My mother was born in 1947 so she was around for the Civil Rights movement as well. She wasn't really against IR she just thought that life is easier when you are with someone who sees the world the same way that you do. She, like your father had a deep distrust of white people and I can't really say that I blame her.<quoted text>
Woo! I am sorry to hear your mom disapproved of you dating IR so much but sounds like she grew up during a time when black unity between bm and bw was much stronger and didn't completely understand how it is now. With me it was my father who great dad to us and wanted us to pursue what ever made his kids happen but he didn't trust whites because he came of age in the pre-Civil Rights deep South and had to put up with a lot of racism from white society back then. My father also knew the problems with many black men and know that many didn't treat black their women well but my father said he didn't want any of his daughters dating out and I listened and respected that. I didn't date IR until after he had passed away but I know that he would have approved of it down the road. We as black women have to decide to do what is right for ourselves!
But by the time I got with my first non-black boyfriend until the time that I married my white husband, she understood where I was coming from and I had her full support. She had seen how all of those "pro-black" BM were running off with WW and how many BM just used the civil rights movement to jump in the bed with WW and market themselves to non-BW.
She died in 2003 from Multiple Sclerosis, but my sorry azz father is still alive and he is suffering from Alzheimer's. He lives with my sister and she is taking care of him. I feel no connection at all to him. He never took care of us, sent child support or bothered to see if we were O.K. so he can kizz both sides of my shiny black azz !!!!
But, aside from all of that..........life is great !!!!