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Harder for mixed race women to find a black man!

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kelsey

Leeds, UK

#1 Jul 2, 2011
I have been thinking lately that is perhaps harder for mixed race girls to meet a decent guy from different races especially black as black men tend to prefer white women.I say this because most mixed girls I know compared to mixed men I know are single and have been for years.
Mixed race men that I know seem to have more luck than mixed race girls in my experience in finding relationships. I think this is because white women are generally more willing to date black/mixed men. They also don't have a preconceived notion of them and tend to accept them as they are, a quality I don't think most white men have towards black/mixed women.

I can see various pros and cons that mixed women may find when dating white men and black men and the mixed men available to them are far and far between. Even if they were to meet one that doesn't mean that mixed man would magically be good for them.

black men:

1) they can at times exoticize mixed women

2) the mixed woman they are dating may either not be white or black enough for them. Most black men I know prefer to date white women, so a mixed women is just a kind of stepping stone for them.
Those that like black women tend to date black women who have fully grown up in a black rather than mixed culture; a true black women who can cook soul food e.t.c.

There are some black men who accept mixed women as they are but these tend to be alternative type black guys who have probably not grown up having a strong black identity themselves. eg. the character in the film 'I'm through with white girls:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0829202/

3) their insecurities when dating mixed women. Wale has addressed this in his song 'shades':

I myself have dated a black man who let his insecurities show and he did mention my mixedness so I wonder whether he felt that I would not take him seriously because he was darker than me (insecurity is not attractive).

-On a positive note black men do tend to see mixed women as beautiful, at times it can be seen as exoticizing. But not always. The singer keke wyatt has mentioned that she feels that she is more so a black man's standard of beauty than a white man's, which is why she has tended to date them. Black men also tend to appreciate curves on women more. They also do not shy away from speaking their mind and talking about race or other passionate topics, which I think is a good thing.

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Since: Jun 10

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#2 Jul 2, 2011
Most mixed race women (with one black parent/one non-black parent) that I have seen date white or other non-black men. That seems to be the trend.

Most mixed-race women don't want to bothered with the colorism issues of black men, so they steer clear of them, and I don't blame them.
ABC

Hamilton, Canada

#3 Jul 2, 2011
kelsey wrote:
I have been thinking lately that is perhaps harder for mixed race girls to meet a decent guy from different races especially black as black men tend to prefer white women.I say this because most mixed girls I know compared to mixed men I know are single and have been for years.
Mixed race men that I know seem to have more luck than mixed race girls in my experience in finding relationships. I think this is because white women are generally more willing to date black/mixed men. They also don't have a preconceived notion of them and tend to accept them as they are, a quality I don't think most white men have towards black/mixed women.
I can see various pros and cons that mixed women may find when dating white men and black men and the mixed men available to them are far and far between. Even if they were to meet one that doesn't mean that mixed man would magically be good for them.
black men:
1) they can at times exoticize mixed women
2) the mixed woman they are dating may either not be white or black enough for them. Most black men I know prefer to date white women, so a mixed women is just a kind of stepping stone for them.
Those that like black women tend to date black women who have fully grown up in a black rather than mixed culture; a true black women who can cook soul food e.t.c.
There are some black men who accept mixed women as they are but these tend to be alternative type black guys who have probably not grown up having a strong black identity themselves. eg. the character in the film 'I'm through with white girls:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0829202/
3) their insecurities when dating mixed women. Wale has addressed this in his song 'shades':
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =lhL_aJ3pf8g4XX
I myself have dated a black man who let his insecurities show and he did mention my mixedness so I wonder whether he felt that I would not take him seriously because he was darker than me (insecurity is not attractive).
-On a positive note black men do tend to see mixed women as beautiful, at times it can be seen as exoticizing. But not always. The singer keke wyatt has mentioned that she feels that she is more so a black man's standard of beauty than a white man's, which is why she has tended to date them. Black men also tend to appreciate curves on women more. They also do not shy away from speaking their mind and talking about race or other passionate topics, which I think is a good thing.
You live in the UK so I can't be suprised at anything you say but to me you just sound like a White woman trying to make yourself seem important.You've finished trying to convince black women that all black men are obsessed with white women and all black celebrities and athletes are dating you all.So now you're targeting mixed race women and trying to chip away at their self esteem too.You mentioned all the mixed race women that you know are single,what about all the white women who are single?There are enough single white mothers walking around with mixed race children to know that WW/BM dont always work out the way you would love us to believe they do.For every Halle Berry who cant seem to find the right man black or white there is an Alicia keys with a BM or Thandie Newton with a WM,stop trying to potray mixed women as sad confused victims.
Troll_Patrol

Roswell, GA

#4 Jul 2, 2011
ABC wrote:
<quoted text>
You live in the UK so I can't be suprised at anything you say but to me you just sound like a White woman trying to make yourself seem important.You've finished trying to convince black women that all black men are obsessed with white women and all black celebrities and athletes are dating you all.So now you're targeting mixed race women and trying to chip away at their self esteem too.You mentioned all the mixed race women that you know are single,what about all the white women who are single?There are enough single white mothers walking around with mixed race children to know that WW/BM dont always work out the way you would love us to believe they do.For every Halle Berry who cant seem to find the right man black or white there is an Alicia keys with a BM or Thandie Newton with a WM,stop trying to potray mixed women as sad confused victims.
REASONING = A+

REASON = Canadian Educated

Does ABC = A Beautiful Colored (mixed-race woman) or A Beautiful Canadian (woman)?
jerome

Leeds, UK

#6 Jul 3, 2011
imagine your white mother 'stealing' your black men!
jerome

Leeds, UK

#8 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
Mixed race have there own race? Man wtf they puttin water jeez.
Say what?? Own race

There's no such thing if they go with white their kids will 'LOOK' white if they have kids with black men there kids will 'look' BLACK DUMBASS!
Pebbles Flintstone

Seattle, WA

#9 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
Mixed race have there own race? Man wtf they puttin water jeez.
I love you captaincaveman<3 <3
Pebbles Flintstone

Seattle, WA

#11 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
I love you to baby you a lady right?? Lol
<quoted text>
Yes I'm a lady,your lady!!
Pebbles Flintstone

Seattle, WA

#13 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
O weeee thats what im talkin bout I wish you lived in Texas.
<quoted text>
No matter where you live you have my heart....
Pebbles Flintstone

Seattle, WA

#16 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
Lol I like that how you look?
<quoted text>
Im a caramel cutie captaincaveman,you like that or do you prefer dark chocolate?
Pebbles Flintstone

Seattle, WA

#20 Jul 3, 2011
captaincaveman wrote:
I kno you have a man. Do you have kids ?
<quoted text>
I dont have kids.
Kristina

United States

#22 Jul 3, 2011
This is obviously a troll because most black men drool over black woman and mixed black women moreso than white women..
RachelColdplay

Oxford, UK

#23 Jul 4, 2011
"white women are generally more willing to date black/mixed men"??

Speak for yourself, I am white (European), and very happy with men of my own race thank you very much.
Intrigued

Philadelphia, PA

#24 Jul 4, 2011
Kristina wrote:
This is obviously a troll because most black men drool over black woman and mixed black women moreso than white women..
Quite honestly. I think you girls are exaggerating how much love black men have for WW by quite a bit.
Cali4life

Huntersville, NC

#25 Jul 9, 2011
Mix or biracial women in California don't even date Black men. It's very rare they date Black men. It cracks me up when I see rap videos with these mixed or so-called exotic women are all over Black men. Yeah right, they don't like Black men. If they can escape being part of the Black community, they will.
Prh

Liverpool, UK

#26 Oct 10, 2011
I'm a black man who has dated black and mixed race women, admittedly the mixed race women I've gelled with have had black mothers.

Anti-Chaos
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Since: Mar 11

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#27 Oct 10, 2011
Kristina wrote:
This is obviously a troll because most black men drool over black woman and mixed black women moreso than white women..
BM by and large prefer bw ..because their blk also..hater bw got nothin coming though so they instigate..

Since: Nov 11

UK

#28 Nov 8, 2011
Very interesting comments so far. So I would like add my input. I am a black man from London, UK and to be honest I can see lots of peoples view on here. However, from my perspective this is how the situation has gone one in the last 15-20 years

Mixed race women and also over time black women have not been into and/or gone off black men. I for one never used to look at white women at all and did not consider myself attracted to them. But what then started to happen was interesting.....ok, mixed race women are beautiful and generally are considered so by black men. But.....mixed race women are not always into black men, more so mixed race men or even white men. And the same started to happen with black women (although this was less towards whte men and more so towards mixed race and/or lighter skinned or brown skinned men). At the same time of this happening it was noticable that white women seemed to be more and more into black men (particularly dark skinned men seemingy). Also at the same time, white women start to take on a more curvier body shape (dare I even say a black woman's type body shape) and this was not very common place untill recently (the last 15/20 years let's say). They now even have bigger, rounder bums aswell loll. Anyways, I'm not sure if its a ferliity thing or what but the white women/black man combination seems to produce children at a faster rate also....but maybe that's just my opinion. Anyways, what seems to have happened is while the all (or should I say, what seems like all) mixed race and black women got with non black or partly black men, the white women have got with the black men and a lot have had children with them aswell as there now being a culture that has developed that a large majority or white females only got with/are attracted to black men. There are some that vow to never be with a man from another other race than black. Also, what seems to be happening now is the black women and what looks like mixed race women are starting to notice black men again. I have been hearing from mixed and black women recently is that they feel ignored and even rejected by black men who a complete reversal of what black men used to feel. As I said earlier I used to not look at and was not attacted to white women. But the change that I have been speaking about seemed have happened in me and most black men around by the looks of things. I am in a relationship with a black women who looks mixed race lol (1 parent from Dominica and the other from St Lucia) but as a 30 year old man who has been through these changes at the relationship years of my life I feel that I could also add my input to this topic. Please feel free to reply

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Since: Oct 10

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#29 Nov 14, 2011
Hahahahaha......speak for yourself.........hard for a mixed race woman like myself to find a black man? pfffftt.....

“Life is what you make it!”

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Since: Oct 11

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#30 Nov 14, 2011
Clark Kent K-B wrote:
Very interesting comments so far. So I would like add my input. I am a black man from London, UK and to be honest I can see lots of peoples view on here. However, from my perspective this is how the situation has gone one in the last 15-20 years
Mixed race women and also over time black women have not been into and/or gone off black men. I for one never used to look at white women at all and did not consider myself attracted to them. But what then started to happen was interesting.....ok, mixed race women are beautiful and generally are considered so by black men. But.....mixed race women are not always into black men, more so mixed race men or even white men. And the same started to happen with black women (although this was less towards whte men and more so towards mixed race and/or lighter skinned or brown skinned men). At the same time of this happening it was noticable that white women seemed to be more and more into black men (particularly dark skinned men seemingy). Also at the same time, white women start to take on a more curvier body shape (dare I even say a black woman's type body shape) and this was not very common place untill recently (the last 15/20 years let's say). They now even have bigger, rounder bums aswell loll. Anyways, I'm not sure if its a ferliity thing or what but the white women/black man combination seems to produce children at a faster rate also....but maybe that's just my opinion. Anyways, what seems to have happened is while the all (or should I say, what seems like all) mixed race and black women got with non black or partly black men, the white women have got with the black men and a lot have had children with them aswell as there now being a culture that has developed that a large majority or white females only got with/are attracted to black men. There are some that vow to never be with a man from another other race than black. Also, what seems to be happening now is the black women and what looks like mixed race women are starting to notice black men again. I have been hearing from mixed and black women recently is that they feel ignored and even rejected by black men who a complete reversal of what black men used to feel. As I said earlier I used to not look at and was not attacted to white women. But the change that I have been speaking about seemed have happened in me and most black men around by the looks of things. I am in a relationship with a black women who looks mixed race lol (1 parent from Dominica and the other from St Lucia) but as a 30 year old man who has been through these changes at the relationship years of my life I feel that I could also add my input to this topic. Please feel free to reply
The whole some bw looking are looking bm again are the ones who never stepped outside that realm b4, who have always preferred bm, those who have never minded dating out are not worried about if they can get a bm or not.

Ww have a birth rate higher with them, maybe because those were ho-es lol who just got pregnant quick, because surprise unsurprised, the bm didn't wear protection, bm saying with the chick but cheating on the side because she's pregnant but then knocking up another chick at the same time most likely.

And these ww are into bm only because they think wm expect to much or too pretentious, wms who don't mind banging other women with curvy shapes, or these ww are into the urban scene and like that whole way of acting and talking.

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