"Low self esteem?" Try "understands how critical good communications is, and how little other targets understad that."<quoted text>
Im afraid I have to agree with Mr. 7.......its reasonable to say that eleanor you does have a sense loftiness about her. Bossy and controlling people, in my opinion, suffer from low self-esteem. Which would be totally understandable considering what horrid offenses must have been commited against you over 32 Years.
Or try "understands how terrible things will be for all targets if a few violent people get us all labelled by their behaviour."
Being emphatic isn't "bossy" - it is speaking out when speaking out is needed.