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Audrey Search Angel

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Sep 21, 2012
 
Over the past several years more states are reinstating adoptee's rights to their original birth certificates (OBCs) Here in Texas only the judge in the original court can grant access to an OBC and adoption records. However, if you already know the names on the OBC you can obtain a non-certified copy from the state. Here is the link to that information: http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/vs/reqproc/adopti...

If you don't know your original name or parent's names, it is best to sign up with the Texas Central Adoption Registry. Central Adoption Registry and information may be found at: http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/vs/reqproc/adopti...

There are many other registries, here are the most well known and used. ISRR.NET International Soundex Reunion Registry, Adoptionregistry.com , gsadoptionregistry.com

What then? If your adoption was handled by a private attorney, contact them and ask about obtaining copies of your adoption documents. If adopted through an agency and it is still open, contact them and ask for your "nonid", your non identifying information. This is information such as the age of your parents at your birth, their occupation, health issues, other children, etc.

Be prepared to pay for those records at the fee set by the agency. By law they must allow you those records, but the fee is set by each agency. If the agency which handled your adoption has closed, then those records were turned over to the State. Unless of course, like the Homestead Agency they just destroyed the records rather than following the law.

Ask other members in your family what they may know about your adoption. Take notes, get copies of any records your family has.

The newest way to locate family is DNA. Even if someone in your immediate biological family has not had their dna done, someone in your dna line probably has been tested. The results from 23andme.com and familytreedna.com can each be uploaded into ancestry.com . It doesn't work the other way around. ancestry.com results can not be uploaded to the other sites.

Expensive? about $300 But what price would you pay to know your genetic roots?

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Or, you know, adoptees could just be grateful to their adoptive parents for having taken them in, lvoed, clothed, housed, and fed them, rather than spitting in their faces with this act of betrayal. Seriously, it's so ungracious when I hear of things like this - maybe all ABANDONED children shouldn't be adopted, but retroactively aborted, to save these hard-working folks all the time, love, and money by these ungrateful little b******s, and spend it on people who will actually acknowledge the sacrifices made by those who DIDN't give them up like selfish twats.
darrell selcer

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Taman Shud it is obvius that you have no idea what you are talking about!!! I am adopted and I am happy and very greatful that I was.when you are adopted you feel a since of loss, you feel confused.there are many questions you would like answred.why were you adopted,do I have any siblings,what is my heritage,what is my medical history.there are more questions such as these that unless you find your birth parents you will never know.I really feel sorry for you being so heartless.I love my adoptive parents with all my heart and I am thankful that they sugested I find my birth family.I am very thankful for the person that helped me find my birth family she is very special to me and will always be.I would hope that you would read your post and see how uncaring you really are.
GRATEFUL Adoptee

Bradenton, FL

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Taman, you are clueless. Our identities were taken from us, and then we're told we aren't allowed to know where we came from. This has NOTHING to do with our a-parents AT ALL. My adopted family's medical history is not my own. Their heritage is not my own. I look nothing like any of them. And the state changing my birth certificate when I was adopted didn't magically make those things change. I have a RIGHT, as a US citizen to know my origins. It is MY birth certificate, and as an adult, I should have the right to access MY OWN information. This has NOTHING to do with gratitude. This is not spitting in the face of my adoptive parents, and it is NOT an act of betrayal.

You obviously have no clue what its like to be an adoptee, and I sincerely hope you aren't an adoptive parent, because if you are, I sincerely feel sorry for your adopted child(ren). Because obviously, if you are an adoptive parent, you did so for your own selfish reasons, and not for 'the good of the child.' An adopted person is still a PERSON. Not a commodity. Not a pet. A HUMAN BEING. As a human being, we have a RIGHT to know our own origins, REGARDLESS of who raised us. When someone adopts, they need to realize that since we adoptees ARE human, we also come with our own set of baggage. That 'baggage' was created by two other people that have their own medical histories and heritages. We have a right to know that information, PERIOD. A legal contract, that we were entered into without our consent, does NOT change those facts. You also have a lot of nerve referring to natural mothers who surrendered as 'selfish twats', as you have NO CLUE what the circumstances were that led to them surrendering their child. In MANY cases, the natural mother is coerced into surrendering, especially by the adoption 'industry', that is always looking for new babies to sell off to folks that can't have them on their own. You have no idea what you're talking about, so just be grateful that you WEREN'T surrendered, and don't talk about things that you have no clue about. Educate yourself on things like the 'baby scoop era'. Read a book like "The Primal Wound" to get an understanding of the lifelong pain that is caused to a child when he or she is separated from their natural mother.

Then be grateful that you don't know that pain, and learn to educate yourself with FACTS before spouting off your mouth telling people that they should be grateful that their natural mother was put between a rock and a hard place so that someone who couldn't have a child on their own would have a nice new kid to go buy at the adoption agency.

I love and appreciate my adoptive parents. But my amended birth certificate DOES NOT make them my BIOLOGICAL parents. Our genetic makeup is different. And I have a right to know what my own genetic makeup is. My adoptive parents are, and always will be my parents. And I'm glad that they were able to understand that my desire and need to know my own information had NOTHING to do with them, or the way they raised me. Enlighten yourself before telling others how they should "be grateful". You're rude, ignorant, and uninformed. So don't comment on things you clearly don't understand.
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How is wanting to know where you came from disrespectful to adoptive parents? If you knew anything at all about adoptees OR adoptive parents you would know that most adoptive parents support their children in finding their bio family. Just because I want to connect with people that I'm related to doesn't mean that I don't love/appreciate my parents.

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Ah, the strawmen come out. Of course I wouldn't know, I couldn't possibly have been adopted, could i? I couldn't possibly be an adoptive father, either... You're all worthless and weak.
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taman shud wrote:
Or, you know, adoptees could just be grateful to their adoptive parents for having taken them in, lvoed, clothed, housed, and fed them, rather than spitting in their faces with this act of betrayal. Seriously, it's so ungracious when I hear of things like this - maybe all ABANDONED children shouldn't be adopted, but retroactively aborted, to save these hard-working folks all the time, love, and money by these ungrateful little b******s, and spend it on people who will actually acknowledge the sacrifices made by those who DIDN't give them up like selfish twats.

I think you miss one VERY important piece of information that is mentioned in a couple of other replies. Our (adopted persons) heritage is biological and many health issues are genetic to some degree or another. I found, with help and understanding from my adopting family, my two brothers. One only a year or so before he died. We all shared a common and probably genetically transmitted defect. Highly important to know for the sake of my own two children. Many years later I was to find by accident more or less an Uncle. From a brief acquaintance I found out he and I were the only males in our line to survive past our forties for many generations another important health related genetic trait it seems. I would not trade my adoptive family for anything in the world, but finding my blood and the heritage bequeathed me by it was important to me and my children and grandchildren as well as laying to rest that nagging question at the back of every adoptees mind "Where really did I come from? What happened?".
darrell selcer

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Oct 16, 2012
 
Taman shud you are the worthless and weak person!!! I tried not to get angry but I am . I feel very sorry for your child if you are indeed an adoptive father.I tell you what you have my name and I live in austin tx I would love to meet you in person so you can tell me just how weak and worthless I am.I invite you to be a "man" not a twat and take me up on my invitation. I will be waiting on your response if you do decide you are man enough we can find a place to meet. Please!!! Accept!!!

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