What Does Acting White Mean
First Prev
of 9
Next Last

“Proud of my African Heritage”

Since: Oct 07

New York

#1 Oct 30, 2007
It seems like everytime a black personm decides to do somwthing smart like read or study a specific topic of intrest or even just dress a certain way another black person say's stop acting white. What is acting white. So many of my black brothas and sistas accuse me of actin white because i like emo music and sometimes dress emo or punked out or even wear high fashion inspired outfits but um a new yorker what do you expect. They even say i talk white. WTF I really want to know what actin white means. Why can't black people listen to alternative music and dress crazy or even talked well educated without being accused of acting white?
Mack the Great

Derwood, MD

#2 Oct 30, 2007
Well, to answer you question HK, this problem ultimately stems from the fact that when we blacks were stripped of our cultural traditions and language when we were broguht over to America slaves, we had to create a new cultural identity for ourselves and make it our new symbol of black pride and to adapt in white American society, and thanks to the rise of hip hops popularity, we decided that acting ghetto and thuggish is what being black is about, and if any black person doesn't conform to that image and maintain interest in rap,then you are considered whitewashed or acting white. This wouldn't be the case and all of us blacks wouldn't have to worry about this issue if we were'nt stripped of our cultural identity in the first place. It's also due to the fact that us blacks have been segregated from white society for so long, without having experience in it, that we make ignorant assumptions like the ones you stated.

“Dream Big and Go Boldly”

Since: May 07

Miami Beach, Florida

#3 Oct 30, 2007
Huricane Katrina wrote:
It seems like everytime a black personm decides to do somwthing smart like read or study a specific topic of intrest or even just dress a certain way another black person say's stop acting white. What is acting white. So many of my black brothas and sistas accuse me of actin white because i like emo music and sometimes dress emo or punked out or even wear high fashion inspired outfits but um a new yorker what do you expect. They even say i talk white. WTF I really want to know what actin white means. Why can't black people listen to alternative music and dress crazy or even talked well educated without being accused of acting white?
I am a Black woman in my late 40's who has always been different. My interests aren't typical. I was made fun of all through middle and high school becasue I was an excellent student and I was into math and science. I listen to alternative music too. I was heavily into punk and new wave back when I was in college in the late 1970's. I dressed like a punker and was made fun of by other Blacks at my university. I am also into science fiction and fantasy. I like foriegn and independent films. I have several degrees and work in the IT field. I dress conservatively. I use standard English. Blacks are very narrow-minded and intolerant of other Blacks who have different interests. They haven't been exposed to other cultures and lifesyles and think all Black people have to look and act the same. That is where all the stereotypes come in.
KIT

Tampa, FL

#4 Oct 30, 2007
It means surviving in white America. You have to wear a mask at work in the corporate world at times BC white people are intimidated by us and we gotta play the game the game like them to succeed, that's just a fact.
CuriosWhiteGuy

Plainfield, IL

#5 Oct 30, 2007
Huricane Katrina wrote:
It seems like everytime a black personm decides to do somwthing smart like read or study a specific topic of intrest or even just dress a certain way another black person say's stop acting white. What is acting white. So many of my black brothas and sistas accuse me of actin white because i like emo music and sometimes dress emo or punked out or even wear high fashion inspired outfits but um a new yorker what do you expect. They even say i talk white. WTF I really want to know what actin white means. Why can't black people listen to alternative music and dress crazy or even talked well educated without being accused of acting white?
theres no such thing as acting white or acting black.. does acting black mean you are ignorant and ghetto? because thats what ni@@as say not black people. is acting white proper english and intelligence?.. its the only way you'll succeed in life!

Since: Jul 07

Dover, DE

#7 Oct 30, 2007
Well then I'm white then I guess. It's no mask. I enjoy business attire with hidden goodies (I have a lingerie fetish)...:D I enjoy a wide variety of music so long as it sounds good and carries a good message.

It's not a mask of survival. It's just me. It's just my interests and personality.

And don't mind me saying, if we all expanded our horizons, there wouldn't be things like acting Black, White or anything else.

Since: Sep 07

Location hidden

#9 Oct 30, 2007
Kimmycat wrote:
<quoted text>
I am a Black woman in my late 40's who has always been different. My interests aren't typical. I was made fun of all through middle and high school becasue I was an excellent student and I was into math and science. I listen to alternative music too. I was heavily into punk and new wave back when I was in college in the late 1970's. I dressed like a punker and was made fun of by other Blacks at my university. I am also into science fiction and fantasy. I like foriegn and independent films. I have several degrees and work in the IT field. I dress conservatively. I use standard English. Blacks are very narrow-minded and intolerant of other Blacks who have different interests. They haven't been exposed to other cultures and lifesyles and think all Black people have to look and act the same. That is where all the stereotypes come in.
So true, Kimmy. Many Black people are guilty of the same thing that they rightly despise in mainstream White society: all Black people have to look the same, act the same, dress the same, etc. as an affirmation of our "Blackness".

I enjoyed reading your post because your background is so like mine :-)

I was an 80's metalhead; a rabid Metallica fan (back when Metallica was "edgy" LOL). I went to a 72% Black high school. I spoke Standard English, did universally well in my classes, and aced the SAT and ACT. I was brutally criticized for "acting White". Even my teachers thought of me as strange. When I went to college, the minority affairs counselor told me I'd "lost my identity". ROFL! Nope. This IS my identity. Sorry you don't understand it lady.

Deviating from topic a tiny bit - I think in retrospect I was in a bit of a "Kobayshi-Maru" scenario: too "White" to be Black but still not immune to the Black stereotypes perceived by Whites. This, more than anything, I believe instilled a fierce individuality in me.
JBrown

Charlotte, NC

#10 Oct 30, 2007
Umm what is acting white...I cant count how many times another black person told me i acted white. Is it because im am educated,smart,dress different from the average black person,listen to alternative music,or i just have a lot of white friends? News flash people there is no such thing as acting any race,everybody is different and everybody has their own style, its life. WERE IN AMERICA...i think!

“En Sabah Nur”

Level 1

Since: Oct 07

Flatbush, Brooklyn

#11 Oct 30, 2007
I disagree. The Blacks in the northern parts of the United States speak better english than the Blacks from down south of the States. When I moved from New York in 1995 down to Florida I couldn't understand the Black southern drawl way of talking. In their mind I speak proper english but I don't, I sound like a New Yorker. When a Black New Yorker speaks their words is clear with a slang if they choose to use it.

But when you combined the southern Black's accent along with street slang words it just sound like ebonics and can't understand a word they say. That's why I'm moving back to Brooklyn because I can't understand their way of talking (and attitude.) When a Black person from the North move down south the Blacks always accuse them of "talking white". And they know when they watch BET and shows like 106 & Park with Free and AJ these folks spoke proper english and they never accused them of "talking white" and they probably didn't realize the show broadcasted from New York.

In closing, Black American culture is different up north than down south, but everyone wants to lump all black americans as the same people... they need to get out more and see that not all blacks speak like the ones on the Divorce Court show.

“En Sabah Nur”

Level 1

Since: Oct 07

Flatbush, Brooklyn

#12 Oct 30, 2007
JBrown wrote:
Umm what is acting white...I cant count how many times another black person told me i acted white. Is it because im am educated,smart,dress different from the average black person,listen to alternative music,or i just have a lot of white friends? News flash people there is no such thing as acting any race,everybody is different and everybody has their own style, its life. WERE IN AMERICA...i think!
They have a mentatity that the Black race is one gigantic collective living organism. It's probably the Southern Blacks saying those things to the Blacks from out-of-state. They are home bodies, so when they hear a black person speak with no southern drawl they accuse them of trying to sound white. It's ignorance on their part to believe all black people speak like them, a southerner.

“Dream Big and Go Boldly”

Since: May 07

Miami Beach, Florida

#13 Oct 30, 2007
JohnnyQ wrote:
<quoted text>
So true, Kimmy. Many Black people are guilty of the same thing that they rightly despise in mainstream White society: all Black people have to look the same, act the same, dress the same, etc. as an affirmation of our "Blackness".
I enjoyed reading your post because your background is so like mine :-)
I was an 80's metalhead; a rabid Metallica fan (back when Metallica was "edgy" LOL). I went to a 72% Black high school. I spoke Standard English, did universally well in my classes, and aced the SAT and ACT. I was brutally criticized for "acting White". Even my teachers thought of me as strange. When I went to college, the minority affairs counselor told me I'd "lost my identity". ROFL! Nope. This IS my identity. Sorry you don't understand it lady.
Deviating from topic a tiny bit - I think in retrospect I was in a bit of a "Kobayshi-Maru" scenario: too "White" to be Black but still not immune to the Black stereotypes perceived by Whites. This, more than anything, I believe instilled a fierce individuality in me.
Johnny Q, you don't know how many times I have been told by other Blacks that I have "lost my identity". I have been told this by Black professors, co-workers, and relatives. Your background is very much like mine. I scored very high on the SAT and earned a scholarship to college. I was constantly ridiculed and bullied by my Black peers. I have always gotten along with White people much to the annoyance of other Blacks. My White teachers, classmates and co-workers always accepted me and even complimented me for my intelligence. I tried to fit into Black mainstream society for years but failed miserably. When I entered my late 30's I decided to just be myself and to explore and embrace different interests that were outside of mainstream Black society regardless of the social consequences. My past experiences have made me even more determined to be an individual.
KIT

Tampa, FL

#14 Oct 30, 2007
Fang-Li Won wrote:
Well then I'm white then I guess. It's no mask. I enjoy business attire with hidden goodies (I have a lingerie fetish)...:D I enjoy a wide variety of music so long as it sounds good and carries a good message.
It's not a mask of survival. It's just me. It's just my interests and personality.
And don't mind me saying, if we all expanded our horizons, there wouldn't be things like acting Black, White or anything else.
I dont think it;s about expanding our horizons at all BC i have lived all over the world and there is a certain "way" you have to be to get ahead in the US. I love business clothes as well and listen to everything from rock ro rap however i was talking about your demeanor, your talk, your whole attitude has to conform when you are in corporate america that's just the truth.

“Dream Big and Go Boldly”

Since: May 07

Miami Beach, Florida

#15 Oct 30, 2007
Apocalypse wrote:
I disagree. The Blacks in the northern parts of the United States speak better english than the Blacks from down south of the States. When I moved from New York in 1995 down to Florida I couldn't understand the Black southern drawl way of talking. In their mind I speak proper english but I don't, I sound like a New Yorker. When a Black New Yorker speaks their words is clear with a slang if they choose to use it.
But when you combined the southern Black's accent along with street slang words it just sound like ebonics and can't understand a word they say. That's why I'm moving back to Brooklyn because I can't understand their way of talking (and attitude.) When a Black person from the North move down south the Blacks always accuse them of "talking white". And they know when they watch BET and shows like 106 & Park with Free and AJ these folks spoke proper english and they never accused them of "talking white" and they probably didn't realize the show broadcasted from New York.
In closing, Black American culture is different up north than down south, but everyone wants to lump all black americans as the same people... they need to get out more and see that not all blacks speak like the ones on the Divorce Court show.
I grew up in Ohio where I speak with the typical Midwestern accent. I lived in Tennessee, North Carolina, and now in Florida. Southren Blacks always ask me where I am from and either make fun of me to my face or behind my back. I don't use "ebonics" or slang. My parents didn't allow us to use poor grammar. I definitely have trouble fitting in in Florida. I am getting married next Spring and my fiance and I are considering relocating to New York or to Europe. My fiance immigrated to the US about 30 years ago and lived in NYC for about 25 years. My fiance is Irish and gets laughed at in Miami because of his accent. The Black community is more diverse that most people realize and there is a definite difference between Southren and Northren Blacks.
KIT

Tampa, FL

#16 Oct 30, 2007
its about playing thier game the ones who do it the best succeed the ones who do it so so keep jobs the ones who refuse to do it, are unemployed or in jail, you gotta know how to play the game and then get in good enough learn enough to build off of that to get your own. Only when we start looking out for our own are we really going to be able to be ourselves in corporate america, once we own a chucnk we can dictate to an extent but until then all we can do is get up everyday put on our masks and do what we do.
blkbaltimore

Essex, MD

#17 Oct 30, 2007
CuriosWhiteGuy wrote:
<quoted text>
ni@@as
u just had to add that - right!

you're a prick!

There is no distinction between black people and n-words.....that's a distinction that racists made to justify their racism...as for the black people that make those distinctions....ie Chris Rock.....they are acting "white" IMO
NYU

United States

#18 Oct 30, 2007
Huricane Katrina wrote:
It seems like everytime a black personm decides to do somwthing smart like read or study a specific topic of intrest or even just dress a certain way another black person say's stop acting white. What is acting white. So many of my black brothas and sistas accuse me of actin white because i like emo music and sometimes dress emo or punked out or even wear high fashion inspired outfits but um a new yorker what do you expect. They even say i talk white. WTF I really want to know what actin white means. Why can't black people listen to alternative music and dress crazy or even talked well educated without being accused of acting white?
Acting white is...not acting ghetto. They are ignorant. Ignore them. And be yourself.
Level 1

Since: Mar 07

Location hidden

#19 Oct 30, 2007
Huricane Katrina wrote:
It seems like everytime a black personm decides to do somwthing smart like read or study a specific topic of intrest or even just dress a certain way another black person say's stop acting white. What is acting white. So many of my black brothas and sistas accuse me of actin white because i like emo music and sometimes dress emo or punked out or even wear high fashion inspired outfits but um a new yorker what do you expect. They even say i talk white. WTF I really want to know what actin white means. Why can't black people listen to alternative music and dress crazy or even talked well educated without being accused of acting white?
ha, ha, are you wearing a "dirndl" in your avatar-picture? some people think, white people, who wear fubu-clothes are acting black. maybe some people think, a black girl, who wears a dirndl, is acting white.

to me its stereotype-bullshit. you act like you. not like white, black, yellow or blue poeple.

“Proud of my African Heritage”

Since: Oct 07

New York

#20 Oct 30, 2007
michi78 wrote:
<quoted text>
ha, ha, are you wearing a "dirndl" in your avatar-picture? some people think, white people, who wear fubu-clothes are acting black. maybe some people think, a black girl, who wears a dirndl, is acting white.
to me its stereotype-bullshit. you act like you. not like white, black, yellow or blue poeple.
oh that's my halloween costume i was trying it on lol

“Fabulosity at its BEST”

Since: Aug 07

Washington DC

#21 Oct 30, 2007
the Original ohReally wrote:
<quoted text>LOL!!! "WE"....Hey, Mack, what year did YOU get "shipped" here? YOUR culture is the black american culture, NOT the African slave culture....
Okay, Original, I have to give you props where they are due. I dont particularly care for your personality, but you have made a valid point, that my people do tend to forget. For that honest clarification, I say "Thank You".
C-Bisquit

Pinecrest, CA

#22 Oct 30, 2007
I could care less if somebody told me act white especially if they act like a stereotypical bafoon. If being black means I gotta be un-educated and look suspect I'll be white, tah tah.

Tell me when this thread is updated:

Subscribe Now Add to my Tracker
First Prev
of 9
Next Last

Add your comments below

Characters left: 4000

Please note by submitting this form you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

African-American Discussions

Title Updated Last By Comments
News Barack Obama, our next President (Nov '08) 3 min My New Alias RULES 1,522,650
Why aren't there white people tribes still livi... (Feb '15) 4 min Paul 24
Negro behavior in public places 5 min JRT 12
Are Papuans from New Guinea considered Blacks? (Feb '08) 13 min dowc14freeport 203
I FEEL FOR YOU, GIRL. I THINK I LOVES YOU. come... 17 min Maceo 1
blacks are the only race that is failing 19 min The Bemused Axe 4
what I like about being a white guy 29 min Fucisil 2
BLACK MALES ARE THE MOST DELUSIONAL PEOPLE ON T... 56 min The Power Of Mast... 71
Racists are not born, they're created 1 hr The Power Of Mast... 56
1 million mummies found in Egypt with red and b... 1 hr Paul 25
The real reason black men say blonde hair and b... 2 hr TranshumanX 285
More from around the web