be out of his exes hands..
Yes, I wish you all the best, and for your son and grandson..
we will just have to be patient.
Anyway, apart from all that, I hope you and yours are doing ok..x
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3307 Sep 17, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
really..? Here, they concentrate on the child's best interests.. the problem is a parent can alienate their child from the other parent , deliberately or not , which can complicate the situation.
Whatever level of access my son gets , at least the decision and the power will be out of his exes hands..
Yes, I wish you all the best, and for your son and grandson..
we will just have to be patient.
Anyway, apart from all that, I hope you and yours are doing ok..x
APART from the situation which we have removed yourself from we are doing great. Life is good. This has been a wonderful summer. HOLIDAYS ARE COMING UP LOVE IT. You my dear friend take care. Always love chatting with you.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3308 Sep 18, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text>APART from the situation which we have removed yourself from we are doing great. Life is good. This has been a wonderful summer. HOLIDAYS ARE COMING UP LOVE IT. You my dear friend take care. Always love chatting with you.
yes, we have to put it to one side where we can.. and concentrate on the positive aspects of our lives..
glad you are ok otherwise ,and i hope that yours and your husbands health have improved..
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3309 Sep 21, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
yes, we have to put it to one side where we can.. and concentrate on the positive aspects of our lives..
glad you are ok otherwise ,and i hope that yours and your husbands health have improved..
Our health is good. Life is treating us good. We are lucky and very blessed. Getting ready for the holidays. Making cookie dough and freezing it that way when i need some cookies it is ready to bake. Freezing stuff from the garden and giving a lot of veggies away. Hope all is well with you dear BEATT.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3310 Sep 21, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text> Our health is good. Life is treating us good. We are lucky and very blessed. Getting ready for the holidays. Making cookie dough and freezing it that way when i need some cookies it is ready to bake. Freezing stuff from the garden and giving a lot of veggies away. Hope all is well with you dear BEATT.
I am glad to hear you are ok.
you sound busy, Leeann..
which holidays do you have coming up..?
lol! don't tell me thanksgiving/ christmas, it's months away..!
Mind you, I have a friend who prepares months in advance.. so you never know...?
good for you, growing your own..
Yes i'm fine, just gg shopping with a friend in a bit..
have a good day..!
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3311 Sep 21, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
I am glad to hear you are ok.
you sound busy, Leeann..
which holidays do you have coming up..?
lol! don't tell me thanksgiving/ christmas, it's months away..!
Mind you, I have a friend who prepares months in advance.. so you never know...?
good for you, growing your own..
Yes i'm fine, just gg shopping with a friend in a bit..
have a good day..!
lol. all of them. Just kidding, it is a little early but the first of nov. i start making my cookie dough. Halloween is my all time favorite holiday. I HAVE AROUND 180 KIDS and i love all of them. I give out Juicy boxes. Been doing it for 35 years. In fact the kids i gave the juicy boxes to years ago bring there kids to my house just for that reason. And we deck the house all out real scary like but not to scary. We just try to make it fun. Got to try to sleep. God bless. chat soon. Have a wonderful day. I HOPE SOMETHING SPECIAL happens.
Holly

United States

#3312 Sep 28, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
Thanks Holly for your kind thoughts and good wishes..
Fortunately my son does see his children, but not as much as he would like and always on his ex'es terms..
yeah, maybe I will get to US someday.. but certainly, let me know when you are next in UK.. it's a small enough place to meet up given a bit of notice...!:-)
Hi Beatthesystem! I hope you are doing well. Whenever I have a chance I would never forget to reply or drop a few lines to all the nice ladies in Topix as you, Leeann, Carol, and prettyfeet (where is prettyfeet???:-(). Hope your son has heard some good news from the Court. I will definitely let you know when I come to visit the UK. I think it will possibly be next year. Customers have invited us many times, and the last time when they were here, they offered again. However, when you have a chance to come to visit the US, please let me know. I will be very happy to be your tour guide gal. hehe. I live very close to Los Angeles. I like the Getty museum, and the National History Museum...I like all museums anyways, lol. I would want to visit the museums in England, next time. Hm.. I can't wait.

I hope you and your family have a nice weekend, beatthesystem! Big hugs. Holly

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3313 Sep 28, 2012
Holly wrote:
<quoted text>Hi Beatthesystem! I hope you are doing well. Whenever I have a chance I would never forget to reply or drop a few lines to all the nice ladies in Topix as you, Leeann, Carol, and prettyfeet (where is prettyfeet???:-(). Hope your son has heard some good news from the Court. I will definitely let you know when I come to visit the UK. I think it will possibly be next year. Customers have invited us many times, and the last time when they were here, they offered again. However, when you have a chance to come to visit the US, please let me know. I will be very happy to be your tour guide gal. hehe. I live very close to Los Angeles. I like the Getty museum, and the National History Museum...I like all museums anyways, lol. I would want to visit the museums in England, next time. Hm.. I can't wait.
I hope you and your family have a nice weekend, beatthesystem! Big hugs. Holly
Hi there, Holly!
Sounds like you are ok, that's good..
No news yet, my son has his date for court early november..
Things have got worse because now he barely sees his children, their mother now claims they don't want to go to see him..
which is crazy because they always have such a nice time together..
I hope in some round about way it will work in my sons favour, as he said in his report to the court that the longer it goes on, the worse it will get.. now it has..so they will see the proof of that..
We all missed to see my older grandaughter around her birthday..
I sent a card and present and a nice letter each for both girls, with an SAE and writing paper for them to reply.. goodness knows if they ever received them, and I will not expect a reply...:-(
Thanks Holly, that is lovely of you to offer to show me around.. what an adventure that would be, for me...!
and likewise when you come to UK, you are welcome over to our place to see a modest corner of the world...or i would meet you where you are if time is limited for you..
Big hugs to you too...:-)
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3314 Oct 21, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi there, Holly!
Sounds like you are ok, that's good..
No news yet, my son has his date for court early november..
Things have got worse because now he barely sees his children, their mother now claims they don't want to go to see him..
which is crazy because they always have such a nice time together..
I hope in some round about way it will work in my sons favour, as he said in his report to the court that the longer it goes on, the worse it will get.. now it has..so they will see the proof of that..
We all missed to see my older grandaughter around her birthday..
I sent a card and present and a nice letter each for both girls, with an SAE and writing paper for them to reply.. goodness knows if they ever received them, and I will not expect a reply...:-(
Thanks Holly, that is lovely of you to offer to show me around.. what an adventure that would be, for me...!
and likewise when you come to UK, you are welcome over to our place to see a modest corner of the world...or i would meet you where you are if time is limited for you..
Big hugs to you too...:-)
OH BETT, This sounds like my situation. However for now things are looking up; i have been able to have a relationship with my 6 year old Grandson trust me i thank god for that. I DO HOPE YOUR GRAND KIDS RECEIVE your gifts and cards. I PROMISE I WILL PRAY FOR THIS. For i know the pain you are going through. Trust in one thing this will turn around and your dil will pay a price for this, evil like this always has to pay. god bless you and just keep up loving these grand kids. They know you are out there.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3315 Oct 22, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text>OH BETT, This sounds like my situation. However for now things are looking up; i have been able to have a relationship with my 6 year old Grandson trust me i thank god for that. I DO HOPE YOUR GRAND KIDS RECEIVE your gifts and cards. I PROMISE I WILL PRAY FOR THIS. For i know the pain you are going through. Trust in one thing this will turn around and your dil will pay a price for this, evil like this always has to pay. god bless you and just keep up loving these grand kids. They know you are out there.
Thankyou, leeann, for your good wishes and thoughts..
I am very pleased to hear you are now spending time with your grandson.. did it go to court..has his father (your son) got access now..?
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3316 Oct 22, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
Thankyou, leeann, for your good wishes and thoughts..
I am very pleased to hear you are now spending time with your grandson.. did it go to court..has his father (your son) got access now..?
No, he gets to see him two days a week for 4 hours a visit. so i can only see him for about an hour on one of those days.And only because my grandson ask his daddy to let me see him.. THE sick part is we can not let mommy know, if she found out she would take all visiting arrangements away. The state of conn. is all for the mom's and trust me on this, my d.i.l takes advantage of this in every way. My SONS Drinking problem is to her advantage and trust me she uses it in every way.... he never ever drinks when he is with his younger son, but she could turn that around and prove different if we cross her. She has done it in the pass and will do it again. We need to be very careful of her. Lets keep each other in prayer. god bless you Beatt..

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3317 Oct 23, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text>No, he gets to see him two days a week for 4 hours a visit. so i can only see him for about an hour on one of those days.And only because my grandson ask his daddy to let me see him.. THE sick part is we can not let mommy know, if she found out she would take all visiting arrangements away. The state of conn. is all for the mom's and trust me on this, my d.i.l takes advantage of this in every way. My SONS Drinking problem is to her advantage and trust me she uses it in every way.... he never ever drinks when he is with his younger son, but she could turn that around and prove different if we cross her. She has done it in the pass and will do it again. We need to be very careful of her. Lets keep each other in prayer. god bless you Beatt..
Morning, Leeann,that must be so much pressure on your grandson, having to keep quiet about seeing you. to his mother..?
i don't know that would work with us as my older grandaughter tells her mother everything..its one of the features of the alienating parent/ alienated child that the child has an unnaturally close allegiance to the custodial parent and does everything to please it. The psychology is very complex.. the victim gets to overly rely on its captor !!
That's the terrible thing about all this, Leeann,.. the fact the father cannot see his child hardly ,can put immense psychological pressure on him .. also any existing problems such as drinking may worsen under the strain.. then the mother will use that as a weapon against the father....Its very wicked.
Most women i know who have sons split from their partner with children onvolved, have varying degrees of difficulty to see the (grand)children. Two close friends of mine have sons who have been stopped from seeing their child, and this supported by the courts.
The law needs changing.. If it were made a criminal offence rather than a civil one to stop the father seeing his child, maybe we'd get somewhere..
I'm surprised the courts are all for the mothers in America.. here, its all about the childs best interests.. but of course the mother has a far greater influence and can alienate the child big time before the courts can sort it...and even here, it seems the mother tends to be given the benefit of the doubt.

Anyway rant over, thanks for listening, i'm off to work now.. have a nice day..! xxx
LEE ANN

Clinton, CT

#3318 Oct 23, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
<quoted text>
Morning, Leeann,that must be so much pressure on your grandson, having to keep quiet about seeing you. to his mother..?
i don't know that would work with us as my older grandaughter tells her mother everything..its one of the features of the alienating parent/ alienated child that the child has an unnaturally close allegiance to the custodial parent and does everything to please it. The psychology is very complex.. the victim gets to overly rely on its captor !!
That's the terrible thing about all this, Leeann,.. the fact the father cannot see his child hardly ,can put immense psychological pressure on him .. also any existing problems such as drinking may worsen under the strain.. then the mother will use that as a weapon against the father....Its very wicked.
Most women i know who have sons split from their partner with children onvolved, have varying degrees of difficulty to see the (grand)children. Two close friends of mine have sons who have been stopped from seeing their child, and this supported by the courts.
The law needs changing.. If it were made a criminal offence rather than a civil one to stop the father seeing his child, maybe we'd get somewhere..
I'm surprised the courts are all for the mothers in America.. here, its all about the childs best interests.. but of course the mother has a far greater influence and can alienate the child big time before the courts can sort it...and even here, it seems the mother tends to be given the benefit of the doubt.
Anyway rant over, thanks for listening, i'm off to work now.. have a nice day..! xxx
A good morning to you dear friend.yes this poor kid goes through a lot. One of the reasons there marriage is failing is because of my sons drinking, BUT my son did stop drinking for three weeks once and trust me it was so hard for him; in his last week she brought home a six pack of beer for him and of course you can take it from there. His drinking gives her control. As long as he drinks she has the upper hand.Plus she lies all the time... Tells the're son bad things about me and his own dad. And they are not even true... But BEATT, God has a plan; it is already in the making. You just wait your day will come. I sure you told me but where do you work and what do you do? Have a great day/evening. Love chatting with you.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#3319 Oct 23, 2012
LEE ANN wrote:
<quoted text>A good morning to you dear friend.yes this poor kid goes through a lot. One of the reasons there marriage is failing is because of my sons drinking, BUT my son did stop drinking for three weeks once and trust me it was so hard for him; in his last week she brought home a six pack of beer for him and of course you can take it from there. His drinking gives her control. As long as he drinks she has the upper hand.Plus she lies all the time... Tells the're son bad things about me and his own dad. And they are not even true... But BEATT, God has a plan; it is already in the making. You just wait your day will come. I sure you told me but where do you work and what do you do? Have a great day/evening. Love chatting with you.
Ah Leeann. it's so hard to go through the trials and tribulations of bringing up children, only to witness them having all the stress one had oneself, and maybe more.. It does make you wonder , what's it all for..
I know what you mean about the control thing.. so are your son and your grandson's mother still together... I thought they were apart?
I'm sure your grandson knows you love him.. bless him.. and you , and his dad..
I work in social services, mental health team for older people..
How was your day..? x

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