Well many women doesn't seem to look at the unborn as a child.<quoted text>
Why do you suppose, then, most women do not oonsider themselves to be mothers when they miscarry (and have no children)? They "keep trying" to conceive and carry to term so that they can be mothers. Would you tell such a woman she is the mother of a dead child(ren)?
As far as the other, it is becouse they want to be a mother of a live child that they can raise.
My wife lost a child after we had our daughter, and she considers herself to be the mother of two, and fully expects to see the child one day.
Plus again with the double standard, if a pregnant woman is hurt or killed, they count the unborn as a child.