Promoting birth control and safe sex in the blk community

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Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#1 Apr 8, 2018
This is an important issue we need to discuss. The oow and STD problem in the blk community. In general we as a people have FAILED to successfully practice and teach safe sex and birth control.

I know sex is a bit hotter when u can feel each other without a condom, and the idea of having a baby is nice in an ideal world....

but the truth is more than half of us statistically is carrying an STD, and it's unlikely a one night stand or even a casual partner will reveal that they have an STD. Unless u know someone really well for a long time it could potentially save ur life to wear a condom. All STDs are very painful and unpleasant, and some are incurable and deadly. Ask anyone with hiv if it is worth the risk and see what they tell u.

And as far as babies go, it is a BIG responsibility and daunting 18+ year task. And without a daddy in the picture, DOUBLES the burden. Kids are expensive, require 24/7/365 times 18 care and attention, and welfare provides less than one percent of the cost. If u are having a baby to get a check or trap a man, u are making a big mistake. There are mother's and father's in prison right now because they weren't ready to be parents. Think long and hard and before u decide to have a baby. And be prepared for the challenge. And say goodbye to sleep.
Got_Rope

United States

#2 Apr 10, 2018
Tamale wrote:
This is an important issue we need to discuss. The oow and STD problem in the blk community. In general we as a people have FAILED to successfully practice and teach safe sex and birth control.

I know sex is a bit hotter when u can feel each other without a condom, and the idea of having a baby is nice in an ideal world....

but the truth is more than half of us statistically is carrying an STD, and it's unlikely a one night stand or even a casual partner will reveal that they have an STD. Unless u know someone really well for a long time it could potentially save ur life to wear a condom. All STDs are very painful and unpleasant, and some are incurable and deadly. Ask anyone with hiv if it is worth the risk and see what they tell u.

And as far as babies go, it is a BIG responsibility and daunting 18+ year task. And without a daddy in the picture, DOUBLES the burden. Kids are expensive, require 24/7/365 times 18 care and attention, and welfare provides less than one percent of the cost. If u are having a baby to get a check or trap a man, u are making a big mistake. There are mother's and father's in prison right now because they weren't ready to be parents. Think long and hard and before u decide to have a baby. And be prepared for the challenge. And say goodbye to sleep.
This is a joke right?

You're asking black people to take responsibility and accountability for something? It will never happen.

The last I heard 77% of black men abandon their children. And 60% have herpes. 91% of all the world's children with AIDS are found in Africa and 73% of the new HIV infections are from black bisexual and gay men.

Watch wait and see no black people will answer your thread.

Blacks take no responsibility or accountability for anything.
Tamale

Darby, PA

#3 Apr 10, 2018
Got_Rope wrote:
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This is a joke right?

You're asking black people to take responsibility and accountability for something? It will never happen.

The last I heard 77% of black men abandon their children. And 60% have herpes. 91% of all the world's children with AIDS are found in Africa and 73% of the new HIV infections are from black bisexual and gay men.

Watch wait and see no black people will answer your thread.

Blacks take no responsibility or accountability for anything.
Believe it or not there are those of us who do take responsibility at least to sum extent. Topix is probably not a good place to find blacks like us, at least not in the last decade. But we do exist. Problem is, those of us who take responsibility and hold ourselves and each other accountable are accused of "acting white" and cooning. There are a number of other factors which post an ill influence on us, and inhibit our mental development and other positive attribute conducive to success. And it is our own damn fault we succomb to these influences. At the end of the day we are our own worse enemy.

The first step to solving any problem is to admit there is a problem. That's why I made this thread. And if I reach even one person, that will be a blessing. But it's gotta start somewhere, and I am woman enough to own my short comings. If we don't, we can never overcome them.
Got_Rope

Lithonia, GA

#4 Apr 11, 2018
Tamale wrote:
<quoted text>Believe it or not there are those of us who do take responsibility at least to sum extent. Topix is probably not a good place to find blacks like us, at least not in the last decade. But we do exist. Problem is, those of us who take responsibility and hold ourselves and each other accountable are accused of "acting white" and cooning. There are a number of other factors which post an ill influence on us, and inhibit our mental development and other positive attribute conducive to success. And it is our own damn fault we succomb to these influences. At the end of the day we are our own worse enemy.

The first step to solving any problem is to admit there is a problem. That's why I made this thread. And if I reach even one person, that will be a blessing. But it's gotta start somewhere, and I am woman enough to own my short comings. If we don't, we can never overcome them.
I have nothing against good Black folks like yourself but as I told you you will never get the majority or even the minority of your people to take responsibility or have accountability for anything because they'd rather blame it on racism and Whitey!

Since 1973 when abortion became legal black folks have aborted over 19 million children. And yet, black people on this forum will make the claim they are God's special children.

Nothing is more important to a black man than having sex. It's an obsession with black men. They are Pleasure Seekers always looking to please their senses!

Read through these threads and you'll see for yourself.

Not to rub it in your face but didn't I tell you no black people would answer to your post?

Why?

Because as you say the first step in any recovery is to admit you have a problem. But under no circumstance will they!
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#5 Apr 11, 2018
Got_Rope wrote:
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I have nothing against good Black folks like yourself but as I told you you will never get the majority or even the minority of your people to take responsibility or have accountability for anything because they'd rather blame it on racism and Whitey!

Since 1973 when abortion became legal black folks have aborted over 19 million children. And yet, black people on this forum will make the claim they are God's special children.

Nothing is more important to a black man than having sex. It's an obsession with black men. They are Pleasure Seekers always looking to please their senses!

Read through these threads and you'll see for yourself.

Not to rub it in your face but didn't I tell you no black people would answer to your post?

Why?

Because as you say the first step in any recovery is to admit you have a problem. But under no circumstance will they!
Thank u for ur kind words Got Rope. I try to be as decent as humanly possible. And I appreciate not being painted with the same brush as people like cigar face. Though if truth be told I have my fair share of faults, and I like to believe people like cigar face have their redeeming qualities. But yeah, thank u for acknowledging there are good black people. I wish I seen more black folk on this forum big enough to acknowledge decent whites as I see white folk acknowledge decent blacks.

And u were correct that this thread wasn't gonna get any hits, at least as of yet. But hopefully at the very least someone read it and will heed my advice. It's embarrassing and frustrating how many of my people don't even understand the concept of STDs. Or think that pulling out or washing up with or even without soap afterward can prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies. It's very frustrating and disheartening to see the downward spiral my race is in and feel so powerless to do anything about it. And I try to do what I can, but it's like trying to stem the flow of water from a gushing fire hydrant with a wad of chewing gum. But as the mother of a beautiful, smart, talented decent black man I refuse to not at least try. He is my beacon of Hope in a sea of despair.
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#6 Apr 11, 2018
And look y'all, u catch an STD yo shyt is gonna be dripping, itching, burning, and STINKING all at the same time.That means u gonna have cute nurses and doctors gagging and swallowing they own puke back down as they examine u. Is such a painful and embarrassing experience really worth a few minutes of strange? Hell nah!!!
Got Rope

Brooklyn, NY

#7 Apr 13, 2018
Tamale wrote:
<quoted text>Thank u for ur kind words Got Rope. I try to be as decent as humanly possible. And I appreciate not being painted with the same brush as people like cigar face. Though if truth be told I have my fair share of faults, and I like to believe people like cigar face have their redeeming qualities. But yeah, thank u for acknowledging there are good black people. I wish I seen more black folk on this forum big enough to acknowledge decent whites as I see white folk acknowledge decent blacks.

And u were correct that this thread wasn't gonna get any hits, at least as of yet. But hopefully at the very least someone read it and will heed my advice. It's embarrassing and frustrating how many of my people don't even understand the concept of STDs. Or think that pulling out or washing up with or even without soap afterward can prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies. It's very frustrating and disheartening to see the downward spiral my race is in and feel so powerless to do anything about it. And I try to do what I can, but it's like trying to stem the flow of water from a gushing fire hydrant with a wad of chewing gum. But as the mother of a beautiful, smart, talented decent black man I refuse to not at least try. He is my beacon of Hope in a sea of despair.
The man who gave me the most inspiration I ever got from in my whole life was a black man.

He was my baseball coach and we won the championship two years in a row that I was with him.

Contrary to what people believe about me I do not hate black people I hate n****** that include white ones black ones Latino ones and even the Asian ones.

A person's race, how they look or
the color of their skin means absolutely nothing to me.

It's all about Behavior. And there are many whites who behave like animals also and I'm not ashamed to admit that!
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#8 Apr 13, 2018
Got Rope wrote:
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The man who gave me the most inspiration I ever got from in my whole life was a black man.

He was my baseball coach and we won the championship two years in a row that I was with him.

Contrary to what people believe about me I do not hate black people I hate n****** that include white ones black ones Latino ones and even the Asian ones.

A person's race, how they look or
the color of their skin means absolutely nothing to me.

It's all about Behavior. And there are many whites who behave like animals also and I'm not ashamed to admit that!
That is very deep Got Rope. And I know how u feel. If I were Good the righteous would live long happy healthy lives while the wicked were plagued with famine and disease until they finally croak out of existence. And having been raised by whites and married to a white man, I've had decades to study white folk up close and personal. So yeah, I understand how liberating it is to call sum monkey azz brotha or nasty thot a nighur or ape or chimp or whatever safely out of range of projectile poop from behind a keyboard.

Would I be wrong if I said it was very..... therapeutic?

Since: Mar 16

Location hidden

#9 Apr 17, 2018
Tamale wrote:
<quoted text>That is very deep Got Rope. And I know how u feel. If I were Good the righteous would live long happy healthy lives while the wicked were plagued with famine and disease until they finally croak out of existence. And having been raised by whites and married to a white man, I've had decades to study white folk up close and personal. So yeah, I understand how liberating it is to call sum monkey azz brotha or nasty thot a nighur or ape or chimp or whatever safely out of range of projectile poop from behind a keyboard.

Would I be wrong if I said it was very..... therapeutic?
So, how has they worked out for you? Creating a thread that didn't attract racist comments?:-)
Mr_JazzHands McLeakyButt

Beaver Dam, WI

#10 Apr 17, 2018
Looks like it worked great, so far so good
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#11 Apr 18, 2018
MelissaHawk wrote:
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So, how has they worked out for you? Creating a thread that didn't attract racist comments?:-)
Well....we had a breakthrough moment that transcended racial boundaries with one of topix afam's most notorious white posters. Not bad for a day's work, I'd say.
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#12 Apr 18, 2018
BTW that poster is currently on hiatus as he detoxes from the poison of this forum.
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#13 Apr 18, 2018
MelissaHawk wrote:
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So, how has they worked out for you? Creating a thread that didn't attract racist comments?:-)
And fyi the goal wasn't not to attract racist comments. The goal was to discuss black issues. Sadly though, so far, everyone is still too busy discussing their precious yt. Can't say I didn't at least try though. Smh
Mr_JazzHands McLeakyButt

United States

#14 Apr 18, 2018
Sorry that was me I leaked a lil'

Since: Dec 15

Location hidden

#15 Apr 20, 2018
Tamale wrote:
This is an important issue we need to discuss. The oow and STD problem in the blk community. In general we as a people have FAILED to successfully practice and teach safe sex and birth control.

I know sex is a bit hotter when u can feel each other without a condom, and the idea of having a baby is nice in an ideal world....

but the truth is more than half of us statistically is carrying an STD, and it's unlikely a one night stand or even a casual partner will reveal that they have an STD. Unless u know someone really well for a long time it could potentially save ur life to wear a condom. All STDs are very painful and unpleasant, and some are incurable and deadly. Ask anyone with hiv if it is worth the risk and see what they tell u.

And as far as babies go, it is a BIG responsibility and daunting 18+ year task. And without a daddy in the picture, DOUBLES the burden. Kids are expensive, require 24/7/365 times 18 care and attention, and welfare provides less than one percent of the cost. If u are having a baby to get a check or trap a man, u are making a big mistake. There are mother's and father's in prison right now because they weren't ready to be parents. Think long and hard and before u decide to have a baby. And be prepared for the challenge. And say goodbye to sleep.
I couldn't agree more. Our community has got to take responsibility birth control and STDs. Part of being a good mother is to chose to have a baby within a committed relationship (preferably marriage) for the protection of the baby as well as the mother. A child needs both parents and men are less likely to run off and leave a child they have with their wife. Depending on government assistance is a dead end and I hear Trump is going to make major cuts to these programs. People are going to have to wake up and soon.

Since: Dec 15

Location hidden

#16 Apr 20, 2018
for birth control
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#18 Apr 20, 2018
Lori899 wrote:
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I couldn't agree more. Our community has got to take responsibility birth control and STDs. Part of being a good mother is to chose to have a baby within a committed relationship (preferably marriage) for the protection of the baby as well as the mother. A child needs both parents and men are less likely to run off and leave a child they have with their wife. Depending on government assistance is a dead end and I hear Trump is going to make major cuts to these programs. People are going to have to wake up and soon.
Yes all these oow babies are growing up with either no respectable male influence or no male influence at all. Its feminizing the boys and turning the girls into hoes. Welfare should be for disabled people. On my state disabled people can't get it no more, it is now EXCLUIVELY for baby mamas. I hope Trump fixes that. It's azz backwards.
Tamale

Philadelphia, PA

#19 Apr 20, 2018
Sistas, that little bit of bread the gov is tossing u to make bastard babies is CHUMP CHANGE!. Practice safe sex and use birth control and u can make thousands in a month. Even tens of thousands. U can get a real man instead of getting pumped out by big brother.
Firey Fellow 44

United States

#20 May 25, 2018
Tamale wrote:
This is an important issue we need to discuss. The oow and STD problem in the blk community. In general we as a people have FAILED to successfully practice and teach safe sex and birth control.

I know sex is a bit hotter when u can feel each other without a condom, and the idea of having a baby is nice in an ideal world....

but the truth is more than half of us statistically is carrying an STD, and it's unlikely a one night stand or even a casual partner will reveal that they have an STD. Unless u know someone really well for a long time it could potentially save ur life to wear a condom. All STDs are very painful and unpleasant, and some are incurable and deadly. Ask anyone with hiv if it is worth the risk and see what they tell u.

And as far as babies go, it is a BIG responsibility and daunting 18+ year task. And without a daddy in the picture, DOUBLES the burden. Kids are expensive, require 24/7/365 times 18 care and attention, and welfare provides less than one percent of the cost. If u are having a baby to get a check or trap a man, u are making a big mistake. There are mother's and father's in prison right now because they weren't ready to be parents. Think long and hard and before u decide to have a baby. And be prepared for the challenge. And say goodbye to sleep.
Yep!! as long as ground dog food is made from little white piglets every where..

Since: Dec 15

Location hidden

#21 May 26, 2018
Tamale wrote:
<quoted text>. On my state disabled people can't get it no more, it is now EXCLUIVELY for baby mamas. I hope Trump fixes that. It's azz backwards.
I have a friend who is a single woman and has worked her entire life. Now she is going blind and had to go on disability which isn't enough to cover her expenses and food so she applied for food stamps. They said they could only give her $8/month. Yet, strong able bodied young women are sitting on their ass having kids with no husbands that they want the government to pay for. This has got to stop!

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