Does he like me I'm Black He Chinese!...

Does he like me I'm Black He Chinese!? I even learn Chinese for him

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BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#1 Jan 22, 2013
I met Wong, In the 7th grade we were both really shy and reserved. We only had lunch together but we had our little chats and laughs through the year. Then, 8th grade we were in the same classes, we got to know each other a little better we barely talked and he mostly only talked with his friends and like in the 7th grade I still wrote Letters too him (my bad communication skills) and he would still occasionally stare at me but when I would try and talk too him he would be a jackass sometimes especially when his friends were around.

Then an Incident happen between us where he put his hands around my neck (he has Anger issues) and I had to wear a neck brace and we had to have a parent meeting where I was told that he was probably treating me bad because I was different and because of peer pressure by my classmates. I didn't talk too him for a while after this happen.

The last day of 8th grade comes around, and I look around for him so we end up spending most of the last day together I help him pack up the Technology while chatters on about "How he doesn't need my help" when he clearly had too much equipment in his hands I talk to him a little, and I even accidental bumped into him, and touched his hand (I still had a semi-crush on him at this time). But the day ended pretty well:

Now, I'm in 9th grade I have one class with him and see him at lunch I still sincerely like him a lot I mean sure he's hurt me a lot and can be a jackass but come on he's dealt with me for like 3 years I freakin Love him, truly no matter what.
We've argued a lot though about dumb stuff I asked him to go to peer mediation because we kept on fighting and it was getting physical and he ended up getting closer and closer too my face so close like he was about too kiss me and started yelling at me "it's not my problem" in front of everyone outside.

And I go, off on him the next day and then I apologize too him, he says "okay" and then a few weeks pass and we talk a little he's a litte more nice and stuff then I ask him if he has a "crush" on me while I am walking behind him he just says "No" doesn't yell or anything just an emotionless no and I write a letter that says "thank you for saying NO that you don't have a crush on me made me so happy" then I find out he threw the letter away from a boy or something.

We did end up going and it was a waste but I still see him around in school and have a class with him but I haven't been talking
Too him or paying any attention to him because I'm just scared that I can't tell him how I feel
He still stares at me a lot in class and I just wanna know what his true feelings are too?
Because Apart of me is still really in love with him but then there's this other part that doesn't understand why he's like this he treats me different than all the girls he lets other girls play and touch his hair and then when I did it he kinda screamed or something weird?
hmmm

Brisbane, Australia

#2 Jan 22, 2013
my honest opinion? i don't think he's interested in you. in fact, it sounds as though he gets quite annoyed by you. that's what i got from reading this.
Human Revolution

Loveland, OH

#3 Jan 22, 2013
Wait, 2 different guys? That does it, you're a Chinese guy.
The Grouch

London, UK

#4 Jan 22, 2013
BGirl wrote:
I met Wong, In the 7th grade we were both really shy and reserved. We only had lunch together but we had our little chats and laughs through the year. Then, 8th grade we were in the same classes, we got to know each other a little better we barely talked and he mostly only talked with his friends and like in the 7th grade I still wrote Letters too him (my bad communication skills) and he would still occasionally stare at me but when I would try and talk too him he would be a jackass sometimes especially when his friends were around.
Then an Incident happen between us where he put his hands around my neck (he has Anger issues) and I had to wear a neck brace and we had to have a parent meeting where I was told that he was probably treating me bad because I was different and because of peer pressure by my classmates. I didn't talk too him for a while after this happen.
The last day of 8th grade comes around, and I look around for him so we end up spending most of the last day together I help him pack up the Technology while chatters on about "How he doesn't need my help" when he clearly had too much equipment in his hands I talk to him a little, and I even accidental bumped into him, and touched his hand (I still had a semi-crush on him at this time). But the day ended pretty well:
Now, I'm in 9th grade I have one class with him and see him at lunch I still sincerely like him a lot I mean sure he's hurt me a lot and can be a jackass but come on he's dealt with me for like 3 years I freakin Love him, truly no matter what.
We've argued a lot though about dumb stuff I asked him to go to peer mediation because we kept on fighting and it was getting physical and he ended up getting closer and closer too my face so close like he was about too kiss me and started yelling at me "it's not my problem" in front of everyone outside.
And I go, off on him the next day and then I apologize too him, he says "okay" and then a few weeks pass and we talk a little he's a litte more nice and stuff then I ask him if he has a "crush" on me while I am walking behind him he just says "No" doesn't yell or anything just an emotionless no and I write a letter that says "thank you for saying NO that you don't have a crush on me made me so happy" then I find out he threw the letter away from a boy or something.
We did end up going and it was a waste but I still see him around in school and have a class with him but I haven't been talking
Too him or paying any attention to him because I'm just scared that I can't tell him how I feel
He still stares at me a lot in class and I just wanna know what his true feelings are too?
Because Apart of me is still really in love with him but then there's this other part that doesn't understand why he's like this he treats me different than all the girls he lets other girls play and touch his hair and then when I did it he kinda screamed or something weird?
If you're black, forget it. The Asians worship WHITES only.

Move on and find someone who will like you for who and what you are.
The Grouch

London, UK

#5 Jan 22, 2013
BGirl wrote:
I met Wong, In the 7th grade we were both really shy and reserved. We only had lunch together but we had our little chats and laughs through the year. Then, 8th grade we were in the same classes, we got to know each other a little better we barely talked and he mostly only talked with his friends and like in the 7th grade I still wrote Letters too him (my bad communication skills) and he would still occasionally stare at me but when I would try and talk too him he would be a jackass sometimes especially when his friends were around.
Then an Incident happen between us where he put his hands around my neck (he has Anger issues) and I had to wear a neck brace and we had to have a parent meeting where I was told that he was probably treating me bad because I was different and because of peer pressure by my classmates. I didn't talk too him for a while after this happen.
The last day of 8th grade comes around, and I look around for him so we end up spending most of the last day together I help him pack up the Technology while chatters on about "How he doesn't need my help" when he clearly had too much equipment in his hands I talk to him a little, and I even accidental bumped into him, and touched his hand (I still had a semi-crush on him at this time). But the day ended pretty well:
Now, I'm in 9th grade I have one class with him and see him at lunch I still sincerely like him a lot I mean sure he's hurt me a lot and can be a jackass but come on he's dealt with me for like 3 years I freakin Love him, truly no matter what.
We've argued a lot though about dumb stuff I asked him to go to peer mediation because we kept on fighting and it was getting physical and he ended up getting closer and closer too my face so close like he was about too kiss me and started yelling at me "it's not my problem" in front of everyone outside.
And I go, off on him the next day and then I apologize too him, he says "okay" and then a few weeks pass and we talk a little he's a litte more nice and stuff then I ask him if he has a "crush" on me while I am walking behind him he just says "No" doesn't yell or anything just an emotionless no and I write a letter that says "thank you for saying NO that you don't have a crush on me made me so happy" then I find out he threw the letter away from a boy or something.
We did end up going and it was a waste but I still see him around in school and have a class with him but I haven't been talking
Too him or paying any attention to him because I'm just scared that I can't tell him how I feel
He still stares at me a lot in class and I just wanna know what his true feelings are too?
Because Apart of me is still really in love with him but then there's this other part that doesn't understand why he's like this he treats me different than all the girls he lets other girls play and touch his hair and then when I did it he kinda screamed or something weird?
Advice from Dr. Grouch. Next time he behaves like a Jackass, poke him in the eye and smack him in the mouth - hard! That will cure him of his anger issues. Oh, and don't forget to call ICE for illegal entry into the good ol' US of A.
Jasmine

Naples, Italy

#6 Jan 22, 2013
No, he doesn't like you. He seems to have mental issues. What person hurt somebody and put them in a neck brace? That is crazy!
Human Revolution

Loveland, OH

#7 Jan 22, 2013
Jasmine wrote:
No, he doesn't like you. He seems to have mental issues. What person hurt somebody and put them in a neck brace? That is crazy!
Because this thread is b.s.
Jasmine

Naples, Italy

#8 Jan 22, 2013
Human Revolution wrote:
<quoted text> Because this thread is b.s.
I agree.
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#9 Jan 23, 2013
Human Revolution wrote:
<quoted text> Because this thread is b.s.
No it's not B.S.:(
He didn't intend to hurt me or put me in a neck brace he just was enraged or mad he push me by the neck and it didn't swell up till 2 days later.

Then a teacher somehow found out and called A social worker and they made us have a meeting :o...?

I just wanted people opinion
Cause I think he secretly likes me
Especially after we had the meeting
(Both our parents was there too)
To BGirl

Stamford, CT

#11 Jan 23, 2013
Ask him if he is annoyed with you.
Aren't 7th grade boys and girls usually not this physical with all this pushing?

Your situation sounds extremely crazy. It doesn't sound normal.
Is this boy peaceful around other girls?

You two need to talk it out. It doesn't sound healthy for you to hold how you feel. Also for teens, a crush may feel like the end of the world. Take it easy. If he rejects you, it's not the end of the world.

And don't you have an older sister to discuss this with instead of Topix?
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#13 Jan 24, 2013
To BGirl wrote:
Ask him if he is annoyed with you.
Aren't 7th grade boys and girls usually not this physical with all this pushing?
Your situation sounds extremely crazy. It doesn't sound normal.
Is this boy peaceful around other girls?
You two need to talk it out. It doesn't sound healthy for you to hold how you feel. Also for teens, a crush may feel like the end of the world. Take it easy. If he rejects you, it's not the end of the world.
And don't you have an older sister to discuss this with instead of Topix?


No, I only brothers I am the only girl in the family and my brother and I both have Aspergers so we don't understand at all the whole relationship thing .I have no sister at all :(

But me and him never really talk him and I both have problems making Eye contact and touching so I usually just write letters to him about my feelings..?

I confesses too him though a few weeks ago in a letter and he just looked at the ground and then stared at me all day the next day. He wasn't mean or nothing so I was really confused?

We're Freshman 9th graders currently :)
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#14 Jan 24, 2013
To BGirl wrote:
Ask him if he is annoyed with you.
Aren't 7th grade boys and girls usually not this physical with all this pushing?
Your situation sounds extremely crazy. It doesn't sound normal.
Is this boy peaceful around other girls?
You two need to talk it out. It doesn't sound healthy for you to hold how you feel. Also for teens, a crush may feel like the end of the world. Take it easy. If he rejects you, it's not the end of the world.
And don't you have an older sister to discuss this with instead of Topix?
Sorry Forget to answer your first part
He usually doesn't really mess with other girls he mainly hangs around his guy friends and stuff I am kinda the only girl that writes letters, or really tries to ask him things :)

He usually just silent around the other girls he'll just stare at me sometimes and I'll look at him and then I just look at my books and keep working he's not really that mean anymore still cold-hearted though :)
Hi BGirl

Stamford, CT

#15 Jan 24, 2013
Interesting. I know people with Asbergers are usually very smart and passionate about a certain hobby. However, people with Asbergers have trouble reading human emotion and connecting with people.

You teenagers are also exploring how to form relationships with the opposite genders so it'll be a confusing experiment. Puppy love...The human brain doesn't mature until after your teen years. Until then, in the teen years emotions are king.

You two need to communicate openly about your feelings and thoughts. If you don't, you'll keep suffering from anxiety and worry. Boys also mature slower than girls, especially in the teen years. He may be afraid to say things openly or he doesn't know how to establish boundaries yet. Good luck.

Do you have an female adult you can trust to discuss this matter? Guidance counselor, teacher, school, principal, Church leader? Better them then here on Topix.

Human Revolution

Loveland, OH

#16 Jan 24, 2013
You people are idiots if you think this person thinks they are who they say.

1 Korean American

“Ruling over East of Vegas(EOV)”

Since: Dec 12

Seoul, Korea

#17 Jan 24, 2013
just hold his hand already.
Human Revolution

Loveland, OH

#18 Jan 24, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
just hold his hand already.
If this story is true, are you trying to get this girl killed?
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#19 Jan 26, 2013
Human Revolution wrote:
You people are idiots if you think this person thinks they are who they say.
No I really am A girl/ Black Girl , I assure you 100% I am who I say I am just check out my blog ( antinettek.net ) and go to my About me page it has a picture of me and all my hobbies and stuff.
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#20 Jan 26, 2013
Hi BGirl wrote:
Interesting. I know people with Asbergers are usually very smart and passionate about a certain hobby. However, people with Asbergers have trouble reading human emotion and connecting with people.
You teenagers are also exploring how to form relationships with the opposite genders so it'll be a confusing experiment. Puppy love...The human brain doesn't mature until after your teen years. Until then, in the teen years emotions are king.
You two need to communicate openly about your feelings and thoughts. If you don't, you'll keep suffering from anxiety and worry. Boys also mature slower than girls, especially in the teen years. He may be afraid to say things openly or he doesn't know how to establish boundaries yet. Good luck.
Do you have an female adult you can trust to discuss this matter? Guidance counselor, teacher, school, principal, Church leader? Better them then here on Topix.
No I don't trust anybody at my school I go to a really horrible school there's lots a fights and the teachers and staff lie a lot and most of the kids in the school are failing they only really help the The Honors Kids, or the high class programmed kids they treat everybody else like yesterday's dirty garbage they are horrible!

So It's Just Been Me trying
My best by myself :)
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#21 Jan 26, 2013
Hi BGirl wrote:
Interesting. I know people with Asbergers are usually very smart and passionate about a certain hobby. However, people with Asbergers have trouble reading human emotion and connecting with people.
You teenagers are also exploring how to form relationships with the opposite genders so it'll be a confusing experiment. Puppy love...The human brain doesn't mature until after your teen years. Until then, in the teen years emotions are king.
You two need to communicate openly about your feelings and thoughts. If you don't, you'll keep suffering from anxiety and worry. Boys also mature slower than girls, especially in the teen years. He may be afraid to say things openly or he doesn't know how to establish boundaries yet. Good luck.
Do you have an female adult you can trust to discuss this matter? Guidance counselor, teacher, school, principal, Church leader? Better them then here on Topix.
Sorry, Forgot to post this part

Yeah It does seem like Teenagers emotions and hormones are up in stuff I always see people kissing in the hallways and stuff now eww...gross!! I mean he does have problems expressing himself though and we do have sometimes where we spend lunch together but his friends are around I say little remarks and things but he mainly talks to them.

I gave him a Christmas present though but I had to ask my friend to give it too him and i think he liked it we some stuff in common but we hardly ever talk? It's been rough though since we're divided at school cause he's in the upper Honors and gifted part and I am with some advance classes but we barely see each other.:(

But I usually go around looking for him when I have free-time from class and stuff to try and talk I did write in a letter that I had a crush on him and tried to hide it, I gave it to his friend and he gave it too him.

He read the letter I heard and I ran into him at the end of the day and he just kept on staring and looking at me and being weird I never really brought up my crush to him face to face let alone anymore.:(

And he rarely shows emotion and stuff like me or I show too much of something and we usually end up kinda nowhere...?

I did learn Cantonese for him though he only knows a little though but I wanted to shod him that I respect his culture.
BGirl

Fort Washington, MD

#22 Jan 26, 2013
1 Korean American wrote:
just hold his hand already.
Hmm..Well I'm not much of a touchy touchy person (sensory issues) but I do try and sometimes pat him on his head or poke his shoulder sometimes I tug his arm and stuff
He let me do this for like a few seconds and he gets all huffy and fussy and stuff but he never says anything or really does anything. Like he used to 2 years ago.

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