I got a black girl pregnant, advice
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Anonymous

New York, NY

#1 Sep 21, 2013
I'm a single dad, after the passing of my wife, of 4. A fairly wealthy guy who owns 7 restaurants and nightclubs in my area. as a younger man, I was of course a rowdy little brat who caused trouble, kissed ladies, and generally had a good time.

Recently, on one of the rare nights that I get to go out, I went out with some old pals and we got to talking about the old days, chasing girls, acting up, and all of that. Someone dared me to try to pick up the wildly beautiful black bartender, so I did. As many of you probably know, if you're a white guy and show interest in a black girl they usually come running.

Anyway, she is pregnant and this is very awkward. There is a 1% chance that it wasn't mine, but one of her friends works as a DJ at one of my spots and told me she had only been with 3 guys in her life and had been married to a black guy for 7 years, so odds are its mine.

She's a nice lady, gainfully employed, incredibly beautiful, college grad. But I'm worried about having a kid thats 1/8 black, 1/8 Brazilian/black, and 3/4 white. I went over to the blacksi de of her families house for a BBQ the other day, and its just very black behavior. Weed smoking, cousin just got out of jail, the whole 9.

Anybody male thats non-blcak ever tried to raise a part black kid?
Anonymous

New York, NY

#2 Sep 21, 2013
Basically, I have 4 kids, one about to start school, 3 have never gotten a C. Don't cause any trouble, only time i've ever been to the principles office to talk about it was when the 9yo beat up a 10 yo who was bullying his little brother. We were exonerated fully.

I work hard to be a good parent and to make sure that even wo their mom the boys have a good upbringing. I'd do the same for the new baby, but, and not meaning to be more racist than necessary, I'm just worried if its even possible.

Between MTV peddling rap and the mainstream media pushing a pity party at blacks, black people have so much negative energy thrown at them thats its unreal. cany ou raise a blackish baby to be an upstanding citizen or is ebonics and trouble just inevitable?

How on earth can a parent save a black or blackish kid from these influences?
Lilly

Wichita, KS

#3 Sep 27, 2013
We'll, it depends on how he/she is raise, if you raise the kid and thought him we'll manners then you have nothing to worry about.

“Dark Lord of All.”

Since: Jun 13

The Untempered Schism.

#4 Sep 27, 2013
I'm not sure what would be better; for you to actually man up and be responsible, or do nothing so the kid would be better off without you. Idiot.
Lady

Madison, WI

#5 Dec 11, 2013
Stormageddon wrote:
I'm not sure what would be better; for you to actually man up and be responsible, or do nothing so the kid would be better off without you. Idiot.
Aaaaaagreeeeed!:)
neilcell

Westfield, IN

#7 Dec 28, 2013
Like Stormageddon and Lady kind of imply: man up, take responsibility, and marry the woman(or at least help her to raise the child). You dishonor yourself, your family, and worst of all, you dishonor the woman by creating a child out of wedlock. If you don't own up to your responsibility, you are a dirt piece of dog squat and are part of the problem. Any male can create a baby. It takes a gentleman to be a father. Do the right thing, be a gentleman, and take responsibility for your actions.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#8 Dec 29, 2013
Not all Black people are stereotypical, but if this woman is then hopefully she is smart enough to want the best for her kid and won't let the child be too influenced by these things.

I am Black, and I was raised in the suburbs, so I know that not all Black people will be influenced by the stereotypical images in the media.
kell89

Pflugerville, TX

#9 Jan 20, 2014
Im gone go with maybe stay out of his life because you seem to be racist and you yourself are stereotyping blacks as well with your rude comments. Everything you said was what a typical racist person would say. Black people are not the only ones who listen to rap, they are not the only ones who go and get out of prison, and defiantly not the only ones who smoke weed. You my dear need to look into your self before trying to raise a Biracial child WTH is "Blackish" . If you knew anything about parenting you would know a child learns by what they see. I have raised 3 BIRACIAL boys into full Grown Men who are all graduate students, have jobs, and are married, and have kids and living life the right way. Dont judge someone because of what you hear typical racist i say
nell man

United States

#10 Apr 7, 2014
Why do the girl want to have a baby for thay do nottake care of thim and thay want be a good mother black gir do
haha

Howell, MI

#11 Apr 10, 2014
stop generalizing.. my friend has A white dad And we Al think he's A loser And he beat his mom..

black behavior my Ass..

but my other friend who has A black dad.. black behavior?! what in sam hell hell Are ya talkin About bitch??

no well no you I guess my friends black mom Acts Kinda white though..

many blacks Act white enough what in sam hell Are ya talking About..

I didn't even try weed until A white guy offered it to me Actually..

I didn't smoke it my dad was fcking crazy though because i'm black..

see now like.. he tried to make me Act white or something.. I gues if that's what you wanna call it..

me And my white cousin we don't really have a culture All we did was play video games the whole time..
And like.. he doesn't even like music.. I Asked him to start A metal band or rock band..

he has no musical enjoyment whaseover how come he's like the only white person that yo we Are weird people..
haha

Howell, MI

#12 Apr 10, 2014
no black people Are stereotypical we have All this technology running Around..

who the hell cares if they smoke weed.. we just began legalizing weed you Are a nutcase And a half dude..
layla

Baltimore, MD

#14 Oct 11, 2014
Anonymous wrote:
I'm a single dad, after the passing of my wife, of 4. A fairly wealthy guy who owns 7 restaurants and nightclubs in my area. as a younger man, I was of course a rowdy little brat who caused trouble, kissed ladies, and generally had a good time.
Recently, on one of the rare nights that I get to go out, I went out with some old pals and we got to talking about the old days, chasing girls, acting up, and all of that. Someone dared me to try to pick up the wildly beautiful black bartender, so I did. As many of you probably know, if you're a white guy and show interest in a black girl they usually come running.
Anyway, she is pregnant and this is very awkward. There is a 1% chance that it wasn't mine, but one of her friends works as a DJ at one of my spots and told me she had only been with 3 guys in her life and had been married to a black guy for 7 years, so odds are its mine.
She's a nice lady, gainfully employed, incredibly beautiful, college grad. But I'm worried about having a kid thats 1/8 black, 1/8 Brazilian/black, and 3/4 white. I went over to the blacksi de of her families house for a BBQ the other day, and its just very black behavior. Weed smoking, cousin just got out of jail, the whole 9.
Anybody male thats non-blcak ever tried to raise a part black kid?
Really? How ignorant of u too say very black behavior! Weed smoking cousin out of jail.. Like white folk don't smoke weed and like y'all sunny never been to jail.. Wonder how she would feel if she seen your post on here
layla

Baltimore, MD

#15 Oct 11, 2014
Sorry I meant cousin not sunny lol

“3D Virtual Desktop Manager”

Since: Jul 14

NY

#16 Oct 23, 2014
PinkPearl wrote:
Not all Black people are stereotypical, but if this woman is then hopefully she is smart enough to want the best for her kid and won't let the child be too influenced by these things.
I am Black, and I was raised in the suburbs, so I know that not all Black people will be influenced by the stereotypical images in the media.
This is a question of education and living environment, and skin color does not matter.
Disgusted

Manteca, CA

#17 Oct 23, 2014
Will you raise this child as an Oreo? Then it can keep the black man vibe,but talk like a white person so it can be understood! Say hi to the little mud puppy for me, and visit it in section 8 housing and eat macaroni and government cheese! Good luck and sorry for your mistake, dumbass!
browntown

Medford, MA

#19 Nov 11, 2014
This is incredibly ignorant of you.
vivatrev

Moonee Ponds, Australia

#20 Dec 27, 2014
Incredibly racist nonsense on this page, the whitey must pay up for the child till its 18, if he has any self respect he must make sure that he is involved in the child's life. If he is a real honourable guy he may try to enter into a meaningful relationship with this woman, it may just work out. Tell the racists to get stuffed. I am a white guy, I would be proud to have a decent lady at my side of any race.
bbw

Salt Lake City, UT

#21 Feb 21, 2015
just a little FYI...I'm a black woman who owns her own business. I know hundreds of black women...and never do we ever sit around waiting for the day a white man approaches us...nor have I ever seen one of them go home with a white man just because your white and successful. Don't flatter yourself due to your skin color. We don't flock to white men... nor does it boost our ego in any way to be approached by a white guy.

Out of all your children.. That child will be the most Beautiful one you have.... and you don't deserve him/her.
Anonymous

Asheville, NC

#22 May 30, 2015
So what it doesn't matter what color is the girl or your child u had the time to make the baby u should have the time to help care of it no matter what it is your child and no matter what race u should always love it
Enter Username

Los Angeles, CA

#23 Jul 28, 2015
Time to step up as an adult and take responsibility for your actions. You play, you pay. Do you know about condoms?

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