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The definition of true love: In your own words

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#1 Aug 16, 2008
Love is a very hard word to digest at times. It is often misunderstood. Often mistaken for other things at times. Sometimes it can be selfish and this is when it involves self and no others. But here, we want to deal with true love.

Please give your definition of the following types of love:1. The love between you and God. 2. The love between you and humans in general. 3. Romantic love.

1.I believe that true love must start with you loving God intimately in a spiritual way. This love cast a net of responsibility around you that will be based upon principles MORE than feelings. The love that you have in a relationship with God will further your relationships in life because you have learned what true love is. Being in a relationship with God is a foundation because it teaches you the following tenets of love: Denial of self, sympathy, common sense which deals with Godly logic and not human philosophy, and obedience.

2. The love between you and humans must be dictated by God via his limits and boundaries. We only must love him with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength. So God establishes the parameters of love firstly. So then, if he is only to be loved this way, it means that we must not love our fellow man in the exact same manner that we love God but only in similar form and fashion, that is, as ourself. Our love between us and God, establishes the love of self, so now, after loving ourself, which has principles and boundaries, we now have the ability and the degree by which we love our fellow man and as stated before, it must not equivocate the love that we have for God, this is a big mistake that I find us making in #3.

3. Romantic Love: The most confusing of loves, this type of love can only survive in an environment of a two way street. Without this environment, it is doomed to fail and the people involved will only hurt themselves in the process. This is what I see and it hurts me with compassion and sympathy for those who have to suffer the pain of being in love with someone who doesn't share the same feelings for them, although still in a relationship with them. This love called romantic love involves the feelings alot and must have a strict set of principles and boundaries also. This type of love can get out of hand when the boundaries of it is exceeded. It can be deadly. Read the news and see what I am talking about. But is it love then?

I have started this forum to vent the pain of me seeing stuff like this happen over and over again. It is a war that I am will to fight to the death, someone will be helped through this thread, mostly women I suppose, but there are alot of men who are afraid to admit it and I hope they would.

Let us talk about love.

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#2 Aug 16, 2008
We romantic love is when you think about them everyday and when you feel lonely when you don't hear from them
when they eventually come you feel so happy and you don't wanna let them go. When they're in pain and you feel it also. When they say something to hurt you and it cuts deep.
When they make you smile even when you're at your worst. When they are the only person you think about and long for all the time.

*sigh*

:(

i miss him......

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#3 Aug 16, 2008
EastLDNgyal wrote:
We romantic love is when you think about them everyday and when you feel lonely when you don't hear from them
when they eventually come you feel so happy and you don't wanna let them go. When they're in pain and you feel it also. When they say something to hurt you and it cuts deep.
When they make you smile even when you're at your worst. When they are the only person you think about and long for all the time.
*sigh*
:(
i miss him......
So sweet. I felt the sigh. I have been through the same in the past but can we get over it? I think that eventually we will have to or otherwise we will miss out on other opportunities that present themselves to us. The love of self can get us through the pain of past relationships. When it is over, we must dig deep and find the strength to get over it. It takes time and I understand.

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#4 Aug 16, 2008
Azenday from Seattle wrote:
<quoted text> So sweet. I felt the sigh. I have been through the same in the past but can we get over it? I think that eventually we will have to or otherwise we will miss out on other opportunities that present themselves to us. The love of self can get us through the pain of past relationships. When it is over, we must dig deep and find the strength to get over it. It takes time and I understand.
yeah, i still got love for him though. I still talk to him, but i still have butterflies when we do lol :)

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#5 Aug 16, 2008
EastLDNgyal wrote:
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yeah, i still got love for him though. I still talk to him, but i still have butterflies when we do lol :)
There must be a ray of light that you see in a person to still have a friendship with them. I know that you are strong Sis. I know you are smart. I know that you will make the right decisions for yourself. Regardless of whether it is me or optimism speaking, it doesn't matter, love is a believer in the positive, it is optimistic, but it has its' limits.

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#6 Aug 16, 2008
Azenday from Seattle wrote:
<quoted text> There must be a ray of light that you see in a person to still have a friendship with them. I know that you are strong Sis. I know you are smart. I know that you will make the right decisions for yourself. Regardless of whether it is me or optimism speaking, it doesn't matter, love is a believer in the positive, it is optimistic, but it has its' limits.
it wasn't a bad break up, we're still very close. Its cos he lives thousands of miles away from me. In New York :(

it just wasn't realistic, and i miss him so much
:(

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#7 Aug 16, 2008
EastLDNgyal wrote:
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it wasn't a bad break up, we're still very close. Its cos he lives thousands of miles away from me. In New York :(
it just wasn't realistic, and i miss him so much
:(
Love is optimistic. Love will find a way. I hope you guys can get together again. That will make my day. I have my fingers crossed for you. Let's keep the faith.
Realistic Man

Jacksonville, FL

#8 Aug 16, 2008
Food after sex...that's real love.

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#9 Aug 16, 2008
Azenday from Seattle wrote:
<quoted text> Love is optimistic. Love will find a way. I hope you guys can get together again. That will make my day. I have my fingers crossed for you. Let's keep the faith.
Thank you, babe :)

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#10 Aug 16, 2008
I normally wouldn't post something explicit like this but I just can't resist. It's a joke a friend told me a while back:

Question: Do you know what the difference between like and love is?

Answer: Spit and swallow!

LOL

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#11 Aug 16, 2008
EastLDNgyal wrote:
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Thank you, babe :)
Thanks East. I found this on the net:

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" means that the time you spend away from one you love makes you love that person even more. Example: "Does it bother you that your husband goes away on long business trips?" Reply: "No. The time we have spent apart has been good for us. Absence makes the heart grow fonder." The word "absence" means to be away. To "grow fonder" is to care more. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" means the time you spend away from someone you love ("absence") makes you love that person even more ("the heart grows fonder"). Example: "It is much easier to get along with your parents when you live away from home. You miss them so much and are glad when you see them." Reply: "It's true. Absence makes the heart grow fonder." When someone you care for is away, you miss that person and think about them often, and that feeling makes you want to be with them even more.

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#12 Aug 16, 2008
Realistic Man wrote:
Food after sex...that's real love.
I guess that you love food ha?

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#13 Aug 16, 2008
1. My love with God must be sincere and full of faith towards him as he'll always love me no matter what I do.

2.Love between humans is a profound but powerful one
that we humans have.

3.Romantic love towards another person is very strong and full of emotional depth and value. Communication, respect, and mutual understanding are what make romantic love what it is today.

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#14 Aug 16, 2008
Azenday from Seattle wrote:
Love is a very hard word to digest at times. It is often misunderstood. Often mistaken for other things at times. Sometimes it can be selfish and this is when it involves self and no others. But here, we want to deal with true love.
Please give your definition of the following types of love:1. The love between you and God. 2. The love between you and humans in general. 3. Romantic love.
1.I believe that true love must start with you loving God intimately in a spiritual way. This love cast a net of responsibility around you that will be based upon principles MORE than feelings. The love that you have in a relationship with God will further your relationships in life because you have learned what true love is. Being in a relationship with God is a foundation because it teaches you the following tenets of love: Denial of self, sympathy, common sense which deals with Godly logic and not human philosophy, and obedience.
2. The love between you and humans must be dictated by God via his limits and boundaries. We only must love him with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength. So God establishes the parameters of love firstly. So then, if he is only to be loved this way, it means that we must not love our fellow man in the exact same manner that we love God but only in similar form and fashion, that is, as ourself. Our love between us and God, establishes the love of self, so now, after loving ourself, which has principles and boundaries, we now have the ability and the degree by which we love our fellow man and as stated before, it must not equivocate the love that we have for God, this is a big mistake that I find us making in #3.
3. Romantic Love: The most confusing of loves, this type of love can only survive in an environment of a two way street. Without this environment, it is doomed to fail and the people involved will only hurt themselves in the process. This is what I see and it hurts me with compassion and sympathy for those who have to suffer the pain of being in love with someone who doesn't share the same feelings for them, although still in a relationship with them. This love called romantic love involves the feelings alot and must have a strict set of principles and boundaries also. This type of love can get out of hand when the boundaries of it is exceeded. It can be deadly. Read the news and see what I am talking about. But is it love then?
I have started this forum to vent the pain of me seeing stuff like this happen over and over again. It is a war that I am will to fight to the death, someone will be helped through this thread, mostly women I suppose, but there are alot of men who are afraid to admit it and I hope they would.
Let us talk about love.
I just read this, sorry for derailing your thread with my retarded joke Azenday... I'll try to post on this a bit later. I need to digest it as I'm in a silly mood right now...

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#15 Aug 16, 2008
FMF_Doc wrote:
I normally wouldn't post something explicit like this but I just can't resist. It's a joke a friend told me a while back:
Question: Do you know what the difference between like and love is?
Answer: Spit and swallow!
LOL
Funny, still funny though. You said it so I am not guilty, you are.

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#16 Aug 16, 2008
FMF_Doc wrote:
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I just read this, sorry for derailing your thread with my retarded joke Azenday... I'll try to post on this a bit later. I need to digest it as I'm in a silly mood right now...
Cheers mate, we definitely will be waiting for your input.

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#17 Aug 16, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
1. My love with God must be sincere and full of faith towards him as he'll always love me no matter what I do.
2.Love between humans is a profound but powerful one
that we humans have.
3.Romantic love towards another person is very strong and full of emotional depth and value. Communication, respect, and mutual understanding are what make romantic love what it is today.
Simply put it, a masterpiece, cosign. And love in a relationship takes starting over and over and over again until you really get to know the person.

Let me explain this for my women readers: What I mean by the above statement is that this environment of over and over must be in an healthy relationship and not destructive, remember this. Do not waste your time with a deadbeat, it is not worth it. Just imagine what you will miss out on when in a bad relationship.
Realistic Man

Jacksonville, FL

#18 Aug 16, 2008
Azenday from Seattle wrote:
<quoted text> I guess that you love food ha?
I'm a Taurus...we never stop eating. The funny thing is that I was born with a high metabolism and I never get fat. I can eat a whole New York Pizza in one sitting and not gain one once of fat. Awesome...ain't it?

Off course...I always got to make sure I got a pocket full of breath mints...you never know who you are going to meet and where.

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#19 Aug 16, 2008
I’ll say from the get go that love is one of those obscure words that lack definition, kind of like freedom. It is entirely subjective. But I’ll give this a shot because it is thought provoking.

1.) I believe that God possesses love, especially through his power of forgiveness. Like my father said to me once “we all make mistakes but it is how we make them right that we’re truly judged by”. However, I don’t think that God sits on top of a cloud loving us all but rather has created the capacity within humans and other animals to love and be compassionate. On the same note he has created the capacity for hate and ultimately it is up to us to choose which one we are to embrace. But again I’ll revert to my father’s wise words on death:“I think God’s going to have to do a lot more explaining to me once I get there, than I will to him”. I was born Greek Orthodox Christian and I’m not planning on changing my religion but I think any religion is just a human attempt to define the divine, and subject to mistaken interpretation.

2.) I can’t say that I posses some kind of great love for all humans. My friends I choose, my family I don’t. What I mean by that is my family I’m obligated to love and have a duty toward through thick and thin. My friends on the other hand I’m selective with and should they demean themselves in my eyes or act dishonorably, that friendship will be cut off. I love myself in the sense that I stay true to myself, and am always under my own pressure to grow as a person; physically, mentally, and spiritually. Every day I wake I expect to complete a little something that will make me a better person, whether it be a three mile run or a few pages from a book. Be true to thyself is my moto, and on the same note, I try to do no evil to my fellow man, but should I be faced with other’s wickedness I’m not going to put up with it. If I have something in my life that is making me unhappy or hateful, I try to approach it head on, to eliminate that problem from my life.

3.) I would agree with you Azenday that romantic love is the most difficult of the three topics, because it is the most illusionary. Everyone “wants to be in love” but few are truly blessed with it. It’s not something that just happens in my opinion it has to be worked for. Because to be truly in love, one has to love the other’s bad side (and be able to live with it) as well as their good side. In the beginning, both parties show their best to each other, it is only with time that their worse attributes are showcased. Thus, true love has as its bedrock standards, that both parties have to agree with, and live their lives through, or else it is doomed to fail. I’m not in it to share my feelings with someone, but my soul. My darkest thoughts, my most secret places, but those can’t be given, they have to be earned. The person I choose to share them with has to fit certain criteria.

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#20 Aug 16, 2008
Realistic Man wrote:
<quoted text>I'm a Taurus...we never stop eating. The funny thing is that I was born with a high metabolism and I never get fat. I can eat a whole New York Pizza in one sitting and not gain one once of fat. Awesome...ain't it?
Off course...I always got to make sure I got a pocket full of breath mints...you never know who you are going to meet and where.
I think that I on occasion can eat a whole pizza but it will distribute all over my body and even to my head lol.

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