Desmond Sandiford's advice to bw

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#1 Jun 24, 2011
Motherhood is the most important job in the world. Everything in life is a relection of motherhood. Society is built on motherhood. Black men are the leaders of the black community. But who is the BLACK MAN's true leader? It's his mother. Grown men don't usually look to each other for leadership...but grown men still revere their mothers like god and thoughts of her will dictate their actions. Motherhood is not a job for weak, stupid, self-hating, slave-mentality, trifling women. All those women will do is destroy the black community. In fact, it is the weak, stupid, self-hating black women who are responsible for the current state of the black community. If you are one of those women, STOP HAVING BABIES!...use contraceptives and send your kids to a boarding school or put them up for adoption by responsible black people who will show them their self-worth.

Men don't want to get married...really. They know they'll get tired of you. And these days men are even MORE scared of marriage because men get raped in divorce court...But if you prove yourself to be a good woman, men will get with you. If you're a mean, backstabbing, obnoxious skank, men will fk you then they'll leave and find a nice girl to shack up with.

Don't be taken in by swagger...it's a front. The most important thing is a man's character...character flaws are things like obesity, insanity, drug and alcohol addiction, violence, homelessness, financial irresponsibility, lack of ambition, insensitivity to your feelings, lack of hygiene and disease.

In these hard times, a lot of bm will be out of work, but that's not necessarily a flaw. We live in a racist society which denies bm opportunity. Give unemployed bm a chance, especially if they have a skills and are looking for a job. If you don't, somebody else will...and he'll end up with her because she's probably better than you anyway. But if you had just been a little nicer...

Interracial relationships will only come back to haunt you. You're a woman so more is expected of you. I used to know a chick who had dated a wm....she was very pretty and built, etc. Some might call her the perfect woman, but she had been screwed by a wm, so I just couldn't really respect her or take her seriously relationship-wise. I dropped her after hittin it a few time and never even give it a second thought. Don't let wm fk you for sh8ts and giggles...That will doom any chance you have for getting involved with a good bm if he finds out.

Always remember you are a bw, and the emblem of your race...people are harsh...they will judge your entire race by how you conduct yourself. It's a tremendous and nuanced responsibility, so you always have to be on your top game.

Hope this helps...
canday

Wichita, KS

#2 Jun 24, 2011
Maybe you should sign off on topix and find a job and move out your mama's place.You know that's what "GOOD" men do they work and support their women.

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#3 Jun 24, 2011
canday wrote:
Maybe you should sign off on topix and find a job and move out your mama's place.You know that's what "GOOD" men do they work and support their women.
Obviously my advice didn't sink into your thick knucklehead the first time...So lemme help you out again: Don't be an obnoxious, b8tch. Good men will not like you and they will treat you with contempt.

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#4 Jun 24, 2011
"Always remember you are a bw, and the emblem of your race...people are harsh...they will judge your entire race by how you conduct yourself."

You mean they will judge me by how others of the same race conduct themselves. That seems to be the case most of the time.

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#5 Jun 24, 2011
Curlylocks wrote:
"Always remember you are a bw, and the emblem of your race...people are harsh...they will judge your entire race by how you conduct yourself."
You mean they will judge me by how others of the same race conduct themselves. That seems to be the case most of the time.
Works both ways.

“esa hembra es mala”

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#6 Jun 24, 2011
Boring!!!!!
canday

Wichita, KS

#7 Jun 24, 2011
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>Obviously my advice didn't sink into your thick knucklehead the first time...So lemme help you out again: Don't be an obnoxious, b8tch. Good men will not like you and they will treat you with contempt.
I have a man that has a job who pays the bills, takes care of me.He knows his role and I know mine.As long as I keep the place clean and cook it's all good lol why would I want to settle for anything less than that? Now instead of whining on topix about being broke and unemployed u need to go out there and make some muney.Good for you if you can find a woman that can support your broke azz financially,I would never be with a man who isn't working.
canday

Wichita, KS

#8 Jun 24, 2011
lol at the broke unemployed black man making a thread pleading women to feel sorry for him.I can't stop laughing at that lmao! U said you was reeling them in with your magical dxck and that you didn't need to have a job to be a man what happened?

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#9 Jun 24, 2011
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
Boring!!!!!
Well, I'm sorry if it's not enough drama or salaciousness for you...but not every topic has to be over the top outrageousness. This is good advice that will heal bw who are emotionally damaged and spiritually lost like yourself.

“esa hembra es mala”

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#10 Jun 24, 2011
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>Well, I'm sorry if it's not enough drama or salaciousness for you...but not every topic has to be over the top outrageousness. This is good advice that will heal bw who are emotionally damaged and spiritually lost like yourself.
Nope I didn't care for none of the info.

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#11 Jun 24, 2011
canday wrote:
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I have a man that has a job who pays the bills, takes care of me.He knows his role and I know mine.As long as I keep the place clean and cook it's all good lol why would I want to settle for anything less than that? Now instead of whining on topix about being broke and unemployed u need to go out there and make some muney.Good for you if you can find a woman that can support your broke azz financially,I would never be with a man who isn't working.
So here you are, unemployed as hell... and you're running your mouth? Lady, I bet I make three times what your man makes. But Im not bragging. Unlike you, I actually HAVE money so I don't need to be a money grubbing, ghetto hoodrat such as yourself. My advice for you is to stop messing with them ww's men...you know the unemployed brothas you were telling me about on the other thread who share their weed with you and fk you on the side that your man doesn't know about. Cause when he finds out what a skank he's supporting, your a88 will be back in the gutter so fast it'll make your head spin.

“esa hembra es mala”

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#12 Jun 24, 2011
I'm not up for the whole put everything on the BW.

Since this is a socalled mans world and women have to go by mens rules then when something goes wrong it all falls on the men.

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#13 Jun 24, 2011
I love giving advice to these bw...good thing too, because they sorely need it.

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#14 Jun 24, 2011
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
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Nope I didn't care for none of the info.
Like my mom used to say when I was a kid and didn't want to take my medicine: "it's a bitter pill to swallow but it'll do you a world of good."

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#15 Jun 24, 2011
lol so you are telling bw who are 'emotionally damaged'(i guess that is the ones you disagree with) not to have kids, but you are telling bw to let bums move in with them?

and there have been a few girls i would have married, and we would say we would get married after a certain time but it wouldn't work until then. not all men are afraid to get married.
canday

Wichita, KS

#16 Jun 24, 2011
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>So here you are, unemployed as hell... and you're running your mouth? Lady, I bet I make three times what your man makes. But Im not bragging. Unlike you, I actually HAVE money so I don't need to be a money grubbing, ghetto hoodrat such as yourself. My advice for you is to stop messing with them ww's men...you know the unemployed brothas you were telling me about on the other thread who share their weed with you and fk you on the side that your man doesn't know about. Cause when he finds out what a skank he's supporting, your a88 will be back in the gutter so fast it'll make your head spin.
I'm not unemployed,I've never had sex with those men but they do mess with other when their g/fs aren't home cause they don't have no jobs.My man won't get rid of me anytime soon.What do you do sell drugs?

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#17 Jun 24, 2011
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
I'm not up for the whole put everything on the BW.
Since this is a socalled mans world and women have to go by mens rules then when something goes wrong it all falls on the men.
yes, you are correct. The man is the protector, the provider, the leader and ultimately the one overall responsible...But a good carpenter needs good tools...the bm has to mold the bw into the kind of mother and into the kind of human being she needs to be. This is what I'm doing with you bw. If my saw is not sharp, I can't cut that wood right.

“esa hembra es mala”

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#18 Jun 24, 2011
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>yes, you are correct. The man is the protector, the provider, the leader and ultimately the one overall responsible...But a good carpenter needs good tools...the bm has to mold the bw into the kind of mother and into the kind of human being she needs to be. This is what I'm doing with you bw. If my saw is not sharp, I can't cut that wood right.
LMAO the black man can't even be a better man so how can he mold a black woman to be a better mother as you say?

“esa hembra es mala”

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#19 Jun 24, 2011
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>Like my mom used to say when I was a kid and didn't want to take my medicine: "it's a bitter pill to swallow but it'll do you a world of good."
Nope no thank you, I don't like taking medicine all I do is throw it back up.

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#20 Jun 24, 2011
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
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LMAO the black man can't even be a better man so how can he mold a black woman to be a better mother as you say?
I'm sorry, did you not hear about obama? Did you not hear about colin powell who could have been the first black president? How about eric holder the black attorney general? black men have been OVERACHIEVING for a race that's only been free for 50 years. BLacks CONTROL sports in america, CONTROL the entertainment industry and are making inroads in professional areas...but the bm can't do it alone. If the bw is going to be a slug and not support him, if she's gonna go on nightline and complain that she can't find a man, if she's gonna degrade herself in front of the world what's the bm to do? We have to take these bw in hand and take them to task. So that we can set this sh8t straight the way it's supposed to be...this is what this thread is all about. Setting the bw straight so she KNOWS what her role, her job and her purpose and responsibilities are. The BM has given you your orders...all you need to do is execute like a good soldier.

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