Again I AGREE WITH THIS 100%!!!Hey, Gtown, here's another message I like to send from time to time.
Personally, based on my individual experience, I'd have to say that generally speaking, life tends to be much easier for any teen girl, myself included, who ISN'T (or wasn't) a teen mom. Why? Because she isn't overwhelmed with adult responsibilities before she's even completed high school, that's why. Because I DIDN'T get pregnant and become a teen mom while I was still in middle or high school, I was able to complete all my classes, assignments, and tests as a high school student. I enjoyed all my summers between school years, doing pretty much whatever I wanted. I never had to worry about paying for diapers and formula, and I was able to keep my freedom to be a normal teenager.
It's wonderful how much freedom a teen girl has when she ISN'T pregnant. Girls need to think very carefully about all they risk losing by having sex and possibly getting pregnant. They need to think about it BEFORE having sex for the first time, not afterward. If they only think of it afterward, it may already be too late.
After graduating high school and having a two-month summer vacation, I began a vocational program in September and successfully completed it nine months later. A few weeks after that, I accepted a job offer in a great city, and things just got better from there. Working at my job gave me chances to earn a good full-time salary with benefits, take classes to learn more job skills -- at company expense -- and advance to jobs with higher salaries.
NONE of that would have been possible if I had gotten pregnant as a teenager and become a teen mom. Having a baby would have made even doing homework and studying for tests in high school very difficult, if not impossible. I might even have had to drop out of school, as some teen girls have done, and wouldn't have gotten my high school diploma. It wouldn't have been possible for me to go to vocational school or work full-time at a top company either. For me to accomplish all that I had wanted and planned for myself, it required me to be a FREE TEEN rather than a teen mom.
Girls can do so much when they are encouraged by parents and community to pursue their educations including college or vocational school and then get good jobs and careers. I was very fortunate to have parents and a community that encouraged education and career for me and other girls rather than the "traditional" paths of marriage/motherhood and not much else. It is much easier for girls to have opportunities for a good education, good employment, and economic independence when they don't get pregnant and become mothers too soon. And if some girls and young women decide NEVER to become mothers for any reason, that's okay too. The choice to be childfree is just as valid and responsible as the choice to become a mother.
Now use same story and put he, him, his, fatherhood.
There is a way, that both male and female can have the life described above.
DON'T HAVE SEX,UNTILL MARRIED.
Although pre -marriage sex has went on since the beginning of the earth, by comming up with "safe " ways to have sex, was just a compromise, that encouraged teens to have sex more often, instead of discouraging them from having sex. We now have an epidemic on our hands, and once again the world have compromised, instead of addressing the real problems and holding teenagers accountable for their actions, we have just encourage them to have more sex, by letting them know that no matter what we will take care of the problem.
When people are held accountable for their actions, then they are less likely to actively seek bad behaviors.