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Jun 18, 2008
 
It's like they are covering up their emotions by using another person to take it out on.What's wrong with waiting a little while and try to think about how your going to make your relationship better than the last.Most likely you going to end up getting the same type of person you had before anyway.Some people have to take the time to find out what is they REALLY want in a person.You won't learn anything if you breakup with someone and get with somebody else a week later.

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Jun 18, 2008
 
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It's like they are covering up their emotions by using another person to take it out on.What's wrong with waiting a little while and try to think about how your going to make your relationship better than the last.Most likely you going to end up getting the same type of person you had before anyway.Some people have to take the time to find out what is they REALLY want in a person.You won't learn anything if you breakup with someone and get with somebody else a week later.
Moving on quickly is a way for some people to deal with the heartache. Then again, some people are so full of shit that they're not worth grieving over, so it's easy to move on in some cases.

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It's like they are covering up their emotions by using another person to take it out on.What's wrong with waiting a little while and try to think about how your going to make your relationship better than the last.Most likely you going to end up getting the same type of person you had before anyway.Some people have to take the time to find out what is they REALLY want in a person.You won't learn anything if you breakup with someone and get with somebody else a week later.
I agree with most of what you said. One of my ex-coworkers got into a relationship a week after she left her husband of ten years and that ended up being a disaster. I think some people just aren't happy being on their own but people need to learn how to be happy with themselves before anyone else can be happy with them.

It's also usually a good idea to figure out what went wrong with your last relationship and figure out what it is you do and don't want in a partner. I can be the type of person that jumps into a relationship to quick after a break-up. I am only 21 and I have already been married and divorced. But doing this so young gave me a lot of knowledge for my future relationships and present relationship.

One thing we should never do is regret a past relationship because if we pay close attention, they all teach us something. But if we are only interested in hooking up with someone right after a person is gone, we will never get the message.

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Jun 18, 2008
 
CANDAYMAMA wrote:
It's like they are covering up their emotions by using another person to take it out on.What's wrong with waiting a little while and try to think about how your going to make your relationship better than the last.Most likely you going to end up getting the same type of person you had before anyway.Some people have to take the time to find out what is they REALLY want in a person.You won't learn anything if you breakup with someone and get with somebody else a week later.
Words well said Candella, I totally agree with you, personaly after my first relationship broke up it was nearly 2 years before I was in another serious relationship.

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Jun 18, 2008
 
u are right,candy!
Why is it even so easy to move on...?

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Jun 18, 2008
 
Idk, i didn't move on as fast as other people but my rebound girl always turn into a relationship.

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Jun 18, 2008
 
CANDAYMAMA wrote:
It's like they are covering up their emotions by using another person to take it out on.What's wrong with waiting a little while and try to think about how your going to make your relationship better than the last.Most likely you going to end up getting the same type of person you had before anyway.Some people have to take the time to find out what is they REALLY want in a person.You won't learn anything if you breakup with someone and get with somebody else a week later.
1.out of sight out of mind
quickness of recovery from a relationship doesn't necessarily mean a person didn't learn anything from it.. Some ppl move on fast, some guys are easier to get over than others and then some ppl may not have to take the time to think things out like another individual may..

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Jun 18, 2008
 
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Why is it even so easy to move on...?
bc it just is? and yea I know tigrinya

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Jun 18, 2008
 
Ive always wondered that too, my first serious relationship it took me a year before i could move on to any one else while it took him a month, i guess every one is truly different and we all deal with these things in different ways, and maybe some feel getting into another relationship quickly is a solution.

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Moving on quickly is a way for some people to deal with the heartache. Then again, some people are so full of shit that they're not worth grieving over, so it's easy to move on in some cases.
That is true,but what makes you think you won't get the same type of person again.It's like if your ex was an alcoholic,chances are your going to be with another one,because consciencely that's what your use to being around it's what your comfortable with.I'm just saying because you notice that happens to alot of people dating the same type of people.

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That is true,but what makes you think you won't get the same type of person again.It's like if your ex was an alcoholic,chances are your going to be with another one,because consciencely that's what your use to being around it's what your comfortable with.I'm just saying because you notice that happens to alot of people dating the same type of people.
YES IT DOES...and I think that is one of the things we never learn from...I always notice that when a woman dates a man that is abusive, almost all of the men she dates after that are also abusive. Sometimes human beings just have a hard time learning from out mistakes.

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<quoted text>I agree with most of what you said. One of my ex-coworkers got into a relationship a week after she left her husband of ten years and that ended up being a disaster. I think some people just aren't happy being on their own but people need to learn how to be happy with themselves before anyone else can be happy with them.
It's also usually a good idea to figure out what went wrong with your last relationship and figure out what it is you do and don't want in a partner. I can be the type of person that jumps into a relationship to quick after a break-up. I am only 21 and I have already been married and divorced. But doing this so young gave me a lot of knowledge for my future relationships and present relationship.
One thing we should never do is regret a past relationship because if we pay close attention, they all teach us something. But if we are only interested in hooking up with someone right after a person is gone, we will never get the message.
I've only had one serious relationship which ended badly I couldn't be with someone emotionally after a while I actually turn to drinking.But I ended up talking to someone else like 3 months later who was very much like my ex and I had to think this shxt isn't happening is it.So I'm trying to take this time and figure out what is that I want in a person.I do NOT want to attract somebody like my ex because we were incompatible for one thing,and our morals just didn't match.So I'm still trying to heal so that way I won't date someone who reminds of him,I don't want to be one of those people that attract the same type of men.Divorce is crazy too.....from experience of dating 2 men no 3 that were recently divorced it's like they went on this bachelor masquerade.They didn't care about hurting anybody it was all about their pain and they took it out on other people.

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That is true,but what makes you think you won't get the same type of person again.It's like if your ex was an alcoholic,chances are your going to be with another one,because consciencely that's what your use to being around it's what your comfortable with.I'm just saying because you notice that happens to alot of people dating the same type of people.
I feel what you're saying. It's easy for many to get caught in that consistent cycle of getting involved with the same type of person over & over. Nevertheless, it's up to you to break that cycle. If you know you've been getting involved with no good type of guys, you have to consciously make an effort to steer clear of that type. Just think of all the bad times & negativity it brought you & ask yourself is it worth going through again. as as the next person being like the last, you have to take that chance. It's always a role of the dice, no matter what. Just keep an eye out for the signals & make good choices from the get go.

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Words well said Candella, I totally agree with you, personaly after my first relationship broke up it was nearly 2 years before I was in another serious relationship.
How are you doing Candella?
I hope all is well with you.
I'm doing good how are you doing today? Yea I just wanted to see what people had to say about that.Same thing with divorce, enjoy being single for a while nobody is rushing you to get married again.I think people do try to cover up their pain when they move on so fast because they are still thinking about that person while they are with somebody else.That's why some of them pick somebody that resembles them in some way.

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Ive always wondered that too, my first serious relationship it took me a year before i could move on to any one else while it took him a month, i guess every one is truly different and we all deal with these things in different ways, and maybe some feel getting into another relationship quickly is a solution.
do you think men do it more quickly then women? maybe it is a solution but it could be a bad one.But I guess if u believe u found your soulmate a week after your breakup and that they can fix all your problems....then damnnn you most certainly being blessed lol

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no point in dwelling

the past is the past

you cry for 15 minutes and go out that night and find someone new

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1.out of sight out of mind
quickness of recovery from a relationship doesn't necessarily mean a person didn't learn anything from it.. Some ppl move on fast, some guys are easier to get over than others and then some ppl may not have to take the time to think things out like another individual may..
I guess it depends on the relationship and it depends on how many you had and what you learned prior to the breakup.

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I've only had one serious relationship which ended badly I couldn't be with someone emotionally after a while I actually turn to drinking.But I ended up talking to someone else like 3 months later who was very much like my ex and I had to think this shxt isn't happening is it.So I'm trying to take this time and figure out what is that I want in a person.I do NOT want to attract somebody like my ex because we were incompatible for one thing,and our morals just didn't match.So I'm still trying to heal so that way I won't date someone who reminds of him,I don't want to be one of those people that attract the same type of men.Divorce is crazy too.....from experience of dating 2 men no 3 that were recently divorced it's like they went on this bachelor masquerade.They didn't care about hurting anybody it was all about their pain and they took it out on other people.
I'm sorry that happened to you, but good for you for learning from your mistake. I date one man that was abusive in my teenage years and I'll never do that again. I personally calmed down a lot though after my marriage, no bachelorette masquerade for me...lol. I have a good man now though, took awhile to find one that fits you but they're out there.

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I NEVER move on fast from a break up at all because i am constantley thinking about that person and wondering if they are still thinking about me.

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Jun 18, 2008
 
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no point in dwelling
the past is the past
you cry for 15 minutes and go out that night and find someone new
well yea I'm sure I can get laid quicker than having a serious relationship right after a breakup.I was talking mainly relationships.I was watching this show where this guy's wife died and he had sex with like 8 random women and drinking and fighting like while his wife was missing and after she died but he couldn't have a serious relationship with someone for 2 years.He was just fuxking a bunch of women lol.But that's different.

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