Why do black women hate on black men dating other races?

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“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#1 Oct 28, 2008
Ok I am not on here to put down black women.. I just wanna know whats the problem wit a black man being with someone not of his own kind. It seems to me, when this happens... he is either dating another race because he is

1. too weak to handle a black woman thats why he is dating a non-black (fyi... not only BW are strong and in control)

2. he is gettin sumthin he is NOT gettin from a black chick... like oral sex, or money (why cant he simply just really be interested?)

3. he is betray his race when dating a non black

4. he doesnt have shit going anyway otherwise he would be with a black woman

5. OR he has Shit going for him thats why hes not going for his kind because he thinks he is better (once again a traitor)

6. he is not in love.. he is in lust?

7. he's in it for the mix children

I could go own.. but Im just gonna keep it right there for now.. I really just wanna get some answers thats all...

Like why cant he really be in love.. or why cant he really have something real goin on with a non black person if he's black.. like...whats up with that... ladies.. help me out... and fellaz also!!!

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Since: Mar 07

Summer Hill

#2 Oct 28, 2008
YEAH!!

“LUV FAM 1RST”

Since: Apr 08

Maryland

#3 Oct 28, 2008
Only lonely people care who any one else dates. Married people could care less whom they see some one with. Itís the single and bored who judge. Your post almost seem like you have experienced this first hand. If you or a close friend has gone through this I would just say change your environment. Try and find a more intelligent crowd.

“Missing Mickey!!”

Since: Mar 08

St.Louis

#4 Oct 28, 2008
Lil Chattabox wrote:
Ok I am not on here to put down black women.. I just wanna know whats the problem wit a black man being with someone not of his own kind. It seems to me, when this happens... he is either dating another race because he is
1. too weak to handle a black woman thats why he is dating a non-black (fyi... not only BW are strong and in control)
2. he is gettin sumthin he is NOT gettin from a black chick... like oral sex, or money (why cant he simply just really be interested?)
3. he is betray his race when dating a non black
4. he doesnt have shit going anyway otherwise he would be with a black woman
5. OR he has Shit going for him thats why hes not going for his kind because he thinks he is better (once again a traitor)
6. he is not in love.. he is in lust?
7. he's in it for the mix children
I could go own.. but Im just gonna keep it right there for now.. I really just wanna get some answers thats all...
Like why cant he really be in love.. or why cant he really have something real goin on with a non black person if he's black.. like...whats up with that... ladies.. help me out... and fellaz also!!!
Actually some black men do it for love...just like some black women

“Bumping the positive topics!!!”

Since: Aug 08

Miami

#5 Oct 28, 2008
IDK I don't have a problem w/ it, but the avg black woman you will run into on forums and the internet in general is a little bit more open minded and cultured than just the avg black woman you would see in like the hood.

My pt. this thread is a fail b/c

a. this question has been asked over and over, and most women of the topix have answered the same over and over
b. what do you really expect from the internet, read Waiting to Exhale or something.
c. most young bw around my age don't even care if a bm is with a non black woman you should ask this question to the White Males who get so exasperated at the very idea of IR dating.

I have yet to see any bw on topix expressing just utter disapproval of IR relationships. Its the white trolls who get all bent out of shape about it.

My take on it is do what you like, but please do not project your notions of what a black woman should act like onto me. Just b/c you may have many nay sayers and IR haters does not mean that EVERY BW has a problem with it.

Since: May 07

Fort Washington, MD

#6 Oct 28, 2008
Lil Chattabox wrote:
Ok I am not on here to put down black women.. I just wanna know whats the problem wit a black man being with someone not of his own kind. It seems to me, when this happens... he is either dating another race because he is
1. too weak to handle a black woman thats why he is dating a non-black (fyi... not only BW are strong and in control)
2. he is gettin sumthin he is NOT gettin from a black chick... like oral sex, or money (why cant he simply just really be interested?)
3. he is betray his race when dating a non black
4. he doesnt have shit going anyway otherwise he would be with a black woman
5. OR he has Shit going for him thats why hes not going for his kind because he thinks he is better (once again a traitor)
6. he is not in love.. he is in lust?
7. he's in it for the mix children
I could go own.. but Im just gonna keep it right there for now.. I really just wanna get some answers thats all...
Like why cant he really be in love.. or why cant he really have something real goin on with a non black person if he's black.. like...whats up with that... ladies.. help me out... and fellaz also!!!
It goes both ways my friend. I've seen some black men get at black women for dating out and vice versa.
Attagirl

La Plata, MD

#7 Oct 28, 2008
I don't care. Date whoever you want. Why should it bother me? You're not affecting me with your decision.

If a black women is angry at a black man for dating another race, then it's usually because she is either

A: lonely, ugly with self-esteem issues causing her to be bitter and looking for a reason as to why she is alone and men don't want her.

or B: Lonely, pretty and stuck up with a bad attitude and looking for a reason as to why she is alone instead of realizing she is the problem.

If a black woman does not fit in either of these categories, then she usually doesn't care about IR dating.
Attagirl

La Plata, MD

#8 Oct 28, 2008
It sometimes it's that afrocentric perspective that seems to believe that in order to preserve the black race we must only date our own kind.

In this case, the anger at interracial dating can go both ways.

I'm also sure there are a few black men that don't enjoy seeing black women date other races. I will allow them to elaborate as to why that is.
Attagirl

La Plata, MD

#9 Oct 28, 2008
*And sometimes* not *It sometimes*.

Excuse the typo.

“LUV FAM 1RST”

Since: Apr 08

Maryland

#10 Oct 28, 2008
Attagirl wrote:
I don't care. Date whoever you want. Why should it bother me? You're not affecting me with your decision.
If a black women is angry at a black man for dating another race, then it's usually because she is either
A: lonely, ugly with self-esteem issues causing her to be bitter and looking for a reason as to why she is alone and men don't want her.
or B: Lonely, pretty and stuck up with a bad attitude and looking for a reason as to why she is alone instead of realizing she is the problem.
If a black woman does not fit in either of these categories, then she usually doesn't care about IR dating.
cosign
Same goes for males.
Game4Life

Belle Vernon, PA

#11 Oct 28, 2008
Lil Chattabox wrote:
Ok I am not on here to put down black women.. I just wanna know whats the problem wit a black man being with someone not of his own kind. It seems to me, when this happens... he is either dating another race because he is
1. too weak to handle a black woman thats why he is dating a non-black (fyi... not only BW are strong and in control)
2. he is gettin sumthin he is NOT gettin from a black chick... like oral sex, or money (why cant he simply just really be interested?)
3. he is betray his race when dating a non black
4. he doesnt have shit going anyway otherwise he would be with a black woman
5. OR he has Shit going for him thats why hes not going for his kind because he thinks he is better (once again a traitor)
6. he is not in love.. he is in lust?
7. he's in it for the mix children
I could go own.. but Im just gonna keep it right there for now.. I really just wanna get some answers thats all...
Like why cant he really be in love.. or why cant he really have something real goin on with a non black person if he's black.. like...whats up with that... ladies.. help me out... and fellaz also!!!
Why do people keep making these topics, design to have BM and BW at each others throats?

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#12 Oct 28, 2008
Mickey N Ashley wrote:
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Actually some black men do it for love...just like some black women
Thank you for that!
Bruhman

Miami, FL

#13 Oct 28, 2008
I personally don't trip on Black women dating white men. I used to when I was younger, because I perceived that all those females thought they were "too good", i.e. too educated, too good looking, etc. to be with a common, everyday Black man.
Since I've grown older, I realize that although that may very well be the case- for both Black men AND women (because there are some Black people who just plain don't like Black people, or even like being Black themselves, necessarily)- it doesn't affect me personally in the least. Life is too short to trip on what someone else is doing. As long as it's not illegal, or harming me or mine, I could care less who you date.

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#14 Oct 28, 2008
Not-So-Brite wrote:
Only lonely people care who any one else dates. Married people could care less whom they see some one with. Itís the single and bored who judge. Your post almost seem like you have experienced this first hand. If you or a close friend has gone through this I would just say change your environment. Try and find a more intelligent crowd.
Actually u are right.. thank you.. those who are lonely and single.. possibly unhappy are the ones that bother with that...

and yes I am experiencing 1st hand being that I have been with my man for over 8 years and have 3 kids with him nd feel all the hatred and tension from my kind and his kind.. but mainly from the chicks from his kind...

as for another crowd.. its not who i hang around.. its the everyday life...everybody always have sumthin to say about us..

but thank you for ur reply

Level 6

Since: Jun 08

DC

#15 Oct 28, 2008
Lil Chattabox wrote:
Ok I am not on here to put down black women.. I just wanna know whats the problem wit a black man being with someone not of his own kind. It seems to me, when this happens... he is either dating another race because he is
1. too weak to handle a black woman thats why he is dating a non-black (fyi... not only BW are strong and in control)
2. he is gettin sumthin he is NOT gettin from a black chick... like oral sex, or money (why cant he simply just really be interested?)
3. he is betray his race when dating a non black
4. he doesnt have shit going anyway otherwise he would be with a black woman
5. OR he has Shit going for him thats why hes not going for his kind because he thinks he is better (once again a traitor)
6. he is not in love.. he is in lust?
7. he's in it for the mix children
I could go own.. but Im just gonna keep it right there for now.. I really just wanna get some answers thats all...
Like why cant he really be in love.. or why cant he really have something real goin on with a non black person if he's black.. like...whats up with that... ladies.. help me out... and fellaz also!!!
we as humans want to make sense of things. So when we see a black ma with a non black woman, we assume to make sense of things. It's hurtful to think that a quality black guy was pushed away from black women(as a whole)..and even though that particular black chick may have not contributed. It's easier to think negative thoughts of that person than to think negative thoughts of oneself.

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#16 Oct 28, 2008
DariasSickSadWorld wrote:
IDK I don't have a problem w/ it, but the avg black woman you will run into on forums and the internet in general is a little bit more open minded and cultured than just the avg black woman you would see in like the hood.
My pt. this thread is a fail b/c
a. this question has been asked over and over, and most women of the topix have answered the same over and over
b. what do you really expect from the internet, read Waiting to Exhale or something.
c. most young bw around my age don't even care if a bm is with a non black woman you should ask this question to the White Males who get so exasperated at the very idea of IR dating.
I have yet to see any bw on topix expressing just utter disapproval of IR relationships. Its the white trolls who get all bent out of shape about it.
My take on it is do what you like, but please do not project your notions of what a black woman should act like onto me. Just b/c you may have many nay sayers and IR haters does not mean that EVERY BW has a problem with it.
Oh trust me, I am not sayin that all black women have a problem with it and thank you for you not having an issue with it... this was directing to bw who have a problem with it.. because the black women from where I am have issues.. and I grew up in da hood and funny cuz I grew up in da ghetto and have my friends where all black.. so for me ending up with one wasnt a surprise.. I just dont get how when I do end up with a BM now all my BW friends change on me.. and some of them are in happy relationships themselves.. I just figure certain BW even my own friends just dont want to see a BM really in love with another race woman.. thats all...

I am not directing this forum to say all BW have a problem with it.. I just wanna know for those who do have a problem.. to simple stat what it is.. Im just curious thats all

“This was so much FUN!”

Since: Sep 08

Thomasville, GA

#17 Oct 28, 2008
ummmm from what I see on at least, its the other way around. Some of these men cant STAND the fact that a black woman has the "audacity" to date/marry a man of another race. So then we are labeled as sellouts and all other kinds of derogatory names. So why is it that men who date out dont get called sellouts?

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#18 Oct 28, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
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It goes both ways my friend. I've seen some black men get at black women for dating out and vice versa.
ofcourse.. thats with every race... ur race opposites always wonder why not stay with ur own kind and blah blah blah!

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#19 Oct 28, 2008
Attagirl wrote:
I don't care. Date whoever you want. Why should it bother me? You're not affecting me with your decision.
If a black women is angry at a black man for dating another race, then it's usually because she is either
A: lonely, ugly with self-esteem issues causing her to be bitter and looking for a reason as to why she is alone and men don't want her.
or B: Lonely, pretty and stuck up with a bad attitude and looking for a reason as to why she is alone instead of realizing she is the problem.
If a black woman does not fit in either of these categories, then she usually doesn't care about IR dating.
Thank you and those comments indeed make sense

“Sexy & I Kno It”

Since: Oct 08

T.o.

#20 Oct 28, 2008
Game4Life wrote:
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Why do people keep making these topics, design to have BM and BW at each others throats?
I made this topic to find answers for myself... not with the intension to cause any tension between the two...
I myself is married to a black man and have 3 babies by him.. this is why I am asking...

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