You're not only wrong again, you're a moron.<quoted text>
If someone says something verbally and another strikes them physically, the abuse is NOT "mutual".
1) Given, felt, or done in return: "a reciprocal action, comment or gesture".
1.(of a feeling or action) Experienced or done by each of two or more parties toward the other or others.
If someone says something verbally and another strikes them physically, the abuse is ESCALATING.
If this happens only once, its not necessarily mutually abusive.
If it happens CONSTANTLY, it IS mutually abusive.
You've admitted you had a long term mutually abusive VERBAL relationship with the man that supposedly hit you - and it ESCALATED to physical violence when you didn't do what NORMAL PEOPLE DO - AND WALK AWAY.
You 'stood up for yourself verbally'- fueling the abuse, and he did NOT reciprocate it, he ESCALATED it.