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Do Asian Girls find Middle Eastern Guys Attractive?

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Ace Spader

Etobicoke, Canada

#1 Dec 18, 2011
Hi,

I'm a Canadian from Toronto of Middle Eastern origin who find all girls attractive.

From personal experience, I find myself gravitated towards Asian girls more because I had so many good memories with them (friendly relations, inviting eye contacts, them willing to talk to me, etc). In fact, a great number of Asian girls I knew in my life find me attractive.

However, my appearance is very Caucasian: I got brown/blond hair, hazel green eyes and my skin is white. Most people think I am white and when I tell them I'm Lebanese (who tend to be brown), they get surprised. My behavior is also North American--I really don't know much about the culture of my ethnic background and I don't care about it.

Thus, when girls are attracted to my physical appearance, they are attracted to my Caucasian look. But when they find out I am not white, a lot get turned off and would never talk to me anymore.

I know that lots of Middle Eastern guys are not the ideal types--they tend to be unfair with women and develop controlling, abusive relations with the girls who are interested in them. I can understand why a Middle Eastern guy is a "turn off", as their attitudes leave bad tastes.

But say there's Middle Eastern guy who is different, would he be perceived as attractive?

For example, would a guy like Steve Jobs (who is an Arab-American) be considered cool enough for the ladies?

I find Asian girls to be attractive: I like their grace, physical beauty and polite manners. But at the same time, I don't know how an Asian girl will feel about me when she will find out I am not white.

While each person is different (ie: Some Asian girls will be turned off, others will be okay about it), what is the common perception of Middle Eastern guys from the part of the Asian community in general and more particular, from Asian women?

Your help would truly be appreciated.
Suara17

Bandar Seri Begawan, Brunei Darussalam

#2 Dec 18, 2011
Hi.

I myself am Asian, malay to be exact, from Southeast Asia. I've lived all my life in my country and I have never really been around Middle Eastern men before. Personally, I think that Arab men are the most attractive. I'm more attracted towards the tanned,big dark-eyed,with black curly hair type though.

Here, in my part of Asian community, it's true that most of the girls do find Caucasian men attractive. I'm not sure whether they think Middle Eastern men in general are a turn-off, but like anywhere else, the common perception is unfair with women, abusive, controlling, etc.(which aren't the ideal type for most women).

I've seen a lot of malay/chinese/indian girls marrying white guys, but as far as I'm concerned I don't see that much marrying an Arab.

Honestly, I don't think that you should be worried about the fact that you're of a Middle Eastern origin. You live in Canada, you behave like a westerner, so girls should not get turned off just because your roots are Lebanese. It all goes down to how he behaves. Plus you look Caucasian! so there's nothing to worry about.

And for the girls that get turned off when they found that out, they must have not known you very well, that they think you might behave like a Middle Easterner.

Answering your question, if there was a Middle Eastern guy who is different, yes, he will be swarmed with Asian girls in no time.

“I ♥ my boyfriend :)”

Since: Dec 11

Auckland

#3 Dec 18, 2011
well, in malaysia and singapore most of the interracial relationships are between Indian men and asian women so.... you guys arent that different to Indians so your in!:)
Nepaliguy

London, UK

#4 Dec 19, 2011
hey buddy it's all about personal preference . for example, i am Nepali guy with oriental feature and i love light skin Middle east girl where as my cousin they prefer asian girl. so, u better ask individual girl rather then the whole race.
Ace Spader

Canada

#5 Dec 19, 2011
Hi Suara,

Thank you for your thoughtful and genuine response!
I feel enlightened and learned new things from what you wrote.

It's interesting to know you like the tanned Middle Eastern guys, I'm surprised you find guys like that attractive as I always thought we were not good eye candies. But you proved me wrong and I hope you will find one who will respect you and treat you right. Moreover, I hope you will be happy with him.

I'm glad I am reading this coming from a Malaysian, I am intrigued by your country like crazy! Malaysia has a high and rich culture and I'm dreaming of visiting your home country one day. I can't miss Kuala Lumpur :-)

I will do my best to be myself without feeling the need to explain myself every time people discover I'm from the Middle East (and they bother me with questions about politics there when all I care about is Android, fast cars and Las Vegas). I just hope they can see that in me and not see me with stereotypical views.

But your supportive advice is helping me understand I just need to loosen up and show people who I truly am.

I just hope they can give me the chance to get to know me as I'd want to know them.

And of course, I'd be very lucky if it was with Asian girls!
Ace Spader

Canada

#6 Dec 19, 2011
Thank you, Sarah Jones!

I never looked at it from this perspective but now you are opening me up on this.

In fact, here in Toronto, I see lots of Indian guys with East Asian girls like I see lots of Indian guys with White girls and they seem happy together.

I guess Middle Eastern guys can't be that different!
Ace Spader

Canada

#7 Dec 19, 2011
Nepali Guy,

I agree with you 100% and you are on point.

It depends on the individual's taste.

I simply wanted to get more knowledge concerning the common perception in order to see where I stand.

But through some good helps here, I know I can be fortunate.

Btw, I know lots of Lebanese girls who like guys like you!
Suara17

Bandar Seri Begawan, Brunei Darussalam

#8 Dec 19, 2011
Are you kidding me?!? They ARE eye candies to me:D But of course, some people like that kind of looks some don't. I just happen to like the Middle Eastern type.

It's nice to know that you are interested in Malaysia, coming from someone who's living at the other end of the world. But sadly I'm not Malaysian, I'm from Brunei. But we are the same race (Malay) and have very similar cultures and language. It's a neighbouring country anyway.

And hey, come whenever you like, I'm sure the Malaysians would always welcome you. Stop by Brunei if you like jungle and lots of trees :)
Ace Spader

Collingwood, Canada

#9 Dec 22, 2011
Oh how I looove Brunei! This is another country I am fascinated by. The entire Southeast Asian region has a charm I find captivating and mysterious.

My goal is to one day visit the region starting with Singapore. The women from Brunei--like all who come from Malay origins--are very attractive and charming.

Lol, the climate in Brunei is very tropical, I have yet to experience this weather and it's one I hope to live one day.

I'm grateful for your welcoming message.

Feel free to visit Canada, we Canadians are generally obsessed with Asian culture and we hope to learn more. In Lebanon, Asian culture is on par with European culture, the people there love Thailand a lot and they now visit Singapore, Kuala Lumpur and Manila more often than Paris, Milan and London (it's a trend that started in 2005).

Thank you for boosting my self esteem and making me realize that people of Middle East origin are cool!:-)
Posts

United States

#10 Jan 21, 2012
Of course they do. My friend is asian and she is dating a middle eastern man.They seem to be doing very well too :)
Ruby

Providence, RI

#11 Feb 9, 2012
I have a huge crush on an Arab man, and I'm Asian. I actually came across your page because I wanted to know the opposite of what you want to know, which is weather a middle easterner would like an Asian! Haha. Glad to know that's a possibility :)

AussiPino

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#12 Feb 9, 2012
Ace Spader wrote:
Hi,
I'm a Canadian from Toronto of Middle Eastern origin who find all girls attractive.
From personal experience, I find myself gravitated towards Asian girls more because I had so many good memories with them (friendly relations, inviting eye contacts, them willing to talk to me, etc). In fact, a great number of Asian girls I knew in my life find me attractive.
However, my appearance is very Caucasian: I got brown/blond hair, hazel green eyes and my skin is white. Most people think I am white and when I tell them I'm Lebanese (who tend to be brown), they get surprised. My behavior is also North American--I really don't know much about the culture of my ethnic background and I don't care about it.
Thus, when girls are attracted to my physical appearance, they are attracted to my Caucasian look. But when they find out I am not white, a lot get turned off and would never talk to me anymore.
I know that lots of Middle Eastern guys are not the ideal types--they tend to be unfair with women and develop controlling, abusive relations with the girls who are interested in them. I can understand why a Middle Eastern guy is a "turn off", as their attitudes leave bad tastes.
But say there's Middle Eastern guy who is different, would he be perceived as attractive?
For example, would a guy like Steve Jobs (who is an Arab-American) be considered cool enough for the ladies?
I find Asian girls to be attractive: I like their grace, physical beauty and polite manners. But at the same time, I don't know how an Asian girl will feel about me when she will find out I am not white.
While each person is different (ie: Some Asian girls will be turned off, others will be okay about it), what is the common perception of Middle Eastern guys from the part of the Asian community in general and more particular, from Asian women?
Your help would truly be appreciated.
In Australia, Middle Eastern men are generally not perceived to be good men to date. They are perceived to be criminals especially the Lebanese (both Christian and Muslim). Many are involved with Bikie gangs, theft and gang violence. It's mainly South-East Asian women from lower socio-economical backgrounds who would find these men attractive.

Of course this is just a generalization but here in Australia, Asian girls don't really find Middle Eastern guys attractive.

“phresh, bruh”

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#13 Feb 10, 2012
AussiPino wrote:
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In Australia, Middle Eastern men are generally not perceived to be good men to date. They are perceived to be criminals especially the Lebanese (both Christian and Muslim). Many are involved with Bikie gangs, theft and gang violence. It's mainly South-East Asian women from lower socio-economical backgrounds who would find these men attractive.
Of course this is just a generalization but here in Australia, Asian girls don't really find Middle Eastern guys attractive.
"ouch"
david

United States

#14 Apr 6, 2012
Thank you Sam that must be a lesson to ace who is "Arab with western look and attitude " and you ace you're not Arab you are from a country used by Arab guys " real ones" to get their 12" things sucked. U don't care about Arab culture you don't look Arab so be white. To everyone know this we Arab men love respect and admire Asian women for 3 things: culture beauty and family values but we also see Lebanese girls as whores.
Suara17

Bandar Seri Begawan, Brunei Darussalam

#15 Apr 7, 2012
david wrote:
Thank you Sam that must be a lesson to ace who is "Arab with western look and attitude " and you ace you're not Arab you are from a country used by Arab guys " real ones" to get their 12" things sucked. U don't care about Arab culture you don't look Arab so be white. To everyone know this we Arab men love respect and admire Asian women for 3 things: culture beauty and family values but we also see Lebanese girls as whores.
Is it really necessary to say that? I'm not Arab, but even I know that what you're saying is a little insensitive. You're degrading Lebanese women by calling them whores. Even if you believe so, there is really no need to say it here in public. You saying all these negative things just reflects your lack of moral values..and since I believe you're Arab, you're representing all the Arabs here and you don't want to be labelled like that. As long as they don't hurt you, you should respect them regardless of your differences in beliefs.
Vivian

Hanoi, Vietnam

#16 Apr 7, 2012
Hey dear. I myself is a typical Asian ( in appearance). Most of my life I was in my country but there was few years I studied in US. Tbh I'd say that during my years in us I was approached by guys from many different ethnicity. Obviously there were difference between characteristic, character, personality and trait among those guys but generally they all had similar oriental feature in Asian girl . That's why they interested in me and normally they had crush on me at first sight, that mean they had no clue about my personality atm but it was my looks that attracted them. As I said Im very typical asian girl with long straight shiny black hair, pretty fair smooth skin and petite as almost asian girls. to be honest at my very first time in US I had no clue that I'd be attractive to any guys from other race but asian since I didn't pay attention and didn't get a chance to interact with those guys. Then it turned out that guys from other race show their interests in me and I started wondering why did I attract to them. Later I found out that mostly because my physical appearance matched their personal preferences. From what you've explained I can tell you from my personal experiences that it's true almost asian girls tend to date only white/caucasian. It's something very natural and subconscious as almost interracial couples they ever seen are WM/AW. However, it's just the very first time that the physical perception plays role in attraction each other. later on when girls become familiar with the diversity environment in which they live, as long as they truly care about feelings/caring towards each other then whichever race that guy belongs to doesn't matter anymore. Again, I'd emphasize that what I said is from my personal view and the majority of ppl around me, I can't represent all asian girls. But who don't want to be with a person who really caring toward her rather than just looks? That's my point for now and as long as you re sincere and truthful, I believe no girls would refuse your good will. you just need to find the right way to approach her heart and it's depends on individual. if you want to know more about her then possibly look at the background ethnicity,culture values and the particular environment that she has grown up. the social values in most cases would have great impact on how a personality and habit were created.:) good luck to you then!
PS: I myself also see the middle western men are attractive. be confident :)
Chinese girl

Toronto, Canada

#17 Apr 7, 2012
Actually...not really. Generally speaking, Middle Eastern guys have very reputation among Asians (China, Korea, Jap). FOB Asians generally only date Asians, esp. the rich ones. White-washed Asian likes to date white and Jewish.

Asian girls are smart and calculative, if you want to date one, you better have something good to offer.

Still, even if she likes you, her family and friends will be dead against it.

Not trying to scare you off, just telling you the truth that everyone else is sugar coating (because Asians are super polite).

There are Asian girls who dig Middle-Eastern guys (I am one lol), but they are extremely rare.

“To be or not to be”

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#18 Apr 8, 2012
Chinese girl wrote:
Actually...not really. Generally speaking, Middle Eastern guys have very reputation among Asians (China, Korea, Jap). FOB Asians generally only date Asians, esp. the rich ones. White-washed Asian likes to date white and Jewish.
Asian girls are smart and calculative, if you want to date one, you better have something good to offer.
Still, even if she likes you, her family and friends will be dead against it.
Not trying to scare you off, just telling you the truth that everyone else is sugar coating (because Asians are super polite).
There are Asian girls who dig Middle-Eastern guys (I am one lol), but they are extremely rare.
What if they are alone? Students are alone in Australia or Canada. Their bros and sis and relatives are not here.

Since: Nov 11

Location hidden

#19 Apr 8, 2012
-TheExam- wrote:
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What if they are alone? Students are alone in Australia or Canada. Their bros and sis and relatives are not here.
They hang around with other fobs and complain how it's more fun back home, and I don't blame them. You can only go to KTV so many times in C-Town before you get really bored.

“To be or not to be”

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#20 Apr 8, 2012
TheJazuma wrote:
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They hang around with other fobs and complain how it's more fun back home, and I don't blame them. You can only go to KTV so many times in C-Town before you get really bored.
Yes. They hang around coffee houses in Cabramatta in Sydney all day playing board games, picking their noses too.

Lots of nice looking girls there

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